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Last Update: September 8, 2006
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I know I'm anorexic and leaning towards being bulimic too. But that's not my problem(yes I know it's a problem but not the one I'm concerned with right now), but my problem is that I need to tell someone but I don't know how. I'm too afraid of what their reaction will be to tell someone. I asked my friend if she's read my online journal where I talked about it as kind of a hint for her to look at it but I don't think she got it. So should I just ask her to read my journal so that she knows and I don't have to come out and say it? (as you can prob tell...I have confrontation problems) Thanks! I rate high!! (link)
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Yes you need to tell someone, but your focus shouldn't be telling your friend. It should be telling your doctor. At least ask for advice from your school counselor or nurse. It's true that a friend can "give you moral support" but that isn't going to help your medical or psychiatric issues. Support groups that you can join while getting medical help will assist you in talking to your friends about your problem.
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i really cant stand my sister. like anytime she says anything, i like want to kill her. she gets on my last nerves, and its at the point that i cant even be in the same room. shes yougner than me, and thinks shes innocent, but she bugs the hell out of me, and i really cant take it. any suggestions to like get her less annoying (there is ab-suh-lutely NO way im going to a therapist) (link)
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When you get older, your relationship will alomst certainly improve. For now, just spend your time away from her and avoid her whenever possible. I know this is obvious advice but there isn't much you can do at this point.
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ok so my exboyfriend whent on a trip this weekend and he got drunk and went skinny dipping w/ his friend and her sister and ended up having sex w/ both of them cuz he liked both the girls. he told me because he has some feelings left for me but i cant trust him i know i cant ive been trying to get him to stop drinking for ever and its reasons like this that make me try to get him to stop so he doesnt do anything stupid which he already did. he feels bad about it but he already did it! what can he change now? and i had a really strong feeling the night that it happened that he had done something he would regret. lately ive been missing him and considering taking him back but what do i do now? i odviously cant trust him. please help!! (link)
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You cannot be serious.
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My mom's college reunion is coming up and I can't make it. This really nice, funny, and may i mention CUTE boy is gunna be there that I have known since i was a tiny baby. I have quite a large crush on him, but we see eachother like 2-3 times a year. I can't go to the reunion because of a really busy schedule. I really want to maintain the friendship with this boy but how can I get my mom motivated to invite his family over when she HATES having people over? They live like an hour and a half to two hours away. My mom thinks its too far for them to drive. (link)
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It is too far to drive for "just a visit", especially when it isn't for your mother (who hates having people over). It's for you. Untill you can drive yourself, you just have to accept that your only contact will have to be by email, aim, or phone.
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alrighty here is my story...
theres this guy i like at school-he likes me back and has asked me to go out to see a movie friday night(and my friend wants to talk to him about asking me to my our 8th grade dance)--i hear though, that he is dating a freshman+hes got "in a relationship" on his myspace...what do i do..i really really like this guy?!?!?!
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If he says himself that he "is in a relationship" then how much more clear can you really get? Sounds like a player.
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ok. im 12. somewhat skinny, and 100 lbs. i havent eatn in about 6 days,but i drink water a lot. i want to eat, but then i feel bad and ill just make myself throw up. i geuss im afraid to eat or gain weight. i keep passing out and only a few ppl know why. help anyone? (link)
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You need a psychiatrist, because eating disorders are a psychiatric disorder. You may also need hospitalization to force you to gain weight. Talk to a doctor. Where are your parents by the way? Have they even noticed? If you feel like you can't tell them, ask them to make you a doctors appointment because you don't feel well and tell your doctor everything. They tell you what to do next.
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how do u get rid of underarm odor with using the deodorant? (link)
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Nothing else really works, that's why a vast majority of people wear deoderant.
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I have an odd obsession with languages. I get very excited about learning them but do you think it's a bad idea to learn more than one-two at a time?
I'm going to take German next year so I'm trying to remember the basics and such.
My boyfriend is taking Spanish and so I am also trying to learn some of that.
But before any of this... I was already studying Portuguese, Japanese, Chinese, Korean and Russian.
I love all languages.. But I'm pretty sure it's not good to learn all at the same time..
So which ones do you think is easier to learn and I should stick with for now? (link)
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Hey! I love languages too! Do as much as you can, and only cut back if you feel overwhelmed. When you get older, you won't have time to learn nearly as much so do as much as you want (and can) now.
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I was invited to a large party that takes place this weekend. I said that I'd go, because of the occasion and the person who is throwing it, but I really do not want to stay for a long time. First of all, I am not much of a party person. I usually just sit there by myself while being bored out of my mind. Second of all, I'm not much of a people person. There are going to be a LOT of people there. I really don't want to have to be around that many people for too long, especially since I hate most of them. Normally I leave parties with the excuse of not feeling well or something like that, but certain people (although not everyone) are starting to catch on. I need some good excuses to leave a party that do not involve being sick. (link)
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Why would you need an actual excuse to leave? It's your life, you don't owe anyone an explanation. A simple "I'm going to head out now" is sufficiant, or say that you have somewhere else to be later.
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what does the term "blue balls" mean? (link)
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When a guy is sexually excited but doesn't get any release he feels a dull ache in that area.
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I was wondering if anyone can give me advice on activities to do with my 8 year old daughter this summer. All she seems interested in is watching TV or playing with her cousin, who is 10. We read together at night but usually she falls asleep right away. I've tried to get her interested in cooking, but I'm not much of a cook myself. Can anyone give me some ideas? (link)
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How about the beach, day trips to amusement parks, the zoo, aquarium, science center, library, neaby parks, playgrounds (teach her some one on one sports, like badmitton). Cooking is an excellent idea, don't give up on it. There is also the movies, carnivals, festivals in your town, malls, anything! Check the paper for upcoming events.
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last summer i met a boy in a chatroom ... yes i know chatroom. I use to go in them all the time when i was bored and whatever play around i guess anyways i started talking to this kid, and over time i actuallu started to like him. I never seena picture of him at first so i know i liked him for him and not what he looks like. We kinda dated ... ughhh sounds gay i know i know. Its not like i cant get a guy in real life, i can and i do but i always end up thinking about him. I've seen his picture only a month ago and hes alright! not cute or anything but i still love him. His personality is wonderful and i cant get enough of him, but the whole idea of meeting him from online makes me feel like a geek! i dunt noe. I had a boyfriend before i met him and i was in love or at least i thought i was. i already knew what i wanted but now i want him!! is that weird??? And i know hes not a fake!!! he has a myspace and has ALOT of friends on it from his school and we talk on the phone?? do you guys think its weird .... do you think its possible to be in love with someone you hardly know but in a way you do!! (link)
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This is a question that has to be answered based on how old you are. If you are under 18, especially if you are under 16...be very very careful. If you are under 18 I really don't think there is any reason at all for you to be trying to meet men/boys/whatever online. If you don't believe me then ask your parents opinion as a hypothetical and see what they say. I'm sure I don't have to tell you about internet preditors who pose as teen boys to meet underage girls just like you. They really go all out too, just because his profile LOOKS like a teen who goes to such and such school doesn't really mean anything. Even if you are over 18, always meet in a very public place and tell lots of people where you are going and with whom before to go to meet him. That doesn't just go for meeting #1 either. Lots of people meet over the internet and become good friends or more. there isn't anything worng with that. Safety needs to be your top priority though.
I did say that there isn't anything wrong with liking a guy you met on the internet. I added the safety info because clearly you are a child and could use a lot of help on the subject. I can see that you proved me correct.
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Ive been best friends with kay for 3 years and recentlyy she started dating jay. Now Jay is an amazing person,Cute resepectful loyal hard working funny and intellegent. And Kay whom I love to pieces is the EXACT opposit now dont think im beig mean she really is she quit her first job after a month.Anyway i guess my question is what should I do? (link)
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You just have to get over it somehow. NEVER get involved with a friend's ex (or current of course). Unless of course you don't want that friend anymore. Friends always come first.
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My sister is girly. That's why I don't understand how she hooked up with Kel, a rebel goth, in the first place. She dumped him and that's when he & I got together. (I'm punk, you could say.) I thought things were fine until he apparently cheated on me with his childhood sweetheart and got her pregnant. (She got an abortion. Grr.) So I dropped him and we didn't talk for about a year. Then we ended up in a mutal friend's rock band. We started hanging out & I fell back in love with him because we hang out 24/7. Kel and I neither wanted to be the first to say "I love you" again. NOW he's hooked up with his childhood sweetheart's cousin! I don't understand! He hooks up with chicks he has nothing in common with like my sister! I don't want to come back to him while he has a girlfriend and besides, he still cheated on me big time. But I'm afraid he'll never ask. Our mutal friends refuses to get involved except to dry my tears. Advice please! Sorry this is so long! (link)
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A) Never mess with someone who was involved with your friend/family. The sooner you learn that the better.
B) Run. Fast. The previous person to answer this was absolutely right, once a cheater- always a cheater.
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Over the years im 19 now, (im female) when my friends have goten married they would stop talking to me. Today I just found out, that my buddy got married months ago, and she didnt even tell me. I think of myself as a nice person, but i'm shy, I dont talk to them on the phone alot but still, thats no reason to ignore and run from me. Mom says they are jealous of me but why would they be like that when they are the ones with the husbands? (link)
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I seriously doubt it is because they are jealous of you. It doesn't seem like you are putting forth much of an effort to keep in touch either. Are you calling them regularly and asking how they are? You must not be if you just found out that your "buddy" got married. If you really want to stay in touch then pick up the phone! If they really wanted to then they would do the same. Since they haven't then..... maybe they really don't want to be friends anymore.
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Well here is my problem.
I'm eighteen years old. I have a really awesome boyfriend. Prior to our relationship we were best friends so everything is sort of honkey dorey there.
We'll call him "Todd" Well, Todd recently moved out of his parents house.
He got a job at a factory and a car dealership. Aside from the fact that he has no time to spend with me now, he has no car because he can't afford one at the moment.
Now I have no problem helping him out, and neither does my family.
Then Todd started carpooling with my sister to work (they work at the same place).
Now really I have no problem with that either. But now, he comes over to my house, opens the refridgerator gets something to eat, my mother packs him and my sister a lunch, he uses the phone with out asking, and the internet. My dad dotes on Todd; Todd sometimes asks if my dad can pick him up, my mother takes him to go get his paycheck, and now he's using my sisters car during the day!
I feel a little used!! I have never asked his parents for anything much less really visited with them.
I know he needs to get on his feet, but this is making me very upset. He knew that when he moved out of his parents home that he would be trying to make it on his own and now he's just overtaking my family it seems.
I don't neccesiarly want him to walk all over town, but come on he knew the stakes when he moved out.
My parents are charmed by Todd, my mom says "Well it's normal for the boyfriend to be closer to the girl's family.." but I am feeling used and abused. He hardly gives me any attention anymore yet he feels it's OK to do this with my family.
Am I over reacting? I don't think it's fair at all.
How do I discuss this with him without hurting his feelings or making it an arguement. I care deeply about him, but this has got to stop.
Thank you
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You are not overeacting, this is one of the oddest situations I have ever heard. He sounds like he is totally using your family and they couldn't care less. It is totally unheard of for him to use your sister's car. And as for all the other stuff...if it was just once then ok, if he offered money to your family then maybe....but this is very out of hand. Don't look to your parents for help, they obviously are far too nice for their own good. Tell him, straight up, that he needs to get his on car and stop using your family. He must ask to eat your food and use your internet. I don't know how you can have any respect for a man who can't do anything for himself, that would be an enormous turn off for me. I would have broken it off, and then let him start to take care of himself. Seriously, this is a major warning sign. Is he going to expect someone to support him and bail him out when he isn't financially stable all his life?
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Okay, I went to my doctor and was prescribed with "Levlen ED"
I want to startusing it now, but i was told to startwhen i get my periods.
I havent had my period for about 5-6 weeks now and i hadnt had sex since january but recently had it on the 19th of this month, i also had sex last night and he thinks the condom broke.
Is there a way i can start using the pill now without having to wait for my period to come? I know if i fell pregnant from a broken condom its not going to fix it, but i just want to start using this pill so my periods get in order :<
im extremely confused and i dont know what to do :<
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You could be pregnant now, and if you take the Pills while pregnant then you risk birth defects. Wait until your period and for goodness sake use anther form of protection until then. Isn't that the point of birth control? To avoid pregnancy?
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When I met Mason and Sandra they were divorced. I'd have gone for Sandra, but Mason and I had hit it off well and became close friends. It turned out they got back together not much long later. I kept in touch with Mason, and tried not to let my feelings for Sandra get any stronger. Right after the birth of their first child, Mason was killed in a freak accident at work. Sandra came to me to help her with the baby and everything. After 2 years we started dating and got married. Then we had a son. Things were great when we were just friends but then we realized we liked each other a lot more and as soon as we got married everything changed. Her friends don't like me, she gets bored, she dreads sex, we fight over how to raise our son, she cries a lot, etc. I get real depressed because I catch her watching old home movies with Mason in them. I don't feel good enough. It's been 3 1/2 years since Mason died. Am I just horrible or is she just not over Mason? I hate being compared to him. (link)
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Yes, that could be part of it. Why don't you two check out a good marriage therapist or counselor? It seem like you could use a little assistance in uncovering the issues and finding out what you and she can do to make things genuinely better. You don't need a fix-all solution or a marriage "band aid", you need real help to get back to the place you once were in.
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if you eat unhealthy foods,are you more likely to get acne? does what you eat affect your skin?thankyou :) (link)
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The answers before mine are completely wrong. Diet has next to zero effect on acne. Healthy food may improve the overall appearence of skin, simply because it'll keep your entire body at it's healthiest, but no, it won't get rid of your acne. Your doctor can prescribe medication to help clear it up, or recommend over the counter products that actually may help. Other then that, you have to wait to grow out of it. A lot of doctor recommended products really do work wonders so check it out as soon as possible.
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how long does it take for clinique skin care products to kick in? how long does it take for any skin care product to kick in? (link)
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Yes, you have to use it consistantly for about a month before you start to see visible results.
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