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They wont talk to me anymore
Over the years im 19 now, (im female) when my friends have goten married they would stop talking to me. Today I just found out, that my buddy got married months ago, and she didnt even tell me. I think of myself as a nice person, but i'm shy, I dont talk to them on the phone alot but still, thats no reason to ignore and run from me. Mom says they are jealous of me but why would they be like that when they are the ones with the husbands?
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I seriously doubt it is because they are jealous of you. It doesn't seem like you are putting forth much of an effort to keep in touch either. Are you calling them regularly and asking how they are? You must not be if you just found out that your "buddy" got married. If you really want to stay in touch then pick up the phone! If they really wanted to then they would do the same. Since they haven't then..... maybe they really don't want to be friends anymore.
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They aren't ignoring you or running from you and they probably aren't jealous either. Actually they probably aren't thinking of you at all, because they are rather busy.
Marriage is a huge transition and learning time for couples. There is a lot to do, new ways to spend your time and a new life to balance with your old one. Similar to leaving high school for college, some of your high school friends drift away unless you make a real effort to keep them. Big transitions do that to people. If you are not calling old friends and making an effort to remain a friend then you can hardly blame them for not putting forth an effort either.
If you want to maintain a relationship with your married friends, call them, invite them out, stay in touch, do the work to make the friendship last. If you don't, the friendship will fade and someday your married ex-friend will sit around and wonder "What happened to so-and-so? I wonder why they never call. Maybe they are ignoring me or maybe they are jealous? Hmm, too bad. I wish we were still friends."
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