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Hi my name is Lee Ann. I am 29 years old and Graduated from Bethany college obtaining a bachelors of music. I am a happily married woman with two kids, ages3 and 2. I currently have six books out on the market, all of which can be found on amazon. The first is called The Leaf: One fallen heart and a burning desire, my second is called Avengement of Glory, my third is called Spiral of Enlightenment, fourth one is called Prodigy of the Immortal, fifth one is called Augment in the Realm of Darkness, and my sixth novel is called Bond in the Spiritual Heart. I started this advice column to see if I could give good advice. Turns out I am pretty good, better than I thought actually. I enjoy seeing people smile when I give them good advice and they use it. It makes me feel better as a person to help people. I want to make the world a better place and I think that starting an advice column is the right way to begin. Writing is a huge part of my life, without it, I wouldn't be able to function properly. After seven years, I think I have done pretty well as an advice columnist.

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I'm a 16 year old female...

About two days ago I woke up and my left breast was SIGNIFICANTLY, I mean like, ridiculously, MUCH MUCH larger than my right breast and also quite tender and somewhat painful to the touch. So my mother took me to the doctor and the doctor ran a blood test which proved that I wasn't pregnant and there were no cancerous cells in my blood, which were two of her guesses. Then she told me that it was because of my period, that my hormones were causing this to happen. She said to use a heating pad for pain and take Advil or Neprocin for the inflammation and that it would go away with my next period. The problem is, my periods are very very irregular because I used to have an eating disorder, so who knows when that will be, probably MONTHS from now. This sucks, I can't stand it, seriously, they are EXTREMELY different sizes and it's making me horribly self conscious and resentful of my body, I won't even let my boyfriend see me topless/bra-less because I am so embarrassed about it.

What can I do to make my breast return to normal size quickly? Has anyone else experienced this before? And I mean they're REALLY REALLY different sizes, seriously. I can't stand this, it's making me really really upset...HELP!! This can't possibly be normal!!!

There is a website that I found that tells you the causes of this. It also has some solutions to how you can cure it. The website is
http://www.wrongdiagnosis.com/sym/breast_swelling.htm

okay so there is this guy, he is like a skater and stuff. so my friend is like BEST FRIENDS with him. they always are hanging out and i always hang out with her so once and awhile we all hang out. by the way his name is david. so i am pretty shy, especially around guys. like, im really shy right when i get to no someone, then after awhile i am like the most outgoing person in the world, i am so crazy i do everything and you can't get me to shut up. i no there is probably alot of questions like this, but i really need help. so my friend that is his best friend is talking to him abouot me, and she knows that if i opened up to him, he would like be in love with me. like we have the same exact personalitys, once i open up. i just can't seem to do that though, it's so hard, especially with guys! so, basically my question is, i need to no how to get myself to not be so nervous and just chill out and be myself, and once i do that, i need good ways to flirt with him. thank you!!!

First find common interests you can talk about. If you have interests you both can talk about then you will have longer conversations. Everyone gets nervous when they really like someone so the key is to not show it. A way to get rid of this is by breathing before you speak to him. Continue to say in your head "I can do this". If you are in an area where there is alot of people it makes you less stress becasue there are people all around. Have you friend start up the conversation about soemthing you and the guy would ahve in common. She will ask your opinion. You will give it and he will say "yeah I totally agree". After you guys speak take a small breathe to relieve any extra stress in your stomach. It perfectly normal to feel the tension. Try stretching before too becasue it will help relax your muscles.

so okay...I have been member for a long time...and have only gotten banned once (for accidentally writing in caps...but i wasnt yelling) anyway...when you go to answer a question...and someone put a careless answer...but the person asking the question didnt rate the question yet...how do you file an abuse report? Also...how do you file an abuse report on the person asking the question? PLEASE HELP!!!

If you are a member and go to main screen. Scroll the page down and you will see under Miscellaneous there is report abuse. Click that and look at the options and click what you think is best for the situation.

i eat nice full meals, but sometimes after i eat and i know i'm full, i want more or i get cravings
i mean im not fat but sometimes i go in the kitchen and get a cookie and i want to stop
so how can i stop these craving for sweets (im trying to eat better and healthier) and how can i cut back on bad foods?

*please don't say "don't go in the kitchen" or "stop the cravings" cause that doesnt help much

16/f - 125lbs (i know that's a lot but it doesn't show)

The best thing to do is do something disgustig to the sweets you are craving. If something really nasty is done to the object you will feel disgusted even looking at it. Another way to stop the cravings is eat the stuff but right after just exercise it off. If you burn the calories right after you eat there is no problems. If you have trouble even then you can always ask your mom to hide the stuff so you can't eat it or even have you set out a certain amount of what you want.

I read some stuff and researched on how to write a bibliography for SITES but i don't get it =/. Why do you have to list so much? In my school, we made a chart: list the date that we found the site and write the url.

But on the site that i found, it says:
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Website
Lynch, Tim. "DSN Trials and Tribble-ations Review." Psi Phi: Bradley's
Science Fiction Club. 1996. Bradley University. 8 Oct. 1997 .
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What's the stuff at the top line? What if i site i found isn't really professional and had nothing but a tiny bit of information that i used?

Can anyone set an example of a bibliography using this site for me or tell me about it in a more better detail? Thanky uo so much!
http://www.skimarmot.com/about_jasper.html

for this one it doesn't have an author so you don't need to use it. The one at the top is a magazine. Author, title, magazine title, copywright, location, date went to website, website.

You would just do yours like:
"Title". Place, place (located at bottom of the website). date you accessed website no period then website.

In a couple months I'm going to try out for my schools S-Troupe. S-Troupe is a club at my school of writers, performers, and artists dedicated to the production and performance of original, expressive, written work. Simply put: the members of S-Troupe write, produce and, finally, perform their own poetic, dramatic, but mostly comedic scenes and sketches on stage or on video and film.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=oCZ62GezK6M (That's one of the performance. It's really great)

I really want to do this, because I love just joking around and having a reason just to act completely crazy. I'm a writer and I don't have much acting experience but I really want to do this. I'm not shy at all with my friends and I know I can do it...but when I get in front of people I don't know I tend to be shy and freeze up and I don't want to do that at auditions.

Does anyone have any tips for auditioning for these sort of things, it's sort of like drama club. Is there anything
I can do to prepare myself more? Any excercises or anything. I've never done anything like this, but I want to make it.

Does

There are some exercises that I use to prepare before I would perform in front of my acting class. You take a deep breathe in, lay your arms flat against your legs, slowly bring them up and cross them behind your head, breathe out and bring them back down slowly. This will relieve the anxiety and tension you are feeling. Always carry your script if you are performing just in case you forget a small word. If you don't have it, it will look extremely bad. Believe you can do and accomplish this. You are just as good as anyone in that room, maybe even better. Continue to say that to yourself. Take a big breathe before you begin and a big one after your done. Don't eat anything before you perform that way you won't get nauseous because you won't have anything in your stomach. Auditions are simple they just watch you and take a few notes. If you take my advice they will write nothing but good things about you. Pick something that is completely your style becasue if it isn't it tends to be harder to get completely in character.

17/f

i try not to show it, actually i dont at all. but really im a JEALOUS person. i get jealous of everyone. now im a hockey manager for the boys team at our school =] with three other girls. one is my best friend. i share a locker with her at school and we have two classes together. well i absoultely love hockey boys. and lately it seems like the "cute" boys have been kinda talking and maybe flirting a little with my best friend. there is this one boy(he actually has a girlfriend) who everyone thinks is like the hottest boy at our school and everytime he sees my friend he like "hits" her or pokes her, makes funny noises at her like kinda flirting though you know. its weird though because she hasnt really even talked to him before, this started out of no where and it just started happening like a week ago. not to sound mean AT ALL because i love her to death but i think im acutally prettier than her. not many guys i know think she is cute, she is really nice but super shy too. and its not like im mean or anything but i just wonder, why dont these boys "flirt" with me or anything? i talk to two of them, i have classes with them. they both have girlfriends but they're cool. but i just get so jealous of these kind of situations. i dont know what to do, its been bugging me. and i think that my friend may think she is kind of cool because of this. any suggestions!?

thank you so much.

i know jealousy well and it is really tough to keep it inside when it is screaming at you in your head. A way to solve this problem is flirt with him or the others. Maybe where something that would attract them to you more than her. I know you don't want to hurt her because she is your best friend but if not very many guys flirt with her then why can't she just have one. I know it is hard and may not make sense to you why she is getting all the attention but to tell the truth looks don't always matter. Take it from someone who really knows jocks. They think looks matter of but it is not everything. Maybe if you joined in the conversation and flirted with them they will start to flirt back. If want their attention you need to do it yourself becasue jocks are brainless and have no clue of the girl world.

ok well, whenever i think back to my childhood, it seems like i see myself, as if i were someone looking in on the situation, and not experiencing it. Like when i remember this one specific point of when i broke my leg -at about 5/6 years old, i had a cast on- i see myself walking in a blue t-shirt towards the door. Or at school when i was young, me sitting on the computer, not myself looking at the computer screen. why is this? is it a psycological thing?

Yes you have the ability to look back on memories and see things that you might have missed. You can look at memories from another persons point of view. This is something that psychologists spend most of their time trying to figuare out how some people have this special gift while others just remember how they feel or what happened. You ahve the ability to tell what the person was wearing, seeing their expressions, and seeing first hand what you think is happening. It is a wonderful gift especially when you use to remember the moments you cherish the most. You are connected to your subconcious in a way that most people can't achieve. A person like me can only remember the feelings or the main points of what happened. You can remember details. You just connect to your subconcious better than others.

ghey iam i cool?

I am not sure what you are asking. Are you not sure your cool enough in school or are you asking how you can become cooler. It might help if I know whether you are a girl or a boy. If you do what you want to and when you want without looking to others to do it then I think that you are a very cool person. In order to be cool you have to believe that you are cool.

ok well i'm my boyfriends 1st girlfriend and he's not my first but the only on i actally cared about and & none of us never tongue kissed before ... like he tries 2 but i break a way cusz i feel like i dont know wat i'm doiing becuase i dont!!!!
all we do is tap and yeah i want 2 go deeper and us tounge but i dont kno how??? & our friendsz keep asking if we did it yet and itsz so embarrising 2 saii no since i really want to. so how do u tounge kiss?????

If you are not relaxed then it will never feel right. You have to been in a scenery where you are the most comfortable like a couch, car, chair, etc. Really all there is to it is touching each others tougue. Don't go to deep because that has an annoying feeling. Do it real slow and gradually just touch. If you do this way first you will become more confortable with tricks and other things that involve the tongue. The key is to relax and not worry about what the other person is thinking.

17/f. I want to colour my hair with something that won't last for too long. I know where I can get those products.
But I'm not sure how to apply it.
I have a sort of scene/mulletish haircut and I'm not sure where to put the colours in my hair.
Can anyone help?

xx

You want to make it even looking on each side. I would first divide you hair by using either clips, pony tails, or even bobby pins. You want to start from the bottom then work your way up that way it doesn't smear. Put three or four streaks with the same amount of distance between on each layer. Work you way to the top and then work on the other side. Have a friend put some treaks in the back because if you do that part by yourself you won't be able to see what you are doing.

trackk question....
everytime that i have to run over 3 miles i get like
diarrhea.. does that make any sence? lol
14/f

If you drink alot of water when running. You body can only store so much water fluid and so it cause diarea. I would suggest drinking less water or fluids. Drink a little bit at a time and it should subside. Also don't eat right bfore you run or that can cause it to. Maybe eat an hour or two before you actually start running. If you have to some immodium would stop you from having it that way your body can get use to it.

im looking bands in these genres:

-indie
-rock
-punk
-pop punk

:]

avenged sevenfold, silverstein, blink 182, metallica, dragonforce, new found glory, the used, aly and aj, evanescence, avil laveen, yellowcard, papa roach, senses fail

well i love music i listen to it alot!!!....and im kinda getting tired of my music i have on my ipod i like to listen to alot of rock hard rock and i recently been getting into all that screaming crap but i only like the sound of the guitar solos....i like music like slipknot avenged sevenfold deftones i want more and need new music help on suggestions? and im also looking for calm music like acustic would be nice but in rock and love and hurt songs also in rock.

Some great musicians with good guitar solos would be metallica and dragonforce. For dragonforce the song fury of a storm is amazing and through the fire and flames. Good songs by metallica would be fade to black and master of puppets. Other bands that are good would be it dies today andlamb of god. If you look on my myspace at www.myspace.com/darkesthourforme it will have a list of bands that you would like to hear on the left side towards the middle of the page.

ok...so I am with this guy that I really do love but he has 2 big problems...his friends. When its just me and him together its great, but when we are around his friends they are always "cutting on me" and just being flat out jerks. My boyfriend tells them to stop but they don't listen and now him and his friends are fighting and I feel like its my fault. What should I do about all this??? Because I am trying to make it work but it just doesn't seem like they are willing to be nice to me. Plus I haven't done anything to them that would make them be mean towards me.

The truth is when it comes to friends they are in competition with each other. To them your boyfriend is ahead of the game. They are jealous becasue he has exactly what they want. A way to get rid of that is by making fun of you and just making you feel uncomfortable. A way to get them to stop is to come up with some comebacks of your own like "really is that the best you can do". Don't let it get to you because they use that to do more of it. Be the bigger person and talk to them and your boyfriend. Tell them you guys are friends thats fine with me. Try and help solve the conflict. Tell your boyfriend I don't care if they make fun of me becasue if they do it to me then I will do it to them. The only way to get thm to stop and resolved is if you take the effort to prove you really don't care what they have to say.

15/f

I'm in this program, thats suppose to help you with your grades. It teaches you like study skills and such. I already know all of that. The only reason my grades arn't as good as they should be, is because I make small mistakes. Like, forgetting to put a negative sign next to a number. You know what I mean? So, I basically want out of it. I talked to my guidance counselor twice. And she keeps telling me to think about it. I know she doesn't want me to drop it. But, I want to do whats best for me. My mom and dad also agree I should drop it. How can I convince my guidance counselor to let me drop it?

The best way to prove to your guidance counselor that you don't need the program is by showing that it is not necssary anymore. IF you do well on some quizzes, tests, and homework and show the guidance couselor that you are perfecty capable doing it yourself then the guidance counselor will agree. The fact is it is your decision and your guidance counselor can't make the decision for you. Thats actually against school regulation becasue a counselor is suppose to counselor you into making your own decisions and not make them for you. A way to stop making those simple mistakes is by taking a deep breathe before and after. Don't rush trying to finsh the test but relax and take your time. This relaxation will help you to prove you don't need someone to tell you what you already know.

my partner and me enjoy peeing when we make love can this be dangerious to her inside's. she loves me to pee inside her, and watches our pee and cum shoot out of her.

Not really because it is the same area that she uses to pee in the first place.

well i weigh 160 and im 17 im on the verdge to diabeties and i need a fast diet any thing that can help??? and i want to loose wait as fast also :)

The fastest way to lose weight and keep it off would be to cut out chocolate, candy, and pop. Drink water or juice. Eat 5 times a day in small increments. White bread is bad for your health and causes alot of the problems in todays society. Wheat bread is the best thing. Something that you can eat for breakfast that is good for you would be peanut butter on toast. Pasta is good for you and helps lose weight including salad. Fast is out of the question. You could probably eat a little in resturants like ponderosa. Exercise on a bike or even walking to help the muscles. If you are working the muscles the fat in your body will move to the different muscles you are exercising and build them up.

ok so i call myself a freak but everyone eles says that im a tomboy anyway i just want to compare myself to what other tomboys are wearing so if anyone could give me a site with tomboy clothes or pictures of tomboys please dont say look it up on google because i have done that about 6 billion times and i didnt find anything thanks

I cna describe what a tomboy wears. A tomboy likes jeans, preferably bagger or ones that are loose. Someone who likes t-shirts. A tomboy hates skirts, dresses, and doesn't really care aout the appearance. Someone who wears less makeup unless they are the gothy type. A tomboy prefers to hang out with boys and go to skates parks then shop at the mall with girls. Someone who likes to play video games and never dates the guys she is friends with. The group the person would hang out with is all boys and maybe their girlfriends if they have any. I am a very big tomboy and I am ok with that.

Well my subject pretty much gives it away... There's this guy I know, lets say his name is Jake* I met him at a New Years party and I haven't ever met some really nice guys before, but he was and he was interested in me. I wasn't thinking right that night, he started flirting and I flirted back but I was just playing around... but then again, I told you... I wasn't thinking right. It's just that I've never actually had experience with boys before. Now, he got my number somehow through a friend and calls me all the time... if I don't pick up, I feel guilty and when I do , he continues flirting. I tried to let him know indirectly that I really don't like him that way but he doesn't understand. What do I say to him? I don't want to hurt him in any kind of way...

To prove that you don't like him in that way I would suggest getting a boyfriend or sya you like this guy that he doesn't know. Tell him you love that he likes and your flattered but the truth is I only see you as a friend and not the boyfriend type. IF you tell him the truth it will be much easier that lying to him. Either way it might hurt his feelings but being completely honest and upfront with him will make him respect you. Tell him you want to be with someone with so and so interests. It could be someone that is the complete opposite from him. If you like someone that is not like him then he will figuare it out. Just in case he tries to become like the person you like tell you prefer if he would just be himself.

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