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Hi my name is Lee Ann. I am 29 years old and Graduated from Bethany college obtaining a bachelors of music. I am a happily married woman with two kids, ages3 and 2. I currently have six books out on the market, all of which can be found on amazon. The first is called The Leaf: One fallen heart and a burning desire, my second is called Avengement of Glory, my third is called Spiral of Enlightenment, fourth one is called Prodigy of the Immortal, fifth one is called Augment in the Realm of Darkness, and my sixth novel is called Bond in the Spiritual Heart. I started this advice column to see if I could give good advice. Turns out I am pretty good, better than I thought actually. I enjoy seeing people smile when I give them good advice and they use it. It makes me feel better as a person to help people. I want to make the world a better place and I think that starting an advice column is the right way to begin. Writing is a huge part of my life, without it, I wouldn't be able to function properly. After seven years, I think I have done pretty well as an advice columnist.

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What rhymes with jewels?

fools
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okay well i like or you can say ''love'' my bf..a lot but its hard to trust him cause like...well started ti tlk in class...i had like him for a while so then ya we started to tlk and one night we went to a 15..and we kissed lil did i know he had a girlfriend...the next day he broke up w/ her for me..but we didnt start goin out right away we were seein each other...then we started to g/o...well it lasted 3wks he broke up w/ me cause there was this rumor goin around that he was hookin it up back w/ his x..and i belived it so i was like i dnt know ..then he broke up w/ me..and went back out w/ her and i was all hell na i like him a lot so ima do what it takes...so then we started tlkin again and well he broke up w/ her (not cause of me for some other stuff) then we were hookin up for like 2 months then he told me that his x was tlkin to him again and that he liked her but he still liked me more..so i was all na i cant do that so i stoped....then he went back out w/ her...and we were tlkin as friends then more than friends....he would tell me o i like you she dont know how to be a girl and what not...she was very mean to him...well and then when he was goin out w/ her we kissed twice (i felt sooooo bad like no lie)...then he broke up w/ her and she started to g/o with someone else and him and i are goin out.....but like..i have this doubt like if he was goin out w/ her and kissed me what makes me think he wont do it to me u know...but like i love him sooooooooooooooo much and i dnt want to brake up w/ him...all i want is to be happy and not have this doubt.....what should i do???

If he feels that sense of distrust he is more willing to do something not trustworthy while if you show that you trust him on the outside he more willing to be trustworthy. It is all about how you present it to him. You don't have to break up with him but convince yourself there is nothing to worry about. Put him to the test by getting a friend he doesn't know to hit on him. If he kind of flirts back you know the truth and if he doesn't you officially know that you can trust him. Or even make him promise that he won't leave you. A good way to convince a guy to be honest is to make them swear on the bible. I don't know if someone has ever been struck by lightning for disobeying the promise they make but it definitely scares a guy enough to keep that promise.

Ok so i have been masterbating for around about 2 years now.

i use the shower head for water pressure.
its good and all but im getting really bored with it.
i want fun without having to go to the hassle of buying sex toys/ dildo's

is it possible to have an orgasim when masterbating ?
cause i know i havent had one
this may sound weird to ask but anyone got some ideas for me to get one using maybe a house hold object ??

i need ideas people FAST ! :P
any advice will appreciated : )

The most satisfying way to get a good organism is by having sex. A good object would be soemthing long, rounded, and thick. If you have an object shaped liek what you would use while having sex it makes your body think it is the real thing. It is a matter of convincing your body.

i had a dream that i gave birth to 10 kids
only 2 girls

i was gonna keep 1 boy and 1 girl

bur i wasnt sure

i was giving the up for adopion and w as really depressed

my brother was fighting with me cause i was being moody which i said you couldnt blame me

then my 10 kids were int the apartment

i was looking for my mom to call the adoption place

(ohh and on the drive home i asked my uncle if i could make them each a dvd and leave it with them and he said yeah)

You have a fear that if you have more than two kid you won't have anyone to take care of them with. In this dream I didn't see you were with a man. Without a spouse it is really hard to raise kids. You don't want to be left alone raising kids especially when you are not even sure if the man will even be enough. You kept one of each because you want a girl and a boy but you don't want more than 2 kids.

Ok so my friend started art class all because her other friend was in it (she dosent like art the tinnyest bit) and my friend and my friends friend play a prank on this boy Erin he is pretty cool I dont have a crush on him or anything i just think he is cool and funny so anyway they passed a note to him that asked do you like me signed my friends name and he said yes and then he also said gosh ill just brake up with my girlfriend to be with you and my friend didnt like him it was just a joke and he got really hurt what should we (i mean i because im sure they wont do anything about it they arnt even sorry) do about it. All help is apreciated.

I think that it is good that you feel sorry about it. It shows great maturity and compassion. It is hard to find a perosn like you who actually feel sorry that you let someone do something like that. The best thing to do is to write him a note saying you are very sorry about what happened. Maybe become his friend so he doesn't feel so alone and humiliated. Thats the only thing you really can do and if he doesn't want to be your friend the only you can do then is just respect what he wants. Hurting someones feelings like that is hard to apologize for but it doesn't hurt to do it.

laptop????

for some readon its not working for mine

and idkk?

If you have a jump drive you can transfer the file of the game from your house computer to the laptop. If don't have a house computer then you need to go to a website where you can download it onto your laptop. If you do have a house computer find it online, download it, put it on the jump drive usually you can connect a jump drive cord to an mp3 player, plug it into your laptop. Then go to computer find the file or whatever file you stuck it in. Right click, clcik on send-to, and pick the option of putting it on your desktop. It should then be on the main screen of your computer.

im going to college in the next 2 years and im going to major in business. i was talking to my cousin the other day and shes also majoring in business and said that it was required to have a presentation class or a class where you have to speak in front of everybody. is this true? because im so bad at speaking in front of everyone

Yes it is required that you take some form of speech. Actually that is not part of the major but part of the basic nesscessities when you first attend college. I am also very afraid of speaking publicly but turns out it is not as bad as I thought. You do a maximum of maybe 4 speeches the entire semester. Usually you get to pick what you want to speak on. If you speak on something you are very familiarly with then speaking in front of the class is a little easier. Some tricks to relaxing yourself is stretching before you give a speech. This will relax your muscles and help with anxiety you are feeling. It is best to eat something light also.

Alright, a bit more of an adult focused one, but I need some outside opinions.

So, my girlfriend is chronically ill. Not really sick, theres just always something wrong with her. She has migraines (she says, they dont seem to affect anything but her sex drive) she has body aches, she gets tired, she ________. Insert anything under the sun for the blank that doesnt require a doctor.

She used to have a sex drive that outstripped mine. Now, I'm lucky if we have sex once a week.

I don't know what to do about it. I used to be able to climb into bed with her, and seduce her. Now, she either ignores or rebuffs all the advances I make, and I only actually get to have sex when she is horny enough that she makes an advance. Basically, if she isnt in the mood, there is nothing I can do to get her that way. The only thing she wants constantly is non sexual physical affection, to the point that I feel used by her. I feel like a convenient toy that takes care of her needs whenever she has them, and the rest of the time she rolls over and pretty much ignores me.

Perhaps its selfish of me, but this is a big problem, on top of a bunch of other problems. Big enough that if it continues I am going to leave her over it.

I just need some outside perspectives. I can't handle being in a relationship with a girl who seems to have lost complete interest in sex. Its been going on for months, since last summer basically. She gets short bursts of horny for about 2 hours every few weeks, and the rest of the time I feel like we are married with kids and careers, when we are students with a decent amount of time on our hands.

I think maybe she should see an actual dotor because these symptoms sound very serious. She might have signs of depression but I can't be sure. Have her go to the doctor just to get a normal checkup. If for soem reason the tests turn out to be that she is fine then maybe the best thing is to break up with her. You can't stay with a person who doesn't want what you want. You are not being selfish when you want more intimacy. You should look for a woman who wants exactly what you want. Sounds to me that she is starting to be less like your type.

this is kind of a long story:
Well first off, ive been best freinds with this guy for a long time now. Hes not the jelous type, lets call him Joe. Joe is best friends with this guy Tom, tom is really sweet and seems to be a nice guy, so he asks me out and you know the rules of best freinds, you gottah talk to them first about it, so i did. Joe said that Tom only goes after the hot ones, im not saying im hot, cause im definatley not, haha. But point is, this guy Tom is really sweet, he said he loves me and that i mean the world to him and stuff, and he loves me for me, and not what i look like. But Joe said not to fall into his trap, but i cant help it . . hes so charming. So he asks me out, and i say yes and then later that day Tom says to dump him. I do, and i broke Joes heart, he wouldnt stop calling me, texting me, IMing me. he kept saying things like "why did you break up with me, i love you, i dont want to lose you". . . and just well mushy stuff. So i tell him that someone told me stuff about him that i wasnt happy with. Im not one to follow a crowd and believe rumors, but this was my best freind who told me this. So tom swares to god he would never do anything to hurt me, ever, and that hes sorry if the person confused me. He was begging me for a second chance. The guy was making me feel terrible! So i gave him another chance, were going out now and im so happy. But i know tom is gunna be mad at me cause i said i wouldnt date until im ready, he thinks im mad at Joe, when the truth is . . were going out!
I have no idea how to tell him this and i need some serious help, ive never been in this situation before!
thanks, im totally confused
tom was so proud of me for breaking up with him
now what do i do?

As a best friend it is your duty to let your friends make choices ontheir own. A true friend would back you up and support you in anything. For example, my friend had a bay with a complete loser. I don't liek him but I let her live her life the way she wants it. It wouldn't be right to tell her how to live ehr life. IF I did it wouldn't be her life it would be the life I want her to have. Even though I completely despise the father of her child I stay out of it. I let make her own mistakes and when she does I will be there for her. Until then I just need to stay out of it. This cna relate to you. If he is really and truly your friend he will support any decision you make. Keeping that in mind tell him that you thought about it long and hard. You decided that you want to give the guy a chance. People make mistakes and they can change. What makes him think his friend can't. Be strong and remember if he is truly your friend he won't care one way or another but he will be there for you if something does happen.

Is softball pitching considered technology? Not all things that are technology have to do with electricity so is softball pitching technology since it has to do with the human body? Thanks!

I don't think you doing the pitching would be considered technology but a pitching machine would be though. Techanology are mechanisms for distributing messages, including postal systems, radio and television broadcasting companies, telephone, satellite and computer networks. Can also be machinery, tools and materials required to produce a media text.

What are some good movies that I could rent. I feel like ive rented all the good onesss!

It depends on your taste. If you like horror the best one is saw 4 or even the third resident evil. For comedy I would definitely rent The game plan. It was so cute and hilarious. A good movie that is heartbreaking would be bridge to tarabithea. I don't know what you have rented and what you haven't so it is hard to give you a list of things if you have already seen them or don't want to see them again.

ok so me and my friend rachel have been fightin a
lot but everytime it was her fault she would always want me to apologize to her.well my problem is this monday we were doin a group project in my 4th period class.it was all fine until rachel started to try and control everything that was going on.so she yelled at me because i was talking and when she told me i needed to listen to her i told her NO. she got really mad and threw a tantrum and threw a peace of paper which hit me in the head.I haven't talked to rachel since i am just like not friends with her anymore i just told her well im done with all the drama and stuff.my question is was that the right thing to do ?

It is really hard to work with someone who is trying to control the situation when it is a group project. A group project is where a group works together. If she doesn't like any of the groups ideas and only wants to do what she wants you to do then she shouldn't be your friend anyways. I think maybe being rude back is showing that you are just like her in some ways. You don't want to act like her. I believe that you did the right thing by telling her she is not the boss of everyone and syaing no when she is not the leader. A way to get around her attitude is to ask everyone in the group if they like the ideas you have come up with and what they think the group should do. If you get everyones opinion and vote on it, she has absolutely no control over majority ruling.

I have tryed googling it but with no luck, can anyone help me find the guitar chords for 'opinions won't keep you warm at night' by Kisschasy??

thanks.
xx

A good website for guitar chords would be ultimate-guitar.com. It has a variety of songs and bands listing all of their songs. It is best to pick a composer that has been rated the most amount of stars that way you know they are giving you the right chords.

so i have been kissing my boyfriend for months now, and we have been to first base (above waist touching), while we are kissing his hands go up my shirt and do what they do, but i don't have anything to do... i need some ideas on what i can do with my hands that will entice the making out and let him have some pleasure out of the kissing than just me... i have tried running my fingers and just touching his back but what else??

any ideas would help!
thanks...

Use your hands to move to different areas of his body. Examples would be start from his leg and move farther up to his back, move to his stomach, move to his face, put hands thorugh his hair, or move to his shoulders. Guys like it when you go to different areas of the body. But don't go to the same areas everytime, mix it up in a different order each time.

ok well my bf has just started fingering me and well now he wants to start using 2 fingers wich is good But when we went to do that he couldnt get them both in so ya whats wrong!?

The hole isn't big enough to stech that far so a way to take care fo that is to get a really thick tampon or something to get it wider. By doing this you are stretching that area and he will have the room to do more.

ok well me and my bf have been dating for 5 months we didnt kiss until we had been dating for 3months and now we do it alot but he will touch me all the time whether we are kissing or not and i absolutely love it! but idk what to do to him i touch his tummy when we arent kissing and play with the hairs and what not but when we are kissing im clueless i just need ideas for both PLEASE HELP!

When kissing him, guys like it when you feel their face, leg, arm, and chest. When you are making out make sure you mix it up a little. Guys tend to get irritated when you are doing only one or two things but if you switch it up a little they like it. I am not saying your boyfriend is irritated becasue not all guys are like that. When not kissing it is ok to do these things too but the best thing to do when not kissing is playing with his hands or do imaginary circles, letters, names, or pictures on their chest or belly. This comes in handy when you are watching movies or just hanging out.

well, its not really a question for me but just in general

what do you do when you don't feel like working (ie hw) but you have to?

Sometimes you have to suck it up and just do it especially if you are being forced to do it. If you not being forced and you have no responsibilities like a cell phone or credit card bills then you shouldn't have to work unless you need to earn or buy something for yourself.

I'm getting pretty bored with my haircolor as it is now, so I was wanting to color my hair.
But I'm wondering what you guys would think would be a nice hair color for myself?

Here's a picture, so you can decide from it:
http://i152.photobucket.com/albums/s165/xx_tickle_me_emo_xx/Picture315.jpg

Thank youu. :]

I think black would be the best color. It will help tone out the shade of your skin. It will also make you look older and seems like you want a change that people will wow about. I think black would be your best bet and will go perfectly with the shade of your skin.

so im goin out with this pretty kool kid named mike, and he is really funny and super cute. But my X-boyfriend still has feeling for me, and i think i still like him.

what should i do?

If you are thinking about your ex boyfriend then you are not really over him. And if you are not over him then in the back of your mind you still want to be with him. Even though you might like your current boyfriend it seems like you are in love with your ex boyfriend. IF you are thinking about another man then you really shouldn't do that to another person. Your current boyfriend will understand but you need write the pros and cons of each man to see who is the better one to be with. If you get that answer ask yourself if you really want to be with that person. Whoever you don't choose you can always be friends with and make them understand you put alot of thought into it.

so ive been going to a private school my entire life, ever since i was 3. and its been the same school too. ive also known the kids in my grade for about 11 years and weve gotten really close. but this school only goes up to 8th grade. last year was my last year at that school and graduating it was the saddest thing ever. ive never cried so much. so this year, [in september] i switched over to a public highschool, which is completely different by the way. only two of my friends from my old school came with me, but there not in any of my classes. so i had to learn the hard way and make completely new friends from scratch. it also sucks because these kids have known eachother since middle school and they already have their own groups. well the first month of school i thought id fit it in good and make a lot of new friends, but i thought wrong. its been about 5 months now and so far ive gotten 2 close friends, and about 5 friends i just talk to but were not close..and there not really the coolest of the bunch..[there not losers, but idk.] and sure i have those people i smile at in the hall, but thats nothing. i hardly talk to them. its just been really hard for me and i dont think anyone seems to understand. in all of my classes ive got one person to talk to, but still..there not my friends, really..only some of them. its complicated but sometimes i get embarssed when people see me talking to those people, since im new i dont want to be put into the loser catagory. and u know i dont think im a loser. this may sound conceited a little..but i should be talking to people that are better than that..you know. its hard to explain really but right now life is just ughh im not that happy with it right now. i havent been in a good mood for a really long time. i cant remember the last time..somethings wrong with me why arent i able to make more friends as easily as all of my other old school friends? all of them have their own group now..im litterly the only one. it really upsets me. i hope you understand how i feel

I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes it is really hard to adjust to a new place, new school, and new friends. A way to make new friends is to find common interests that you have with the others. Do some snooping around and find out what you can. If you find common interests like music, sports, parties, mall, shopping, or even clothes. Use that to your advantage and you will be able to spark a conversation with the others. You can keep your old friends and talk to these new people. The key to having happiness is by making it. The only way things will change is if you make them. I learned as much as I could about sports and the music they were listening to, then brought up the conversation of it. We started talking more and more and the new person asked me to sit by her at lunch to talk more about it. That one person helped me click with the others.

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