My first rule: Once you break up, DO NOT get back together. People break up for reasons. Move on.

He's insecure. Don't feed it, just leave him to be insecure and ALONE. He wants to make you feel bad to make himself feel better. You shouldn't respect him.

Honey I've had the same thoughts, and this might not work for everyone, but what works for me is to think about how much better my life is now than it was a month ago, or a year ago, or anything. I have a lot, too. A successful website, an awesome job, fantastic apartment furniture... am I afraid of losing it? Sure I am. Everyone who has anything is afraid of losing it. A life that's not worth holding onto isn't a life at all.

But the fact remains that although our lives can have ups and downs, most people's are almost always on the up. You gain as you grow. You see new things and visit new places. We sometimes feel like we'd like to stay in the same place. In college I was deathly afraid of graduating and living on my own. But you know what? I wouldn't go back to college if I was paid too... what I have now is so much better.

You're not supposed to be paralyzed with fear, but you are supposed to be afraid. All thinking people are... it's part of what motivates us to keep looking ahead for the good things in life. There's not much I can say to make it better except that I've been there and totally understand, and just from how you've written your thoughts I can tell you're going to have a great life, too. Go forth and conquer, you'll make it.

You're a freak. I think you need iron supplements or something.

They go after food when they smell blood, so yes, I'd say you're more likely to be eaten by a shark when on your period. Personally, I always avoid swimming in shark-infested waters, so it's not something I've thought much of, but if the situation demands it I'd suggest wearing a tampon and washing off well before you get into the water.

Autism is more than a social disorder, and generally it's very obvious. If you have the capability to be concerned about your social life enough to write into a website about it, you are not autistic.

You could be weird though.

NO.

I don't think you should go out with either one, but if you can't handle that at least break up with the one who smokes and drinks.

Seriously I don't know why people ask me these stupid questions. "This guy is all wrong for me... should I keep dating him?" Makes me lose faith in humanity.

Move. Start over. Tell him you'll e-mail and miss him but I agree, LD relationships not only don't work, they aren't worth the hassle if you're under the age of, say, 34. He'll just have to understand.

Awe, don't hate teachers! Teachers are cool, they're just misunderstood. They love their subject and if you act like you have the potential to love their subject, chances are they'll love you to. That's my advice on teachers.

Find something he likes that's just as stupid. If he doesn't like anything, accuse him of being passionless and boring. Trust me, we all have our quirky stuff we like, tennis is cool enough to stick up for it.

If I were in your shoes I'd probably be just as torn about the decision, but I'd try everything possible to not have an abortion. I had a friend who had one once and felt awful for her, she decided later she felt bad about it, and you can never go back, you know?

Adoption is almost as difficult but I think it's easier to deal with in the long run. That's what I'd really recommend, if you think you can do it.

Whatever you do, know that it'll turn out okay. Humans have a much higher capacity to survive hardships than we think we do, and I know it feels right now like there's no way out but you will make it. Just keep telling yourself that.

Honey, get into this century. If a woman wants something, she should go for it... we don't wait for men to read our minds anymore, we ask them out!

You're overthinking. Take it slow and relax... you should learn to be friends with people and be happy with that before diving into more. If you think he'd be interested in dating you can tell him how you feel but I'd value the friendship if I were you, friendships are usually more valuable in the long run anyway.

10 is perfect for sleepovers! It's 14 you should worry about.

Kissing should always come naturally... if you think about it too much it doesn't work. Don't go sticking your tounge in someone's mouth because you think that's what people "do". That's what bad kissers do. Good kissers are subtle and the whole tounge thing doesn't even come into play until like the third kiss and even then not much.

If you don't know that you're attracted to other women, you probably aren't. Most of the bisexuals I've been friends with never had a doubt in their heads. But it's up to you, lots of people experiment.

Don't think you need to be with someone to be happy though, guys or girls. Being independent will give you much healthier relationships with everyone in the long one. Being an inexperienced 18 year old means nothing... there are billions of you, trust me. It's perfectly okay, probably even better.

I love lord of the rings too, it's okay. But you'd better damn well not fail math. Math is very very important.

Get over it. You don't need him. egah, why do people do this kind of stuff?

It's going to be tough to deal with, but this sort of thing happens. Friendships are hard to keep together. Those movies you see where the people have been best friends since the second grade? Not real. Life takes us places.

I'd write letters. Yes, I know there's e-mail these days, but letters are so much more theraputic. Don't worry, you can live without her, it's just tough for a while.

I've been in the advice column over five years now so I think I've pretty much heard it all... the love, the hate, the random insanity. I don't take it too seriously, so I'm not always giving the best advice, but my column is fun to read!

I am a 23 year old electrical engineer, a feminist, a Christian. I don't know everything but I can sure pretend to.

Disclaimer: Now that I'm on advicenators I'm getting even more questions every day. It's fast and easy for me to answer them, yes, so at least I'm answering something now, but if your question contains the words "there's this guy that I like..." chances are I won't get around to it. I'm only answering interesting questions that I haven't answered before. Register at the site and ask everyone for advice if you must have an answer, because if people read my column and boring love advice was all they found, they'd never come back.

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