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i like this kid.
who i met at the movies.
i think hes interested in me.
because trust me.
he has a gf.
he says that they are going thro relationship problems.
and stuff.
so idk. he goes to another school. but i really like his personality.
advice .. like.. idk.



if that isnt enough just comment and tell me and i can add additional informattion =]. thankss

Dont be the reason him and his gf break up..thast like my pet peeve..girls coming into the picture. i understand they are having relationship problems..but problems can be worked out. tell him to make a choice..and to talk to you if they break up..but please dont steal the guy away you know?
it would hurt you if you were that girl right?
well i hope i helped
-melissa

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im flat.
i want boobs.
i feel like a little girl since i dont have them.
but im 13.
so im really not a "little girl"
and i dont feel pretty.
anything but stuffing.
would be nice.
[:
thanks

Hey you are only 13! Your body is still developing and growing..you will definately get them dont worry..a plastic surgeon def wont give you implants..you are wayy too young. the best thing you could try is a pushup bra.

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what's the diff between the two gendres? I thought they were both the same!

Unless it's a movie about a serial killer, horror movies typically have a higher body count, involve much more guts and gore, and may involve some kind of supernatural aspect (all of the movies you've listed, plus the classic scream queen/slasher flicks). Thrillers usually have a more psychological aspect, the violence may be a little more understated, and the plot lines a little more "emotional". Some great thrillers are 'A Perfect Murder', 'Kiss the Girls', 'The Game', and 'Psycho'.


^^ This was chosen the best answer for someone who asked the same question as you on a website. Here.I'll give you a link
http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070119204038AABgA8j
Hope it helps :)
-meliss

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how can i be energized and up in the morning..
like i already take showers in the morning. and yeah. like what else will get me up in the morninggg. thankss

Hmm. Maybe try a walk around the block,getting on a bike/tredmill,having a healthy breakfast,allowing more time to wake up and get energy before you start your day,music/watching the news,reading the newspaper,..these are some things that a lot of people do in the morning as their routine..maybe some of these will work for you too..i hope it helps
-melissa

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My Name is angela im 17 and i recently just lost my bestfriend over a boy!!!!
i still wanna be friends with her and i wanna talk to her but she is still mad and keeps ignoring me !!!!!
because this boy just happens to be her ex boyfriend i feel really bad about what happend and what happened between me and her ex wasnt ment to happen but it did i feel really bad about what happened. and now i have lost a friend and if things couldnt go bad i think i have really strong feelings for this guy !!!!! i really need some help im not sure what to do or say i need HELP badly
thanks,
Angela

Im sure you know that hooking up with your friends ex is a huge no no..it sounds liek you have to decide if you want your best friend back or if you want to go off with her ex. I strongly suggest to forget about the guy and try to get your friend back. If you go off with the guy everyone in school will be talking about you/hate you..and you would def have lost your friend forever. Try your best to prov to your friend that this wont happen again,that your sorry, etc. it might take awhile but i hope it works out
-melissa

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do girls fart?
or anything else among those lines?

Girls are just more polite and discrete about things like that..but trust me we do..to be honest. I have a few friends who when we get together they..just wow..let it out..hahaa they(we) def fart trust me.

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The guy Im with has nerve damage in his penis and has a hard time having an erection. We tried to have sex but he couldnt get it up. He still managed to get it inside me, but does it count as sex?

Did he break your hymen? ((popped your cherry))..did he ejaculate inside of you or in a condem? In my opinion i dont think you are a virgin anymore because he got it inside you and it sounds like you had sex..even thoguh his penis wasnt hard.

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There is this boy in my grade who's really cute, but I've never met him. And I know he wants to get to know me. How should I start talking to him? Thank you!

I know it may sound a little weird, but i think you shoudl start to talk/flirt with him through myspace. Leave him fllirtacious picture comments, message him asking for his sn, and talk through AIM if you both have it. Get to know him..talk about everything like your families,friends,funny stories/experiences, favorite things to do, what you look for in a guy and what he looks for in a girl...then ask if he wants to hang out on the weekend ((with a group of friends maybe)), ask for his phone number..and hoefully you will hit it off!
My current bf and i first started talking on myspace/AIM n we have over a year together :)
-melissa

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16/f
hi, lately ive been having dreams about my best friend. who is also 16/f. i dream of like, touching her, and then regretting it later. (in my dream.)
i know for a fact that im not a lesiban, but what do you think this means? do you think it means im just curious or something? thanks.

Just because you had this dream ..it doesnt mean you are bisexual or lesbian..it could be that you are curious..or it could mean that you guys are extremely close and it was just a weird dream..dont let it freak you out or anything though
-melissa

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i want to have more fun on weekends, rather than just hanging out at like people's houses. i want to hang out with guys and like bigger groups of people and go places with alot of people. any advice?

Well if you arent 18, then you cant go to a club..what about getting a big group of people to meet at the mall/movies? are there any teen dance parties aroudn you? maybe get a big group of ppl..and take a bus to a professional hockey game/skate show/etc., maybe a comedy club, out to eat somewhere, ...if you live in/close to a city thats even better because there is so much more to do. good luck..i hope some of my ideas caught your eye..if not definately inbox me pleeease :)
-melissa-

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hey i asked you the question about my boyfriend and me wanting the upper hand and how right now its a little rock, well you told me to ask him if everythings alright, liek he said everything is alright... its just im afraid if i keep letting him no im worried botu it that he`ll get mad and be leik " stop complaining i told you things were fine" and i dont want him to get mad... yeah i dont want mne one to be whipped.. but right now i feel leik i am .. i just want him to show he cares more.. and liek kind of fight and try for me i no he cares its just he doent show it AS MUCH.. but thankk you for all your helpp !!

Hey..if he says everything is alright..take his word for it. I mean if e wanted he could probably get other girls but hes happy with you...your the special person in his life! :) And yes its normal for people in relationships for awhile to kind of cool off and not be all lovey dovey as much...but thwere are still sweet and cute moments right? if not its ok..us spice the relationship back up..do something like make his favorite dinner..maybe dress up a lil sexy ..you know ;) haha..maybe then he will kind of figght for you..get teased a little..and become really interested and excited..It would be pretty funny if you get someone ( a cute guy)) to pretend he likes you..so then your bf will fight for you..your bf will be like back off shes mine..he will get al il protective..but i dont know if that whole plan would be shady..but its a thought! like get a guy friend of one of your friends..get him to pretend to flirt with you, etc.
-melissa-

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so i ride this bus with this kid and we went out for 2 days and he left me for his current gf and lately weve been flirting really badly, like he always tickles me or grabs my butt and find some way to touch me and puts his arm around me and stuff, and today he wanted to come over but i was all no because you have a gf...so does he like me or not..because i like him, but still that whole girlfriend thing, i would never do anything to hurt another girl like that.

I definately respect you for telling him no because he has a gf. My pet peeve are girls who ruin relationships..move in on guys who have gf's, etc. I hate that. My advice to you..tell him you like him but he has a gf. If anything is going to happen with you..tell him he needs to break up with his gf.
Before going out with him i would think about this:
He was all up on you wanting to hang out even though he has a gf..what if you guys end up going out..what makes you think he wont do this to you? What makes you think he wont be all up on another girl flirting with her like crazy? And who knows..maybe this girl wont have class like you..maybe she will mess around with him while you are together.
Think about it definately..
I hope i helped
-melissa

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well, there's this boy in my gym class (well, hes not in my gym class, he just helps in it) that is really cute and really nice. He's pretty popular, and i sorta am. but he's a sophmore, and i'm a freshman. I don't really know him, and just randomly talking to him would be weird. Today I smiled at him once and asked him about time or something stupid. But i'd like to get to know him and see if maybe i like him. Any suggestions? It needs to be very gradual, but still progress, you know?

Alright..if i were you irst thing i would do is to try and find his myspace. Lets face it..everyone has one haha..so hopefully he does too. Then if he does i would add him as a friend..commet him..comment hs pics..and ask for his sn through myspace messaging. Then i would talk to him on AIM..get to know him..like ask what he likes to do, what hes into, tell him about anything interesting that happened in school or some funny story .then after building things up after a couple days of talknig i would be like "we should hang out or somethin this weeekend.." or "hey did you see the commerial for that new movie...wana go see it?" while getting to know him you can kinda flirt around ((this works especially good online..)) liike ask what he looks for in a girl..etc. I hope it helpss
-melissa :)

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Alright, well, I have a boyfriend who I really like and everything, we've been together a little over a month now.

But lately I've been noticing that all these guys I met now I kinda start to like but then it's over and then I liek them again. It's so weird. I don't know if it's just because I'm finally in a relationship ( this is like, my first one so maybe it's I'm so used to being single? ) I don't know.

I've been hanging out/talking with this guy lately and I found out he likes some girl and I think I got kind of jealous. I don't know it's so strange, I'm so confused. But even if I do like this other guy too I'm not gonna try anythign cause he's obviously not interested plus he sort of has alot of girls so that wouldn't be good at all he might cheat.


I'm not sure what exact question I'm asking.
Just basically.. what would you do if you were me?

Alright..if i were you i would stick around in the current relationship. Its ur first one..so take it slow and adjust to finally being in a relationship. Give it a chance wiith your bf..hopefully you will like the idea of being with him and this little phase will go away..but if it doesnt thats ok too..but it would be wrong to stay with him.
So basically give it a try for a couple of weeks..if you still cant adjust to it..you're better off single and there is nothin wrong with that dont worry
I hope i helpedd :)
-melissa

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hey...well my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and a couple of months now and we were doing really well...now we've been through a whole lot and we pretty much know how it is with each other...it hasnt been so great...it seems that ive been the only one putting in effort into the relationship and he says himself that he doesnt care about most things...i changed some things about myself for him but when it comes to him its like he doesnt even try...i would say everything on here that happens but theres way too many things that go on...it seems like now its comming to an end and at the same time ive learned a lot from it...i talked to him last night and he said that he doesnt think we're right for each other...i couldnt bear with what he was saying i felt so hurt but he wants to wait a little longer just to see if it gets anyt better all but i dont know how long that'll last and i dont know if i should wait...i need some advice on how to get over him...ive stayed up all night for weeks with this...missed school...cant concentrate..i cant let him go i just cant see him with another girl it hurts too much...and i dont know if i should end it...i know i should but i cant...thanks for anyone who tries to help i really appreciate it...

17/f

It is going to be very rough at first..but you'll see hhow much stronger you will get with time..and you will be so proud of yourself! You will find the guy who wants to make it work,who will appreciate you, etc. Think positive thoughts like:
-more time to spend with friends..have a girls night out..go flirting with guys you meet..have a sleepover with the girls
-eventually getting back to the single life..dating..flirting..persuing new crushes..finding someone better
I definately think you should just end it with him..it seems like its coming to an end..its time for you to start a new chapter.
its going to be very hard..but you will pull through i promisee :)
its ok to cry..let it all out..but definately try to keep busy with friends..going places..etc.
like i said with time it will get better
i hope something i said helped a little?
definately inbox me if you want..im here to listen and help!
-melissa-
:)

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Hi im a high schooler . i'm somewhat popular and not to be concieted but i like the way i look. anyways. i get guys ocasionaly but i dont really want them right now. except this one. like i dont want to date him i just wanna get closer to him and maybe do stuff wiht him. the thing is hes really popular and NEVER dates girls he just doenst want them so im afraid he wont do things with me becuase he'd be embarased or he doesnt want ppl to think all of a sudden he is going for girls and stuff ya know. well i jsut wanna know how i can get him better. ps. we flirt alot.

Woah, this is seriously perfect. Think about it : you dont want to date him..he doesnt really want to date..so the best plan is to hookup secretly. When you flirt with him ask if he wants to hang out at your house to watch a movie ;) , suggest his house if you want, if you drive even better hehe.., go out to the movies, but i suggest driving somewhere,or hanging out at one of your houses to make this a secret hookup. When you flirt with him drop hints..like ask him..waht do you think about just hooking up with someoene secretly? or something like that :)
hope it all works out
-melissa-

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okay so i am new at a school and i have been hanging out and eatting kunch with the populare ppl but i have no idea if they really like me or not..i mean there no going to tell me if they dont so is their anyway i can tell??

You can definately tell the difference between real friends and fake friends.
If they want to make plans/include you in plans,talk to you in classes,are there for you when you need advice/help/or are having a problem,want to have your number to talk on the phone/online/etc, ask your opinion/advice about something..then they are probably true friends.
If they dont seem to care about you,seem to use you,ditch you,then they are probably fake.

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I use to really really like this one guy and three months after I get over him he decides to pursue me. (idiot) So my feelings for him come back and we went on a date and we're suppose to go out again this weekend. But there's some problems....
1. my feeling for him aren't as strong
2. I'm always busy so it's hard to amke time for dates
3. because of # 2, I don't really want a boyfriend because I wouldn't give him the time and attention he deserves.
4. He probably wants a girlfriend...me specifically
5. I have wandering eyes

I'm 17 and never really have been in a comitted relationship

hey its no big deal..be straight foward with him..trust me. I wasnt exactly straight foward with a really nice guy once..and it ended pretty bad : /
So dont make the same mistake i did..definately let him know that you dont want a bf right now..but hey who said you cant have fun? Still hang out with him/ go on dates when you can and you arent busy.
-melissa

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okay me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 7 months, its beeen great everythings goood, except he has an ex girlfriend that really bother me cuz she still tells him how much she loves me, he knows it bothers me tooo. then theres some girls he talks to as friends but still bothers me b/c it looks liek he likes her and recently he hasnt callled as much, and hes just being really weird and i dont want to say ne thing liek " is our relationship ok" and blah cuz i dont want to start ne thing, but i really need to no what it is, like right now he has tha " upper hand" in our relationship, i had it earlier but i just need to no how i get that back, how i make him fight for me again.. leik doo i not answer some of his callls, or keep him in tha dark abotu things leik what do i dooo.. i neeed toooo get backkk in this


pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee helppppp me!

Keeping him in the dark about things..not answering his calls..that is not the rigght thing to do. It will only weaken the communication in your relationship..and communicating is very imoportant in a relationship. With that said..the best thing to do is to ask him straight out if everything is ok between you two. Its better than not knowing..you have to hear it straight from him. Relationships require a lot of work and communication..trust me i know..i've been together with my bf for over a year now..
also..you wanting the "upper hand " thing..thats not a good thing either in relationships..you dont want one person dominating..it should be equal..not one person being 'whipped' or having the upper hand. I know what you mean you want him to fight for you....you want him to show he really cares right? You just gota tell him how you've been feeling..ask if eveerything is ok between you two..and let him know you kinda are sensitive right now and want him to show you he cares..he'll understandd trust me..i hope it all turns out well..definately inbox me if you need more help :)
-meliss

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16/f
I was best friends with a girl who started getting on my nerves and she bossed me around, it got worse one day i school we got into a fist fight never talked again we hate eachother now. I tell her im better off and i have more friends. we have many classes together one. In one of them we have to do a group project of 3 and no more. The 2 girl I thought I was working with didnt want me working with them anymore and everyone else already had groups. She had two people to work with from the begining. I was one of the only people working by myself=/ I was devastated and almost cried but didnt let anyone see that it hurt me so i stayed strong especially in front of her. The other person working alone is really smart but also kind of weird and not exactly sociable. Im a pretty girl in school hes the total opposite of what I am and I asked him to work with me. Im afraid people will laugh at me and Im afraid ill be commiting social suicide becasue we have to make a presentation and its embarresing for me to not have anyone but him to work with I dont know how to deal with things im stressing so much about it the project is due soon their is no way I would ever get together with him helppppp!!! I feel like crying everytime we bring up the whole situation of the project hwo cold i even do it.

This is my honest opinion..you feel kinda like an outcast right now..immagine the 'weird kid' you described..he probably feels the same way. Nobody says you two have to be best friends...but get the project done..because that is priority..and dont worry about what others will say. I dont judge people like that..i dont talk to certain people just because they arent extremely popular..i think its pretty shallow when people do that. I bet the kid is harmless and probably really nice. I talk to one of the social outcasts of my school sometimes..she looks to me for advice and she trusts me..it feels good that someone who i dont talk to the often has that much respect for me.
PS- keep staying strong with the whole problem your having with your ex friend. Make new friends..but in order to make new friends you have to keep an open mind ..dont shut people out
I hope this helped :)
-melissa-

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