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The seniors in my high school always dress up as a common theme. This year we are doing holidays. I am being easter, but I need a slutty phrase that goes along with easter. Does anybody have any ideas?
Thanks in advanced! (link)
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Keep in mind that Easter is a religious holiday meant to honor the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ. You may offend some people with your slogans and that can get you suspended or expelled.
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http://www.spirithalloween.com/images/spirit/products/processed/01025188.zoom.a.jpg
im wearing this for halloween and im kind of second guessing it. let me know what you think (link)
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Go with that. I love it!
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I am 15/f and have been involved with scams in the past for modeling. They always want us to pay money. Including Barbizon, which I thought they were not a scam..are they? What are some REAL modeling companies for modeling and is there any in New Jersey...if so, what are they called? (link)
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Try a google search and start making phone calls about their programs. Remember, if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.
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I have the latest microsoft word, and its very complicated. I just wanna know how to activate the thing that gives you spelling correction, when that red line appears when you spell something wrong or when you have grammar mistakes.
I have a very important project to do in like 6 hours, please help me. (link)
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Oh, I was gonna answer but I see you had a deadline. Hope you got everything worked out!
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So, this Christmas I'm going to be with my boyfriend. I've always been single on Christmas so I'm not use to this really. What are some good gifts to buy your boyfriend? It'll be our first Christmas together and we're both 16 right now. Around Christmas we will have been together 7 months. I love him a lot. What do I get him? (link)
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Don't spend too much time thinking about this. You're his gift ; )
Be careful not to go overboard. Sometimes us ladies get excited and go way over the top, spend a lot of money or work hard to find something super special. That can backfire and make your man uncomfortable. He may think you're too serious, or he may feel embarrassed because he didn't go to as much trouble (and guys rarely do, that's just how they are). Think of things he enjoys to do - does he like music? Get him an iTunes gift card, $20 or so? Does he like a certain tv show or comic? Get him a t-shirt with his favorite characters. Keep it fun, keep it light, but make sure its something you know he is into. It will be special not because of what it is, but who it comes from. Good luck.
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Okay, I was dating this guy for about a year. Long story short. I was at his house the night i was robbed. My furniture, washer, dryer,iron and some jewelry was taken from me. I could not believe that he stole from me he seemed to be so sincere. He even helped me with bills and cooked and cleaned for me. I know he didn't do it personally , but i do believe he sent some guys to my house to take my things. So, i left him alone for a good six months now hes back to calling me again. I'm trying to be JUST friends with him, now he is offering me to come over and hang out, spend time with him. My question is what should i do? Of course he tells me he had nothing to do with my house getting broken into, but my gut is telling me otherwise. (link)
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Listen to your gut. I'm a HUGE believer in women's intuition and I think we've been trained to ignore it. Why on earth would you want to be friends with a man you are pretty sure robbed you. Leave this guy alone before something worse happens down the road. Your gut is telling warning you. Listen to it!
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Alrighty so my boyfriend is getting my nipples pierced for Christmas, and i just want to know the pro's and cons of getting this done.
Like how long do they hurt for, and how long (from personal experience) do they take to heal up? Also, what are some things i should ask the piercer before i get it done, and whats a good way to tell if the shop i'm going to is a good one?
Ive wanted to get them done for quite awhile now, and i don't think that if i DO get it done ill end up regretting it, but I would just like to hear some personal accounts about what happened after people got them done.
Any info would be greatly appreciated thanks so much (link)
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Wow, if I EVER was considering getting nipple piercings, "Peeps" has definitely changed my mind! Not as simple as it seems. Thanks Peeps!
P.S. - "You didn't answer my question at all" LOL! Sorry... Peeps had a great answer, I couldn't really add to it. Just commenting really LOL
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ok so my ex boyfriend who is a total asshole is having a house party this weekend and i want to call the cops on it and get it busted. there will be underage drinking. i am not against underage drinking or anything but i do hate him and want to get back at him after he sent nude pictures of me around after our break up. so my question to you guys is whether anyone could find out that i did it. i wont tell anyone i did, but could they some how find out it was my number who called in? i really want to avoid drama which is why i dont want anyone to know. also do i just call 911? i am positive i want to call the cops and get it busted, i just dont know exactly what to do.
if you guys knew him you would hate him too. total douche bag.
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You both kind of sound like douche bags. Don't do it, you're no better than him if you do.
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No, we have not had sex yet and he knows that i am a virgin. When i say dating, i mean we are unofficially together. We are exclusive and hang out all the time. (link)
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Ok, so that makes things clearer. I think the only way you're going to be able to get a clear answer is to ask a clear question. This means you're going to have to summon all your courage and ask straight out one day. Make sure he knows what YOU want and expect, and be sure to ask him what HE wants and expects too. The clearer and more honest with each other you are, the better chance you have to be happy and make this work. Good luck!
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For about five months, I've been dealing with a problem with my ears. It started with the left ear and it was swollen and painful. Then it began discharging a yellowish puss, coming out so rapidly it would be on my pillow the next morning. I went to the dr and he gave me antibiotics. They didn't work. Because I have no insurance and pay out the pocket for visits, I tried to deal with it. Ended up in th er and was given different antibiotics. Pain had disappeared from the left ear and then my right ear began discharging even more harshly than the left ever had! Now it hurts, mostly when I wake up in the morning, but my ears are both clogged with this dried up puss which I try to clean out daily. Needless to say the antibiotics I received at the er aren't working either. What could this be and how do I get rid of it? I'm scared I'm on the verge of going deaf! Was supposed to visit an ent specialist but couldn't afford it. I feel so helpless. (link)
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Where do you live? In U.S. the law prohibits any medical professional from refusing service based on inability to pay. Try again. Also, do a google search for free clinics and healthcare services in your area. There are TONS out there. You'd be surprised how many private organizations offer free and GOOD health care clinics throughout the country. Help is available, you just may have to do some searching. Sounds like an ear infection, but you need to finish the anitbiotics completely also. Sometimes it doesn't start to work until the last few days or so.
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Hi. Im seventeen and i finally found a good guy. He and I have been seeing each other for about six weeks now and were doing great. He always as his friends tell me that I am the first girl he actually likes and cares about. I have met his parents (a first for him) and his friends adore me. We hang out usually four times a week and we have a great connection. I am just worried why he has not asked me to be his girlfriend. We are currently exclusive which I know, but we are not in a relationship. I am his "girl" but not his "girl friend" how do I know if he wants to ask me out? Any signs? Or what if he just wants a "thing?" I am trying to be happy with what I have now, because he is amazing, but I think i am going to say something by the three month mark. Any one care to help? (link)
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I sounds to me like by "seeing each other" you mean having sex. Am I right? I think I am, and I think that because he keeps having you around but he won't say you're his girlfriend. Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free?
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Yes, I know I'm stupid, Yes, I know it's illegal but I don't care!
I been talking to Gio, Hes 19, I'm 14.
When my sister was 15 she was dating an 18 year old. My mom gave her an okay for it. But one night my dad caught him in her room. So he called the cops. He had no idea my mom gave her an okay. So when a cop came, He talked to the guy and talked to my sister and they couldn't do anything because my sister wouldn't say if they had sex or not and because my mom said it was okay for them to be together!
So nothing happenedd.
Now i'm in the position where I'm messing with a 19 year old.
He thinks he could get in trouble for being with me though!
i want to convince him that he can't get in trouble.
When he was telling me all this stuff about how much he likes me and wants to be with me but he cant because he could get in trouble, I just stayed quiet and didnt say anything. But the whole night i was with him i couldn't stop thinking about how he can't get into any kind of trouble if its okay with my parents!
I'm confusedd, Should i explain to him or what? (link)
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Age IS nothing but a number - until he ends up in jail for statutory rape for 5 years, and then he'll be 24 when he gets out. If age is nothing but a number then I'm sure he'll be more than happy to start his life over again at 24 as a registered sex offender for the rest of his life.
Don't be so selfish.
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so my boyfriend and i have been going out for about three months and on friday he tells me that he's going out with friends for the weekend so he thinks something is gonna happen( meaning he might mess around with another chick) and he says if anything happens he will be honest with me about it so i'm like wtf is he being honest saying he cares or is he just taking me for granted
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What he really means is "I like you but I still want to have sex with other girls. I'm just letting you know now so when you finally get fed up with my cheating I can remind you that I told you what I was gonna do from the start, and then you'll seem like the crazy one because I never said I'd be faithful"
Dump this guy. He IS being honest with you. He's telling you he's a cheater. Don't waste one more minute on him. You may be missing somebody truly fantastic (and faithful) because you're wasting so much energy on this jerk.
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Ok ths is a question for the women .I want to know what a woman thinks about her man .my problem is iv been in a relationship with my fiance for 6 years now and at first our love life was great .now its not so great .its been way over a year now that we haven't made love ,cuddle, or anything to that matter .and I just can't figure it out .I give her everything she could have ever wanted .I'm a hard worker I work 2 jobs to provide her with anything she wants and I'm sure a lot of women whould kill for a man like that .and all I ask in return is to make love from time to time but all I get is the cold shoulder .iv talked to her before about this but I don't get anywhere with her its always an excuse .I'm on the rag or it hurts to have sex .I'm at the wits end ! What do I do .don't I have needs ? I feel rejected and I feel like I'm only here for a paycheck .please anyone out there give me some feed back as to what I should do ,thanks ,,,,, (link)
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I understand your frustration and you are right to feel upset and rejected. Its hard to say what is really going through her mind. Perhaps she really does have a medical issue that is dampening her sex drive, or maybe she is depressed, or maybe she is not happy in the relationship anymore. You say you've already tried talking to her, so the way I see it you have two choices 1) you stop wasting her and your time and end the relationship or 2)you talk to her (calmly and reasonably) and tell her you aren't happy and if she wants to stay together you need to seek couple's counseling. You don't say if you feel this is worth sticking out, but I would just like to point out that now is the time to deal with these issues, BEFORE you get married. And, might I add, if you are having this must trouble before marriage, how much worse will it be AFTER? So, it sounds like you have some thinking to do. Whatever you do, do it in peace and not in anger. I wish you luck!
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this question is intended for girls only, considering i have no idea where a guy would come up with an answer for this, but if anyone has one, great:
anyone can answer, whats the best menstrual medication you've had? like what kicks in faster, stays in longer, kills cramps the best, that kind of thing. ever since i started having sex, 3 years ago, my cramps have been completely unbearable and it cuts into my daily routine and i can't afford to miss anymore school. the stuff i have is called naproxin or naproxine or something like that, and it kills cramps pretty well, but it takes like 2 hours to kick in. and if i have to be at school by 8 and wake up at 6, along with getting ready and everything, it just won't work. so if anyone has anything or has heard of anything that works better/faster, can you let me know? thanks in advance. (link)
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Ugghhh... yeah, I feel your pain. Different things work for different people. Naproxin is good, but like you said, it takes a while to kick in. You'll have to do some experimenting. Try ibuprofen and Midol. See which works better for you. Caffeine is also a natural pain reliever. Do you find yourself wanting chocolate, coke, or coffee? That's probably your body asking for some caffeine. So listen to your body's cravings. Lots of water helps. And when you get home, a heating pad or hot water bottle on your "crampy area" will help - a lot! That's it... us ladies just kind of have to put up with this stuff. It comes with the package! But you will probably notice your cramps get less and less as you age. Also, birth control is the best to control cramps and periods. I know many girls who aren't sexually active, but take birth control to regulate their periods. Cramps basically disappear on BC... so that's something to think about too. Good luck.
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I've been going out with this guy for 4 weeks now but we haven't made the step forward to call each other boyfriend and girlfriend. How do I tell him that I want to be his girlfriend and his only one? I know he isn't seeing anyone else right now either but I'm really into him and I am getting the feeling that he's into me, too. I'd like to go on and start the relationship. How do I tell him without coming across as demanding and pushy? We go out 2 or 3 times a week and talk on the phone a lot so I have plenty opportunity, but I just need to find the right words. (link)
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Next time you're together, in between the appetizers and the main course, casually say " I've just been wondering...is this a boyfriend/girlfriend thing, or are we supposed to see other people? Because I would like us to be boyfriend and girlfriend. What do you think?" Short and sweet, like ripping off a band-aid. Good luck.
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I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. I was only 15 and he was the first person that showed real interest in me. He is the only person i have dated or loved. But now we live together in our own apartment i have been living with him for almost a year now but we have only had our own apartment for about 6 months.
Within the past few months i have begun questionioning the relationship. Only because i have never been with anyone else and am wishing i could have dated around awhile before sticking with someone. I have never kissed or done anything with anyone else and all i can think about is what it would be like. I really want to try and date around for awhile before i become considered an adult and finish college. I want to be able to be a teenager and maybe go to a party or two. My boyfriend has kept me from drinking and as sweet as he is i lost alot of my friends due to that and the fact that it seems like i can't hangout with others.
up until July i could say we had an amazing relationship and loved every minute but now that i look deeper into it just because we never fight & seem to always get along doesn't mean its great. I want to go out with friends...unfortunately it seems like i only get along with guys and he won't allow me to hangout with guys. I would like to end the relationship i think just so i can stop being a shell and be the pearl i should be(got that from Katy Perry's song Pearl) i feel like i could be so much more and this relationship is holding me back from doing what i truly want to do. I don't know if i can break it off because of the fact that it has been three years and i don't want to waste it all and end up missing what i had.
I have recently befriended a guy i work with and he thinks i am awesome and i am trying to be his friend and not have to shut him out whenever he wants to hangout and play video games with me. (yes im kinda a nerd like that lol) So i have been playing video games with him and have been feeling myself pulling farther and farther away from my boyfriend unitentionally. i don't go to bed when he does anymore i just join later in the night and i don't cuddle i just sleep on my half and have the hardest time getting to sleep because all i can think about is our relationship and if its going to work.
I don't know if i can throw away 3 years of love, I'm not sure what we would do with our apartment for the next 6 months because neither of us can afford it on our own, And we bought a puppy together six months ago and im not sure who would get him. I think the main reason i havent broken it off is because of those 3 things i don't know what i would do without my pupppy.
Also we rarely ever have sex or anything virtually close to it. I cannot get turned on by him it seems almost impossible at first we would always be kissing and having fun but now it seems like we could try forever and never get me anywhere near horny enough to actually have sex comfortably. I have to force myself to do it every now and then like once every couple months which is pretty terrible.
Sorry i wrote a book but i really really need some form of advice. Please no rude comments or anything.
I talked to him the other day about it but it still doesn't seem to be okay with him that i want to hangout with people and how im feeling he doesn't understand...and the guy from work is nothing more than a friend i have yet to hangout with him i have just played games w/him and talk...about nothing i shouldn't either its purely innocent.
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You're growing.. you're changing. And you are seeing the effects of growth and change in your relationship. This is quite normal. What makes it so heavy for you is that you live together, and this is one reason why people as young as you should not enter into that kind of arrangement. Your life is going to change so much over the next 10 years. You won't even believe it! You are yearning to explore and express yourself and find out what is out there for you with new experiences and new people. But you've gotten yourself into a domestic situation that makes doing that hard. You're not a bad person. And you're not throwing away 3 years of puppy love. You two were there for each other when you needed someone, and that's special. You'll draw on the lessons you've learned with him for the rest of your life. But now your life is moving forward. Its time to put on your big girl panties and end this. Its not fair to you, but its REALLY not fair to him. He could be out there finding someone he has a real connection with and growing and changing himself, except he's stuck in a relationship that isn't working, and he doesn't even know it! You can do this. Be free. Learn about yourself, who you are, what you like, who you like. Be on your own. You'll never find true happiness with anyone else if you don't know how to be happy on your own first. That is a FACT. You are NOT bad. You are NOT wrong. You are growing into an adult. And one of things adults have to do is have the courage make good decisions, no matter how difficult it may be. You have simply grown apart from your BF. Its not his fault and its not yours. And yes, it will hurt to end it. You've invested a lot of time in each other, and you have shared a special connection. But moving on doesn't have to be a bad thing. It is possible to move on and know you learned all you could from this person, and be thankful that you had the opportunity to share a special part of your life with a special guy. Good luck. You will both be fine. I promise.
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how can you tell if your pregnant? im 19 just turned.i cant ask my parents as there busy at work.there is no one i can turn to.pls help. (link)
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Find $15 and go get a pregnancy test or make a doctor appointment.
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my partner and me are not sleeping together were both 17yrs old. (link)
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That's a good thing. Enjoy your youth.
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I'm the mother of 2 beautiful little girls, ages 2 and 4, and they are really the light of my life. I've been single ever since I got pregnant with my first baby girl and have been working hard for my girls to support them completely. Here is where my mess comes in at:
After I got pregnant with my first girl I've been alone. The guy that got me pregnant skipped town and I haven't really heard from him since. I'm strong though and I've done very well without him. I was laid off from my job a few months after my first was born. I couldn't find a job around here and couldn't relocate.
There's this guy down the road here that said if I gave him oral sex then he'd give me a little extra cash. I took him up on it. It was money to feed my little one. Things got deeper and we ended up doing a lot of things together and he would give me some money for my time.
Things led on and he kind of referred me to a few of his friends. After awhile I made enough money to pay rent and support me and my little girl. Then I found out I was pregnant again. It's so shameful but I have no idea which one might have gotten me pregnant. I'm not proud of not knowing but I was doing the best I could do. Don't get me wrong though, I love her to death, but it hurts me that I won't ever get to tell her stories about her dad.
One night recently I was with one of the guys and he asked me how many kids I had. I told him 2 and we got on the subject of the youngest one. He ended up saying something like
Well, when you're a prostitute I guess things like that happen.
I never thought of myself as a prostitute. I never have stood out on the streets looking for men to have sex with for money or something like that.
The problem is that I don't want to be a prostitute, but, apparently, I am. What should I do? There's no way I am going to find a job here that pays enough to support me and my girls. Where do I go from here? Should I keep doing this? I'm totally lost. (link)
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Do a google search on local shelters, support groups, churches or programs that help single mothers like you, who are trying to leave an undesirable lifestyle. I happen to believe you CAN find a job to support your girls, but you may have to make a lot of sacrifices. Maybe you have to give up expensive cell phones, cable, new clothes, or spacious apartments. But there is welfare, foodstamps, and lots of other aid available to single mothers who work low wage jobs. You can use these things to help you while you work for a better life. Its not easy, but the right thing never is. You have some tough choices to make, but I know you don't want your girls to grow up knowing you're a prostitute, and you wouldn't want THEM to get into that either. You can do this. Its going to take some planning. Its going to take setting some goals for yourself, and deciding the best, safest way to reach those goals. It helps to be in a religious community of people who understand your struggles and can help you by being good examples and supporting your particular needs. So find a church, synagogue, somewhere you feel comfortable and welcome. The good news for you is - you sound really smart, so there's no doubt you have a lot of skills and ideas to offer the world, with the proper education and opportunity; AND you have to beautiful girls to keep you grounded and keep you focused on your task ahead. You can do this! Will it be hard? YES, but nothing worth having is ever easy. Don't give up. Don't be afraid of sacrifice, and don't sell yourself short. You're the only YOU in the world. You are special and you have something special to offer. Find out what that is, then go do it. Good luck. I know you're scared, but there's a better life out there for you. I promise.
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