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I am totally honest i tell it like it is and if you dont like it im sorry but im not going to sugar coat answers to make you feel better i want to tell people the truth and tell them what i think is right so if you find that what i say is mean or not helpful just give me a low rating and move on but please dont be rude after all i did answer you question even if its not what you wanna hear just take the time to appreciate. Feel free to message me thank you :) (L)
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I'm on my 4th day out of 5 day of treatment for Bacterial Vaginosis & I realized yesterday and today I've felt really emotional and sensitive, just nervous/anxious and uncomfortable, almost similar to pms symptons but not. (I'm not supposed to get my period for a while not so its not thtat) but I was wondering if this medication could cause one to feel like that?? (link)
Ask your doctor about the symptoms or search online for information about it but i suggest going to a doctor because they would probably have better and more information on it.good luck :)


What would be the first step in taking for a career in fashion design? I make bubble dresses, pajama pants, blouses, bags. I love it and I am also making dresses for my friends dance at school. So, can I go to Kohl's or somewhere like that, Macy's maybe and ask if they can market my merchandise. Please don't tear me down with harsh words, this is what I want to do in life, no doubt. Any help if much appreciates. Thanks! (link)
K well first of all its awesome that your into fashion and that your talented enough to do it but you cant just go into a store and ask them to merchandise your things because they wont you need to graduate highschool go to design school for fashion and all that and get any degree you need for that and then start your career that way. This is the only way i know that you can get your designs into stores because no company will just take clothing made by anyone and sell it. I hope you find my advice helpful and keep desiging because your very lucky to have such an amazing talent and who knows maybe one day your designs will be in stores everywhere. Never give up :D


My best friend is a boy and I am a girl and like all love stories everyone thinks we are going to fall in love, get married and live happily ever after. So, what does it mean if his good friend started a rumor around school that I like him? The whole school thinks we like each other, because of his friend. Does that mean my friend likes me if his friend did this? Thanks! (link)
K well theres a chance he might like you but you'll never know if you dont just ask him. Just casually go up to him and ask him if he knows how the rumors started and if he does like you that way you wont have to keep thinking about if he does or not. Trust me its better to know then not to know. Also if you dont want to be the one to ask first or if you just want to know by his actions if he likes you or not then just wait and see if he shows any signs of liking you and if he doesnt tell you he likes you in a week or two then just go up and ask him.good luck:)


okay, so this year i ride the bus with this kid, peter right? and he's always like tickling me and touching me and playing with my hair and we're friends and stuff, but i don't know him that well at all so i wouldn't know if he's just a flirty guy or whatever. he's a sophomore and i'm a junior. no, that doesn't bother me, but that's the reason i can't tell if he's just a flirty guy or not. we talk about everything on the bus. and i like having guy friends, so i always talk about my guy friends and funny stories from when people texted me that night. apparently he thought i had a boyfriend because i was doing a "group" dress up kind of thing for halloween right... and with a guy. i really like him, i flirt back, but he still doesn't text me. and if i text HIM sometimes he doesn't text back. it's so stupid!

anyways, last week he asked me this question: "okay hypothetic question. what if you really really like this girl, and she likes you. but she has a boyfriend? and she's a junior." and of course i totally thought he was talking about someone ELSE, not me. so of course, knowing my luck, and how jealous i was, i gave him this advice "if she's older than you, she probably just wants to hookup or maybe her boyfriend isn't paying attention to her or whatever?" and so that was that. he let it be. the next day he ignored me. the next day, he flirted with me again. the next day, this kid i sit next to on the bus, chris was like "so courtney... how's your boyfriend" and i was like..."i don't have one..." and then i could hear chris and peter having this conversation:
chris-"i thought she did"
peter-"she told me that" (i never did.)

later on that same day i asked chris why he thought i did, and chris said that peter told him that i said i had a boyfriend which is NOT true.

so, what do i do?

thanks in advance (link)
Well just talk to the guy you like and be straight forward and be like i like you and you have been kind of been flirting with me so ive been thinking you like me and just ask him if he does or not and make sure to talk about the fact you dont have a bf. I think you should just ask him because then you'll have your answer and if he does like you the sooner you two can be together and if he doesnt then o well maybe if you guys are friends long enough he will end up liking you. Good luck :)


Hi i am Georgia and I need help i am a freshman and i have tried out every year since the 6th grade and still cant make it. I love cheerleading and it kills me to watch all these other girls join the squad and i am stuck watching them at basketball and football games. How can i be sure to make a great tryout? I really really want to make it. I am a very fast leaner of dance and cheers. My jumps and tumbling could use improving but i dont know how to improve tumbling at all. Or stunting cause i cant practice this by myself it bothers me sooo much. To make it worse i just found out today i didnt make it for my first year in varsity and its really depressing. I have to go to school and say why i didnt make it. I dont know why i didnt make it and they cant show us our score sheets they said that they liked me alot and the seniors and coaches did too i really really really need advice on dance, tumbling, tryouts, how to face school and people after tryouts, and cheer in general. please please please i really need some help. (link)
Why dont you ask the coach if you can just practice with the team a few times a week or maybe just have a girl on the squad or a coach to teach you and help you work on the things you need to work on that way next time you will make it on the team for sure. Or if you dont want to do either of that then just ask the coach what you need to work on and practice on your own.


ok so i have a friend that i think is a lesbian! i dont have any problems against lesbians but i feel wierd around her! im not sure she is a lesbian though but im preety sure she is! what should i do?? (link)
just make it clear that your not interested in her that way and that your only interested in being her friend nothing more that way she wont even consider you but you really should talk to her about this without hurting her feelings of course so that you know for sure if she is a lesbian and if she does like you because assuming things isnt right to do.


My hair is always to greasy after flat ironing it. I use baby powder to clear it up, but that never lasts for long. I shampoo often and use a clarifying shampoo. I even clean my flat iron. But when I leave it curly, there's no grease. How to I keep my hair looking straight but fresh? (link)
Consider getting an oil free shampoo or something meant for oily hair also always wash your hair before using a flat iron because sometimes if you use it over unwashed hear oil will build on it and you cant really get rid of it so that might be another reason for you having greasy hair also wash your hair every other day and if no of this works then get a dry shampoo to use before you straight iron your hair.


I love someone things didn't go right, I figured out how to fix it but I don't know if I could have another chance. I needed to do something with my life instead of wait for him. We agreed to move on but now I don't want to. I am hurting emotionally and physically. Should I let it go which is going against everything I feel right now or do I try to patch it up? (link)
I think if you really love him and want things to really work out then you should get back together but prepare yourself so you dont get hurt to bad if he says no to getting back together also i think you should really think about this because you wanna make sure your doing the right thing and make sure that in between your relationship you wont make the same mistake of breaking up with him because you feel you need to do something with your life because theres only so much a guy can take and getting dumped twice by the same girl could hurt him badly. Anyways i wish you good luck :)


I've had sex 2 or 3 times now and each time i bleed. the first time it was dark red and alot. then the next day when i didn't have sex it was pink. and then i had sex a week later and i woke up and i had some light pink blood. is this normal... or is it STILLL just my cherry, i don't get it. (link)
Maybe your cherry hasnt poped yet but if it keeps happening i would go to a doctor and see whats going on just to make sure it isnt serious or anything. :)


Last night, I had a dream that I was in a car moving along my street. I was driving out of my driveway with a woman I have never seen before in the passenger seat, but then I was in the backseat behind the woman with no one driving the car. Nevertheless it was going perfectly along my street.

It was a beautiful summer day. Besides the lack of a driver, the other odd part of my dream was that my street, usually pretty empty, was FILLED with cars and trucks, even sixteen-wheelers!

I looked up "road" on dreammoods.com and discovered that it is symbolic of my life (the road was pretty straight, by the way), but what does it mean that the road was the busiest I have ever seen it? (link)
Maybe it means that your going to have a lot going on in your life it the future and the cars were just representing that. Thats all i think it can mean but maybe it could mean something else dreams are just wierd sometimes and tough to figure out but if you really want to know for sure just type it into google and see what comes up. Good luck :)


we are in a long distance relationship by the way.

he won't talk to me.
he told me we need to take a little break because he's really stressed out.
and I don't understand why he is because everything between us has been fine.
he told me its not you at all, its me.
and I absolutely hate those words.

i understand if he needs a break or whatever but he just kinda left me hanging. he never told me why he stressed out or anything. he won't even talk stuff over with me and its been three days.
and its the longest three days of my life.
ive tried texting and calling him a bunch of times but i get nothing back and its frustrating me so much.
i wish i had the strength to move on and not bother him but i cant. i love him.
what should I do? (link)
Just give him a few days he will come around maybe something is just going on in his life and he just doesnt want to share because its personal so just dont bother him about it and just wait for him to tell you and dont call him anymore just wait a few weeks and if he doesnt call then call him and ask him whats going on because then you can say we had the break and now i wanna know whats going on and if things just arent working out then just break up with him because he mite need more time and you probably wont be able to give him more time so its better to move on even though its going to be tough your just going to have to deal with it if thats what it leads up to. Good luck :)


me & my friend have been feuding over this for days. (link)
Apparently some growth or perhaps even a lot of growth occurs during your sleep so insufficient sleep would probably slow it down a bit. So i guess yes but you can check the internet for more information or ask a doctor or something if your really interested in knowing. :)


So, me and my ex boyfriend dated for about 10 months. He was a really sweet guy except that he lied to me sometimes and talked to other girls. I was mad at him for the longest time and now we are kind of friends. Its been about 2 months since weve been broke up. All my friends hate him because he made me cry. But he wants me back really bad and calls me crying and i know he loves me still. He tells me he is going to try to be a better person but i have already gave him many chances. I feel bad and im not sure what to do? I like him and still have feelings for him but my friends would kill me and i dont want to be treated wrong again. Even if i really wanted to date him, i wouldnt right now anyways. im just confused. What should i do? (link)
I dont think you should give him another chance because you have given him chances already and giving a guy who hurt you more than once another chance is just stupidity so i think you should listen to your friends and not get back with him and just move on because your confused too so i dont think your ready to forgive him plus im sure you can find someone better and dont feel bad youve been broken up for awhile then that relationship ends there and theres nothing more to it trust me ive been through this and its not worth it.


I love my fiance, I really do, but some nights I have to beg him for sex. I am not exactly healthy, I'm in pretty bad shape and he's genuinely concerned about my health and hurting me but it makes me feel bad to have to cry and beg to get physical attention. I have issues with my hands but moreso with my back. Is there anything I can do to get him to stop being so protective? It's not something I can ask friends or family so I'm hoping strangers won't be biased. (early 20s, female) (link)
I know you probably will think this wont work but you'll be surprised just sit him down and talk to him about it and tell him how you feel and that you need him to do what you want and that him not is making you feel bad because you feel like you have to beg for his attention im sure if you give him reasons and explain it to him he wont turn you down and will consider doing what you want. Good luck :)


Okay, my boyfriends birthday is Febuary 16th, Valentines Day is Febuary 14th, & I have no idea what to get him!
For Christmas, I got him clothes, because thats what he wanted. Now that valentines day AND his birthday is coming up, I have no clue to get him! I ordered him some boxers, because, well, he's always bitching about not having enough boxers. I just have no idea what else to get.
For valentines day I was going to bake 2 heart shaped cakes, they are small. Plus try to do some type of rolling stone cake.
Back to the birthday/vday ideas...
-Heres some things he likes:
;UK basketball- I thought about getting him tickets, however the game I wanted isnt selling right now, and wont be until 2-10-10, and I'm afraid I'll forget to order them.
;Rolling Stones- absolutely loves them!
;He's into music, definately, he plays drums, or use to, and he's into amps, and speakers.
;He loves playing pool
; haha he likes sex..alot! - i thought about ordering a 'sexy outfit', however, i dont have a credit card, so that knocks off ordering it online. i can't drive without a licensed driver until the end of january, and even when i can go, i couldnt drive in the area where i would have to go...lol ugh!!!

thanks! (link)
Well i think you should get him a few cds and then get a sexy outfit and maybe a few clothing items or chocolates or make him a special dinner or something i think that would be good and as for the ordering online you can make a paypal account and buy using your debit card just go to the paypal website for more information.


So I am a lesbian and I am younger than my gf im 21 shes 28. I am very horny a lot and we dont have sex as much as id like. But the other night we was drinkin her friend had friends over and she was tellin these guys how tight i was how she was gonna get some tonight she had me all worked up all day then shes like my head hurts. I said tht was rude of her to get me all worked up and to say what she did to those guys. I am starting to feel like I am too fat or not pretty enough for her. What can I do? And no I dont wanna break up with her (link)
Sit her down and talk to her and tell her how you feel and how her getting you all worked up like that and then doing nothing is not nice and very rude and that you love her and dont want this to affect your relationship and that this is a way for you both to express your love im sure if you just sit her down and have a rational and caring conversation with her she will understand you and be willing to do what you want. good luck :)


Hey guys,

I'm curious to know if any of you know some great teen (ish) books that are about romance, any that include sex, relationships, etc. I've read plenty, but I'm still looking for more. Any help is much appreciated :) the ones I read are more PG 13, so I'm looking for books that go into more detail.

Thanks! (link)
These are some of my favorites i hope you'll enjoy them as much as i did

The A List (series of 10) - Zoey Dean
About the goings on of the teenage children of the rich and famous, contains a wide variety of material - love, hate, jealousy etc. Loved it!

Girl Meets Boy, Guy Next Door, All American Girl, Avalon High, etc. - Meg Cabot
I absoloutly love Meg Cabot's books! I would especially recommend the Girl Meets Boy & Guy Next Door as well as the third in that series, I immensly enjoyed them! Some are intended for adults but most for youth and I love them all!

Lioness Quartet, Wild Magic Quartet, Trickster, etc. - Tamora Pierce
Tamora Pierce's books are mainly set in the land of Tortall in medieval times, they use the same characters just at different stages of their lives and different books/series' focus on different people. They consist of fighting, magic, love, etc.

The diaries of kelly ann (2 books) & Jumping to Confusions - by Liz Rettig
These recount the goings on of an older teenager as she strugles to make decisions and learn to trust in others. The second one, Now or Never is about her relationship with a boy and is funny but romantic and suspencful at the same time.

It's A Mall World After All - Not sure who wrote it though...
Comedy of a girl and how she falls in love with her best friend's boyfriend's bestfriend while stalking her friend's boyfriend in an attempt to prove he is a lying cheating scumbag. A very good read & lovey but funny at the same time.

I'd Tell You I Love You But I'd Have to Kill You - Ally Carter
About a girl brought up as a spy and enrolled in a leading spy school who falls in love with an ordinary boy and can’t tell him who she actually is. Funny. There is a second in the series called To Spy or Not to Spy, it’s just as good.

Possibly the S.A.S.S. series - Numerous Authors
About the travels of students and what happens to them on their stay - love etc. Not brill but an ok read

Inheritance Cycle - Christopher Paloini
Love them, you have to read them, Eragon, Eldest, Brisingr!

Sweet Valley High Books - ???
I can’t remember who wrote these but they’re a pretty good read even if they are kind of old. If you’re into series’s these are good as their’s over 100 books

The Last Summer (Of You and Me) - Ann Brashares
A good book but immensly sad, it is probably better for older teens or adults.


Are the journeys dr marten boots the same ones as the ones in nordstrom. Ones more expensive and I don't know which one to buy. What is the difference between them? (link)
Actually i find the nordstrom ones to be a better quality and lasts longer and also for the price your getting an awesome product and the journeys dr marten boots are similar but not as good in quality so i suggest the nordstrom ones.


I played this game last year, I think, called Dungeon Runners. It was a great MMORPG and was really funny to play because they "made fun" of a lot of things, including World of WarCraft. Anyway, I just tried to go to the Dungeon Runners website and it just sends me to NCSoft site instead. What happened to the game? I miss my awesome Bling Gnome! :p (link)
The site is probably closed or not working or maybe they are adding onto it maybe you should check bak to that site in a few weeks or search on google for another site to play the game on.


I think I want to be a teacher?
Can any one give me information about what I need to know, like how do I become a teacher? What Colleges are good choices to go to? (in VA)

Any information is helpful, thank you! =] (link)
K well i want to be a teacher too and in the past months ive gathered as much information as i can and well i found out that there arent really certain courses you need to become one except for the one you plan on teaching but it helps to get good grades in everything and then basically after high school there wuld be college and university courses and what not what i suggest you do is get more info from a teacher at school or counsellor and then look into some good universities and colleges in your area and do research on them basically you need to do a lot of research before getting into this. good luck and feel free to ask again because im getting into the same course and have some more info as well :)




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