hey im kelly im from MA my fav things to do r write, act, playu the drums, run xc and track, read, other stuff too. uhh i like to just hang aroiund with friends go places the usual, anyway send me anything if anyone needs ne help or advice. ill try the best i can to give you that.
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Recently me and my boyfriend broke up. He broke up with me for another girl, because we were in a long distance relationship for 2 years and it was really hard. Its been really hard for me, but ive managed to survive without him, even though I still love him and miss him alot. But now I am ready for a relationship with someone who I know really cares for me and who I can be happy with. The only problem is, I dont know where or how to meet guys. Can anyone help? (link)
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if you still like your x, give yourself a little bit of time. there r plenty of other people, so even if u dont find anyone right away dont rush it. but u can find guys at school, work if u work at all, the beach, a camp, thru a friend...pretty much anywhere. just dont meet someone online or anything. good luck
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im 5'6" and 134 pounds is tha too fat? (link)
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noo you are not fat at all. you are fine. even if u gained weight you would still be ok. dont even worry about it, if u feel "fat" or anything like that, exersise always makes me feel really good. even go on a health kick if you want, but whatever you do donnttt dieet. its really unhealthy and it sucks. im sure your a really pretty person and you just need to take the time to realize the good things about yourself. im still not too satisfied with myself, but every day youll learn more. next time you look in the mirrors dont think about how bad you look, focus on whatever you think looks good on you then. even if u doint like the shape of your stomach, if u do crunches in a few weeks you will see results. dont worry about it, go out and just have fun. worrying about weight just makes everyone unhappy. and dooo noot compare yourself to anyone else. this is who you are, who you always will be and you arent fat! lol so good luck with everything hope i helped
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im sick of always changing myself for everyone else and now i just want to be myself but idk who i am anymore...what can i do??? (link)
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do not change youself for anyone else, becuz even tho u might think theyll like you more, you arent happy about it and chances r theyll like u the same maybe even more if u were who u r. its ok that u dont kno who u r, alot of people r still trying to find their identity. what u can do about that is find interests u enjoy and try to lover yourself, its a long road but u will end up finding your tru self and i bet u will like it. at the end of our lives its not going to be judged on how many friends you had or what u did for other people...but more on how happy YOU were. remember that and with every day youll get better at this. good luck
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i hate my stomach and theighs and i run everyday i dont no what else to do except not eat to make them smaller. i dont no what to do! i cant be billemic cuz that grosses me out , im just soo confused.if you have anymore advice on that id appreciate it and thnx for giving me advice before. (link)
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dont worry ik how it is. i run too, and unfortunatly altho running is really good for burning calories, losing weight, strong legs etc it doesnt flatten out your stomach or anything. the best thing to do is crunches or go to the gym and work on something that helps your abs. it really makes a difference if u do 200 or as many as u can each night for a few weeks. not eating wont even change the shape of your stomach or thighs, and ur right do nooottt become bulimic or anorexic. its not worth it. so i suggest dont those kind of work outs. go get some old seventeen magazines at the library, or a SELF magazine. they usually have good ab and those kind of work outs in them under the health section. try not to hate your body ne more tho, ik it is hard but with doing those exersises and trying more each day to remember good qualities about yourself, you can do it. good luck and if u hav ne questions about how to do a crunch or nething else just ask.
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im 13, 5'2 and i way 92 pounds..since you no about that stuff, is that a lot over weight for what i should be cuz ive been tryin not too really eat.please let me no if you can
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noo that is underweight you sound really thin. whatever you do dont go on a diet, thats a mistake i made way too many times. i still struggle with it, whether i am "good enough" or not. trust me, you are fine the way u r. u say u arent eating alot, which is really bad. for one thing you could have an eating disorder and trust me that is the worst thing i have ever went through. eating gives you energy, most ppl look at food as a bad thing but all it does is help you stay alive. also, from all the diets iv been on my metabolism is really messed up now. one day its fast the next day its slow. when i didnt eat alot i was always in a really bad mood too, and people didnt like being around me. i put everyone i loved into a really bad position and hated them for trying to make me eat. i think u should definetly start eating more again, either 5 small meals a day or 3 regular meals and snacks. just eat healthy if u r worried about stuff...but sometime dieting can even make you gain weight. it slows down your metabolism and then youll get hungry and overeat. each day try more and more to love yourself for who you are, and who you always will be. its really hard, but i promise you that you are perfect the way u r and you dont need to change. if anything gain weight! lol u r really thin. and if u ever need anything just ask me or any proffesional advice go ask your doctor. and go out there and pig out on ice cream right now! you need to enjoy life well u can. dieting sucks trust me!
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I dated this person 4 almost 4 yrs... I loved them soo much n then we went down hill. I don't know if I'm still "inlove" with them, but I always think about them. It's starting to get better and fade away, but they seem to already have moved on. It's only been a year!! What should I do?? Do you think they've moved on?We were eachothers first loves, and I thought first loves don't end!!!Plz Help!! (link)
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im really confused. them? they?
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I had it good for a while. I guess most of us dont realize when to appreciate what you have. I had it so good id do just anything to back on the past. But lets forget me... my sister used to be average wieght.. NOT fat at all just not as skinny as everyone else. I used to call her fat tho just in spite of her when i wanted something and she wouldnt give me something or if we were fighting. I regret that in every way shape or form. PLEASE if you've been calling some1 fat dont do it, you will hospitilize some1 no joke it gets to people. So anyway shes been away at camp for 5 weeks.. and shes not the same. She wont let herself touch a hamburger, or anything besides salad and yogurts and rice cakes and such. She wont let herself have even a rootbeer float.. its so wierd. But worst of all shes not anything like she used to be. She used to be happy. Shes really homesick right now and she admits when she comes back shes going to need therapy because she even KNOWS that her lifestyles are messed up. Its not that she doesnt want to eat all those foods she CANT. She always feels so compared her whole life she has and now im fearing for her and wishing things were back to normal. Nothing has ever been this screwed up in my life i have never been asked to handle this 1nce before in my life and now its my own sister... and i just dont know what to do. Its like no1 cares... my aunt only has mean things to say like shes starving herself and she yells at my sister. Yelling wont help her any! My mom understands and so does my dad and they care but it hurts to see them so worried. I cant take it! This could all be my fault.. i should have never called her names.... what do i do to keep myself from getting overly sick at myself. Im not about to go anerexic or cut myself or anything lame like that im too full of life and i could never stoop down to that level but i always feel like i just want to stay in bed all day. I want my life to be normal, but i cant have that...
for a person thats going to be sensitive to my feelings... *PLEASE* answer asap
and 2 the rest of u.. never say anything you could regret
XoxOO-
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i think u should tell ur sister exactly what u just told me. show her what u wrote. my brother called me fat..still does...dispite the fact iv had anorexia for 2 years. i think he did it becuz he was playing with the fact i was dangerously thin. explain this to ur sister..i can tell u care about eachother alot and i am sure she will understand. tell ur aunt to stop yelling at her, ik how this is, ppl yelled at me only cuz they hated seeing me like i was. dont worry tho, things will get back to normal. dont blame urself as much as u r, ur sister just needs some help and then she will get better. explain to her u love her as she is and she shouldnt compare herself to anyone, thats who she is and always will be. give her all the love u can and support her thru all this. that is the most u can do. get her proffesional help and with time she will become better, take it easy on her. u need patience and ik it sucks to watch her go thru this. if ur sister needs ne help have her leave something in my inbox or im me on x6xkelx9x. ik how all this is so maybe i could talk to her ever if she needed it. good luck with everything and dont worry things will go beack to normal.
love, *kelly
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Well I know this is kinda sick and all but im gonna ask neways..when I shave down there its gets all red like a rash and then sometimes it bleed and i really dont know what to do.. (link)
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that happsn to me too sometimes. u might not be doing it the right way. make sure when u do its in the shower or something so u dont get razor burn. do it very lightly..its sensitve down there lol. if it keeps up buy a diff razor something thatll work better or that hair removing cream stuff. i use venus it works pretty good its up to u tho. good luck
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I just turned 14. I'm about 5'5 and weigh about 105 lbs. I feel I am fat for some reason even though I wear extra smalls and zero's in clothing and everything. Everyone thinks I am very tiny but I don't see myself that way. Because I feel I am fat I try to do 200 crunches a day along with running for about a half hour. Is there anything else I can do to loose weight and just tone up more? I also don't eat much. Like for maybe a couple days a month I'll eat like breakfast, lunch, and dinner. But all the rest of the time I usually only eat a small breakfast and that's it. Am I over doing the whole weight loss thing? Everyone has been yelling at me and saying I am overdoing it and I really want to know if I am. Please help and answer. Is my weight ok for my height and age? I both cheerlead and run track and want to make sure I am skinny cause for some reason I feel people won't like me otherwise. Can someone please give me some advise and help on the situation? Thanks. *Love Always Annonomous*
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so for, it sounds like you are. ik how this is exactly, because i still struggle with my weight. i have had anorexia for 2 years, and it sucked. everyone told me how skinny i was, but i just saw something totally different. you are realy underweiht right now tho, even if you dont feel it. excersise is good and everything, but not if you are eating really little. this messes up your metabolism too. i encourage you to eat 5 small meals a day, or 3 meals with snacks. drink fluids and trust the ppl that say you are tiny. u prob dont believe them, but just try to and you will start to see it yourself. learn to love your body for who you are, and do not compare it to anyone else's. the ppl who r yelling at you are only doing this becuz they care about you, they did that to me too and all i could think was "i hate them. they are taking away my control. dont they want me to be happy?" i am not sure but u could have anorexia, too. you do have some signs of it so if u want u should c a nutritionist or doctor or something. slowly start to eat on a regular basis, instead of different each week. i am positive you are FINNEE the way you are! i am 5'1 and now that i have recovered and everything i am supposed to weigh 105. and u r 5'5 and weigh that much. i dont know how much i weigh now tho, and its better that way. try not to check the scale as often and insince you cheelead and do track you need to eat becuz it gives u energy. ppl will like you no matter what, i bet u r a great person and everyone can c that. dont worry about being skinny or anything, guys even say they like girls with more meat on their bones. i wish you good luck and hope all goes well. if u need ne thing else just leave something in my inbox.
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I have two best friends. Let's say their names are Jill and Kate. Whenever I am going to get together with Jill she is always forgetting about our plans and then gets together with Kate. The other day this happened. I called Jill all day and she wasn't answering. I called her cell phone and she was shopping with Kate. She told me that tomorrow we could get together. I called "Kate's" today and talked to "Jill" and she said that she was leaving Kate's in an hour and that we could get together at her house. She never called me. I called her house and her dad said she wasn't home and I know she is with Kate. I am so sick of this. I cried for 2 hours yesterday. I was so mad! I love my friends so much, but they are always hurting me. I tell them how I feel and they consider it and then do it again. I need your advice. Please help me! I am so sick of it!
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Tired of Crying (link)
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ok ik how this is and i think u should find a good time when you are with both your friends and talk to them calmly about it. tell them exactly what u just told me and explain how you feel like a third wheel. i think they would understand if they r your 2 best friends. if they dont at first, remind them they are doing it again. this is a habit that will be difficult for them to break, so give them time but not too much. you should invite them both together places, instead of just one so you can all get used to doing things together. if none of this works, and they dont listen to you, they are not true friends.good luck
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I need help because i dont kno if i should call this guy to tell him i like him or if i should just keep it to my self???
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do whatever you feel is right for you. if u r nervous it might be better to do it on AIM or something if u have it. if it were me somehow i would porbably let him no becuz who knows something could happen between you. if he doesnt like you back dont worry about that though, just be prepared for whatever happens. it might be hard over the phone tho becuz he will have to giv u an answer back directly. good luck though ad i hope all goes well.
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How old are ppl when they have THE kiss? Like what's the most likely age? (link)
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there isnt a paticular age really. i had mine when i was 12 some have them when they are 16 whatever is right for you should be "the kiss".
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ok i started talkin to this guy named chris about 5 months ago...we wer really good friends and our parents knew eachother so i was allowed to go everywhere with them!! they new we liked eachother 2....well he got grounded about 3 months later n we juss LOST CONTACT 4 S0O0 LONG....well i ben really thinkin bout him bc he treated me s0o well....and i called him up....he wasnt ther but his dad was like sara? ohh hey how r u? r u still in soccer?? blah blah juss totally tlkin to me!! his family loves me!! well ya so he called me last nite but my cell was on silence so i juss saw the missed call!! i was s0o happy!! well i called him today adn he had to go sumwher with his mom so we didnt get to talk and we havent talked for months....shuld i call him back?? wat do i say?? i have NO idea wat to say to him but i really like him n wanna hangout agen!! im really nervous!! plz help idk wat i shuld do!! WAT DO I SAY TO HIM?? (link)
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call!! he obviously wants to talk to you dont hold bak call him :) goooddd luckk*
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hey yall i jus found out that my bf is probly cheating on me and this stuff happens to me all the time i always get used at and it really sux and wel i jus dont no how to deal with it cus wenever this stuf happens i get really depressed and shit and i think about cutting and stuff but i never actualy do it i jus need sum way to get out of this place or idk i jus idk (link)
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please dont cut yourself. ik that hurts alot..it has happened to me. i just want u to kno u r not alone. i am positive there r guys out there that u deserve and would show respect for u, it sucks to go thru all these relationships be4 finding them but just be strong. ppl like these untrustworthy guys r not worth you putting the pain back on youself. u didnt do anything, and one day these guys r gonna get hurt themselves. all u have to do is dont put up with them and keep your head high, xplain to them what they did to you and dont go bak out with them. next time a guy asks u out tell him what u want you two to be, and u want to be able to put ur faith in him and he can with you. it hurts but you can overcome these things, dont worry about it. these ppl r unimportant and u deserve much better. you will find someone who will make you happy. good luck and hope i help
*kelly*
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I want someone to talk to during the summer while im away from my friends. I have a pen pal but I would like another one. I am a 13 year old female. (link)
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my sn is x6xkelx9x...IM me
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hey i no that this has been asked alot but i really want to no if i am overweight. i am a 13 yr old girl that is 5'7 or 5'8 and i weigh around 120-130. is this considered overweight or normal? (link)
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ur fine. dont worry about it.
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hey i didnt no wat to put this under. but i need help. is it wrong to wish that u wouldnt wake up in the morning. or widh that u were dead. and if so then how do i stop thinking like that. i feel like everybody hates me and that if i was gone would ne body care! i no i shouldnt but i do and rite now i just want to leave. plzzz help me how can i stop thinking like this? (link)
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hey ik how it is. i feel like that alot. u could be depressed i am not sure and if u are it is ok just dont do anything to hurt yourself..please. even if u dont realize it i am positive there are alot of ppl that love you and would miss you or blame themselves if u ever did leave. if i were u i would visit a counselor or physciatrist, they can help you through these things. or confide in a good friend. try to be more positive, it might be a long road to overcome these feelings but u can do it. stay strong and if u ever need ne help just leave something in my inbox. good luck and remember what i said. xox *kelly*
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Im babysitting a 4 yr old boy from 7:30am to 4:30pm and i need some ideas of things to do. I dont have a liscense so i cant drive anywhere and i live in maine. (link)
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have fun with him. play with his toys with him, watch some tv, make him laugh and stuff. bring a game you think he might like but be careful. if he has a swing set go on it with him just watch him carefully and listen to his parents directions. make him a snack if u can take him for a walk etc. im sure you'll do fine. one idea i did with a boy he prob is too young but i got paper and we made comic books it was kind of cool he liked it. or u can just color or something. read him a book...theres a lot of things.
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Ok, so heres the deal. I've been bestfriends with this girl since I was 11 now Im 18. At the age of 15 we stopped talking for a year because we went to different highschools. Well now, I can't stand to be around her because she lies a lot. And it will be about stupid things or even serious things that you wouldnt lie to your bestfriend about. For instance being a virgin or not, how many people you have had sex with, how much you drank...etc. to the stupidest stuff like how much you spend on a car, how many hours you work, how much your getting paid, hitting an animal in the road n making a story up about it. I tried to confront her 3-4 times before but she gets mad and makes a big deal about it and claims she will never lie to me and stuff. Now that I've had a boyfriend for about 7 months shes thinking I dont hang out with her anymore because of him when its not that at all. Granted I do hang out with him everyday but we will go to parties, watch movies, stuff like that. With her we would sit around or go for a drive n she would usually end up dropping me off at 11 cuz she didnt feel good, was tired, and stupid things like that. My curfew is 1. Everythign she says now I doubt and I'm starting to believe shes a pathological liar. What should I do because everytime I try to talk to her she just turns it all around on me. And when I dont wanna do something like go away with her because Im not allowed or go to the club she tries to guilt trip me sayin that shes second best to my boyfriend and that I never wanna do anything. I've talked to my other friends and they all agree with em n say that they dont liek her but use her for a ride. My betsfriend doesnt know that. What should I dooooo? Hope thats not too complicated for you to follow i kinda rambled on. Thank youuu (link)
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i have a friend like that. i would sit down with them and explain to them that u like them for who they are and it doesnt matter how much they lie and everything. tell them exactly how u feel calmly and nicely, and that she can trust you. hopefully she will understand. she might just like the fact or lying or she feels better about herself when she does. this might be a habit that she has so bear with her and hopefully she can break it. good luck with this hope i helped
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well...my friend and i decided that we wanted to go to this really cool camp next summer. we would go away for 3 weeks and do a bunch of cool things there. the only problem is that it costs sooooo much money and im afraid to even ask to go because they might say no. and if i do decide to ask them...how do tell them its a lot of money? L. 14 (link)
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be prepared with all the information about the camp, you have to ask them sometime so you might as well get it over with. just say, "i know this camp is expensive but i can pay for half or whatever you want or raise some of the money" etc. do a car wash, bake sale, mow lawns, babysit, anything for extra cash. good luck
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