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Q: I am 13 and I still don't have my period!I don't know what is going on, I weigh more than a lot of my friends and they all already have them!!!What do I do????
Love always(please help),
Gina

it is very very normal girl can get it from 9 and younger to 16 so it is very very normal dont worry

Q: Me and my boyfriend had sex 3 times on monday. The first with a condom, and then the second, he started off without a condom (I dunno if there was any pre-mature ejaculation) but then finished that with one on. Then the last time we did have a condom. And he only pulled out the first time. I just got finished having my period Saturday. So I was wondering is there a possibility that I could possibly get pregnant? And know yall say well get a pregnancy test, but how long should I wait to get one?

So my two questions:
1) Could I possibly be pregnant?
2) When to get a pregnancy test?

THANKS!

there are actuly new testes to were you can find out right away i think it is like first something not realy goo with the names sorry hope i helped at leat a little

Q: OKAY... please do not anwser this question unless you are 100% sure

Can you get pregnant if you havent had you period yet?!?!

yea u can i used to think that you couldnt but yea i found out 100% it is just as possible as if you had started your period hope i helped

-+lindsey+-

Q: i didn't know what topic this would fall under, so i just guessed.

ok, here i go. i hear and read about "first base" , "second base" , and "third base" dealing with relationships a lot. i have never been quite sure what these terms mean. could someone clear this up for me?

thanks in advance! i'll rate!

well yea there is differnt way liek i always go with 1st kissing 2nd frenching 3rd oral sec adn home sex but that is my opinion well hoep i helped

Q: i dont understand what prude means.

is it liike where you havent hooked up with anyone or had sex?

14/f

prud is basically not willing to go that far prude could be on alout of diffrent levels liek not wanting to kiss to not wanting to have sex

Q: i really like this guy. and i know he likes me. The thing is he is black and some are my friends are acting weird about that. i mean i don't see anything wrong with it. Is there something wrong with a white female dating a black male??

no it does not matter at all color is color not a type of person its a color and it doesnt matter. if your friends act weird then they are nothing special they should be happy with it becasue they should be happy for you. happiness is something a person needs and soemtimes it takes a long time for people to be truly happy and if you think you will be happy dont wait go for it!!!

Q: I'LL RATE A 5 AND SORRY IT'S A LITTLE LONG .well I'm not allowed to date i'm 14 and my parents found out that i was and for my family it's a big deal and my parents gave me the silent treatment.my sister who is 23 that acts like my mom gave me the silent treatment too.well let me get to the point I broke up with him because I made my mom,dad,and sister cry because I went out with him.I felt bad,my sister called him and talked to him.but the point is I hurt them and I didn't mean to.I really really love him.he's my support,what I need he's always been there for me.he's my best friend I can tell him anything and he would understand.and the worst thing about it is that my mom said I couldn't be his friend or talk to him.this just happened right before christmas brake.I broke up with him on the fon not because i didn't have the balls but because I couldn't live with my self anymore for 2 weeks till I went to school again.when I told him,he cryed and I told him not to be mad and he said y would I b mad I understand.what really hurt me was when he said "what do I do,do I move on".I told him that he should and he said this when he was crying."BUT I DON'T WANT 2, I WANT 2 BE WITH U,I DON'T WANT TO LOOSE U" I love him I cry everyday.did I make the right chose and if I did y does it hurt so much,y do I feel like sh*t. I'LL RATE A 5 JUST PLEASE HELP!SORRY IT'S LONG

in the end even though your family doesnt agree you have to do this for YOU not them for you na dif you liek him so much then you know it will be very hard to move on so you shouldnt just let them tell you what to do i unerstand i realy do but soemtimes you have to do things you knwo that pp dont agree with hoep i helped good luck

-#lin#-

Q: hey everyone my girlfriend and i are coming up on two years i thought that maybe i would make her a CD with songs that make me think of her is this a good idea and if you think it is can u tell me some up to date good love songs and any other ideas we are only 16 too thanks ill rate

life house-u and me

Q: im 14 and my girlfriend is 13. we have been going out for 4 months. she told me that she wants to make out with me. part of me wants too but the other part says no because we kissed for the first time last night at a dance. do you think i should make out with her now or not? if not how long should i wait?

well you need to follorw what you think if you think you are ready then go for it you think your not then dont it will jujst happen if your not ready youll be able to tell like avoiding looking in each others eyes and if that is soo then wait it will coem

Q: so i skipped school and there was weed and alcohol im 13 female by the way..
and anyways.
i was good i didnt smoke because its disgusting.
and it was only 33% alcohol..
anyways my freinds turned out to not be freinds.
and so i was like.. im tired. then this guy goes oh here ill take you upstairs.. and show you where you can sleep.
so we went into the room yes we.. and he locked the door we were on his parents bed.
and he started making out with me.
hes 15.
and im like EWWWWWWWWWWW because he was so fugly.
and yeah he was on top of me..
then i stopped thinking omg what do i do.
then he took of his pants..
and started making out again..
and then he put my hand yeah you know.
and made me give him a handjob while makingout.
then he took of my pants.
And got on top of me.
and i pushed him of
and was like no!
im not going to have sex with you.
im a virgin.
and im afraid to have sex..
i didnt say that but yeah
and then hes like i love you.
suck my dick.
I KNOW ISNT THAT SO DUMB!
and im like no.
and hes like.
yes then you wont have to do anymore.
and im like NO.
i was thinking if i dont want to do anymore i wont do anymore.
and then he tried to have sex with me again.
i pushed him of.
and left to go get my twin brother and pretend i was at school.
what is this??
rape??
peer presure
im freaked out.
PLEASE HELP ME!

yes if he did not get inside of you it is still atemt rape and sexual assault but definatly attempted rape and i am 13 so i know it is not that easy to say no and go to peer preasure if you see this guy enough i think it would help if you told someone becasue that is goign to be scary for you if you have to see him adn by telling someone you could stop from future girls being his next victim these things are very serious

Q: 13/f
i used to cut but i stopped. i hardly ever did it, like, maby once a month, i dont know. but whenever im really upset, i feel like doing it, but ive tought my self to not cut and read the bible instead. but i feel like i should still talk about it. noone ever found out and i dont want annyone to ever know, but im wondering if theres some type of email or something where it can stay a secret. thanx i rate high

well i knwo how you feel except i have not yet found the stretgth inside of myself to stop and i know i am not much help maybe there is a chat room or something were you can talk about it but not say who u are srry if i was not help

#---# LIN #---#

Q: HOW DO I GET RID OF DEPRESSION? I ve tried but I cant. Please give me some suggestions. Thankz bye.

to tell you the truth you cant make deppression go away by yourself you realy need to talk to someone. personaly i think it would be good if you talked to a realy close friend or a realy close adult. the way your feeling it is realy good becaseu you relize something is wrong and adn you dont liek it. so it is good so talk to someone close and realy talk to them and describe as much as you can how you feel dont just hint that you need help tell them you need help and you want help ask for it

if anything i am always here to listen im me wjpool

bio

my name is lindsey i am 13 years old i am realy into my music and i like to help ppl mostly in the love life catagory answer every question that i have a reasonable honest good answer that will help. some of my favorit bands are the all american rejects the used my chemical romacne fall out boy simple plan some the killers blink 182 green day. i have a 19 and 16 yr old brothers they are very hard to deal with i have soem girl friends but most of them are guy friends that is when i am most comfortable most of the time. i love to write mostly poetry and i love to dance i am a cheerleader but i am not a prep or anything not tryign to stero type but that is what ppl do to me so yea i am not the stero typical cheerleader im not in it to be peppy i just do it for one thing only i LOVE to dance. im not into rap but i have to be into it a little becasue it is very good dance music if i had to pick a fovorite rap star it would be eminem (sorry bad at spelling) because of the things he raps about real life real situation im not for fakeness the whole all rap about or anything about sex,and drugs personaly i just think that there is alout more to life to enjoy and to pay attention too.