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im the kid that most come to for a shoulder to cry on and the one that they talk to for some advice on the matter. i have helped many kids through some pretty tough situations, so give me a try! i will do my best!
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im 15 and well honstly ive only made out with 3 guys, and thats all ive ever sexually done... ive never "masterbated" whatever that means or anything like that but my bf keeps trying to finger me and stuff! if i let him do it..is it gonna hurt? can my "cherry" pop? is it gonna feel really bad? and if i let him do it will i be labled a slut? (me and my bf have been together 10-11 months now) anything?
i think with this one, you need to relax. and especially stick to what YOU want and are ready for! dont get pressured into anything you dont want to do. and from what i have heard, the "ouch" factor in fingering, is different for everyone. and yes it is possible for your "cherry" as you call it, to "pop". and as to your boyfriend, i am pretty sure that the only way you might be labeled a slut, is if your bf goes and tells all his friends. if that happens i think you might want to have a little talk with him, or re think doing things with him if he is just going to go tell all his friends.
My bf and i are thinking about having sex for our first time i love him a lot my worry is his penis
gets pretty big and im worried it will hurt to much does it hurt is there anything we can do about it?
well, if you are a virgin, im sorry to report it will hurt the first time. naturally, you are just smaller than his width. so yes, it will hurt. it wont after a while though. make sure he understands that you are not just something he can rip open. talk about it with him. talk about your concerns. and please make sure you use a form of contraception. stay safe and healthy. i hope i helped you.
im a 15/f see its like this all of my friends are all really fast i mean to tell the truth i kind of am fast too but i mean i havent lost my virginity yet but most of them have so yeah i dont know what to do like they kind of like leave me out of conversations and stuff and i think that i am ready to do it but i dont know what age you should be??
there really isnt a specific age for when you are ready to have sex. parental units will tell you to wait until you are much older and some will say " wait until you are married". but really, our generation is not typically going to listen to that. wait until you are trully ready. wait untill you feel trully comfortable with a situation with your partner. when YOU feel like you are ready, then by all means go for it. but if you are going to decide to have sex, use protection. hope this helps.
What are the signs that let you know that you ARE ready to have sex for the first time?
you know you are ready when you dont have to question whether or not you are ready. meaning, you are comfortable with any situation you and your partner are in; and you know how to deal with it properly. this is different for everyone, but generally this is the way it is. and if you are going to have sex for the first time, please use contraception. good luck sweety. hope this helps.
On New Years Eve im going to my boyfriends house. I'm a virgin but that night i think i want to lose my virginity with him. I'm 14 almost 15 i know i'm young but i'm tired of being a virgin. We've only been going out for a week today but we went out for 7 months a while back. Please don't reply if your just going to call me a hoe or yell at me because i don't need that. Would i be making the wrong choice if i do? I already know about the whole getting pregnant thing im not stupid..but other than that am i making the right choice? thanks..
honestly, something like having sex shouldnt really be planned out to the certain day you will first have it. your first time should be a great first time. if it is planned out, it may not be as nice as it could be, and something might happen that will get in the way of your "plans". but please sweety, when you do decide to have sex, please be careful and please use some form of contraception (not including withdrawl). good luck with what you decide.
I have some friends who have been really moody lately, I'll say hi to them in the hall, and they will just walk away or roll their eyes. These friends are the same people who know that I've been going through a lot currently, that led to me cutting and dieting and things like that. The problem is, they seem to hate me now becayse of it all. What should I do?
really, i think you should confront them about it. See what they are REALLY mad about. if they are mad at you because of what you have been going through, and the decisions you might have made along the way, then maybe find out why they are mad.
if they are mad and yet holding it against you; i think you need to debate wether or not they are really your " friends". Find out the full story of the walking away and rolling of the eyes. Stick to your guns, and be strong. good luck.
I have a friend (not me I promise you) who has 4 guys who all simply adore her. She is currently dating one of them but he is in college and she does not seem him at all. The three others all go to her school and she has feelings for them all nearly equally. She is considering dumping the college guy and going with one of the ones at her school, but to make things more complex the college guy is also her best friend and the 3 other guys all have seperate issues. One has a girlfriend but is interested in her, one she isn't sure if it would be a good relationship, and the other one is a little weird.
What should she do?
she should go for the guy who
(1)has no attachments to another woman
(2) she feels really the most comfortable with
and (3) the guy who she, after a while has thought about and has trully come to a decision, that she wants to pursue a relationship with.
the human heart is not something to just play with and then drop, all people have feelings, and should be dealt with carefully.
My doctor diagnosed me with a rare but serious disease known as "Anal Warts" that I got from sleeping repeatedly with my slut of an ex. Do you think any girl will ever be able to love me and be with me even when I have warts the size (and consistency) of boiled eggs clearly visible whenever i'm naked?
if she loves you man...then it shouldnt matter.
just make sure she knows..
i really love this guy. We have fooled around but we both want to go a step farther. I am kind of scared to, but at the same time i want to. Help me. What should i do. ~Worried in Washington.
well i understand if you love him and you want to, but you are scared, trust me I do. But the thing about " taking a step further" is that you should be confident in your decision. Perhaps if you are feeling doubt, you are not quite ready to make that step quite yet. Take your time and wait until YOU BOTH are ready, not just one of you. And no matter what, follow what YOU trully feel is the right thing to do, not going under pressure to make someone else happy. Make yourself happy first before you please others, and make sure you are comfortable doing it. If you feel that you are ready, then by all means go for it, but please make sure you are careful in doing so. i hope this helps :) good luck and take care!
i want to wear eyeliner this year. not alot, but kind of noticeable. except when i put it on, i always manage to mess it up. does anyone have any tips??
you can try using just a little bit along the eye, then use a smudger and smudge it to make it smoky and fuller. And if you make a "bad smudge" It comes off as easy as it was put on . :) hope this helps!
Does anyone know how to make any healthy snacks or drinks that i can make at home? Im trying to loose weight so ill be fit for school. Ill rate you.
You could try making smoothies. such as bannanas and milk or using soy milk. Or you could even make a slimfast shake from the s.f. powder, those are yummy. If you use alot of ice it will make it foamy-er and frothier:). Just stick to fruits that are high in protien fiber and nutrients and you will be fine. like, bannanas,oranges,apples,apricots,ooh and berries. A snack you could try, that is really yummy, is apples/bannanas and peanut butter. I hope this helps! good luck!
Hii.. im 13 years old, and im kinda changin my style. i wanna get a punkiish style, i've been taken guitar lessons for over 2 years... and now im in a band, and havn't really picked up the style yet, still stuck in that gurly faze... so i need some really good advice on like where to shop, and what kinda stuff i would buy... s0o can you please help me!!!! ~*~ i rate ~*~ thankx, lots of love
The punkish style is based on how you like for yourself to look, what makes YOU comfortable. You can try Hot Topic for some starter clothes, but please do not get stuck to that brand. cause after a while, you might get the name "poser" stuck to you if you are just shopping there to fit in. Get chlothes that YOU like, don't just get them cause it's the in thing.
if i'm like 5'2 and weigh 108 lbs. is that a lot?
You are actually under weight for your height. If you are 5'2 your ideal weight is around 112 maybe 115. So don't worry about it girl! You are just perfect right where you are! :)
Which freezes faster, cold water or hot water? somepeople say deff. things. ive tryed to experiment but i dont see which does. HOT OR COLD??
cold water freezes faster because the molecules in the hydrogen and oxygen compound have already slowed down. Water freezes because the molecules have stopped moving and the friction between them has become less. ( friction between molecules causes warmth) so cold water freezes faster because it takes less time for the movement to stop.
my friend cuts herself because of her ex-boyfriend...ive tryed to tell her not to. she cuts herself all over her body except her wrists. and when her parents ask her what happens she makes up excuses like she ran into something, fell... i dont know what to do!
-signed help my friend out!-
I REALLY NEED HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My friend does that as well, and i mean i love him ta' death, but i know how hard it can be to see someone you care about do something so terrible to themselves. What i have been trying, that seems to be working, is just, spend as much time as you can with them. Make it so their thoughts are hard to center on what makes them sad which makes them to cutt. Make sure she is out there enjoying life, not cutting it away. But most of all, just be there for her, even if it doesn't seem like she needs it. Cause if she is doing what you say she is doing, from my own experience, she most likely needs you more than you relize. If you need help, drop a letter in my inbox, i'm here for you if you need it.
okay well im 13 years old and all of my firends have made out with a boy.. I never have... its really weird... my best friend since forever and I WERE the only ones who hadnt made out with a guy untill she went out with this kid joe... so now im the only one who hasnt... and everytime im going out with someone and the subject comes up i get really nervous... idk im just really scared to show affection... like I will hug my boyfriend without a problem but when it comes to holding hands and kissing im scared... i have been kissed but never made out... i know what to do but at the same time i dont please help me!
Kati
yeah. most deff. i know how that is!!! i'm 15, and still haven't fully "made-out" with a guy. But the thing is, I HAVE gotten kisses, like you, and well, they all pretty much sucked cause they were not from people i really really liked.( bad b.f. luck.). Just make sure not to follow the trends of your friends.!. It will be your time soon enough! And then.. you will think it rocks. Don't worry, feelings and the way you find yourself comfortable come with time, and they shouldn't be rushed. :)
Me and my girlfriend have been goin out for 2 weeks but last night she wanted to fuck but my dick was monsterous she changed her mind and left, how do i fix this problem?? The bigger the better right?
Holy jebus man!...Just because she is not a virgin, doesn't mean that she will be ready at anytime to fuck you. Maybe she wanted to wait a bit longer? Once she finally saw what she would be dealing with? Just talk to her about it, see what's up with the whole thing and how she's feeling about it. And usually girls can only fit in up to 4 inches. 5 max. Vaseline is not all that great cause 1) it smells uber gross when things happen and 2) its just not that great of a lub. And for god sakes! be careful with that thing!
Hey, i want to ask my friend out, but not sure how. She is amazing and an awesome friend. How should i go about it? She doesn't usually get the best when it comes to boyfriends,i know cause i have helped her through a couple. I want to be better than that, how do i start it out right? ;)
haha, um, wow, well..use what you know about her. maybe by getting her one of her favorite flowers? just be sweet about it. :) Make sure she knows. Just go with your feelings. good luck :)
my boyfriend wants me to have sex with him, and i am as virginess as they come. Im not sure if i want to, actually i'm kinda scared what might happen. I am afraid i might lose him if i dont though. What would you do?
wow, well, first of all, You have to stick to your guns with this. If you are afraid to have sex just yet, then you are not ready to. It has to be the right time for both of you, not just one of you. What would i do?..well, firstly, i would have a talk with my guy. i would see what is actually up with the way he is feeling about the whole thing. I would see what he wanted, and if i wasn't ready for something he wanted, then i would tell him. Do not be afraid to speak your mind. Sex is a major step in a relationship, decided upon by both people, and done by both people. Think it through before you make your decision.
Hi , i'm 14, and have an uber crush on like my bestest friend. He is so perfect, like wow, i really like him. I am not sure if he knows i like him, should i tell him? or should i just keep it to myself?? thanks.
yeah, I most deffinatly know how that can be. should you tell him?..well,it depends. Do you want him to know? I think you should tell the dude you like him, because if he is your bestest friend, then i am sure he can take the news. It also depends on the circumstances. If you think by telling him it will ruin your friendship, then you might want to re-consider, you don't want to lose a friend over something as that. Also, take into consideration the way both of you act around eachother. :) if you think he will be open to the idea, then by all means, go for it girl! I hope all goes well. :)