Hey i'm volunteergirl and i play softball, i dance, and i'm an activist at my school. I love giving advice and i hope you check out my column!!!
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Member Since: April 11, 2008
Answers: 57
Last Update: July 15, 2009
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Ok well this guy Daniel..
MANN.
i love himm.
But see were not togetherr..
And well i wanna tell him i like him and stuff but on the phone he hangs upp..
He broke up with me because well see idk whyy..
How do i talk to himm..?? (link)
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Hey girly, maybe the fact that when you try to tell him that you like him and he hangs up is a sign that he ins't interested in being more than just friends. Now don't take my word on that, but maybe you should just focus on being friends before you get in a relationship again.
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volunteergirl
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i want to have sex and am ready but do not know how to let my bf know... he and i are both 17 (link)
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Hey girl, first i would like to start off by saying that although you may be ready, he may not be. If it turns out that he is ready you should sit him down and start by saying we have been dating for a while now, which i hope you have or you might not be ready to lose your virginity. Then you should say if you're ready and i know im ready, i would like to go to the next step in our relationship. Take a short pause. Then say im ready to have sex.
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volunteergirl
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ive had my permit for awhile and im not the best driver but im not that bad. none of my family trusts me driving and they expect me to be perfect at it..practice makes perfect, but they dont like my driving so they dont let me practice. then i always have to hear crap about how bad i drove when i made a little mistake because im a NEW driver i cant be perfect. i've driven with an instructor for 6 hours, ive read the book. but good driving doesnt just come overnight. im so sick of getting **** for my non perfect driving. i try talking to them but they dont think i take it seriously and i really do! but driving takes practice and time which im not getting..what the hell am i supposed to do!? thanks. (link)
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Hey girl, you should try to convince your family to let you drive off the road. I know you're thinking what the crap are you talking about. Get four chairs and a fake steering wheel. get your family to pretend drive with you. You will act as if you were on the road. By buckling your seatbelt and checking your rearview mirror. Have siblings hold up stop signs and pretend there are pedestrians walking the street.
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16/f/sophomore
im trying to make friends this year but it's so hard! i dont have a "best friend", a person who i think is the coolest person to hang out with ever and who thinks the same about me, like other girls & guys with my grade. thats bc i used to be really shy but now im pretty much over shyness and i want to be social.
i know i should be nice & talkative but i feel like its HARD because i dont want to become one of those people who are so OBVIOUSLY trying to be friends with someone else and spend all their time talking to them when that person doesnt like them. also it seems like veryone already has their own best friends, a crew that they can hang out with at ANYTIME. while i have friends in 5 groups and out of 10 years only 5 of my friends have come over to my house, and i can count the number of times they have come over on my hands. and i never get invited ANYWHERE..to the beach...to parties (maybe once every 6 months)..just to HANG OUT..im always at home on saturdays and im too embarassed to admit it to anyone. =[
keep in mind my family is kind of hard up right now money-wise so i cant just throw parties.
I KNOW im NOT a boring person and i KNOW im not annoying compared to other people i know and i KNOW im not like a social outcast who nobody talks to, i have a lot of friends, a few good, long-time friends who are in their own groups, but no BEST friends. i guess i just need advice on how to make friends. anything youve got. (link)
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Hey girl. First up nobody can just tell you how to make friends, you have to be yourself. I know that is so corny and i'm sure people tell you that all the time. That just means they're right. Just try to be outgoing. As far as throwing parties and the whole money issue, i have a suggestion. Go out and buy a 24 pack of cupcakes and go up to people you don't know and introduce yourself. Ask them if they want a cup cake. Just try and make small talk.
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volunteergirl
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17 F
My boyfriend and I are two years apart and we're perfect for each other and age isn't a factor.
I'm African American and he's white and Mexican. He's a dancer and isn't into all the "gangster" stuff (thank God).
I've always dated or been associated with older guys who are black.
So my problem is a lot of guys are still trying to get with me and of course I tell them I have a boyfriend, but they always have something to say. I'm SICK of them talking about my boyfriend and us. Yes, I know they're jealous, but gosh SHUT UP. Whats the best thing to tell them? (link)
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Hey girl, the best thing to do in a situation like this is to say nothing. If you like him and he likes you who cares what everyone else thinks.
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volunteergirl
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I'm 18 and my bf is 19 we've dated off and on for 2 years.
Today we got in a huge fight and I said somethings I didnt mean. We had just got back from a weekend vacation and he was looking for his cds that I had put in the trunk. the trunk was packed with stuff and his cds were buried. he started digging around and I wanted him to take out my suitcase so we could find it. I guess I was yelling at him and he got angry and threw my suitcase out on the ground. I lost it. I was so mad. then I asked him "So are you going to act like this from now on" and he said yes so I said "well maybe we shouldnt be in a relationship then"
I regretted it as soon as I said it. I really didnt mean it. I was just mad at him for acting like a jerk. He is really really hurt and said he doesnt even know if i really love him. I do love him and I told him that but he is really hurt and wont talk to me. I apologized but I know it wont make up for what I said. What should I do. I really do love him and I didnt mean I wanted to break up. (link)
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okay, chill. If you say you've apologized then it's time to move to plan B. Send him a cheese pizza with m&ms.The catch is you have to spell the m&ms into a message that says I'm Sorry. Make sure you deliver it to him and do the puppy dog pow when you give it to him.
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volunteergirl
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I've been with my boyfriend 3 years in June. We recently even won the "Cutest Couple" category in Senior Superlatives. A while back, maybe January, we had quite a large fight. It started when we were planning our senior trip to the beach, and I asked if he minded that we slept together in a bed (because we don't have sex, but we do everything else). He said he'd rather not, which was fine, so I simply asked why. He said it didn't "feel right" and that he wasn't ready to share a bed with my overnight, even though we take naps on our couches sometimes. So I said that, and it eventually lead to "I've had a confusing week, I don't want to hurt you", even "I'm not in love with you anymore". We both cried, almost broke up, etc. But I told him to give me another chance, and for a week, we were weird. But after that, things kept getting back to normal, and now, we're happier than we've ever been.
Now, here's the thing.. a few couples that have been dating around the same amount of years we have have been breaking up because they've gotten "bored", and so I tell him often that I don't want that to happen. His answer most of the time is "Yeah, a lot of people don't". Yeah, what the heck? I would think his answer would be "Me either, it won't happen to us" or something along those lines. When I tell him this, he says that should be "implied." Many of his answers to other questions are long these lines, and he tells me they are "implied" too. And another thing- I feel like I always have to say "i love you" first so he will say it back.
I need reassurance a lot, because of the fight we had. I love him more than anything, and he feels the same. Just the way he says those things makes me feel like he doesn't want to say what I think he should at this point in our relationship. Don't get me wrong- we are very much in love and we even talk about getting married every now and then. I just need to be reassured every now and then. I'm sorry if this is confusing. I just need advice- am I worrying way too much, or should these things be something to worry about? (link)
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Hey girl, i admit you should wonder about these things, but don't stress too much about it. After a while just wait and see what happens,see if his attitude changes, and if it doesn't maybe saying i love you and talking about marriage shouldn't be your main priority.
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ok so there was this guy we'll call Jake... and me and jake had been talking for awhile but we like never hung out or anything. maybe once or twice. Jake is a sophomore in college and i'm a junior in high school. anyway.... we stopped talking because he starting going out with another girl from my school but while they were dating he told me he thought he loved me and i was the one and all of this stuff... which scared that crap out of me. so I did the bad thing of kind of leading him on feeding into everything. Well....... one of his best friends, we'll call caleb... is a senior at my school and we recently started talking. I still can't tell for sure if he likes me.. I'm pretty sure he does. We hung out this weekend and I had a blast with him. It was so fun. Jake happened to be there too but didn't say one word to me until we were about to leave. it was werid. so i guess my problem isn't that i'm torn, it's more so I don't know what to do about caleb. I like him, a lot. but it's like sometimes he's so into me and other times he could care less.. i'm so confused. i'm hanging out with him friday.. we're gonna go watch a movie at the drive inn.... so hopefully that goes good.
please please let me know what you think!
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Hey, it sounds to me like you have a big decision to make. When you're with caleb does he make you happier than jake does when you're with him? Who do you have more feelings for? Ask yourself these questions and you will know what to do. Don't worry you have to great guys who like you everything should go over well.
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15/f
i've had bulimia pretty sure for almost 2 years and i've been thinking how my life would be so much better if i didn't do this. I binge and purge and i'm so stupid because i worry about gaining weight then i do that? it's dumb i know but i can't control it. like i ate today then i felt all anxious and didn't feel better until i threw up. i feel ashamed and guilty
i guess i'm not overweight i'm about 5'6", 125 pounds. i want to lose weight and i know this isn't the way but i can't bring myself to actually say it. i'm worried if i stop i'll gain weight. i don't know what to do.
who and how should i tell someone? (link)
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Hey, this is really serious. You should talk to your mom or guardian about this. You could also talk to a school counselor or even a responsible adult you trust. You should probably go see a doctor to get a check up and tell them about your eating disorder.
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volunteergirl
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but i gave up my friends for her and now i don't have any and all the girls hate me cause she wanted me to be mean to them so i did just for her (link)
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Okay, first relax. You have to think is this the girl you really want to be with. Someone who makes you do things you don't want to do and she doesn't even do or give anything for you. Talk to your friends and apologize to all the people you hurt while dating this girl. If she gets mad then you need to explain to her how you feel.
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me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 years and i love her sooo much you know it wasn't that first sight love it was that first kiss that made my world change just that first kiss and all of a sudden she doesn't love me for no reason after she has done everything bad to me and all i have done is love her, her friends hate me and put things in her head all the time, i just want to take her and leave and be alone and happy forever just the 2 of us and just start a new life i love her and i dont know what to do i have done everything she has asked lost firends everything you can think possible and now i have nothing but her i just don't know what to do (link)
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Hey, the first thing you need to do is step back and look at the bigger picture. You have given everything up for her, but what has she given up for you. Girls will come and go, but your friends are there forever. Maybe she's just not ready to make a big commitment. This probably means she isn't the one for you. I could be wrong, but only time will tell.
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my boyfriend has had 3 other girlfriends besides me and has slept with 6 other girls. this boy is my first serious boyfriend and the first and only person i have ever slept with. now, i know i cant do anything about all the people he has been with but the other day i was in his room looking through some pictures that he had in a basket and i found many many pictures of all his old girlfriends. there were ones from his prom and when he was very young and even sexual pictures with his first girlfriend. it really hurt me that he still had these and i that i saw them. i dont like thinking that he has been with other people the same way he has been with me. it hurts a lot.
he also slept with another girl while we were dating and it just really hurts whenever i have to be reminded of things like that. i just wanted to know how to get passed all these other girls. (link)
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Hey girl, you should talk to him about it. I know you might think this sounds really conry, but he can't help unless he knows what is wrong. Also it's not good to keep things botteled up inside. Just remember he is with you not those other girls. He loves you not those other girls.
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okay so i have only a month left to figure out what im going to get my boyfriend for our one year anniversary. any suggestions? maybe you can tell me what you and your boyfriend did for yours. please nothing like make a scrapbook or stuff like that. i actually want to buy him something amazing. thanks in advance
peace. (link)
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Hey girl,your one- month anniversary is something special and it should be cherished. It symbols that you two love each other if you would be willing to stay together that long.Some gifts you could get your boyfriend are some nice cologne, some tickets to his favorite band, or a really nice wallet.
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16/f I'm not really into the whole "dating-in-highscool" thing. I've seen plenty of guys that I thought were "cute" or even "hot" but I've never persued it because I wanted to stay focused with school. Then enter this one jerk, let's call him "Scott". Well Scott is the epitome of the playboy that's obnoxious, rude, and all the girls line up to date him. I dispise him! However after one of our arguements (which is me questioning his IQ level and him making a comment back), I noticed how blue his eyes were. At first it didn't hit me that after it was all over I was still thinking about him. Now all I do when I see him is try not to smile when he looks at me. How do I shake this? I need to focus on more important things, but it's becoming a problem considering I'm writing for advice.
Thanks,
FrustratedLittleTeenager (link)
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Hey frustrated little teen, maybe your heart is telling you something. It's telling you that you might like him. You might be into the whole bad boy thing and just not no it yet. Give it a chance, just let your feelings flow. Don't hold back.
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volunteergirl
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k i want to do some thing cute for my one month only cuz hes my first real bf end same with him so any cute but simple and not expensive gift for him??? thanks (link)
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Hey one month, you should get him a customized t-shirt. You should put I heart _______ or something he likes.
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volunteergirl
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okay so theres this reallyyyyy hot kid whos ive been obsessed about for like ever and now im finally friends with him. one problem, i have a boyfriend and we've been going out for almost 6 months. btw im in 10th and theyre in 11th. umm and i really llike my bf but idk now im kinda feeling like restrained and i cant do anything if you know what i mean, cause this really hot kid thats im now friends with i think likes me. so idk what to dooooo! someone please help me (link)
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Hey girl, I know this is tuff, but you can't just dump your boyfriend because you like this new kid. Stay friends with this 11th grader and when the time is right you will know what to do.
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so when i was really young, i used to play with this kid and his family.
that was when i was like 3, and this im talking about is about 2 years older than me.
so today this kid comes with his dad, and my parents were like "come meet this kid, you used to play with him when you were younger"
and i went to go re-meet them.
and the way his SON greeted me was like i had known him for a long time.
okay well maybe i have known him for a long time, but not really... since we didnt really remember each other.
so i he like opened his arms and gave a hug.
it was really nice.
and his personality and everything was just really attractive.
i havent stopped thinking of him since.
but i didnt even really know him.
whats going on!??!?! (link)
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Hey love stoned, maybe the reason you liked him is because when you saw him it triggered something from your childhood memory. Even though you don't know him that well, your parents know him and obviously think he is a good kid. So maybe you should get to know him a little more.
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ok so my mom went to eat lunch with me at school and wen she left this kid in my class was like "ok 2 things, first wat kind of ame is della?"(thats my moms name)"and second she had a fat butt!" and i felt like i wanted to punch him wat should i do? (link)
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Hey girl, don't worry. Kids say stuff like this all the time, don't make it bigger than it needs to be. If he talks about your mom that just makes him insecure about his mom. Relax, don't take it personal.
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i live in arkansas, and we have A TON OF WIND! We've been having quite a lot latley. And I take an hour to fix my hair the way that I like it, and then with all the wind it gets ruined. is there anyway i can keep it from getting messed up? would hairspray work? i would use hair spray, but i dont want my hair to get stiff adn everything. i have short thin layers, and im growing my hair out again, so, whenever i have thick layers...will it still curl and everything like it does now?
thanks for everyones help! (link)
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Hey, this sounds like a hair stylist question. So maybe you should ask your hair stylist and if you don't have one, you should ask one who lives near you. Sorry, but i hope this helps.
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volunteergirl
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help me please....i "re-used" an email adress from an old hi5 account and now i can't log in...it is posible to have again my hi5 account?
I am from Romania (link)
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Hi. I don't think it will let you use the exact same account, they may have deleted it, but you can try the same old one. If you might want to make a new one. I hope this helps.
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