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feeling..disrespected? idk
16/f/sophomore
im trying to make friends this year but it's so hard! i dont have a "best friend", a person who i think is the coolest person to hang out with ever and who thinks the same about me, like other girls & guys with my grade. thats bc i used to be really shy but now im pretty much over shyness and i want to be social.
i know i should be nice & talkative but i feel like its HARD because i dont want to become one of those people who are so OBVIOUSLY trying to be friends with someone else and spend all their time talking to them when that person doesnt like them. also it seems like veryone already has their own best friends, a crew that they can hang out with at ANYTIME. while i have friends in 5 groups and out of 10 years only 5 of my friends have come over to my house, and i can count the number of times they have come over on my hands. and i never get invited ANYWHERE..to the beach...to parties (maybe once every 6 months)..just to HANG OUT..im always at home on saturdays and im too embarassed to admit it to anyone. =[
keep in mind my family is kind of hard up right now money-wise so i cant just throw parties.
I KNOW im NOT a boring person and i KNOW im not annoying compared to other people i know and i KNOW im not like a social outcast who nobody talks to, i have a lot of friends, a few good, long-time friends who are in their own groups, but no BEST friends. i guess i just need advice on how to make friends. anything youve got.
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hey ok since i have always been one of the popular guys that everyone knows i have met alot of shy people and i never make them feel like an outcast unfortunatly not eveyone is like that so just be yourself because you were shy not many people might have noticed you but you know youre cool you dont have to force yourself to fit in because theirs no need for that . join programs,in school , sit down with diffrerent people and be yourself
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Hey girl. First up nobody can just tell you how to make friends, you have to be yourself. I know that is so corny and i'm sure people tell you that all the time. That just means they're right. Just try to be outgoing. As far as throwing parties and the whole money issue, i have a suggestion. Go out and buy a 24 pack of cupcakes and go up to people you don't know and introduce yourself. Ask them if they want a cup cake. Just try and make small talk.
Thanks and remember to come back for more advice.
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hi, I'm Jaclyn.
I used to be the same vvay.. Everyone i knevv had that one friend they could go to for anything.. and vvhat i did.. vas tried hanging out vvith ppl that my friends hung out vvith or at a dance start dancing vvith some random people.My school has the bovvling alley vvhich is like our place to go on fridays.. and ive met tons of friends there.. try doing a sport.. Me & my bestfriend Brittney started being friends by Cheerleading.. novv she is connected to my hip. Myspace alvvays helps too.. try sending someone a friend request and picture comments. =]
let me kno if things vvork out.
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I know what its like. I had the same thing happen to me when I moved. I went into a new high school, everyone had there best friends and I had friends in other cliques. I sat alone with a few other people. But I know how difficult it can be. I started making friends in my classes. I would start making conversations with some new people. Talk about TV shows, what's going on in class, things that happen in school (gossip), or homework. Keep trying because sometimes you will become friends with someone you never expected. Keep trying it doesn't hurt to talk to someone or go a little out of your way to make a new friend.
I hope this can help. Let me know what happens. I dealt with this a lot in high school.
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It is certainly difficult to try to redefine yourself especially in High School but I do not think it is impossible. The good thing is that you have recognized that you have changed and want to keep changing and growing as a person. You did not mention if you are part of a club or sporting group. I think that joining a club would be one of the easiest ways to try to make new friends, be social, and because you have something in common you can use that as "springboard" to joining in activities outside the club setting. By joining a club or sport you have an opportunity to show people how much you have changed and that you are no longer shy. Also most school clubs do not cost very much if anything to participate in.
With summer coming you may also want to consider volunteering for a group that you know will have other classmates involved.
Good luck. I know you will have a chance to shine.....
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