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ok, so theres this guy at my school who has a girlfriend of ten months...long time...i know...but he ALWAYS flirts with me...ALWAYS....everyone can tell we like eachother and hes not the player/cheater type but i dont really think he wants to be with his gf anymore. shes really ugly (not to be mean) and im way prettier than her..i dont mean to sound like a bitch but its true....but our class is going on this trip to a camp next monday (v-day)...shes not going...and the trip is 2hrs away and were taking a charter bus...and he was like "oh wanna sit with me on the bus" and its the kind of trip where everyone is bringin their pillow n blanket on the bus...so i dont know whats gonna happen...and we have this assignment to do friday and he was like OH DO U WANNA BE MY PARTNER?? and he always comes over to my desk and like plays w/my hand or something..hes just flirty....does it sound like he likes me? do you think anything will happen on the bus?? (link)
He might like you, but then again, he might still have mixed feelings just because he still has his girlfriend. I would see if he breaks up with her. And then, if he doesn't and he still flirts with you, ask him what's going on with his girlfriend. Don't want to get in a cat fight that can be stopped.


hey well me and my g/f have been goin out for like 5 months and i dont kno wat to get her for valentines day..i got herr a bear and a heart necklace already for x-mas ...plz help..
i rate high... (link)
Maybe a rose and a cute heart shaped chocolate? Or a bracelete.


Why do sum people always say G-d insted of God!?It's only bad wen u use His name as a swear word!So its ok to say God if ur not swearing!it's soo annoying! (link)
Some people don't feel comfortable using the full name. It's their choice, just leave it at that.


My friend and I are going to dress up as a nerd/geek for twin day at our school. We can't decide what to wear. So far we have black glasses with tape, and suspenders that have Ninja Turtles on them and another one has Spider man on them. What else should we wear. We are girls so not "guy" type of stuff. (link)
Maybe tight, dark pants/capris. Just because that's that the 'nerds' at my school wear. And uhm, maybe a tee shirt with a weird slogan on it?


heyy everyone. ok i was wondering if a guy is 18 years old and your 15 is it illegal to go out as boyfriend and girlfriend? because theres this really hott college guy and i really like him a lot but hes like i cant ask her out because its illegal. thanks yall! (link)
You can date, but if you guys have sex and your parents or something find out and they aren't happy about it, or later you regret it: it could hold up in court as rape. So just be careful, and don't push him, because he's the one that could get in trouble for it.


there's this guy i like but all my friends sort of think he's ugly. i really don't know what to think about how good he looks. anyways he like gives me mixed signals and sometimes acts like a jerk. i am way too scared to tell him i like him cause i know he doesn't like me. what should i do? i really am desperate. i have to say i'm in junior high and haven't dated once. (link)
Don't go for a guy that treats you sorta mean some times because you're desperate. You'll do better. If your friends think he's ugly but you don't think so, it's not a big deal. They don't have to date him if they don't like his looks. But if he cuts the cruel act, go for it.


ok i have a girlfriend and i think she's cheating on me with my best friend but she said she has no idea what i'm talking about!!!! and her best friend said she's dumping me on valentines day,and he best friend she is really cute.but i'm dumping my girlfriend.SHould i ask the really cute girl out and should i give her the valentines day present i rate high so help (link)
If you don't trust her: dump her. It's not worth it! But don't go for her friend, adding insult to injury until you're sure the friend isn't talking trash about her 'friend' to try to get you. Once your sure (if that happens tomorrow or something) don't rush to her. Give it a bit of time.


my friend is being a real jerk every time i try to be nice to her we always get into a big argument about stuff i am worried about with her she is moving and i really dont want her to go but every time i say i dont want u to go cause i think it is a bad idea cause if her mom leaves the boyfriend or visversa she wont no where to go and i am really worried about that
plz help (link)
It seems like alot of stuff is going on at home that's probably stressing her out or bothering her. I wouldn't try to play shrink and ask her how she feels, just say hey and leave it at that. She'll come to you if she want's to talk. And don't hurt yourself by letting her be cruel to you.


my boyfriend is so attached to me. he walks me to every class he sits with me everyday at lunch andtalks to me on tehphone every night. How am i supposed to miss him if hes always there with me.What can i do to make him not so attached to me? I want to be happy and excited when i see him. (link)
Tell him exactly what you just typed: how are you supposed to miss him if he's always there? You really like him, but a tiny bit of space is cool too!


I'm 13, 5'3' and I weigh 104 lbs. How do I know If i have a fast metabolism, I do gain weight, but not that much, and i am skinny. How do I know if I really do have a fast metabolism? And besides not letting you gain weight, what other advantages does having a fast metabolism have? thanx I rate (link)
Having a fast metabolism means you digest food fast and don't gain weight quickly. It helps because, well, you don't gain weight quickly. You probably have a pretty fast metabolism.


People keep making up rumors about me and I dont know who it is and I want it to stop. I could just start a huge fist fight but thats not the way I want it settled. What do I do? (link)
People have started all these rumors about me as well. First, realise that by not being lame and spreading rumors, you're way above them. Second, realies that you shouldn't waste your time worring. Ignore them: they have nothing else to do but spread rumors? That's sad. If they don't get a response from you. They should stop.


Alright, theres this guy and we were talking and i was like what are you doing this weekend? and he was like nothing.. then he was like you? i was like nothing.. then i was like do you wanna do something this weekend? he was like yeah sure! so we are going to the movies and we are inviting friends and all but.. he seems like his is into me and stuff but on his profile it says "looking for a valentine" i mean hes always like i cant wait to go to the movies so i can hold your hand or i cant wait to go to the movies so i can kiss you and stuff.. WHAT DOES THIS MEAN!??! (link)
He could have forgotten to change it so it doesn't read Looking for a valentine. But if you feel uncomfortable: ask him.


Ok. There is this girl at our school and like 2 monthes ago, i got the same shoes as her. Now, yesterday she wore these shoes to school and my friend and I alreayd have them but we were just too scared to wear them. So anyways, should we wear them to school or what, beacuse this girl gets mad whenver people :copy: her. What should we do?! (link)
Wear them. You didn't copy her and if she confronts you about it, tell her you bought it two months ago and she's the one copying, if anyone. And just walk away. Why get in a fight about it, there's probably a lot of people who have the same shirt, or shoes, or pants, and if she wants to start a fight about it, tell her how stupid she's being.


I think I'm in love with my guy friend. He's really shy though, so it's hard to know if he likes me back, but I'm pretty sure he does, because of the way he acts sometimes. Anyway, I asked him today if he still liked his ex from a while back (just to see because they're still friends) and he gave me a deffinate "no" and after that kind of hung around wherever I was. I'm thinking about asking him tomorrow if he wants to exchange gifts or something on Valentine's day? Should I? and if so, what should I get him, and how do I let him know that I REALLY like him? (sry this is long, but I am SO lost!) (link)
If you think he likes you, go for it. Don't push the Valentines thing with him, because in all honesty: it might be better to start things off an a day without all the pressure of Vday. Giving someone something doesn't express how much you love them (unless it's an engagement ring) so write him a poem or a card or something and try a box of whatever candy he likes.


my best friend is the one i love. it is so hard for me to go near him knowing he doesn't love me. is it because my age? were 2 years younger? we go over each other's house all the time...and all we do is LAUGH! and when ever i tell my other friend's about it they tell me i should just ask him out. should i? or should i wait a little bit longer till we a bit closer? please help (link)
You sound pretty close. Make sure he doesn't have a crush on anyone else before you put yourself out there, though.


I want to know different people opinions on christian people. Please share your opinion and express how you feel about christians today. Personal stories are welcome, and any experiences you had with christians/christianity. In general, I just want to get an idea of how most people view christians today. Thank you and I'll rate everyone! (link)
I'm not christan. I have been living in a christian home all my life, however. I have a few problems with it. First: my friend has a very controlling dad. And he's baptist. And it's lent time. And her dad is making them fast. So her mom has to bring her food to school every day.

Second: My cousin married into a fundimentalist christan family. They forced her to drop out of school and get pregnante. My cousin suffers with bulimia. The baby (upon last check up) has no brain. The doctors recomend an abortion, but her family is making her keep the baby to term. She is not healthy enough to carry it. But their version of christanity says that you go straight to hell for having an abortion.

There you go. Alright, hope I didn't offend anyone.


13-M----OK my problem is that im not gonna have
n e 1 for valentines day! this may not seem so big to everyone else but my new years resolution was to get a real g/f by then. Im not extremly unpopular, its just everyone thinks im wierd. so someone halp me find a resolution for this! (link)
If it's your resolution: you still have 10 months! I woudlnt' stress about it. When you find someone (single) that you really like, ask them when you want to. Not just because it's Valentines day.

Hm, too much of a wuss? I'm sorry. Start off being friends, then it might be easier to talk to her. It's not very cool when you get asked out by someone for someone else.


i have the abilty to get good grades and i already know that. the problem is that i can't seem to always do my homework and focus on my classwork. i need ways to help me focus and do my homework right when i get home. (link)
In class: try to write down the things the teacher writes on the board (not all of it...unless you really want to, but key words) just so you keep focusing on what you're supposed to be learning.

At home: turn on quiet music just so you have some background noise, and do your work in small parts. So if you want to watch TRL or something at five, start working at four. Then you have a reason for a break. But don't take a break before that, or you'll loose focus.


im 13f n ive been going out with my boyfriend for almost three weeks now and we still havent kissed. he kisses me on the cheek all the time but thats it. is this going too slow? (link)
Nope, but if you want to kiss him: you start it.


ook well i'm a 14/f and i've been really confused about this guy .. i used to like him for a LONG time but i finally got over him cuz he never wanted to go out with me and anywayss .. lately hes been sittin on the bus with me and like lying on my lap .. lol & the other day he started tickling me and held my hand the rest of the bus ride home .. soo the next day he acted like nuthin happend and today he sat with this girl that likes him .. so i'm not sure if hes just being a flirt or what ??? can someone give me some suggestion .. thanx ! (link)
See how he acts tomorrow: flirting, or just acting like nothing happened. If he acts like nothing happened again, he may have just been flirting. If sitting with the girl that liked him was a one time event: he may just see her as a friend.




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