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I'm Erin and I am 18 years old, I turn 19 in May. In the past year, I've moved over eleven times, I have experienced all of the lows life has to offer, and I have given my advice to many people I have come accross. I helped them in the past, so why can't I help you? advice
less than two weeks ago i shaved my stomach for the first time. and i've done it everyday since then.. except a couple days ago i realized there was alot of small bumps leading from the bottom of where my bra would be to the top of my bellybutton. and i don't exactly know if it is acne or razor burn. i've put some acne wash on it, but they wont go away. they don't hurt, they are just annoying and unattractive.
can someone tell me how to get rid of them?
OK my best suggestion would be to stop shaving your stomach for a little while, you need the hair to grow back and the skin to relax. You should only shave every 3 days or so.
If you want you can try exfoliating the skin VERY lightly, thiis housld help the hairs grow normally again. You could also put aome aloe vera on the bumps to soothe the irritated skin
Try making sure the next time you shave that your stomach is wet, you could also use, sensitive shaving cream.
Apply a light layer of moisturiser after you shave.
kat,i looked at the question about brown blood on a nother girls question, and it said old blood, wellw hat if it is on the tampon also, not like when i pee tho? is that still normal?
Yes it is normal, when the blood flow starts to get thin, it can turn brown and it can also be on the tampon. This usually occurs towards the end of the period. It might only last a day or so. It's nothing to worry about.
Ok i took some advise and he said that he dosne't like me like that and I want him to like me he said if i was a 8th grader he would go out with me and so i dont know what i should do should i saty away from him or keep talking to him or what please help me
I, personally would keep talking to him, but I would just stay friends for the time being because you don't want to keep pushing the 'closer' subject all the time. Wait til you REALLY get to know him and when you're in the 8th grade, try again then. But who knows, once he fully gets to know you, he might change his mind after all.
Good Luck
(not sure if this is in the right section sorry if not)
Have you ever done somthing so bad it grinds away at your consciounce and mind for days on end? i have that right now because i did something i probably shouldnt have and now i have that sort of manic nerveous feeling because i know that no one will find out if i dont say, but i want to say so badly to a freind just so i can ease some pressuere or somthing but i dont know if i can trust any one i know except for people i dont know koz i know they wont tell any one and then it wont get passed around... i think i just found out what paranoia feels like. aah hell, any one got any tips to cope with this sort of thing i'v been like it for like 3 days now
O.....K...... well... um.. I'll try to get my head around all of this but I'm not quite sure if there is one secret or two.
The thing is. There are always people to talk to. People like us for example. I don't judge people for one and I don't really know anyone here cause there are no names given, so you don't have to worry abuot exposing any secrets.
The best advice I could give you is to calm down and re-asses the situation. try to think logically. I don't know the full story so I can't REALLY guide you on this. And always remember that a problem shared is a problem halved and you'd be surprised at how many people have experienced the same thing. Sometimes it helps just to talk to a complete stranger. Remember, we judge ourselves the harshest.
I really hope I helped... I'm confused lol.
i need some good books to tide me over this spring break. what are you guys currently reading? i like almost everything.
OK. Well I'm a bookworm myself. I can give you a list of books I've enjoyed over the past few years.
Fantasy: Artemis Fowl - 1, 2, 3 and 4... all of them good. You don't have to read them all.
Drama: Flowers in the Attic. If you're into strange, warped and twisted books. This one is great. I enjoyed it.
Sci Fi: The sphere.
Chick's books: Sisterhood of the travelling pants.
Sad: Torn Apart.
They're just a few that I can think of off the top of my head.
Hope that helped.
Here's a picture of me: http://a307.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/83/l_7c0651dd72787afeae8f061015ef5282.jpg
I'd really like to update my look, in terms of make-up.
I was wondering what kinds of make-up I could use - I was thinking of pastel colors, since that's the style for this season...
Any ideas?
Thanks
OK. Personally I think you look great just the way you are but if you want to spice things up a bit I suggest that you get a different hair style, one with all different layers, it'll volumise it and it'll frame your face nicely.
Secondly, if you want your eyes to stand out, very carefully run eyeliner from the inner corner of your eye to the outer, lift it up a bit at the end of the eye, it'll look catlike and sexy. Thirdly, get the eyeliner and lightly put it along the bottom lashes.
If you want to use pastel colours, put a tiny bit of it along the bottom line of your eye, in the corner and along the top lash, just above the eyeliner, because your eyes are green, I'd suggest a light violet purple. Followed by mascara and you're done.
PS. I hope this helps.
are you supposed to shave before you have sex?
You don't HAVE to shave before you have sex. It depends on what the person you're having sex with likes. You also shouldn't have to do anything you're uncomfortable with. YES you can shave before you have sex but NO it's not compulrosy to do so. Just be comefortable and have fun!
me and my bf were texting as usual and i noticed my text messages stopped sending. So im like "well okay his battery probably died" So i wait a while, then comes night, HERES MORNING.
Still no sign of him, what could have possibly happened??
Whatever you do, don't panic just yet. Sometimes people lose their phones or their phones die and they don't have their charger. it could be a number of things like that, or he's fallen asleep. If there's no txts by the end of the day, give him a call, if he has a landline try that, or even leave him an email.
good day i was just wondering if you could tell me, maybe whats causing this or where i may go to find out. i know i shuold go to the doctor and have it checked out but i just dont want to. when i masterbate it usually ends with me having stomach pains and somtimes it causes me to bleed.
This could be a number of things... sadly most of them are serious, as I'm not a doctor I can't say what it is, but my best guess would be a urine track infection. I've had one before and it caused me to bleed when I went to the toilet and it gave me abdominal pain, however you could be damaging your insidess as well. Try to relax your body, stop masturbating and book an appointment for the doctor as soon as possible because it needs to be treated. The doctor will know what it is and don't be shy about it because they deal with these sorts of things on a daily basis.
so for as long as i can remember,my arms have always gotten red. like blotches and they are bright red. i hate wearing short sleeves because everyone always asks "whats wrong with your arms" "why are your arms all red" "are you okay" it will go away after awhile but ive tried running cold water on it. blowing on it and it doesnt work, and they are really hot
You might have some sort of skin irritation. You could go to the pharmacist and ask them for their opinion, they are usually pretty good with skin conditions and it's cheaper than the doctor. If they think it's serious then they will tell you to see a doctor anyway, so there really isn't much to lose.
Personally I would suggest you put on some hyrdocortisone cream, it helps treat skin irritations, it drops the inflamation and it should soothe your arms.
Hope this helps
I volunteer at the hospital and there's a new person there wokring at the same time and place as me and same room. It's been pretty akward there since we never talked but i'm hoping that we could so it won't be so akward and lonely like in there? But what can i say? I might ask a quetion like "what school do you go to" but that mihgt be really random and then it'll be silent afterwards and maybe even more akward.
There's a good chance that the person you work with is shy. In this case, try opening up with a casual comment, maybe something about the weather or ask them what made them want to be a voulenteer. or, start out with why you wanted to be one, then ask them. The best thing you can do is try. Try walking up and introducing yourself, say you're shy and you didn't really know what to say and just see what happens, who knows, you could end up being good friends, but if you don't break the silence, you'll never know. If it doesn't work then try again the next day. what have you got to lose?
okay, so i have this huge fear that i have a major case of B.O.
like, no matter what i do, i always end up sweating wicked bad at the end of the day and i can smell myself.
its kind of embarrasing, and i really don't know what to try.
do you think it might be a doctor-type thing to go too?
or ist here a stronger deodarent i can try?
i already tried arrid - extra dry
and BAN.
help, please?
Try wearing clothes that breathe really well for a start, a light cotton top should help because it'll keep everything at a regular heat and your skin can breathe which won't make you sweat as much.
Try a really dry deodorant after you get out of the shower. Make sure you dry yourself thoroughly.
Also... I've heard that putting a little bit of baby powder on after you get out of the shower helps absorb the sweat.
Keep a can of deodarent on you, when you're feeling self concious, spray some.
So when I told my friend that I am bi and that I like her more than a friend. She said that she was fine with it but doesn’t feel the same way because unsure of her sexuality. I knew I had to move on. That was last year.
This year she seems close to me. Like flirting and close. When school started at college she asks me when I have class. I told her I have two English classes on Monday and Wednesday and Friday. She asks me to meet her at the front of the stairs at 2:00pm when the bus drops me off. I start class at 3:00pm. She been doing this lately and I ask her why she is here early because her classes starts at 5:30pm. She said “because I want to spend time with you we haven’t talk” which we do every other weekend with our friends. Then she been try to grab my attention. Like when we are talking just the two of us its fine till one of our friends come by to talk to us she seem to hit me playfully when I make a joke and then playfully argue with me. Last time I push her (light push) cause she hit me and she said “hey why you do that for? I been do nice to you” she crosses her arms and look away from me and I said sorry “you better be” she said and hits me again. When we were walking together she seems to walk close to me side by side. Our hands brush against one another twice. I pulled away but she got closer. Last time she asks me when I work and I said tomorrow. Then at work she text me “when are you off?” I reply soon at 8 why? She didn’t reply till next morning. I ask her “why do you want to know when I work?’ she reply “I am just curious” but she kept bugging me when I be off work and when I have work. I told her she is confusing and she reply “your confusing” I told her she was a stocker and she reply “your point?” when I ask her face to face why she wanted to know when I am off she looked away from me and said “because I was curious.”
She seems flirty and she closes to me. I mean she will lean on me and show body language. But her verbal language is different “when I get married” or “if I have a boy friend” or “I like you, as a friend”. Its just she seem her body is reading “I want you” but her voice is saying “you’re my friend”. last time in front of our friend she said out load “she’s my ducky” (ducky is my nickname.) it sounded like she was claming me.
I like her for 6 years and I ask her before do you like me more than a friend? She shook her head no. I ask her that last year because she got jealous that I met a guy at a party (nothing happen). She said she was jealous but last time I ask her to explain herself she ignore the question but answer “I was being over protective”
What am I to do?
She is confusing me.
F/21/bi
Well to me it seems like your friend is in denial. Sometimes actions speak louder than words. The fact theat the body language seems flirty and wanting is a very strong hint. She might be saying she doesn't like you because she might not be all that ready to admit it to you. Close friends can often develope feelings for one another in a more than 'friendly' way, this is normal. She might just need a little bit of time to figure it out. The fact that she got jealous is interesting because jealousy is one of our main drives and believe me, when someone is jealous, it generally means something.
Invite her over one night, when you two are alone and having a good time, just much around playfully, if the night progresses into a romance then there you go, there's your answer, just fill the night with opportunities for her to kiss you, if she does, then that's your answer, if she doesn't then maybe she's too shy, but in my OPINION I think she has a thing for you.
so ive tried pretty much every kind of acne wash possible. it seems to work for a couple of weeks, if that, and then i start getting pimples again. and lately, i have begun scarring. so now i have scars AND pimples all the time. does any one know what i can use that will 100% work and keep zits away? and also how do i get rid of scars? thanks so so much!!!
I've gone through the loops trying to find something that works. I found that drinking about 2 litres of water every day was good for flushing out your sistem. There is also a few home techniques that might be able to help.
You need to find a face wash that is PH balanced, that way it will not take the natural oils out of your skin, when the natural oils have been taken out, your skin will naturally want to produce more oil.... you don't want that...
There are some acne moisturisers out there, they keep your skin moisturised while cleansing your skin, it doesn't block your pours and it helps keep the oil balance stable.
Home Remedy: I tried this a few months ago, my skin was HORRIBLE. It sounds funny but it works. Try getting PURE natural honey, no added sugars blah blah blah. Get some aspirin (about 6 tablets). crush all the aspirin and blend it with the honey until it makes a nice paste. Spread it on your skin (wear old clothes cause it can get a little sticky and run a tiny bit). Wait about half an hour and then GENTLY start washing it off with warm water. The aspirin granules will act as an exfoliant as well. This works because Honey helps fight acne causing bacteria, and aspirin helps swelling, you'll notice your skin looks calmer.
As for the scaring... I'd try rosehip oil.
P.S... I used to work in a Pharmacy.
I hope this all helps.
First the crazy story in short.
I was at my Girlfriend's apartment around 4am when suddenly she jumped up, looked at me, and said that sounds like his car. Then came loud knockings at the door of her apartment, and by the knocks alone I felt threatened so I ran to grab my rifle. After I got it I ran into my girlfriend's room I placed a magazine into my gun. Right after he started slamming the other two doors into her apartment, and then came by her bedroom window yelling at my girlfriend to wake up. He start banging on the glass aswell, and after he didn't hear an answer he started to get very mad. He next started yelling things such as get out here punk. Everything he said was pretty stupid, but except for the last words which were you're dead! And then he headed back to the front door, and started kicking it at an attempt to break an entry point. After I herd a crack from part of the door's wooden frame splitting I pulled the action back on my gun, and stood ready to fire aiming at her bedroom door. Fortunately he gave up trying to break in, and then kicked in her living room window. After that he got into his car, and drove away. Her neighbors responded with a call to the police for us, and now this monday I have to appear in court for a preliminary hearing.
What will happen, and how should I be prepared to proceed in it?
A preliminary hearing is an evedencial hearing, it comes after a criminal complaint has been made by the prosecutor.
Just tell the truth, try to stay calm, I know it's a bit daunting but you're not the one at fault. They just want to know how serious everything was. The extent the criminal and civil cause of action will be heard. They need to find out what evidence will be admitted and what else must be done.
You will be fine. You did nothing wrong.
If you want to know more...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Preliminary_hearing
Good luck and let me know how it goes.
im 15 years old. my name is william.
I am a freshman in highschool and for the past year ive been getting into drugs and alcohol very bad. my family doesnt trust me anymore, my friends (who got me into this shit) hate me and fuck with me. one of my best friends just jacked my ipod so that kinda hurt me. i can't get through the day without some pot or beer now, im turning into a complete alcoholic (kinda drunk right now). im ugly, i have very bad back acne, im getting 5 F's in school, no one (my family or friends) trust or like me. I have no one to talk to, i'm always grounded so I have nothing to do. I just want to make my life better, im fucking miserable right now. If I could i'd do better in school, I really try, but I don't get any of the math or science shit. I never did good in school, but 5 F's is outrageous and I need to change it. I try to get new friends, but im always shy and can't start or keep a conversation with anyone at school. I want to change who I am. I want to meet new people. But I can't. I want to get good grades, I want to do good in school and make my family proud, and stay out of drugs/alcohol, but I can't. I'm just that stupid kid that no one likes. maybe i'll just die.
thanks for listening to me, im just kind of venting here but any and all help would be great =]
I've only just started with this advice colums, but I was looking at your 'venting' and I think I MIGHT be able to help you. I was once like you, I watched as I washed my life down the toilet, but now look at me, I'm helping people. Funny huh? Anyway. I know how hard it is to pick back up after you've fallen down so many times. don't be afraid of change, you don't have to be good at science or math, find something you ARE good at it and work on it like nothing else. Use it as a hobby, give it your time, and when you achieve something, you'll feel proud. I hope you do get better because I believe you can, and even just having one person believe in you is enough. Try to stop drinking and smoking (believe me I know it's not that easy) but if you gradually slowly push it out, maybe take up sport or find something you'll love and that way, you could find friends. If you're angry, maybe take up a martial art's class and take it out there, not on your organs. You'll find there ARE people like you out there and you'll find them and make friends... It's never over.
what does it mean to get your cherry popped? do you bleed?
The 'popping of the cherry' phrase relates to when a girl/woman has sex for the first time. There is a thin layer of skin called the hyman, this tears when the penis penetrates the body. Sometimes this can hurt but some people don't feel anything. It is also possible to bleed a little afterwards. These are all normal reactions. If it's your first time, just tell the guy to be gentle, they usually are.
16/f junior in high school
he's 17 senior
so i like this guy. no i really really really like this guy. he's incredibly smart, amazing body, he's got an adorable face and a wonderful personality. he's rich but still chooses to be responsible and make his own money by waiting tables. but...he smokes pot, a lot of it. he might even sell it too. i have one class with him and we sit at opposite ends of the room. i've talked to him once when we both stayed afterschool for something and we listened to some music together on his ipod. it was the first time i had ever talked to him and i was shaking. i was sweating but i had chills. we talked for maybe five minutes but then we both had to leave. a week later in class i asked for his number. we've been texting ever since. some days we text for only a half hour and other days we text all day long. we've both flirted a little and when i pass him in the halls i see him doing a double take as i pass by. he's all i think about. this is the first guy that i've felt an emotional "click" with. the thing is that im the one always texting him. he never texts me. we're both incredibly shy people so that doesnt really help. now that its spring break he mentioned that we could hang out sometime but he's really busy and going all over the place. i want to make this relationship go somewhere because now i think its been about two weeks of texting and making small talk. i swear this guy is my male equivelant...like the male version of me. we have the same sense of humor and personality it amazing. i dont want to come right out with it and say "hey i like you" because well first of all i dont have the guts to do that and second of all i dont want to be that blunt about it. how can i hint that im intrested in him without being overwhelming???
p.s. thanks for listening to me blab about a hot kid
ok, I was in the same situation as you, I was so smitten with a guy who DIDN'T KNOW MY NAME *chuckle* hey, it happens. The thing is, one day he just started talking to me, but I was too shy to do anything about it and, guess what? I lost him in the end cause I never made a move. I learnt my lesson after that. The thing is, if you don't say anything, he'll never know because guys don't pick up on subliminal messages like we do. I know how hard it is to be foward and blunt, but there are some things you can do to pick things up a bit. tell him that you think you should 'hang out' one day. when you're outside of the school environment, it'll be easier to relax. Don't even concentrate about where it's going, JUST HAVE FUN. when the night starts to wind down, you don't have to jump on the guy, just tell him you had a really great time with him and that if he thought the same, you should do it again. P.S. If you give little comments during the night(don't over do it) he'll notice that you're noticing him and it'll leave him thinking a lot of you. Don't be too full on cause you don't want to scare him away. Try to let him lead for a while, you might be surprised.
so when i was in 6th grade going into 7th i did something really stupid.
it resulted in me loosing all my friends.
EVERYONE and i mean EVERYONE found out about it...
i am now 16 and it still hounts me.
like people sitll bring it up
what i did was not murder or naything against the law. just really emabrresing. when anyone says it to me like "u the girl who..." i cry ont he spot.
what can i do? its been like 4 years already and no one forgets it!!! like i cant go anywehre without someone knowing about me.
im scraed to go for a guy bc they wont want me bc of that..
Everyone does embarrassing things every now and again, no matter how bad it is, it'll go away eventually. I know I've done a few things people STILL remember after YEARS but it's all in good fun after a while. Learn how to accept it with a smile and show then you're strong and they'll get bored of it eventually. Just because you do something stupid, it doesn't mean you're a bad person because of it. It'll be something to laugh about in the future. They just need to grow up. Don't let it get you down, and if your friends desert you for it, find people to accept you for the great person you are. and if you're too embarrassed to start socialising to anyone right now, you can always talk to me. I know what it's like when you feel left out and sometimes you do get scared to try and meet a guy, but you WILL meet someone one day that's right with you, you just have to throw yourself out there, you'll never know until you try. Maybe try to find someone that's out of the district so they don't know about it at first, that way you'll get your confidence back.
So i was with this guy for a year and a half and i lost my virginity to him and i fell in love. But we broke up last summer and he hates me because he heard that I cheated on him but i really didnt. He wont talk to me or even listen to his best friend when he tells him that I didnt cheat on him. It has been like 6 months and I have even had a boyfriend since then but I am not over him, he was my first everything. I see him at school and my heart literally stops. What do I do? How to I either get over him or get back with him?
It's always hard getting over someone, it can take a while to get over them too. He isn't listening to his friend, who is telling him that you didn't cheat. He is probably still hurt about it all, being cheated on (in his mind, even though it didn't happen) would hurt. Maybe try again in a little while. If you REALLY want to be with him then I suggest you try to talk to him, even if you write a letter and give it to him, there's a chance he'll read it, this way he won't have to deal with the humiliation of a face to face confrontation and it might make it easier for him to approach you later on. All you can do is say you're sorry and hope he feels the same way. If you still love him like you used to. Go for it and give it all you have and I wish you all the best.