i am a love relations genius. ive got a girlfriend. we have been going out for 4 months and we havent had many disputes. i enjoy playing my guitar and my bass guitar. i enjoy swimming. if you have any questions that need to be answered asap instant message me at styx fan 365. i make friends very easy. i like to listen to punk rock and classic rock. ive helped many people with their love relationships. come on just give me a chance. i love my girlfriend verry much. i have blonde hair and blue eyes. im about 5 foot 8 inches tall and enjoy running on the track team.
Gender: Male
Location: millstadt
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Age: 15
AIM: styx fan 365
Member Since: December 18, 2005
Answers: 41
Last Update: February 24, 2007
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lately me and the boyfriend have been having a lot of problems...a lot of which are over things that shouldn't matter. we've been together for almost four years, and all of this tension is finally getting to me.
my question to you is what do you think i should do? we've tried resolving these arguments and learn from them but there hasn't been any success. it's just like deja vu all over again. i've tried talking to him numerous times, and in the end, everything just turns out the same.
i love the guy, but sometimes i think that it's logical to break up with him. he says to me that he can't handle a "break", so what am i to do? i want to stay and work it out, but it seems sometimes that i'm the only one putting effort into improving this relationship... (link)
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i would try to stay away from him for awhile and let things calm down. i really would hate to her you 2 break up because you have been going out for 4 years. he needs to try to improve your relationship too. hope everything turns out all right, styxfan365
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13/f/oh ok so i am going to have a date with my boy friend and i dont know how to signal that he should make a move i feel like i am makeing all the moves and i know hes comfortable he doesnt seem nervous and i like him so much and i dont know what to do we are watching a movie some time this week at my house thanxs (link)
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i would suggest putting your arm around him, if he gets the signal the two of you will be kissing in no time. if he doesnt get the signal, just kis him onthe cheeck. good luck.
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ok i really need help ok theres this guy that my friend talk to saying that i like him and she said that he said that he likes me two but than i see him flirting with my friend that talk to him and he flirts with other people and i even hinted that i like him and shit and dont get wrong he flirts with me two but i always feel like hes giving me mixed signals and i need help pleaze im lost (link)
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im a guy so i know that guys just like flirting with girls. he probubly likes you so have your friends ask him out for you if he doesnt ask you out.
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My boyfriends staying the night tonight, and we're exchanging Christmas gifts, I'm extremely scared, because what if I don't like something he gets me? How am I supposed to react? Thanks. ♥ (link)
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remember its not the gift that counts but the thought that counts. just act like you like it even if you dont. good luck remember its the thought that counts.
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ok im 13/f and theres this guy that i really like we'll call him bob. i think he knows that i like him but im not sure. i love hugging ppl and when i hug most guys to me it seems like im hugging an older brother. but when i hug bob he naturally puts his arms around my waist. he compliments me about stupid stuff sometimes but..i dont know!!please help! thanks in advance!! (link)
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ok its simple cause im a guy. it seems to me its obvious he likes you. next time your hugging ask him out by wispering in his ear.
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so my guy asked me out on MYSPACE...
and now we dont even see eachother..
my ? is how do i ask him to hang out.
FAST PLEASE
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you just ask him if hes doing something on the day you r doing something and if he isnt then ask him if he wants to come too.
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hey i really like this one guy and when it comes to talking to him and hugging him, i turn red and i get nervous. he asked me last week online who i like and i said him and he said " like me enough to kiss me?" and i said yeah. and he has been bugging me about it in school ever since. i am too scared to because i dont know if he likes me back. his best friend is saying he has mixed feelings for me. i really want to kiss him, but i always back out. is there anyway i can with out backing out?
Thanks,
Steph (link)
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its simple. ask him to a dance and then kis him there thats what my girlfriend and i did. durring a slow dance just as him if he wants to kiss, if he says no, dont let that stop you.
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what is the youngest that you, or anyone you know has had sex? im scared my sister in 6th grade is sexual active, and so i was wondering if thats normal? thanks (link)
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that is way too young. im 14 and i havent even thought bout doing it with my girlfriend so that is not normal. you first need to be posotive that she is sexually active, then if she is, tell your parents.
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ok there is this chick and she hates my guts cuz she thinks i was saying stuff about her bestfriend!(i didnt)!and she absoulutley hated this one guy but as soon as she found out that i liked him she was all over him an dnow they r going out and she doesnt even like the guy!wat should i do do i tell him that she is just using him!(now all her friends are rubbing it in my face that the 2 of them are going out)wat do i do
plzz answer asasp!!!
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i would go up to him and try to explain, even if this means telling him you like him. good luck!
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wow guys, im madly in love. theres this boy at my school this year and the second i saw him i was in love.. i just dunno what to do! like at this activity night thing we had at school.. all i was thinking was "wheres robby.. is he here?" and my friends were like whats up with you?? the problem is he would never ever ever like me. he is in my math class and he jokes around with girls and stuff but he acts like if he even said something to me it would be embarrsesing to be seen talking to me! well i admit once when he made a joke (not talking to me) i giggled and he looked at me and said something else funny. oh wow he acknolwedged me once. ok back to activity nioght... i finally saw him, and he saaw me but he didnt say anything he looked away...my heart broke all i wanted to do was say "hey robby" and smile but you know.. hes one of those "tough guys" who doesnt do that kind of stuff in front of everyone.. hes so funny though!!!! oh yeah by the way he has a gf but you know its one of those relationships that last like a 2 or 3 weeks. they dont even talk to each othher. HOW CAN I FIND OUT WHAT HE FEEL ABOUT ME OR HOW CAN I TELL HIM!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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if hes one of those popular jerks i wouldnt even waste my time. if he is and he did go out with you he would probubly break your heart within a month. if he isnt a jerk id have one of your friends ask him for u. good luck.
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So basicly I am head over heals for this guy.. and I saw him the other day and was all over him and everythign and we did stuff and all that stuff.. we basicly cut off the relationship thing awhile ago due to a fight but i cant help him I want him for myself and I dont want anyone else touching him! WHAT SHOULD I DO!? (link)
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i say you should ask him out. another thing to keep in mind is dont love him too much or you will push he limits and he will get uncomfortable. just go for it! you have nothing to lose.
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i would really like futher help from you. i needing as much advice as possible. im so stressed out figuring out what to do and which choice is right. its not easy to choose. what if i choose wrongly and the person i turned my back to refuse to take me. i m scared to leave my boyfriend and there are many reasons for that (link)
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i know its gonna be hard but someone is gonna get their heart broken one way or another. now that i think about it wait till you are ready and then keep in mind who you think will treat you better, who you love more, and who do you think would break your heart if you did go out with them and then they dumped you(who ever you pick for this is probubly the person who you love most. i need help too. my girlfriend wants to make out with me but last night was the first time we ever kissed each other and we have been going out for 4 months. part of me says make out but the other part says its too early. what do you think?
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Ok, skip the whole. "oh my god, you are so stupid for breaking his heart" stuff. I just need help, I know what I did was wrong.
Ok, first off. I'm trying to get my ex back. I dumped him for another guy, who turned out to be an ass, and i realized what i did was wrong. i miss him a lot and i would do anything to have him back. I have talked to him about this before and he said it was not going to work out. since then we have been good friends, but now im starting to like him again, and he knows. he told me to call him on december 23rd when he gets new minutes on his phone so we can talk about it and i can tell him why i want him back so badly. he is afraid to get back together because he doesn't want me to break his heart again, and i swore on my life i wouldnt. because i won't. i just really miss him and like i dont know if he wants me back or not. im not afraid to call him, just afraid that its going to be a blunt "NO" answer. but why would he make me wait that long for a simple "NO"?
If anyone can help, it would be greatly appreciated. thank you! i give 5s if anyone helps me. (link)
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ive ve been dumped by my g/f 4 another guy and when she realized what she had done she wanted me back. all i can say is you need to treat him nice if you 2 do start going out again. i would probubly teel him,"im sorry i broke your heat and i have realized what i have done wrong. all i want is to have you back again because without you im am not whole. i love you alot and i want to know if you will go out with me." that should work. send me a reply if you decide to use it and let me know how it turns out.
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In the last 15 months since my bf has been with his gf, he has poured out his feelings for me, came over, talked smart about wanting to "do me", mentioned dumping his gf 5 months into their relationship, wanted me to call him, wanted me to come to his work, ditched the 1 he so-called "loves" to hang out with me, and wanted to have sex with me.
The night we hung out(him and his gf were broken up at the time) he begged me to let him "stick it in". I said no to him, and he kept asking like 4 more times after. I just kept saying NO. We both said that we still loved 1 another.
The next night he tells me that he went to his (ex's)at midnight-3am to "talk" and then he said he fell asleep. (imagine that)
We went out for lunch the next day (i owed him) then i didnt hear from him anymore after that. I finally contacted him 5 days later, and he tells me that i made him realize just how much he loves "her".
So i try talking online to him and i can tell that hes just not the same as he was days earlier.
I kept asking why he wanted to have sex with me sooo bad, and he says he didnt! He says that he just wanted to see if ive changed, and if i was easy. I told him that wasnt true because he kept asking me to do it, and he kept talking about it days be4. He keeps saying that he was just testing me, and that he wouldnt have done it if i would have said yes!
Everything that he has done, he has given me gay reasons for why he did/said it. He says he told me all those things because im so gullable and that he really didnt mean them. He told me he came over because he just wanted to talk to my dad.
Then after that night he begged me to do it, he tells me "sorry things didnt work out for you, i know you have feelings for me, but its just not gonna work out for us"!
Im not the 1 whos made any of the moves here, HE HAS! So why does he throw all this in MY face acting like im the 1 that was trying so hard to get him back or something?
Im not the type of girl to have sex, especially with some1 that i still have feelings for just so he could hurt me even more by running back to his little ho!
(We did everything, just not intercourse).
The girl hes with now had a bf at the time him and her had sex(their 2nd night) he never hung out with her be4 that, and barely knew her.(shes a 15 year old nympho, started when she was 13)
He never wanted anything to do with girls like that until he got in her pants. Then he would brag to me on how long they did it and what they did.
How could he have the guts to say everything and do everything hes done to me, without any heart feelings whatsoever?
What exactly were his intentions?
I rate 5s for sensible and logical answers.
I would love to have the guys opinions, so i can understand what goes on in their twisted little minds!!
Thanks! (link)
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i would say just dont hang around with him anymore. he obviously just wants to have sex and nothing more. if he truly had feelings for you he would have listened the first time you told him no. no matter how hard it is for you you need to tell him off. go find someone who loves you for who you are and not just to have sex.
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just wana thank u for helping me out. i know that im the one who has to stand firm on my feet but choosing is rather hard 4 me (link)
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i know how it is. my girlfriend and i have both had to choose. when she broke up with me i had a choice ask another girl out or wait till she comes to her senses and then ask her out again. i went with the second choice and it worked out with me. if you want to instsant message me i could try to help further. my screen name is styx fan 365.
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oh k well..i never kissed a guy before and im in 9th(i know) and like this kid it 11th and he always wants me to go over and i wanna go im just a little nervous cause i dont wanna mess up with him tho.. ya know?
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i know what u mean. im in 8th grade and i just had my first kiss last night so dont be ashamed. guys always like being kissed by girls they like. since this is your first kiss i would suggest just giving him a kiss on the lips, no tongue yet. i would wait until you have kissed many times before making out. if you need more advice go to google and type in kissing tips and go to the one link that says kissing 101.
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I've been going out with this guy for a couple of weeks, but I've known him for a really long time. He plays bass, he skateboards, and he's 14.I don't know what to get him for Christmas, any idea's?
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im 14 and i play bass too. im not a skate boarding person so i cant help you there. you could get him something for his bass guitar. you could also get him a cd of his favorite band. my girlfriend had the same problem as you but we have been going out for 4 months. she just gave me a guitar pic with a heart on it and a picture of her. remember it the thought that counts.
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I'm 14 years old, and there is this guy at my school that I have a crush on. I'm pretty sure he only likes me as a friend(for now). I'm trying to get him to like me more than just a friend. So, he has asked me to hang out with him and acouple friends two or three times, but whenever he askes me I always have plans already. Now he thinks I don't want to hang out with him. What do I do? I'm not really supposed to be hanging out with boys(my rents r really strict bout that kinda stuff) So how do I hang out with him and not have my parents find out? -parents suck (link)
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my girlfriend is always busy. at first i thought she was avoiding me but really she was busy. id say, like for instance if he asked you somewhere but you had a basketball game or something invite him. if he does like you he'll come. im not saying if he doesn't come he doesn't like you. id suggest just asking on a date or something and tell your parents you are going someplace wih your friends. im just here to give my opinion, im not here to run your life you make the decision.
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Ive had a crush on this guy for like 3 yrs(ever since ive known him)last December he confessed to me that he admired me for 3 yrs.Thats when the relationship started. Things were fine until he started cheating on me with one night stend girls(more that once but different girls).I always forgave him cause i loved him and wanted him to stay around me.We broke up for real about two months ago cause he was dating another girl(no night stand girl but his actual girlfriend). so i made my way out. it hurted alot but recetly his friend says his missing me and that he loves me but he cant come back to me cause hes ashame and got to much explanations to do and dont know where to start. They said the reason he left was because he wanted sex and i thought we were to young so he didnt want to pressure me or hurt me so he left. i still do love him. I miss him. i may be fooloish but i have feelings that he does love me(according to me)im stating to have nightmares about him suffering and wanting me. i wake up often crying. but the real problem is that i have a new boyfriend now which i relay on as a comfort. I realy realy do love my boyfriend very much his a great guy and i dont want to hurt him. But its just that my ex is still in my mind and often drives me away from my boyfriend cause i think of him. i dont know what to do. I'm starting to hate everything. I mean everything about my life. I'm desperate.Dont ask me to choose cause i dont know what i want. Waht would you do if you were me? what will you say? Im still young and i dont want to live a life like mine anymore. just want to be happy (link)
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well, i dont really know what to tell u. your evetually gonna have to choose. my girlfriend and i were going out for about a week when she dumped me for her ex. it hurt my feelings alot and i didnt want to talk to her. 2 days later he broke up with her now we r together again. in your case one of them is going to get their heart broke. your just gonna have to listen to your heart. i agree with you u r too young to have sex im 14 so i know what its like. who do you like more and who do you think will treat you better are some questions to keep in mind when you choose. im just here to give my opinion so you dont have to listen to me because im not gonna tell you how to live your life.
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So this is what you typically get; but I'm really confused because different people have been telling me different things.
It's a simple question, really, and that is I can't tell whether this guy likes me or not.
I've never felt so comfortable around anyone before. Usually when I feel so at ease around someone they are either related to me, or FEELS related to me. The thing is we're really good friends and I don't want to mess things up; plus we sit next to each other in English and it will be really awkward.
I had a crush on him at the beginning of the year when we didn't really know each other then I stopped. After a while, he was really depressed for no reason at all, and I was really worried he might be clinically depressed or sth so I spent time talking to him and trying to push him to go to talk to a counsellor about it or sth. We spent a lot of time together and I started liking him again. We flirt so much in English but sometimes I can't tell if he's just being friendly because I know he really respects me. Like every once in a while he'd lie his head on my arms or sth and there was once he wrote I love ****(his name) on my binder and grinned because he knew I'd get into trouble when my mom sees it. There are a lot of other things we'd do but everytime I go into English I'm thinking, alright, stop flirting but before I know it his legs are in mine.
I know what you're thinking, what about try asking him? Well I did. I asked him whether he wanted to do anything during the Winter Holidays just as friends to see what he'd do, but he kind of avoided giving me an answer. He claims he doesn't like anyone. What do you think I should do?
Btw. 14 if that helps. (link)
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im a guy so this helps. since you like him y dont you ask him out. if he says yes thats y he has been acting funny. don't ask him just as friends because if he really likes u that could hurt his feelings alot. flirting in english class got me in alot of trouble with my girlfriend but the teacher didnt do anything. so if you like him just ask him if he will go out with you. i dont know how asking him out could ruin your relationship as friends. im just here to suggest, not to run your life for u.
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