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I am very outgoing and very friendly. I have been through many obstacles in my life and it has taken me a while to get where i wanted in life but I am proud to say I am happy with where I am. I am very open minded and very helpful. I am always looked as a person who gives good advice.

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What can happen if i take plan b and i didn't have sex? i dont remember if i did or not... But i want to be sure.

thanks

nothing. it only would stop the risk of getting pregnant. when you take the pill you are unsure if you are or not so it shouldnt have any bad effects on you. =]
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I have a good friend(very good) Ive had a crush on him since I met in way back in sixth grade or something like that. just a really long time about. And he said something to me today. "I love you and dont forget it" then kissed my forehead. He has a girlfriend. But they are going through rocky times. I dislike his girlfriend because shes been mean to him. But Im confused about with I should do.

it might be that he is realizing that he has feelings for you. right now you are all he can count on because he is going through hard times with his gf. no matter what keep him close and stay by his side. this could mean a start to a new relationship. dont jump into anything right away give it time.

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My period is 6 days late and I have taken pregnancy test and it came out as "negative". I think that stress is the problem to the delay because I have school, work, and family problems. Should I see a doctor about it or wait it out?

nope actually i have a friend that was so stress with school and family that she missed her period for two months. stress causes that. i would wait it out and stop stressing and everything will be okay.

Stephy

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my friends always says that im silly what does that mean and is it a bad thing?

your only entertainment =] dont feel offended
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does sex hurt the first time?

this will be short but very easily understood. when something goes into something it stretches something out which cause it to expand in a way that is not normal which causes pain. as time goes by you get used to the uncomfortablness and begin to enjoy it =] dont worry its normal. =]

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do girls think its gross(or nething) if a guy gets horny whith the gurl in there lap or nething

guys get horny to anything it is their nature. girls learn to accept it. dont let it both you or stress out over it. some girls like it. =]

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this might be hard to follow.

about a month ago me & this guy messed around & almost had sex. i still think i got preggo ,but i got the plan b pill two days after. & then i had my period ,so i'm not pregnant. i know i shouldn't have done anything with him, but what's done is done. anyways, i'm a freshman & he's a senior. i didn't tell anyone but three of my friends. they're all people i know i can trust. but now ,it being a month later ... people know about what i did with that guy *john*. i thought him being a senior, he wouldn't tell anyone ,because i would of thought that it would make him look desperate for going for a freshmen. i didn't tell anyone ,because i didn't wanna be known as a slut. he knows my friend *jessicas* big brother *joe*. joe is 21 ,so he's not in school. but joe has a 17 year old brother that told all his friends at school. so now all my older guy friends know about it & soon, it'll probably be all around school. my mom knows about it, but that's because i told her.

anyway, basically, i just don't know how i'm gonna cope with it. does anyone have anyways that i can just ignore people. or anything? i just hate all of this. :/

anything will help.

no matter what you do or where you go in life people will always talk shit its what the due when they get bored. dont let it affect you. keep your head up high and dont let anyone lower your self esteem. rumors are just that rumors. you can always just deny them. if you ignore them and not allow them to effect you people will give up and move on because that rumor gets boring if they do not gain attention by you. =]

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What is the code to put a picture in the caption on myspace?

you could also use this but take out under scores.

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i LOVE my best friend. and he knows i like him and i know he likes me. we aren't together....yet....but i wont to be. i just have 1 question. my mom says that dating your neighbor is bad and that i cant date him. so IF we ever get together......how do i hide it from her???? i hope you can help. thank you in advance.

i am very confused on why you cant date your neigbor they are normal people too. there might be something she has heard about him from around the block that she is hiding from you that she doesnt want to tell so instead "dating your neighbor is bad". my advice go for it every guy deserves a chance. tell your mom you guys are only friends and dont show affection towards him aound neighbors or mother.

Stephy

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I really messed up and had a one night stand with a guy who got me pregnant. We didn't talk at all after we had sex until I realized I was pregnant. When I told him, his first reaction was "we can't do this I'll pay for an abortion". Well, no way I was getting an abortion. So now, things are so annoying with him. His girlfriend messaged me on facebook and was freaking out on me which I don't feel like dealing with, he freaks out on me for everything I do, like if I go on a date he'll freak out, if I say I'm going to a different state for vacation or like to stay for a little while he freaks out. He's getting on my nerves so much I'm ready to just tell him the baby isn't his so he'll leave me alone! What do I do?

i dont believe this guy should be so involved in your life. he should be involved in the babys life, when it is born. you shouldnt tell him so much about your where about it has no concern to him. as long as the baby is healthy and you are in good condition do as you please and make yourself happy.

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im 13/f
hes 13/m

i like this guy so much i think i might be in LOVE with him. but IF we ever get together, how do i talk to him?

Whenever i see couples in the halls, there always kissing and hugging. And i hate PDA (public display of affection) I just dont want ppl to see us kissing and making out. So what do i do? What do i tell him. PS: we arent together.......yet.

Please help. Thank you in advance.

your boyfriend should always be your bestfriend. they should always be someone you can talk to about anything and everything and you should always feel comfortable around them. if you dont like PDA than dont things like that infront of everyone else. you could just hold hands and i guess hide some where that nobody can see you to kiss. telling him about this would be a good decision to make. hope this helps.

Stephy

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what are some things that a girl can do to a guy that will turn them on?

one that wasnt mentioned was scratching of the back guys it really turned on by that. while making out with a guy you can also play with his tongue. it could mean sucking on it or nibbling on it. if you are on his lap play with his finger with your mouth like suck it or kiss or whatever you feel like doing to it. also pulling on a guys hair while making out with them. but every guy is different and you need to test it out and find out which works best.
hope this helps.

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so there’s this guy that i’ve liked for the longest time - and he likes me too. we’re not going out - mostly because i’m really unsure of wanting a relationship + i’m also really insecure and never really stable about what i want. there would be, and there still are, times that i don’t think i like him... but recently it’s been mainly liking him. anyways, summers in about a month and he just found out that he’s moving... forever.

when he told me, i didn’t know how to react. of course, i was sad but i just stood still for about 45 minutes and didn’t do anything. anyways... point is he’s moving. and we haven’t even kissed - but we both like each other and our relationship means a lot to me. i have the perfect upcoming opportunities to be alone with him, and besides the fear of awkwardness (because we both know what we’re waiting for... a kiss), what i’m mostly scared of is the fact that he’s moving. it’s happened to me before... falling for a guy and he leaves and leaves me so broken for such a long time. and i don’t want my summer to be a sad one. obviously, whether or not we start a relationship now, i’ll still end up hurt either way because he’s leaving. i’m just scared that if what we have gets any better than it is already... it’ll make me fall harder.

for the longest time i’ve been trying to figure out what i want:
a. to have it better than i do now and expand our relationship BUT get even more hurt when he leaves
b. keep things the way they are now, still get hurt at the end, BUT not as hurt as i would be if i chose option A
c. push him away, distance ourselves so it’ll hurt less when he leave (but this is debatable because i might regret)

i just don’t want to regret anything but i also don’t wanna get hurt in the end.
what should i do?

i dont think it would be a good idea to go for a kiss. leave it as it is because if you guys kiss it could possible attract you to him more and than he leaves and your left broken. make the most of your time with him. you never know things could change and he might come back. you stay close friends with him and never bring yourself down about him leaving because their can always be away for you guys to reunit plus you have all the amazing time you guys spent together.

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The past three nights, I have gotten sick. I all of a sudden get really nauseous and need to throw up. Im asking if I am pregnant because I know that a lot of women actually get 'morning sickness' at night (my mother did with me and my brother). I am on birth control, but last week when I had sex with my boyfriend I was also on antibiotics which I know lower the effectiveness of birth control. I was just wondering what everyone thinks the chances of my being pregnant are. Im supposed to get my period in the next four days. Thanks for the help!

even if you are on birth control you should also use a condom. birth control isnt a 100% effective. their is still a chance of getting pregnant. you could try taking a pregnancy test if you feel that you might but you shouldnt stress over it because that makes your period late which will make you feel that you arent pregnant, but the only way to truely know is if you take the test.

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I met this guy a few days ago, Joey. we have a lot in common. He's my friend's ex, Lucy. He has a girlfriend. I had a dream that we were outside of our schools and we ran up to each other and I jumped on him and we were just staring at each other and our faces were hella close and we were both smiling and I remember feeling butterflies in my stomach. Then we walked into our class. One of mine and lucys mutual friends was there and she was hella mad at me. She started saying how She was gonna tell Lucy then Joey came up and put his arms around me and we kissed and then I woke up but I woke up in a really good mood and I really miss him now :/

aww someone has a crushhh =] the fact that he is one of your friends ex will always be a problem. i suggest leaving him alone unless they went out for a little while and she has/had no feelings towards him. usually when a guy is ur friends ex and you want him it always end up ruining the friendship and back firing on you and having to choose sides.

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Can u tell me any good love songs for falling for your best guy friend. And it had to be pop r&b or hip-hop. Hope this helps thanks your very much.
f/14

me and my bestfriends song is anytime by ray j

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i'm 17/f and whenever i drink with someone, i kiss them. i don't know where this comes from, but it always happens. i was at my boyfriend's house drinking, and we made out but i thought nothing of it since we've been together for a while. then i was at my close friend's house and kissed her, which was pretty odd, but i just figured it was because we were close and i felt lonely. but then the other night a friend that i had recently started hanging out with came over and we got drunk and i kissed her. not only does this weird me out because its with whomever i'm with at the moment, but also because i'm not bisexual or lesbian. does anyone know where this behavior might come from, or is it just regular drunk behavior? thanks

i personal when i get drunk i tell people things about my life that shouldnt be told. =x that is an effect it has on me. i have learned to watch the amount i drink. if you decrease the amount you drink you will have more control of your actions and still be able to have a good time.

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I'm a fourteen year old female. I'm not overweight but I want to get in shape. So I really want to lose weight all over especially in my thighs and legs. So me and my friend are going to walk/jog outside for almost an hour everyday and then swim for 30-60 minutes. Well this eventually get my the results I want? I will pair this with a fair diet.

I don't want to gain muscle and I heard that if you do the same thing everyday you gain muscle not lose weight so what could we do every other day?

Cardio will not gain you muscle. you should start of with an easy workout like walking or joging than increase your spead or the amount of miles you run. doing cardio everyday is not bad it is actually a good thing. people now a days dont do enough cardio to stay fit. it would be good to have a diet that has three meals a day with low amounts of saturated fats (oils,butter etc) and high in fiber, wheat is also good for a diet.
hope this helps.
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hey. my name is evan. im 15 years old and a freshman in high school. i have been diagnosed with malignant melanoma which is a skin cancer for the 2nd time and my chances arent to good. im tired of trying to keep the secret that im sick again. im gonna do chemo this summer but i feel like im gonna burst if i dont tell my friends. my parents said not to cause i already get made fun of alot and i dont wanna get teased about this. what should i do? should i tell my friends or keep the secret like my parents want. i just feel like i need to talk to someone. thanks for the help.
evan

I am very sorry to hear that. I have actually been in this situation where my doctor thought i had a chance of melanoma and i was scared to tell anyone because i didnt want them to think different of me.
My advice to you is to find a couple of your friends that you can trust. i would recomand mature ones. explain to them your situation and let them know you just want someone to talk to and someone to turn to for comfort.
The teasing only happens because people are immature and dont know what is really happening. it usually comes from people who have low self esteem and make themselves feel better by insulting others.
hope this helps. i hope you get cured

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So iv'e been on the pill for over a year and my boyfriend wanted to finish inside me without protection and last night i finally let him. It was on the last day of my period and i take my pill religiously. Im very nervous about getting pregnant.. am i at alot or risk?

no matter what only with birth control you have a 1% chance of getting pregnant.you should stay calm and not stress about it because when you stress your period will be late. you should also consider going to planned parenthood and getting the day after pill. (it is also called plan B). hope this helps.
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