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Does it hurt the first time?
does sex hurt the first time?
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this will be short but very easily understood. when something goes into something it stretches something out which cause it to expand in a way that is not normal which causes pain. as time goes by you get used to the uncomfortablness and begin to enjoy it =] dont worry its normal. =]
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.
I found the following website, found at bottom of this page) while answering a very similar question for another young lady. I believe you should review this website before making any decision about having sex, starting with “Am I ready?”
On the subject of are you ready: all I will say is sexual intercourse is a beautiful thing between two loving responsible people. At your age sex for you as a woman is different than for the boy. You are more emotionally mature than your partner is at the same age by about 2 years. Sex for a woman must always have a loving relationship, meaning women usually do not hop in and out of bed. Where for a boy of the same age sex is more of a conquest, away to satisfy raging hormones.
The odds are against you marring the boy you give your virginity to, so be selective as to who you chose to be your first. Make sure you find someplace you can have your first sexual experience that is safe, comfortable, relaxing and that you will be undisturbed. You should be on birth control for at least 30 days and always use a condom.
As someone who is old enough to be your grandparent I should be telling you to wait. I am sure your parents have already given you this advice and it is good advice. It is also hypocritical of most of us as most all of us my age and younger engaged in sex long before we were married. What I will say is there are ways of satisfying the sexual urge without having intercourse. There is masturbation, mutual masturbation, which is general apart of foreplay, BJ’s and HJ’s. These forms of sex should be adequate for now to satisfy both you and your boyfriend without running the possibility of an unwanted pregnancy. Remember no birth control is 100% effective. End of lecture.
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Assuming you're female and referring to sex then the short answer is yes.
Most girls do find that the first few times does hurt, although the pain level varies from person to person.
The best way to minimise discomfort is to ensure you are completely relaxed and ready, both mentally and physically. If you are nervous and not ready then your muscles will tense up, making it 10 times more painful. It's also really important that you spend some time on foreplay. As you become turned on, your vagina produces a natural lubricant which is essential for the penis to enter smoothly. It might be a good idea to have a synthetic lubricant on hand, such as KY Jelly, as this can really help the process along.
The most important thing to remember is that you should only ever have sex with someone who respects you and who makes you feel comfortable. It's absolutely fine to say no or ask them to stop if you're finding it uncomfortable or painful.
And remember - ALWAYS use some form of protection.
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Yes, it will hurt. How much it hurts depends on the size of your boyfriends penis
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