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QUICK! HOW DO I GET MY PARENTS TO TRUST ME?!?! they like dont knoww at im gonna do until they let me do it im not that stupid but they wont even let me see my boyfriend or even yet have one. GAY. i wouldnt do anything stupid but they think i will they wont even give me a chance man! help meee. now. dammit i said now! lol jk but im a 16 yr old girl i should be able to do these things by now. later
i know how you feel.
im the only girl, and i have three brothers. my mom feels the need to 'protect her only girl' i guess. so i used to always get curfews, and she ALWAYS wanted to know where i would be and who with. like every little detail had to go through with her first. ridiculous right?
i dont know if thats the case with you, maybe you arent the youngest child, or the only girl, but if you are, then im sure what i said earlier has something to do with how they chose to raise you.
sometimes parents are so protective of their kids, simply because they want to look out for us what we might get ourselves into you know? i know you said that you would never do anything too extreme that would worry them, but sometimes it doesnt work that way.
my mom always used to tell me, "its not you i need to worry about, its other people around you." like since shes not by my side 24/7, the only way she feels like she can protect me from crazy people in the world is by setting boundries. and believe me, there are crazy people that teenagers need to look out for.
so in some way, i agree with why our parents can be so strict for certain things. its just how parents are. and even though we dont like it right now, later on in life we will apprecaite it.
they have our best intrest in life, trust me. and when you have your own family, your going to want to keep your kids just as safe.
about the boyfriend thing, show you parents that you can be responsible with who you chose to date. and when you do want a boyfriend, bring him by the house to show him off to your parents. if you show them that your making an effort to be responsible, then it will pay off. i promise.
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.well i am no good at . thinking of hair styles, and i just got my hair done, with blonde highlights, but its kind of faded to look like im a full dirtyblonde, with brighter highlights, but ya so i realy like it , but i need a way to style it, summery, and what not! so any ideas suggestions, or much wanted and appreciated
thanks!
your hair sounds really pretty. (:
i used to be blonde, but i dont think i pulled it off very well. ha.
anyways, if you have a chi-- that straightner seriously does like everything pretty much. its amazing.
some hair styles i like to do is take my straightner and i curl in my hair so it frames my face. you can try curling your hair too. little waves look so pretty especially if you have somewhat long hair. im sure youve heard of the "poof". you take that middle part of your hair and make it a little poofy, and you can put either bobbypins in it, or little clips. for that style, i like buying pretty barrettes that compliment my outfit.
also, i like wearing my hair in a low side pony tail sometimes, and if you have side bangs its a good hair style for that.
headbands are cute in my opinion. you can either wear your hair up or down for those.
hope i gave you some good ideas.
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my boyfriend has had 3 other girlfriends besides me and has slept with 6 other girls. this boy is my first serious boyfriend and the first and only person i have ever slept with. now, i know i cant do anything about all the people he has been with but the other day i was in his room looking through some pictures that he had in a basket and i found many many pictures of all his old girlfriends. there were ones from his prom and when he was very young and even sexual pictures with his first girlfriend. it really hurt me that he still had these and i that i saw them. i dont like thinking that he has been with other people the same way he has been with me. it hurts a lot.
he also slept with another girl while we were dating and it just really hurts whenever i have to be reminded of things like that. i just wanted to know how to get passed all these other girls.
first of all, i dont agree with the girl below me. i dont think this is your fault that you got curious and found what you did. no one sets themself up for heartbreak. thats just ridiculous.
sometimes people do keep old memories of them and the person they were with. i guess its somewhat of a reminder of what they had, but that doesnt mean he cares for his old girlfriends more than he does you. i wouldnt take it that way at all.
its hard to forget about the people you once loved, we all know that. so you cant be mad at him for something we all have done.
i think you should talk to him about how your feeling right now. tell him whats upsetting you so much and hopefully you two can come to a conclusion on how to fix it.
as for him cheating on you, thats messed up. im guessing you feel the need to 'forgive, but never forget.' which is totally understandable. because if you really care about someone, sometimes forgiving them is all you can do if you want to be with them that bad.
i really believe in the forgiving but never forgetting thing. life is too short to hold a grude on people you know?
but definatly let him know whats going on in your mind right now about all of this. let him know what this is a serious matter for you, and if he really does care about you, he will do what he can to make things better.
good luck
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alot of my friends are dropping out and getting their diplomas. one of my friends is going to go to a community college for 2 years and then go to a university..and she dropped out last year. and one of my friends who worked her butt off in high school for 4 years didnt is going to go to a community college for 2 years and then a university. it seems like my friend who dropped out didnt have to finish school but my other friend does and is still doing the thing drop outs are doing. so im not seeing any consquences of dropping out of highschool. it looks like if i work hard in school im still going to be equal to the people who havent. also my dad complains how i wont be able to afford anything in this economy in america even if i go to college. so whats the point of finishing school? im just going to be poor anyways.
first of all, i think dropping out of school is seriously such a dumb thing to do. no offense to any of your friends or you, but i mean come on.
your friend who worked hard and is going to a community college is smart for two reasons. one, she stayed in school and kept up her grades. and two, starting off in a community college is wayyy cheaper than going straight to a university. im sure shes getting her basics out of the way right now, because thats what everyone does their first two years of college.
so look at it this way and tell me if it makes sense. lets just say shes going to be taking the exact same classes as someone who is in a university. they will be learning the exact same thing throught it all, but your friend ends up paying less than half of what someone in a university pays.
the professors arent any better at a univeristy than in a community college, trust me. so why pay more when you can get the same knowledge at a cheaper price?
after two years, hopefully you know what you want to major in, then that will be the time to move on up to a university. then the higher pay will be worth it.
having a college degree expands your horizons for finding a well paid job when your older. you will end up taking some things you have learned from high school to college, so why go to college totally unprepaired? its like learning a subject all over again.
in high school you take english, history, math, and all that. im guessing you may not have known that the point of doing basics is to reteach your brain what you have learned the past four years in high school. and if you dont learn them the first time, you are pretty much out of luck. and your more likely to drop out of college your first year, if that.
just think about this before you do anything too drastic. dont think just because your friends who dropped out of high school and are in college now, that it will be the same for you. chances are they arent making the best grades they can be.
be your own person, and make something out of yourself.
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houston area
here are the malls near you i found that have namebrand outlet stores:
Willowbrook Mall
Memorial City Mall
Katy Mills Mall
M Z K Bags & Outlet Mall
Rice Village, also known as the Village
also, like i said on earlier in the other question asked, tj maxx and ross have plently of namebrand clothes to choose from. and they are usually cheaper than an outlet store in the mall.
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hi i saw that u answered a question for a person about finding store brand clothes for cheap, and you said if you live in texas you cud help more well i live in texas (south) and i'd like to know some stores or outlits that have name brand clothes for cheap.
thanks
im going to need to know what city you live in or the citys nearby in order to let you know which stores would be in your range.
so if you could just email me, ill help you out
stellabella246@yahoo.com
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Im 13 and im a 7th grader. At the end of the year there is a sunsplash trip and i wight like 165 and i want to wear a bathing suit but i cant right now and iv'e tried eating well i went to fitness camp but still kno resuts.
please help. if u kno wut i shoud do please tell me
thats weird that fitness camp didnt help, it looks like it would from what ive seen. but i guess its not for everyone, and thats ok.
im not going to tell you to do things that might put you at risk for gaining the weight back, because you want to lose weight healthy in order for you to keep it off.
so eat a TON of fruits and veggis. drink a lot of water. i always have a water bottle with me everywhere i go. so you could try doing that.
im trying to eat healthier as well, so all i drink is water. i completely gave up all kinds of sodas and all that. ive heard that diet sodas arent the best for you, so i wouldnt recommend drinking those.
give up carbs. try not to eat bread, and butter and all that fatty stuff. no more salt either. all this can make you gain like crazy if you eat a lot.
i really enjoy the special k brand and everything that they have at the store. i eat the cereal, waffles, protien drinks, snack bars. on the box it says that you can lose 6 pounds in two weeks just by following a certain pattern that they have on the back of the box. so that would be something to think about trying.
if you want to eat little snacks, get fat free ones-- they are still really good, trust me.
ever heard of '100 calorie packs'? they have branched out some in the kind of snacks you can buy, like chips, cookies, and pudding. and its only 100 calories per snack.
so food wise, just browse the store and look at what kind of foods they have that will set you on the right track.
also, as much of a dread it may be, you need to work out some too. try running, doing crunches, and just keep motivated as much as possible. it doesnt have to be anything extreme.
i do pilates, and that works out like everything on your body. on the work out videos, it allows you to chose which part you want to focus on. its fun, and you see results fast!
if you set your mind on a reasonable goal of weightloss, you will accomplish it no problem, as long as you eat smart and excersise.
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you seem to know everythingi guess you have expiernced eveything there is to experience huh!? Love the advice@!!
well thank you. but i know for a fact that i dont know everything, i still have so much more to learn. just like everyone else.
i have been through a lot of things though, so i try my best to put certain things into perspective for others to help them out.
im glad there are some people who appreciate what i have to say. its nice, so thanks
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ive never had a kiss before btu i was wondering, not htat i can help it or anything but if guys like girls with fuller lips or thin ones?
i really dont think the size of a girls lips really matter to a guy.
some guys like a certain thing, so im sure there are a few guys out there who are extremely picky about every little detail on a girl. but other than that, full lips or thin lips, guys dont mind what kind they are kissing.
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Okay, so my 16th birthday is on July 9th, by which time everyone is away at camp, vacation, etc. So I thought I'd have it soon after school ended (June 20th or something like that). Is that weird?
And I also need ideas (any ideas) as to how to go on about with the "party" part.
-10 people (boys and girls)
-CHEAP and not expensive
-I hate the sun so no pools or anything (I know, I'm crazy for hating the sun, but I have my reasons)
-I want it to be fun and original. Not just another dinner and movies birthday.
For dinner, I was thinking either pizza OR going out to a Mexican restaurant that everyone loves and it's pretty cheap ($6-8 per person)--so which one would be better? And probably junk food like chips and soda for later that night.
Keep in mind that movie tickets are $8.50 per person without the cost of popcorn/drinks/etc.
Thanks!
i think going to dinner is the perfect idea. its always fun.
if you and your friends like sushi and habachi, there are really cool resturants that you can go to for that. and if you sit in the habachi section, the cooks will do a show for your table while cooking dinner. its very entertaining to watch and enjoy a good meal.
afterwards, id say go back to your house do hang out and have fun. you could get a scary movie, or even a funny one. or you could find some fun games that you guys like to play, nothing childish of course since your going to be sixteen. but im sure theres something you can all agree on.
have fun, and happy early birthday!
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does anyone know where to get cheap jeans from abercrombie, pacsun, hollister, american eagle, delias ... etc.
and where can you get cheap hoodies by roxy or surf brands like that?
thanks
originally the jeans at abrecrombie and hollister are like 70 dollars. crazy right? but if you go to an outlet one, then they are about 30 dollars.
i dont know where you live, so i cant tell you exactly where the closest outlet store would be to you. if you live in texas, let me know and ill be able to help you out.
as for american eagle and delias, i havent seen an outlet store for those places, but i know like ross and tj max and those kind of stores have like all the different brands out there. so im sure you could find some no problem. and im thinking it would be around 20-25 dollars for a pair of jeans.
for the hoodies, try ross and tj max as well. and i know that the places like fast foward have those brands, but im not too sure how much it costs there. that could be one of your options to look as well.
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well ive been going out with this guy for 6 days.
But we like eachother and he met my parents, who think hes a really nice and great guy.
so we talk to eachother a lot. I hung out with him yesterday. And i really want for him to kiss me. Please dont say hes not a good boyfriend for not kissing me yet, i mean its only been 6 days.
So what are some ways i can either
1)flirt with him to make him understand.
2) Make him realize i want to kiss him/ have him kiss me.
3) Have him kiss me.
Thanks in advance.
-Arie(:
i think you should make the first move.
i dont think you should just run up to him and give him a peck or anything like that. you need to make it soft, sweet and something he will really enjoy.
lay on his bed or the couch or something together. make sure you guys are cuddling too. make sure to gaze into his eyes while smiling, and then slowly go in for a romantic kiss.
he will totally love how his first kiss with you happend. trust me.
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Lately this guy who had never talked to me before, started talking to me. I realized that his best girl friend, that he likes so much was in florida when he started talking to me, as soon as she got back, we stopped. Now we barely talk at all. How do i stop thinking about this or how do i get over him ? What should i do to stop thinking about it, because he calls me ocasionally when she doesnt pick up her phone. What should i do?
oh girl, i dont like this boy already.
i know you dont want to hear this, but hes using you. its like when he cant get what he wants from that one girl, your the rebound. im not talking about anything sexual, but this goes for talking too.
whatever you do, dont give in. hes being so selfish and is only thinking about what he wants, and your feelings arent concerning him one bit at this point.
guys can be total skum at times, and i dont understand why. i think they act a certain way just to make themselves feel better or something. obviously he needs a major ego boost so he feels like he can get away with playing two girls.
i like sharing personal stories of mine that sort of relates to the questions people ask, to show them a real example.
ok so during christmas break like a year ago i was at the mall shopping for presents with my family and i went into this one shop to find my litte brother something, and a guy that worked there asked me if i needed any help so i had him point out where i could find a certain shirt or whatever. so he started hitting on me and then he got my number. a week later he calls me and asks if i wanted to go see a movie with him, and i did. after he got the tickets, the first thing he said when we walked in the movie is "i think we should make out." i was kind of like..ok well thats no problem that he wants to do that, i didnt really think of anything from it. so we did. and then he was talking about having sex in his car, and he asked me if ive ever had sex in a theatre. he was seriously being such a skeaze, and not acting at all like he should have acted on a first date. i declined the sex with him, because im for sure not looking for a one night stand. after continuously asking to hook up, he finially got tired of being rejected i guess, so he got up and left.
i realized that when he first met me, he must have thought i was easy and thats the only reason why he wanted to go out with me in the first place.
that was kind of long, i really hope you still read it and try to take it in. i wanted to show you that sometimes guys dont think with their head at all. and they only care about what they will get out of something.
so my point is to just totally forget about this jerk, and move on to a guy who will appreciate you. someone who you know doesnt just call you because some other girl wont pick up her phone.
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you give such wonderful advICe and you have helped me out soo much!!! thanks!
i have another question that deals with school. im going to college next year and I don't know wat to major in! What are you majoring in and how did you decide that was for you? Thanks [=
thank you so much. that means a lot (:
im the kind of person that can never make up my mind, and when i do, i change it like literially the next day or so.
right now im undecided in what i want to do with my life, so im just getting my basics out of the way. theres absoulutly nothing wrong with going into your first year of college without having your whole future planned out.
i know so many people who think they want to do something, so they take classs that will help them get a certain degree, and by the end of the year they decide they dont want to go down that route anymore. so they waste their money on classes that end up not helping them in the long run.
i think its best to really take the time to think about what you want to do, and not just pick something to get it out of the way.
i really recommend getting your basics out of the way, and since you have to take them anyway, you wont be wasting money once your finished.
choosing what you want to do is something that takes time, and trust me, you can take all the time you want to pick one that you really like.
good luck in college!
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I like this boy named chase and friend said he does like me but how can i be sure he really does like me and i like this boy named trever to who been flirting with my freind right infront of me wut do i do please help.
if chase likes to be around you a lot and he seems to be flirting with you, then he likes you.
there are signs you need to look for to see if a guy likes you. most of the time the signs are very noticable.
and as for trevor, i would say forget about him right now. one reason mainly is because he is openly flirting with one of your friends. who wants a guy that gives other girls attention and not you?
find a boy who only sees you, no one else.
you need to hang out with chase some more and show him that your interested. and if he does in fact like you, he will let you know. trust me.
good luck
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well i like this guy and i have reason to believe that he likes me to. but its weird because when i am around him and my friends are there its like he feels a little out of place because he doesn't know them that well. but then when i am just with him we have so much to say. i mean its just so easy to talk to him. i want to get to know him better but if we are alone together it seems like a date or something which is weird because dates kind of freak me out. we hung out today with a group of friends but it was just better when i could sit down next to him and just talk. what should i do to get to know him better? thanx
it looks like hes not all that comfortable to be around people he barely knows, which is fine. the more he hangs out with your friends, the more he will warm up to them. it takes time.
since you guys like to be alone while you talk i suggest going out to get some dinner. that way, you both are sitting face to face, alone, and you have time to talk about anything and everything.
a movie would be an ok idea just to be alone, but im sure talking wouldnt happen while you watch the movie since you would be too focused on the movie. so if you ever just want to cuddle up with him alone, then going to the movies is a for sure thing.
you could also go to eachothers houses, the park, or walk around the mall together to communicate some more. theres so many places you guys can go to be in your own world to talk.
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I have recently broke up with my boyfriend. However, I think it was wrong. I thought that I did love him the way he loved me, but now that we are not dating, I am realizing that I did care about him a lot. I don't know if he will understand and let me back into his life again in the same way as we had before. What do I do? Do I even have a chance of getting him back? Or is it over for good? Help me please
the saying 'you dont know what you had until its gone' is so true isnt it?
we all make mistakes. and im glad that you realized that you had made one, and that your wanting to fix it.
the only thing i can tell you is to get together with him and talk about it. tell him how sorry you are and that this decision wasnt what you really wanted. try to ask for his forgivness and if he really does care about you, he WILL forgive you.
it looks like your not ready to let him go, so you need to do everything to make sure that doesnt happen.
when you really care about someone, never ever let them get away.
i hope everything works out for you.
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16.m
i had a gf that lasted over one year. she said she just didn't want a bf anymore so i was cool with it. i also asked her, if there was another guy. she swore there wasn't.
i kid you not, 2 weeks later,she kissed my best friend, and told another one of my friends she liked them. both like her back.
i have no idea what to do with myself. i want to stop talking to her, because i hate her SO MUCH.
yet, everynight i still call her out of habbit and we talk like nothings wrong, i mean, it's almost like we're going back out, kinda talk.
but then the next day always come and i find out she's hanging out with 1 of 2, or BOTH of my best friends and is cuddling with them, and carrying on. and she still has the nerve to tell me she loves me, and cares about me.
i'm so frustrated, so mentally drained, so stressed it's ridiculous.
i know things will get better in time, but right now, everything just sucks.
im really sorry to hear that.
i know how you feel, i havent been in your shoes exactly, but this one guy who i was really close to felt the same way as you do because of my stupid decisions.
all i can say is that its hard to get over someone who you really care about and you were so close to. heartbreak is the worst.
all i know is that it takes time, its not going to go away instantly thats for sure.
if your ex is still calling you and telling you she loves you then either shes not completely over you either, or shes being really insensitive and only cares about herself right now. it may very well be both of these things at the same time.
all i can say is to just try really hard to strain yourself from making any kind of contact with her for a while. you need time away from her to clear your mind and focus on other things.
i know this might be hard for you to do since you were in a relationship with her for a long amount of time, but whenever she calls you or texts you, dont respond.
you need to show her that you are hurt from her actions, and if you keep coming back to her like nothing ever happend, she wont ever learn that what she did was wrong.
you need to take some control and make her realize that what she is doing truely hurts and angers you. no one deserves to feel like you do, so make her see that.
good luck (:
Ok this is weird.... I've had a lil history of liking someone, and later on something happens and things become awkward or something, and I end up not liking them anymore. btw, I'm 13/f. Well when I was in elementary school, I had a crush on this dude. When he finally kinda liked me I guess, he didn't literally say it, but he said "I love you." and I was like wow wtf. So then I felt uncomfortable, and weird, and I didn't like him anymore. Even though before, I liked him a lot. Currently, I have a crush on someone. (I think) I've said things like "I love you ______" in a buddy sorta way. I would hug him, but I always hug my friends. Then today, the guy I have a crush on started acting a lil more affectionate (it was kind of in a joking/buddy way) and it just became awkward for me. I felt uncomfortable. I still do right now. I keep thinking about it and it's just so weird. Like I always imagine him doing nice things for me and things that couples would do. I even see people at school who are like that, but they're serious about their relationships. I don't think they're nervous at all. This confuses me. How can I like someone, but then when they finally like me back I decide not to like them anymore? Then things are awkward. He's still my buddy and all, I dunno about my feelings right now. It just confuses me and I wish it wouldn't happen. Shouldn't it be a good thing that the person you like likes you back? (I don't actually know if he likes me back...) I'm so confused. xD any info or advice is greatly appreciated! (I hope everything made sense. Right now it's weird for me having to explain and describe everything I'm feeling. D:)
its just nerves.
its kind of like once you get that one thing you want; and you dont know exactly what to do with it, its just confusing to you.
im sure this boy does like you and if you still do like him you need to show that some more so something can actually happen. and im sure once you two get a little more comfortable around each other, everything else will seem much easier to deal with.
i have another outlook on this. and im baseing it on what sometimes has happend to me in the past.
when i like a guy and im not too sure if he likes me or not just yet it seems like everything is easier to do for me. like i would continually be flirting with him and loved getting all the attention i could from him. but then when i find out that he likes me too, my feelings for him slowly start fading away.
i think its because i like a chase and a challange when it comes to boys. and once i know that i can have him, my desire to keep trying just goes away. i guess because it isnt as fun anymore. kind of weird right? haha.
im not sure if that is what you are doing or not, but its just an idea.
but anyways, if you still have your mind set on this boy to be more than friends, dont let anything hold you back. && remember, confidence is key. and that may be all that you need right now to get things back to normal and not be so awkward anymore.
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I don't know why but I always think that everyone hates me. I used to ask my best friend about this and he always told me that it was all in my head and that people really do like me. However, when I try to hang out with friends in my mind I seem to think that they all hate me. I know people go through stages like this, and I don't think it's so serious that I should be getting help, but is there anything I can do to fix things?
-Male, 16
it seems to me like you just need an ego boost.
you need to realize that the people you surround yourself with everyday do like you. otherwise they wouldnt even bother hanging out with you, trust me.
this definiatly isnt something serious enough get help with any time soon, so dont worry about doing that.
im sure it is common for people to question whether or not they are hated by others, but your friends are right when they said it was all in your head.
when you think something not so positive, it tends to stick with you and you get more and more unsure with yourself, so all you need is to rise your confidence level and you will be good again.
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