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okay so this could get confusing. Sorry if it is. So i have this friend, lets call her LG okay well LG and I used to be like bestfriends and we still are good friends, but not the best.okay well anyway she has (or had) this boyfriend,whose an ass, and treated her like crap. He always pressured her to do stuff, he even got a condom just incase something was to happen over the summer. Well anyway, LG finally caved in and he fingered her. well word spreads fast in my town, and alot of people found out and basically her rep. is ruined. Well anyway i am like torn becuase some of my friends are like ewww shes a bitch i hate her. but like i dont hate her. BUt i like my other friends too. What do i do?!!! help please. I hope this isnt too complicated. If it is try reading it over and over and break it down. =)

I get what your saying. If shes your best friend and you dont want to loose her and shes probably one of the best friends you've had.. then you should stick up for her. Im sure shes not really a whore or a slut and those other friends might be immature (depends on your age), but if that was my friend and other people were saying crap about her, I think I'd stick up for her. Say "if you think shes a bitch cause she got fingered once then you have no idea what your talking about". I think that you should stand for what you believe in cause if you dont, then other people will fill their thoughts in your head and you wont be able to think for yourself.. then you'll be like everyone else. And you should be proud to be individule. Hope this helps, need any more advice just ask. =)

Okay, well let me tell yu i used to be the nerdiest looking girl on the plant, trust me. I had braces and these giant glasses. Eww (no wonder no body looked at me) well anyway. i got contacts and bot my braces taken off. Now i think i look better than i did, but i still like dont have any guys liking me. What can i do to have more guys like me? Please help me!

You can work on your hair, how is it now? If its long and cut straigh, you can maybe try getting layers. You can also straghten your hair if you dont, or try srunching it with gel. Im sure if your hair is better, you should look better. Also teeth, if your teeth are whiter its way more attractive then yellowish with plaque. Eyebrows, you can always get them waxed once, then keep tweesing them to make then thinner and neater if not already. Clothes can make a differece, if you have a nice body you might want to try wearing a tighter shirt (if you feel you can look good in it) besides wearing a baggy teeshirt. And you dont have to shop at stores like Hollister or Abercrombie, etc to have nice clothes either. Make sure your face is nice, a few pimples isnt that bad, but if its ance badly or tons of nasty stuff, wash your face, use clensenser or just make sure your face is clear. You can wear makeup too. Some eyeshadow, a little eyeliner, bronzer. You can i.m me if you need tips on any of these things, I'll for sure help again. Hope this helps.

ok i have a girlfriends and i rly rly like her but im afraid she doesnt like me what should i do¿

You should ask her if she likes you or not. Maybe say that she means alot to you but your not sure if she feels the same. Hope this helped.

Ok i need advice on sex in general. It really confuses me. im a guy and i want to know more about sex cause i really need to have sex!! well i hope you can help me out!!

- Peter -

www.sextutor.com
That place has alot on sex, oral, other stuff. Its kind of hard to explain for me, but im sure you'll learn stuff there. And if you dont know about sex are you sure youre ready to be having it? Well hope this helped.

oh my katie. i love you you are one amazing person i love you and think you should know that xo

Aw why thank you vury much =)

iTS ALWAYS SOEMTYHING ,BUT NOTHINGS ALL I EVER GET, I PAINT IT BLUE THEN IT TURNS BLACK, I GO INDSANE AND THATS A FACT, ITS A NEVER ENDING ATTACK, BORN DOWN STRAIGHT UP AND THATS A FACT, LIFE IS A ELMON AND I WANT MY MONEY BAKC,

WHAT ABOUT LOVE ITS DEFECTED, ITS ALWAYS MEANT TO GO AND BREAK,

WHAT ABOUT SCHOOL ITS DEFECTED, ITS A BUNCH OF USELESS LIES,

WHAT ABOUT YOUR FUTURE, ITS DEFECTED, YOU CAN SHOVE IT UP YOUR BUM
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The musical artist "MEAT LOAF", sung this,
it is called lif is a lemon and i want my money back, you should listen to it

Thanks

Theres this boy, I really like him were not going out or anything, but we have a friends with benefits type of thing, hes fingered me and i gave him a hand job and everything, but know we both want to have sex, but im just kind of scared and stuff, i know the consequences, but i really dont understand it i just need to learn what to do like i know the guys dick is suppposed to go up me and everything, but what else is supposed to happen ?

It seems like you dont really know sex that well, but its good you understand the consequinces. You can go to this site..
www.sextutor.com
and see stuff on there. Also you can google other sites to get more info on sex. Sorry I cant really explain cause its kinda hard. Hope this helps.

when do you think its ok to lose you virginity?

I think when your a teenage is fine. I dont think theres a spasific time and you dont have to be a right age. As long as your ready and know what your doing and the conssequinces. Other people might have different opions though. Hope this helped.

but see. i have talked to him about it and stuff but he was just like your my friend and you always will be. but see when he liked me his friends made fun of him. and then he went back out with someone and i cut myself 2 times in the likes 2 weeks. i need help !

Dont cut yourself. And just try talking to him, you cant make someone like you and you cant always get what you want. But if you talk to him about it maybe it will work. Thats alomst all you can do.

ok so i have this friend. we used to be like brother and sister we were so close. but ever sicne he got his new girlfriend its like he doesnt even notice me. i feel like he is neglecting me. and i need help. so please katie help me out

Talk to him, tell him how you feel. Sometimes you cant stop from growing apart, but you can try. Just tell him how you feel, hopefully he still wants to be friends. Im sure he does, so just keep staying in touch.

im a 13 year old girl. So i met this one kid on myspace and he lives like an hour away and were in the same grade and everything well he thinks im hott and he wants to meet. and hes said he's gotten a bj and got some for 15 minutes as in sex im guessing. well so would that be wrong of me to meet him?think he might want to hook up because he always ask me what im wearing and he says he wants to kiss me. lmao.

You should be really careful. It might not actually be a kid, it could be an internet preditor. We had an assembly aabout this at school and people can get raped/hurt/killed by things like these. I would be super careful or just keep talking online till you know for sure hes a kid and actally 13. If hes some rapest you could get into alot of troulbe. Just be careful.

how do you give a hand job and finger someone. im bi.. so i need to know both

www.sextutor.com

That site has a lot of stuff so you can just go there, it gives tips and pointers. Hope this helps.

ok me and this guy are gonna hook up at a party nxt weekend and he thinks ive done this before.. i havent. i hav eno idea how to kiss and this is a big problem! i dont want to suck and i am NOT backing out of it. how do u kiss. i know this is an awkward queestion but i need help...
xxxooo

Dont worry its not akward. Well its kind of hard to explain how to kiss because theres plently different ways and you can never be sure how your going to be kissed. If you want to know how do kiss, watch movies or shows or anything where people kiss and observe how they do it. Or you can practice on things, I know it sounds weird but you can do it to like a pillow, mirror, almost anything.. practice makes perfect =). Heres a site that gives tips about kissing, i wouldnt go on it when your parents are over your shoulder though. http://sextutor.com/kissing.shtml

Or you can i.m me at HONEYBUNS9223 and I'll explain it to you if you want a persons opion. Hope this helps & good luck =)!

how do you do it?! :/

Do it as in sex? Well when you have sex they guys part goes into the girls part. Just i.m me cause i'll explain it easier..

g/15

Hey. umm well see i like this guy. lets say his name is Dan. Well i have this friend lets say her name is Connie. Well Dan and Connie went out for a while and then Connie broke up with Dan. Well now Dan is hitting on me and flirting and i like him but i don't want Connie to get mad at me. I really don't no what to do.

If Connie broke up with him, then usually she wouldn't like him anymore right? I would say that you should ask her if shes over him, and ask what she would think if you when out with him. Basically you should just ask her first alright? Hope this helps. =)

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i have to memorize this poem by shel silverstein. no matter how hard i try, i just cant memorize it. or ill memorize it for 2 minutes and then i'll forget it. I CANT STAND THIS!! help meee

Maybe just keep reading and reading it. Try having it be like the only thing you do for like an hour. I think you actually might have to like try and read things to memorize them. So just try to remember the poem by each line then put it all together. Hope this helps.

okkkkk. so im Heather
so i really would like to get "closer" with guys. if you know what i mean. but i just dont know what they would think about me after it or if they would compare me to other girls and like say stuff about me.. i dno really how to explane it. but a lot of guys dont think i would do stufff with them. but really i woulod. like say for example. that hes guna finger me. what do i do when he;s doing it and how long does it last. and how do i know if he guna do it?? ahh please help me. maybe i just should go for thinigs and not think about the consequenses.. i dno*!

♥ Heather

First, always always think of the consequenses. Thats very important. Even if you do think of them, sometimes things go bad. Im not saying not to fool around, just make sure your safe. And if you want to get closer to guys, then go ahead. If your going to get fingered and worry about how long its suppost to be, then dont. Im pretty sure theres no perfect time for getting fingered. If you plan on getting fingered, andyou dont know what to do, you can always just keep making out while your doing it, or like kiss his neck, or have him kiss yours. But you seem like your thinking to hard on what the perfect way is to do sexual stuff. If i were you, yeah i'd think about consequenses but you should do what you think is right. I hope this helps and that i answered your question okay. If not just ask again. =)

Okay. (these are fake names) so me and Sue like Rick. and i heard from Bob (ricks best friend) that he likes me more. well i dont say anything to sue. because she is the tyoe that makes up lies and im sure you no how that is. Well we were on the phone (sue is my best friend.) and just out of no where shes like yea well Rick likes me more. i no its not big or anyhting. it just gets me upset. i dont no what to do. am i making a big deal out of this. should i just forget it. like its not like this is the first time this is happing. Sue does it alot. Okay thanks for taking you time to help me with my promblems.

If "sue" constantly does this and it bothers you, you should maybe tell her. You can be like, "Sue you shouldnt make so much stuff up, or lie alot". But if your willing to get in an argument make sure you have good examples or reasons why you think she lies alot. Or you can just try and forget about it, and then deal with it next time when she acts like this. I hope this helps, and I'll always answer yours or any one elses questions =).

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