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Q: hey 13/f

all my fiends that i hang out with have all kissed a guy at some stage i feel really left out and stuff sometimes and they treat me like a baby..i just want to get it over and done with but want to like the guy as well
Please help me!!!
thanx mwa

Find someone that you like and get them to like you by flirting with them and being their friend and stuff like that and then ask them out or ask them out and then get to know them better and then if everything works out you will be going out with them and will be able to get your first kiss. You said that your shy so get one of your friends to go up to a guy with you because it always helps me whenever I have someone there with me because I don't feel like im on such a spotlight. Good Luck.

Q: ok well im bestfriends with this one guy.. and we went out before and stuff and i was his 1st kiss n stuff and basically i still have a place in my heart for him and every1 said he probably does too. ok well weve been texting and stuff and he always says he that im beautiful or gorgoues and sometimes what hed like to do to me. but he also told me that i should break up with my bf cause id have a lot of guys come after me and he wont tell me who he likes.. so im confused please help! sorry this is long

Yes he likes you, I think he wants you to break up with our bf so that he can go out with you but he only said that a lot of guys would come after you becuase 1. he was flirting 2. he wants you to choose him over everyone else i think its proably a combination of 1 and 2 though so yeah he likes you.

Q: hey! i was just wondering, is there a band t-shirt for "the rocket summer" ? i never see band t's for them..and also,where can i get them (besides hottopic?) thanks!

www.interpunk.com I get all my clothes basically from there.

Q: i care wut ppl think of me and i guess i wanna be more popular . i hav alot of friends but if anyone says anything to me like"ur being a bitch" i get rlly offended and hate them nomatter wut it is.i just weanna not care about wut ppl think of me. can someone help me?!

Personaly I don't give a crap what anyone thinks about anything. So I can probably help you. The first step is to purposely stand out. Where something different from a trend or somthing. Don't purposely look like a complete dork but dont look like everyone else. Ya know what I mean? Little things like that will add up and soon you'll be like me doing whatever you want just because.

Q: 13/f, Me and my boyfriend were talking on the phone last night and then i just randomly said, do you like another girl? Then he HUNG up!!, then i tried calling him the next morning and never got a hold of him so i messaged him saying do you like another girl or not? Then he messaged me back saying i cant believe you thought i liked susie[exgirlfriend]!! And then he goes. i guess its over then. the thing is i dont want it to be over, we have been going out for 7 months and im scared to loose him, what do i say to tell him i dont want it to be over?

THANKS :D

Tell him how much you love him and you never want to lose him you just go so afraid that you m ight lose him that you started thinking crazy thoughts like him liking someone else. Then say sorry and say you'll never let your mind wonder like that again.

Q: I told my best friend that im in love with him.
He said he only wants to be friends. but then again.. hes always " i miss you. can i call you? i miss your voicee :[ " or when i get a boyfriend and he already has a girlfriend hes all " Im so jealous. I wish I was him. " or " Is he good enough for you? I dont want you to get hurt. I love you too much for that "

We fight like every week. Over the stupidest things. But, he always gives in first. He calls me beautiful and gorgeous and i rarely hear him say those things to his girlfriend. If someone hurts me, He goes after them. He always knows how to make me feel better. And He's told me that i always make him feel better too.

I think we would make the best couple. But, he said the only reason he doesnt ask me out is because if we do break up, it'd kill him and he couldnt take not being friends with me. But, I think we'll still be friends and all if we do break up.

I just dont know how to tell him how much i love him and he understand it.

So basically he loves you but he doesn't want to mess up your friendship. If I were you I would look for ways to convice him that you would still be his friend. Tell him that youve never had such a great friend like him and youll be friends forever no matter what. And little things like that then tell him that you love him and say no matter what youll always still be friends. Just do your best to convince him that your friendship will always be there.

Q: okay so im a 16/f and i think i like my best friend that i've known since i was 4. and we use to play soccer together and we went to elementry and middle school together. lol and we might hangout soon at the mall. but im not sure what to say to him or if i should tell him that i like him. what should i do? help!!!

I had a similar problem. Ask questions like oh what do you think about her and stuff like that to see if hes in to anyone right now. And if he asks why your asking play kind of hard to get to make sure he gets that you like him without having to go out there and say it that way just in case it won't mess up your friendship. And if he is showing signs that he might like you go for it and flirt with him and then you may end up going out.

Q: 16/f
My first and last boyfriend was almost a year ago. And i know you shouldn't need a boyfriend to be happy but i have a big group of friends only 2 of them are single and i just feel really left out. We always hang out and its all couple except me and the 2 other girls(who by the way don't like me,long story). I just want that someone. and i dont know what to do. I'm sorta shy when i first meet people, or i just right off the bat think they don't like me. What should i doo!?

Find a guy that you think is cute, and funny and stuff and get one of your bestfriends of the group to introduce you somehow like do the classic drop your books or something that will get his attention or you can even just go up to him with you bff and say hi. I know you said your shy but whenever im with my bff I am a lot more outgoing because it always helps if you have someone there with you. Then get to know the guy better and sometimes even flirt with him you know get him to like you. Then in time you might go out. Good luck.

Q: Ok is it wrong to go out with a 17 year old guy if you are 14? even if you really know him because he is a friend of the family.

To me it seems a little strange but my brother went out with a 13 year old when he was 16 so its not all that weird. But then again She was very mature for her age and he was imature for his age so I suppose it all depends.

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Wow desicribing myself is hard. ive been through alot, i tried suciding and whole bunch of crap that screws up your life and i want to help you through anything. but the worst ive been through was a heartbrake a TRUE heartbrake for 9 months i cried everyday so i know what it feels like to fall in love and then be broken and i can help you through almost anything when it comes to that.