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My name is Misty. Im 23 years old. Im a part time bartendar a part time student and a full time mother of 3 kids. My oldest son is 6years old and my youngest son is 8weeks old and my daughter is 18 months.
Ive been through alot in my short life and feel I can anwser just about anything and I hope my advice helps you out.
I thought this would be a good idea because Im the one everyone calls when they have a problem so I figured I would spread the love.
Ive taken many courses in psychology during my college courses if that helps any.
Just to make it clear my advice is what I think is best but you have to judge for yourself on what you believe to be the best thing to do in your sitation.

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wut r the things that girls like about guys? and wut things should we give them as gifts? Im in despate need of help! I just dont understand girls!

All girls are different but most depending on age like a guy with a sence of humor and one that can listen well and try his best to understand her feelings.
Dont worry you probably never will understand girl..my husband is 33 and he still dosent understand them..lol .. all you can do is try your best to.

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Im into theater and all that stuff but im NOT GAY!!! i also dance for some of the shows. why do people think im gay??? GRRR it makes me so mad!!!! Why do ppl generalize like that?

We they are thinking that because theater and dance arnt "common" things for a male to be involved in. But to heck with their sterotypes. One day when you are in the spotlight and they are pumping your gas you can ask "what now?" to them.

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im in need of a new screen name and i have no clue with ideas!i like the color pink..im in dance and poms..i have blonde hair and green eyes..im preppy and spoiled..i have a guy in my life im crazy about! well theres a few things about me! can you please help me!? thanks a bunches!

You like to dance hey..well what about "tinydancer" after that song.

"..hold me closer tiny dancer..."

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ok yes ik that this user name has been used before for my sisters questions but my name is krissy and i have a question to ask and i don't want to make up a screen name...

any ways im going into 7th grade and i want to wear padded bras because when i try them on they seem more comfortable but my mom said that they nmake my boobs look to big...but i think it looks good. i really want to get a padded bra but im scarerd to ask my mom if i can buy one...by the way i am a B-34 is that big for a 13 year old? and is wearing a padded bra bad for my age?

thanx
Krissy 13

Well a padded bra is a bit like false advertising isnt it. lOL
I would worry about wearing one..A B cup is an average size.
An A cup is small B cup is average and C or D is large but thats just a basic guideline because it all depends on what your body frame is rather or not its the right size on you.

Your only 13 so I wouldnt worry at this point and thats probably what your mom thinks as well.

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Can you really download a movie on limewire? I mean,do you have to have certain cds if you can burn them? And I was trying to look for the notebook, and a lot of them say 1 of 3..what does that mean? and if you can burn them to a cd, it is like a a movie right? Does it come out clear?

Yes you can download movies but ive never done it on limewire. You have to have a special DVD burner for your computer (kind of like a cd burner) when it says 1 of 3 that means its the first part of the movie and you have to download 2 and 3 for the rest of the movie.
All the times I have downloaded movies and burned them it has come out clear.

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how can i tell if my BF is circumcized or not without asking him..i don't wanna ask him and him feel uncomfortable

If you have seen his penis you will know if he has been or not. An un-circumsized penis looks very different from one that is. There will be a layer of skin (the foreskin) covering it.

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A couple of weeks ago I was invited to go to the NJ shore with one of my best friends, Sam. I was very excited...each of her siblings is bringing a friend, and she chose me to go for the week with her & her family! The date is August 13th-20th. Just today, however, she called me and was like "I just found out Catherine is coming too, is that all right?" Obviously I said yes...I wasn't going to be rude & tell her no. However Catherine is Sam's friend (their families are good friends too) and she does not go to my school. I have met her before, & she is very nice, but I really don't know her well. To be honest, I am not sure that I am so psyched to go anymore, because she is going to have Catherine there too. I know it sounds mean, & I have nothing against Catherine, but it just seemed rude that Sam never mentioned she would be there before. I am not sure if it is just her, or her entire family comeing (it is a very big house) so I don't know if it was like her mom who invited her or what. I honestly don't know if I want to go for a whole week anymore...I mean I am sure it would still be fun but it is just not the same. Do you think it is silly for me to be upset? Should I just go, or should I decline? I mean I still want to see the NJ shore & go to the beach & be with my friend, but it is just confusing now. Should I talk to her? If so what exactlu do I say? Sorry this is so long!

I can understand that you want to have your friend all to yourself and her bringing someone else along is makeing you a big jelouse but look at it this way..maybe you will really get along with the other girl she is bringing and have a new friend to add to your circle.

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OK my ex boyfriend calls me everyday to talk about his day. He slips in a sentence about me and him then he talks about his girlfriends. Yes that is plural. He has more than 1. He asks me to rate him on how hot he is on a scale from 1-10. I rate him a 7 and a half. He has a nice body but he's not niice to me when we date. This guy, does he still like me or not? I rate! Sorry so long. We had a relationship for 2 months before I found out he cheated on me.

I hate to sound harsh but why are you still with him when hes has other girlfriends? Just dump him!
And he sounds very full of himself when he is asking you to rate him.

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hey ..alright my name is ashley ..and im 13..i weigh about 130..im 5'5..but my upper legs are HUGE......... but no one really notices..like..last year i wore pants size 1/3/4..i cant even wear a 5! and its making me very upset..iv gained almost 15 punds since school got out..and school start august 26...but im also very tall..my height is around 5'5 5'6..and i also got a big butt..how can i lose between 10-15 pounds? i hate exercising..and i crave for food everytime i try not to eat alot...please help me......- tear -


xoxo ashley

You sound like your the right weight for your size but the only way to loose weight and keep it off is to watch what you eat and exercise. Find exercises that work the muscles in the parts you want to loose weight in IE: your legs and butt.
To keep from eating so much junk food try to keep sliced veggies and fruit handy and drink alot of water to help keep you full.

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WELL...Im like IN LOVE with this guy name brandon...and i have been fer a LONGGGG time....and like last nite...i was with him at a festival..and like we held hands and we held each other..and omg i felt like the luckiest girl alive....bc like everybody likes him and hes the hottest guy i think ive ever seen and hes the nicest guy and everything about him..i like..and today my friend asked him who he liked and he said me and another girl..im so sad i just want him so bad..i dont kno what to do..ive been like crying and everything..and im pretty sure he knows i like him..because i tell like everybody...sometimes when hes not talking to me when were online..bc sometimes he'll like ignore me..or stop talking to me..ill put i like somebody in my profile and ill put the name..and make him jealous..BC thats just how crazy in love i am with him..and it hurts to not have him..what should i do? PLease help me=\

thanks, Ashlee.

Allthough may be hot as you put it, he dosent sound mature enough to deserve you love.
Explain to him how you feel plain and simple and see what he has to say about it.

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Everything about my mom annoys me!! When she eats a popsicle stick it looks like she's making out with it, she doesn't wax he bikini and its GROSS, she's so un hip (but thats typical in moms), and she's just weird. How can I learn to live with my mom? I'm only 13 so i have to live with her still!!!

She may seem weird to you but guess what..you seem weird to her too. She probably cant understand why you dress they way you do or etc just as you feel about her.
You have to understand she is an adult and I dont think she worrys much about rather people think she is "hip" or not.

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My one year anneversary is coming soon, and i have no idea about what to do, i want to make it special and something that me and my boyfriend will never forget, i dont want the usually movies or dinner thing, we do that almost every weekend, so i want to do something we have never done, and please dont say have sex, because we want to wait until were married, please give me some sweet and romantic ideas, im so blank right now!!! thanks in advance...♥

signed,
need your advice!!!

Well once for valentines day I made scrap book for my husband. Each page had a different picture of us and a poem on it.
If your not a poet then find some poems on the net or have each page have a reason why you love him.
Such as each picture could have a little saying on it "I love you because.."

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Are there any products that can cover up a mole on my face? I'm getting it removed sometime in the future, but for now I need something that can hide it. Foundation and powder aren't that thick enough to do the job.

Igia brand cover up is really think and will cover most anything. Its available on infomercials or at the "as seen on tv" section at walmart.

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Ok well im a 17/f and me and my boyfriend have sexand everything but like 4 months ago his condom broke and we didnt know it and now im pregnant. Well i want to keep the baby and my parents are all for me and any choice i make about the baby. Well my boyfriend and me are decieding if we should keep the baby and he wants to help raise the child if we decide to keep it. well i dont know if i should keep the baby. you see i will be able too because i act very mature for my age, i already moved out of my house when i was 16 because of family issues and i already have 1 child( i was raped when i 14 and i didnt give her up for adoption) what should i do should i keep the baby or give it up?

I strongly am against abortion of any sort and for any reason so if you think you cannot handle the baby please choose adoption. If you have a child already why would you not want to keep this one.
I strongly commend you for keeping the baby you had by being raped. It was a very great thing for you to do and alot of people would not have been strong enough to do it.
Just remember, babys alway happen for a reason, they are never a "mistake" even though they may come at a bad time.
I got pregnant at the age of 16 so I know what your going through somewhat.

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all of my friends are some of the nicest people in the world...but my dad just doesn't seem to like any of them. he always calls them brats or says that i can't hang out with them. they've all met him, and i keep telling him how great they are...but he just doesn't listen. how do i get him to see how amazing ALL my friends are?

Maybe your dad thinks they will be a bad influence on you. Make it clear to them you are old enough to choose your own friends and old enough not to be influenced by them as well.

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Okay.If a guys fingers are too big to finger you,what happens?Does it go through anyways or not?What happens?Help me out please,I would appreciate it highly.Thanks in advance.

You shouldnt have to worry about his fingers being to big. Your vagina is much like a rubber band that can strech to accomidate then go back to its original size.

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13-m---like on a regular day, what kind of manners do girls notice the most or expect to see. guys dont care but thats not the group im aimed at. (just like when ur doing regualr things not like in front of ur g/f)

Opening a door for the girl saying excuse me if you burp or do worse and for heavens sake put the toilet lid down after useing the bathroom and dont, I repeat dont, use chewing tobacco or scratch yourself you know where..thats a HUGE turn off.

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I like to shave everything if you know what i mean. well this is the first time but i noticed red little bumps by wear my pubic bone(the triangle area) well im not sure if its razor bumps. the day i shaved it hurt and then little bumps appeared. I think they are since i do shave against the grain which i heard is bad. they dont hurt it just hurt after i shaved. if any one could tell me if its from shaving plz let me know. there very small and only right by wear i was shaving.

To help cut down on that let the shaving cream set in for a bit before shaving the put some really heavy duty lotion on the area afterwords and that should cut down on it alot.

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i'd like to know if it is wrong to donate your eggs/semen to couples who cannot copulate in exchange for money. There are constanly ads for this sort of thing and i'm broke. my boyfriend thinks it's horrible that i would want to give my not-yet-concieved child away, but if it provides me enough cash to stay in school, pay rent, and get to work on public transit I can't see how it is so wrong if i screen the people to give it to. i don't want to do the wrong thing to make money, i just naturally see it as helping people, nt selling a baby. please help?

I think if your wanting to do it for the right reasons IE: help a childless couple then its great but if your doing it for the money its horrible. Just think, you could have a son or daughter out there you could walk past on the street and not know it was them even.
But if your hearts in the right place then go for it.

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i've been dating this high soceity broad for about twelve years. the other weekend, i finally met her parents for the first time. they were nice old timers, a little mad that we havent tied the knot yet, but polite enough to me anyways. the point is, i was at the dinner table in their *HUGE* home, and, being the lower-class truck driver i am, i had my elbows on the table while eating. her parents, sticklers for etiquette, were appalled that their daughter would date someone like me and forced her to break up with me. i think this is stupid. i left the house that night and havent seen her since. should i get back with her, even though her parents kicked me out of their house for talking with food in my mouth? what should i do?

signed,
mannerless

Your gf chose you for what you are and its none of her parents business. If she allowed them to make the two of you break up then it sounds like she has some growing up to do.

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