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Hi. I'm Sarah. I've had my heart broken, and to be honest, I've just come out of a really rough patch, but now I'm back on my feet and giving advise again. Fantastic no? I'm not judgemental, I don't stereotype people and I'm completely honest. Still not good enough for him though...

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I'm doing a project on rules in schools, the good and the bad. However, I need rules that AREN'T just at my schoo or in my state.

I was wondering, what kind of dress codes do you guys have at your schools? Length of shorts, tank tops, ripped jeans?

Also, what are the rules on PDA? We get suspension if we're caught hugging.

Just any rules you may feel strongly about or just ones you guys totally love!

Thanks so much!
Female, 14.

hi I go to a posh all girls school in England.

knee length green skirt,
long sleeved white shirt
green tie
green blazer
hair has to be tied back
black or green shoes, completely flat
white or black socks.

there are no guys in our school to hug.
thought it might help having rules from an entirely different school.

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im 13/f and i weigh 140 im pretty much FAT and i hate it. my goal is to be 120 by the end of october. i need you to tell me what a good diet is.. like what food to eat and im only 13. i cant cook that well.so give me som easy stuff for breakfast lunch and dinner.. and i was also thinking about walking like and hour a day and a workout from on demand.or do you wanna give me a workout plan? tell me if this is a good plan or not. please!!!

Be very careful with dieting. Don't starve yourself, it's very dangerous and can cause your body to go into shock. A few simple things to do are to
cut out chocolate, chips and fast food like burgers or fries as much as you can. (I know this can be difficult especially if your parents notice)
walk as much as you can
Drink lots of water and eat lots of fruit and vegetables
join a sports group
And if you want to lose weight quickly, go to your doctor, they can give you real adivse for a balanced and low fat diet. xx

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ok so last year i went out with this guy joe. it was a 2 day relationship so i dont like to call him my ex. we "broke up" because he said he was embarassed to go out with me (which is a load of crap if you ask me). then he told me that he broke up with me cuz he liked my best friend too. well we broke up in may and joe and my best friend went out for about a month.

ive had a lot of time to get over him and i pretty much am. but last night i had a dream about him. we were at prom and i was with my best friend and my other friend katie. well joe taps me on the shoulder and asks me to dance. i of course said yes. then we slow danced and i had my arms around him and he had his arms around me.

does that mean i still have feelings for him?? i want to be over him completely but apparantly i still miss him. please help me!!

If you want to get over him, do something to take your mind off him. Go shopping with your friends and try to spend as little time alone as you can. But at the same time your 13, enjoy life while you can and dont get too hung up about boyfriends.

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ok so i got my self in a siruation where...i just cheated on my boyfriend...and before that night i was a virgin and now im not. and like. i dont know what i shoudl do. I didnt really want to have sex with the guy...but i was in a situation where i had to be sorta quite and i was saying no...but i dont think he heard me or maybe he just didnt care. but like. he didnt use protection and im not on birth control. and im pretty sure he pulled out before...but like. i just dont know what to do and im freaking out.

Talk to your boyfriend about it, if you don't it'll come out later on, and you will lose him. Get a pregnancy test, even if he pulled out, there's still a high chance your pregnant.
Tell someone about the other guy, because if you said no, he was wrong. Hope it all works out. xx

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I am female and 15 years of age...The relationship i have with my mum is becoming strained and we are becoming further apart and arguing more. Things are getting really difficult as she is too over-protective and i am starting to want to move out and get my independance. We argue too much and i'm worried i'll stop being able to talk to her. What can i do to get my independance and keep a strong relationship with my mum?

Talk to her. Try and build up the friendship with her for a while and try to ignore the lack of independence. Give it a few weeks and once you feel you're getting closer, then ask her to give you more freedom. It takes time. If you think she'll react badly, put up with her being too protective, it's better than losing the relationship completely. xx

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does anyone know a good site that tells you different hairstyles to suit different face types? Like the shape of your face?
thanks =D

Go to a hairdressers and get a real person to tell you what looks good. That way you get a straight answer and theres no guesswork. Otherwise have fun trying to work out what shaped face you have. xx

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hi, im a 15 year old girl, never had a bf, but have made out with TOONNNS of guys, and have had plenty of admirers.
the problem?
im not happy with life, but i dont think my love life has anything to do with it..
but everyone else seems to, everywhere i go people are always like "life is nothing without love" so i get it, love is important. i belive so too, if i live life for my career or firends, i will not be happy,,i need true love.
but is it realy THAT important? really?
like does my whole happyness depend on love?
and does having a bf realyy matter?
ive heard people who have steady relationships often do better in life, better in school, with friends and s on.. but i dont get it? why does having a bf make life easier??
do you have any experciences of this in your own personal life?? care to share?? thx.

Having a bf does not matter, if I'm completely honest it's more difficult, you have to set aside time for them. You have to make sure you have time for other friends and for school work. And then there's judgemental friends that don't like him. I wouldn't make a conscious effort to get a boyfriend, if it happens, it happens. Make sure they don't take over your life. Being single is much more fun anyway. xx

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ive had my braces for over a month and the color bands they put on them some are fading and some fell off? I dont know how it happened but could anyone tell me what they did that and im not going back to the orthadontist for a month

I had braces so my advise:
Don't eat curry!
Strongly coloured foods can actually stain the bands which does not look good. I would advise going to see your orthodentist because when they fall off the wire will not be held in place properly, this could be slowing down the progress of the braces. That means, you'll have them even longer. They're not that bad though and they'll be off sooner than you think. xx

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hi,
my girlfreind is cutting her wrists and im really worried about her and want her to stop how do i go about telling her and getting her to stop i dont want her to hurt herself.. please ..!!:(:( i love her heaps but i dont want her to be hurting herself...
im male and 14.
thankyou

She's the only one that can get through this, so you need to make sure she knows you're there for support. Talk to her, it's the most help you can give. xx

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I like to spend alot of time with my b/f and all my close friends have either moved away or i dont talk to them anymore. His friends are always dropping by and constantly are hanging out with him. He keeps saying he wants his alone time and doesn't want me to be there all the time, but how much space is enough space?

You've got to ask him how much space he needs. It probably seems like the hardest thing to do right now but you need to know where you stand in the relationship. You could leave it for a while and see if there's change, but it's you that's gonna be hurt. Just ask though, if he's worth it he'll give you a straight answer. xx

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