Hi..my name is Skyla. I'm 18 and I luv 2 give and recieve advice and just luv 2 talk. So, if you ever have a question or need advice, i'd luv 2 hear from u. I'm not the brightest person in the world, but I'll try to fill u in on what I know... or if you ever wanna just talk, you know where to find me!! =)
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I was told that once I began my period that I could come in and get my Depo Provera shot. I had very light pink/brown discharge for about 1-2 days and a day later I noticed that it seemed somewhat red. The next day it was still red, but light and there was a clot. I asked the nurse if this was my period and she said that it sounded like it was so I went in and got my Depo shot. The very next day I noticed that I had light pink/brown discharge and my "period" stopped. During this time I had no cramping, my breasts didn't hurt, no headaches, etc..just that. I was wondering if this was normal with a Depo shot, if that was really my period and if it wasn't, was it okay for me to get that shot. Also, I was wondering how long after the shot should I wait to have sex? And what if I had sex like two days later? Thanks! (link)
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I'm really sorry for replying to this question so late.. I have one question first b4 i try to answer this lol.. don't think i'm stupid or anything, but what's a dep prevera shot? i fell really stupid asking this question though...
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15/f
okay so you've probably heard this before but i need some advice. my boyfriend wants to "go further" as he put it. we've been dating 7 months and i'm open to that, but all i've ever done is makeout. like i have no idea what i'm doing and i don't really know how far he wants to go but i'm guessing like bj's and stuff. i don't really know what to do you know and i don't want to be like super nervous so ha is there any like websites that give advice on this? only reason i ask that is you're not allowed to get in detail about this stuff on here.
and please don't tell me i'm too young, i'm not not not goiing to have sex, i know i'm not ready for that. thanks in advance =] (link)
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Well first off, it's good that you made the decision that your weren't going to have sex and that your not ready. Most kids your age now days make the mistake of having sex knowing they're not ready, and just jumping into things when they could wait. But, if you think your ready for smaller things than sex, but more than making out, then when you and him get to that stage, you'll know what to do. It'll probably just come kinda natural for you and things will fall into place. Of course at first it's going to be kinda weird probably because you haven't done anything like that before. But, just make sure that you and your boyfriend talk it out before anything happens and make sure that he isn't going to want to go all the way because your not ready for that. The best thing in that department is to wait. But, if you think your ready for the other, then go ahead. It'd be better for you to do something like that than go all the way at the age of 15, especially knowing that your not ready for it. Hope everything works out for you!! Good luck...
~ Skyla ~
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haha this is weird but when you get fingered do you like stand up or lay down? (link)
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if I had to pick one, I'd probably say laying down because it seems like laying down would seem more relaxing, but that's just my guess, because when your standing up, you probably wouldn't be relaxing at all. lol
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i was on birthcontrol for 3 months and switched to another one ive been on this one for 2 months. me and my boyfriend have sex. he just pulls out. do you think its safe for him to not pull out ? and just "ya know" inside of me. & whwn is the safest time after your period to do it ? (link)
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well, since your on birth-control, this will be a better chance that you won't get pregnant, but there's always that small chance. But I mean if you wanted to chance it, then it would be safe for him to get off in you. and yeah it would be safe for him to pull out. i know it's not much.. but yeah
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wHAT Are they? and like what do you do and what does it mean if you've been to...name base....
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well, i look at it like this:
1st base: holding hands
2nd: kissing (including french)
3rd: um... "extreme touching" which may lead to hand jobs, blow jobs, fingering...
4th base/home run: sex
but apparently i see things alittle differently from everybody else.. so hope I helped..
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so i always used to have a strong personality, and i was really strong willed, but this past year i've lost myself. people walk all over me, my friends my family - even my boyfriend who is usually a pushover is always walking all over me. i tried finally talking to him and he acted like he was listening, then two minutes later he acted like nothing ever happened and went back to normal. i don't want to fight so i didn't say anything but it really bothers me that he didn't take me being upset seriously.
i feel like everybody is always laughing at me, and they walk all over me. i don't like to fight but nobody listens when i say something. im tired of being a joke what can i do without causing drama? (link)
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In some sense I know how you feel because there's time where I still get treated like that. I get tired of it sometimes and my anger builds up, but it all depends on how you act among everything. There's always going to be people in life that try to bring you down. Most of the time it's because they're jealous of you and they're self-consience about themselves. But whatever you do, don't let people walk all over you. If you standing up for yourself causes drama, who cares... Besides, there's drama every day like all the time, so I don't think it would matter. If people try to walk all over you and push you around, and if you just keep a smile on your face and not let it get to you, people will eventually quit because they know it doens't get to you anymore and make sure they know that by keeping that smile. I know it may sound hard, but trust me, it helps out a lot because I tend to do that sometimes. Hope I helped... ~ Skyla ~
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do guys like it more if a girl shaves "down south"??
and if so.. like.. straight bald or what??..
i really don't know!!! (link)
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Well technically it is your body so I think you should do whatever your most comftorable with. I mean, I trim mine, that could be a start for you if you didn't want to shave completely down there. You could just trim it down to a stuble if you didn't want it completely off or long..you know.. But, if you really wanted to know what guys liked, I've heard that a lot of guys like it shaved, but most of them are immature, but there are some that really don't care. But it's all up to you though because it's your body, not there's, they're just going to have to live with it.. lol. Hope I helped. ~ Skyla ~
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so my bf is very experienced and in a way that makes me feel better, but in a way it doesn't. he's ready to have sex with me and i love him alot and i do want him to be my first but i just don't know if i'm ready. the only things i've really done is kiss.. i did make out by the guy forced himself of me so it doesn't really count. i wanna go all the way with him cuz i completely trust him and i want my first time to be with someone experienced so they don't expect much from me. should i wait or just do it? i'm so confused. please help!!! =]
much appreciation, Chelsea (link)
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I agree with Melody.. if you love him then what's the rush? I mean, if you wait until your married to have sex with him, trust me, it'll mean something more special knowing that you've saved yourself completely for that one special person. And if all you've done is kissed, going from kissing to having sex is a very big step. And that is very risky, especially if your confused on whether or not your ready to have sex. Also, if you wait with this guy to have sex, then your relationship is going to be much stronger, trust me. Hope I helped and hope you make the decision that your comftorable with. ~ Skyla ~
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k, well i know fingering is not sex but i didnt know what catergory to put it under.
but anyways, i heard that the first time you get fingered you bleed. is this true? also if it is, is there anything i can do to "it" so i don't bleed the first time i get fingered, because i know i'm ready for it but i just don't want the akwardness of him having blood all over his hands or whatever.
thanks. (link)
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Yeah, I'm pretty much going to say what everybody else said... There is a chance of you bleeding the first time your fingered. But there's also a chance of you not bleeding because you could've already broken your hymen, which you could've done by using tampons, playing sports, or maybe even just stretching a lot. So, when you do get fingered and you don't bleed, then your hymen's probably already been broke. But, if you do bleed, then it's just a natural thing, so surely he can handle it. ~ Skyla ~
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how do i insert a tampon?
i use tampax gentle glide, there plastic.
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well i would try to answer this, but I think Melody pretty much answered the questioned completely. (in which i think you shoulda gave them a 5, but u know watever) but yeah, stick with wat she said.
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15/f.... i have this friend who i met in the september of 2007 in gym class. it was like an instant friendship and we got along so well. we never faught or anything, the only difference we had was that she was a year older than me but it was not even a big deal. we joked and could talk for forever. then out of nowhere a few weeks ago an akwardness started between us everytime we spoke and it was obvious. our conversation would run dry within a few minutes. i try to keep the conversation going but i don't know, it seems like something about me is bugging her or like she always has something on her mind. i dont know what to do because she's a real good friend of mine but i can't even talk to her anymore without feeling like a stranger...i need to know what to do. (link)
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there may be something that's been bothering her.I know it may seem awkward, but it'll probably be worth it in the end if you just try to talk to her one on one. She may want to talk to you about something, but feels like she can't. It may be up to you to see what's going on. I hope everything works out! write me back if it does, it'd like to know how it went. hope i helped. ~ Skyla ~
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there's this guy who always play jokes with me and "flirts" with me and everybody tells me tht he likes me but every time i talk about his crush, he will get shy and happy (he's not a player)he always plays tricks on me we normaly looks very close like i pat his head and he turned shy and say "stop patting my head and i'm not cute!" in a not-angry-way-but-appricates-it kind of way and he totally ingores me when his buds are around and also there's another guy who is a "geek" confess 2 me which i don't even like him! (link)
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lol.. this is so funny.. i so never even knew i had a question in my inbox 'till now. i'm so so so sorry for not answering this question you posted it to me. and of course i know there's no point now in giving my advice lol.. once again.. sorry about that. i hope everything worked out the way you wanted it to!!!!!!!!!!!! ~ Skyla ~
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15/f
okay,so way before i even knew what it was i was attracted to girls.ive been attracted to guys,but a lot more girls.So i was pretty sure i was bi-sexual.But i had sex and done everything with a guy,and didn't get any enjoyment whatsoever.not because it was my first time,because even after that.i just am not attracted to a penis.touching it grosses me out unless im drunk or something.but i still think a lot of guys are hott and thought i was like in love with one.but its just so wierd now,cause when i did everything with a girl it just seemed right and everything(of ocurse the first time was kinda awkward tho)
but yeah so now im really confused (link)
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Ok. Now, I didn't write that. I'm so so sorry that that rude comment was made. I was sitting at the desk and I left to go to another room and somebody came and must have gotton under my name. I didn't even know anything about it until my account was banished and I felt extremely horrible. I hope you can forget about that and accept my apology. I mean, I'm against bi's, gays, and stuff like that, but I would never say that. I hope you can understand. Bye. ~ Skyla ~
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When i was 9 until i was 11 i was molested by my brother, who was in high school at the time. I come from an upper class family with overly protective parents so it is one of those things nobody ever thought could have happened to me.
the molestation went so far some would call it rape, i'm not sure. He would make me do things to him, and him to me, and if i said no he would make me feel ashamed for "not liking it" he made me feel discusting for it also, and would threaten me if i told. i sometimes would cry when he did this, and he made me have "sex talks" with him. finally one day i told him i didnt want to do this again, i was so scared i was bawling and shaking. he stopped because he thought i was going to tell, but he had ways of keeping me quiet.
now i'm 16, almost 17, and this experience haunts me. I have issues with my boyfriend, have horrible horrible nightmares, i've acted out been suicidal... that's just the surface of the problem really.
Everybody says, "tell somebody" but nobody understands. Because of this i've spent alot of my life acting out and looking for attention, my brother is a nice funny guy who everybody loves. Not alot of people have seen his darker side. Nobody would believe me, and i say that with 100% certainty. My family would turn on me and it would make life even more miserable.
he's so good at pretending it never happened, sometimes i wonder if he has any remorse at all.
My brother is now almost graduated from college and is not home very often, which is good for me. I am not really afraid of him anymore, I am, but I talk to him sometimes and do normal brother-sister stuff. i do not think he has done this to anybody else, and i've kept a close eye on it.
He's moved on with his life, but I am deteriorating. I can't explain everythign that has happened through this, but i've tried everything to help me through this and nothing works. I need somebody to talk to about this, someody who I can e-mail (rather IM) and help me. I cannot seek professional help because I am underage and don't have much money. I need somebody to talk to because I am tired of being sick like this. So please respond if you would be willing to help me
and please, no twelve year old girls or people who only want to talk once or twice. I really appreciate that you care, but you really can't help me. nd I understand if you do not have the time or experience to understand what I am talking about and decide not to respond. I just need to heal from this (link)
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I am really sorry to hear this.. i mean, i can't even imagine wat your going through. i can't say i know how you feel, because i've never been through the same thing. that's really sad that there's people out there that do that kinda stuff. i mean, i know it's your brother and all, and maybe he's changed now, i honestly have no clue, but he shouldn't have done what he done. but i would really love to talk to you and you can talk it all out to me.. but keeping it in isn't gonna help at all.. and ur really brave to ask to talk to somebody about this..well my email address is Soldia4Christ_1@yahoo.com so, just write me and i'll definately write you back!! i love to talk to people and try to help them out!
oh and i agree with the other person, Joyce Meyers is really good.. she has a lot of good books.. oh yeah, and my messenger id is skylalou_1 if you have messenger and all.. well, i hope to hear from you soon!! ttyl Skyla 17/f
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can i have sex with u sometime? (link)
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hmmm.. could you tell me who you are? i would try to guess who you are, but you could be anybody.. well, I'm gonna be smart and save myself for marriage.. but for some odd reason, i have a feeling you already know that... whoever you are lol.. but, if i was married to you then yeah lol
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Lately my school has been talking to us about abortion. They think it's wrong and I'm not sure about it. I'm NOT pregnant, but there are girls in my school who are and each of them has said they wish they would have had an abortion. I think it's wrong, but it could also be for the best if one was to have an abortion.
Please voice your opinions on abortion. I would love to hear everything you have to say about it. (link)
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IT'S ABSOLUTELY WRONG!!! in the Bible it clearly states that God is against it, and if we're his children and a follwer for him, we should be against it, too.. i agree with the person in front of me, if your willing to have sex, then you should be willing to face the consequences. getting an abortion is just like killing someone, and in the ten commandments it says thou shall not kill.. besides, idk how people can even think about getting an abortion when you know your killing a poor little innocent child that was supposed to be coming into this world and has a purpose, until they're lives were destroyed by an abortion, yet God takes them home where they can have peace and happiness eternally with our Savior Jesus Christ!!! hope i helped make everything more clear.. =) Skyla
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I am a Christian but my entire group of friends is not. I want to tell them about Jesus or my faith, but I constantly find myself afraid of their disapproval, but I need to because it won't be long before I become tempted to go against my beliefs. How do I make my stand? (link)
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well, just continue to talk to them about Jesus, and if they choose not to listen, continue to pray for them.. but, we all have to remember that we can't get too close to people that aren't Christians.. it even states that in the bible, i'm not for sure where i found it the other day, but it looks like i'm gonna have to highlight it.. but, try to go against your beliefs.. that'll be the last thing you'll ever wanna do.. but if it does get that bad, then honestly it looks like your going to have to find some Christian friends.. just continue to pray, and God'll help you through everything.. =) hope i helped Skyla
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okay please dont answer if you cant handle this subject!Also please dont answer if your going to start preching to me because ill jus rate you a 1!!mmmk! so i was talking to my bf and he said that his mom somedays made him read the bible and he asked me do i read it and i said no.then he asked me did i go to church and i said no and he said well thats bad because your probably not going to go to heaven.then this girl who sits next to me who i am friends with who is very religious(dads a preacher)had to jump into the conversation and add her two cents.she started preachen about how if you dont beleieve in god your going to hell and blah blah blah.i simply told them i dont really beleive in jesus and that whole heaven and hell thing! then these other to girls jumped into the conversation to add some of there two cents.they said its common sence that if you dont beleive in jesus your going to hell and i said again that i just dont beleive in that stuff.then the girl sitting besid me started telling me about how she had seen and been through stuff...like she said that she knew somebody that had died and come back from the dead.i just kind of looked at her and was like,yeah sure whatever you say and tried to end the conversation there!I just want to know why people get so jumpy on the subject! why do people constantly try to convince u that jesus is real?!?i take civics and it clearly says in the 1st amendment "freedom of religion" so why are people constantly trying to get people to beleive in that stuff?!?then people start to get mad because i dont beleive in all that and i dont go to church!honestly the theory that are bodies disinigrate and become part of the earth is more logical then- there is a GOD in the sky that tells people if they diserve to go to a good place if they have been good or a bad place if they have been bad!and another thing...the bible was not written by GOD!it was written by a bunch of people who wanted to make it for whatever reason! so yeah...i dont get mad at people if they beleive in all of that but i dont understand why people get mad at me because i dont! its absolutely completely immposible to talk to these danm ignorant people about christianity!!!all they do is argue about how were going to hell!!!there is no hell to go to so it really doesnt matter!!!!i just wish some people would leave it alone!!why do they feel they are right in every way and everyone should beleive in jesus! i just would like to know a good way to deal with these kind of situations if i ever do get into one again which i probably will! i do not want to start going off at the mouth which sometimes i badly do want to because there so ignorant and stuborn but i do want to get my point across so any advice?!?!? (link)
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well, i'm a Christian, but i don't push religion onto people.. I understand what your going through, even though i believe what they're saying, they shouldn't try to pressure you into their religion because that just pushes people away.. most Christians don't understand that they can't just push Christianity onto people, those people have to be willing to get into it. yeah, people do have a right to their own religion, and if you don't want people to be all up in your business on what you believe, just tell them that you have a right to believe what you want.. i mean, some of us nice christians just try to talk about their religion because they care about others and where they're going to go for eternity, they just sometimes don't realize that they're pressuring some.. and others, on the other hand, only do that to look good in front of others so they'll think they're all goody-goody.. hope i helped.. =) Skyla
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My neice is mentally retarded. We just found out. My sister was hysterical. My mom was crying. My dad was very mad/sad. I felt nothing. Is this wrong? I love my neice and care about her, but i don't care if shes retarded. I'll still love her the same. I feel bad for the troubles she will have to go through but i'm not really sad. Also i am kinda pissed about how everyone else is so pissed off. Is this good or bad and why am i feeling this way? (link)
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they could be P-d off because they don't want the child to have to get made fun of by people with no hearts.. but, that should be it, i mean, the child can help being mentally retarded. it's good that your going to love her whether she's retarded or not.. there's nothing wrong with the way your handling it, especially if you've said that your going to love her no matter what..
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Is it true that you can get stretch marks around your mouth from giving a guy a blow job? (link)
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no, as far as I know you can't.. probably some loser just scaring people with stupid rumors lol..
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