ive always been a pretty jelous person, not going to lie.. i am 14 yrs old and going to be a sophmore. i am pretty, a cheerleader, hang with the 'popular' crowd, have an older boyfriend, and a lot of friends. (not trying to brag, just want you to get the full idea, i would never say this to someone and i dont want to come off as a snob). so you may think i have all this, what more could i get, right? well most of my friends have A LOT more than i do. money wise. they are loaded for the most part.. and im not poor, but i cant afford what they can and i try to fit in my best. also, im not saying im fat, but im not skinny like my friends... i try to be SUPER nice to everyone, and i have a lot of apathy for many people but when you get on my wrong side, i can be the biggest bitch you will ever meat.
so now you know about me, lets get to the story.. i dont know who 'myself' is. for example, when somebody says "be yourself" i just cant because i dont know who i am. im always trying to follow my friends because for some reason im always jelous of them and their personalities. i dont know why. i try to say to myself that what i have in life is fine for me and i dont need to be someone else to be happy but it just happens.. if i hang out with one of my friends like 3 days in a row, ill immediately start to act and talk like them and its very wierd because i cant help it and it is very wierd and it lasts for a few days.
part of me thinks this happens because my mother is a complete bitch and always tells me im never happy, im such a butch, im so mean, no body likes me, im a fatass, (etc.).. she lowers my self esteem so much till the point where i cant take it any more and i tried to talk to her about it but she doesnt want to hear it. and i know you may say 'dont listen to her' well at first, i dont.. but then after, what she said repeats in my head and i cant help to believe it might be true. and the way she describes me, i dont want to be that way.. she makes me feel like my personality isnt good enough for people and maybe thats why i try to act like my friends.
someone pleas help me =(
and when someone says act yourself, i seriously dont know how to act because i dont know how to act myself.. its hard to explain but please help me with that too!
thank you=)
Have you ever heard the saying "show me who your friends are and I'll show you who you are"? Well this couldn't be more true. When you are around someone a LOT then you can't help but pick up on the way they act. It's like someone who is born in one state and raised in another. Even though they were born in New York, if they were raised in Texas around people with that country slang, guess what..that's what they become. New York is by no means "country" but you can't help but to pick up the accents and actions of those around you. You are like a lot of other girls your age who are cheerleaders, popular, etc. They let the "popularity" get to them and they become the person everyone wants them to be so that they don't lose that. I used to be there. I knew that it wasn't "me", but I wasn't ready to give up everything that I had gained from it. What you need to do is sit down by yourself (in your room or somewhere quiet)and write down all the things you enjoy or want to do. Now when you make this list, don't write down things you and your friends do, don't even stress whether or not this is something they would enjoy. This is your turn to be completely selfish, write down things YOU would like to do. Once the list is complete, go do some of these things by yourself. Use this as a chance to meet knew people. This way you don't feel like you have to be someone else to have friends. You don't have to get rid of your friends now, just broaden the spectrum, ya know? Once you get out with people that have more common interests with you than cheerleading and popularity, you'll start to see how much life has to offer, and you'll even learn who you are along the way. I'm sorry this is so long and I hope I helped out atleast a little. Please let me know how things turn out for you. Also, don't forget that some of the friends you hang out with may be feeling the same exact way! Money can't buy everything, it's just to fill a void of the things you don't have! Good luck babe!
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So, today was the first day of school :D well, i'm a freshman in a new highschool, but I have a few classes with upperclassmen. During art, some random senior guy sat down next to me and it was reallllyyyy awkward. He seems pretty cool though and i'd like to get to know him a bit better, because I want to make some new friends this year :) any tips on over coming this awkwardness? Thanks!
Well the good thing is that you all are in a class like art together. What better common interest than art?! Maybe try complimenting his work next time, or even ask him a question like "how do you get your shading like that" or whatever you maybe doing that particular day. It can be as simple as asking him for a pencil. Once you break the ice initially, you won't believe how easy it will be to talk to him. Right now, you are your own worst enemy. You need to stop worrying about feeling awkward. You are making yourself feel that way. Be confident. Stop thinking of him as the 'senior' and remember that he is just a student in the class (just like you). I hope that everything works out for ya babe! Confidence is EVERYTHING!
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Okay I am babysitting a year old who be 2 in 4 months. anyway he just start walking and hes good boy. I been babysitting least tiwce or 3 time a week and his father work at home. he need help somone watching him while he can work and do outside work stuff like that. how ever. I try to entertain little boy. play with him thing is he is very clingy to his dad. well he dose everything. little boy dose hase a mom she works everyday till least 3 or 4 i think. thing is he dose it to her to. and I am sure its hurts her she feel unhappy child not want his mommy. thing is father good father he seem more like housewife. couse he around him more. anyway i don't really know how to explain what i am try to say. i just thought anybody know what i am saying. they in age of there 30ths.
I'm not sure I understand what you are asking, but it seems that the little boy is more clingy to his father than to the mother, right? Well like you said, his father is around a lot more, therefore the child is more apt to be comfortable with him. Are you there when the mom comes home? If so maybe you, the mom, and the little boy could play a game together. If not maybe just her and the little boy. This way he can be just as comfortable with Mommy as he is daddy. One thing that's fun with kids is cardboard bowling. Take some empty papertowel rolls and set them up like pins. Then let him roll a ball to try and knock them all over. You can all take turns. If you all do games everyday that she gets off, then he looks forward to "mommy coming home". Well I hope I helped you out a little. Good luck.
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Hi! Ok so I'm 19 and early in the summer joined a gym. Im already skinny but I really wanted to tone up. So me and my guy friend got a personal trainer. After 3 weeks together I sent him a text thanking him for working with me. He's 24 and gorgeous by the way. After that day he would always text me, and talk to me at the gym flirtaciously. I didn't think anything of it because I thought its his job to be nice, but one day he told me how he thought I was hot. Or that he wants to get to know me. After a month every trainer knew my name and saw how my trainer acted towards me. Last thursday he texts me saying how sexy I am and stuff. And I guess I got the txt really delayed because I texted him back at 11:15pm. On Friday morning I get a call from an unknown number- It's my trainer's girlfriend!!! Mind you, I had no idea he had a girlfriend, and if he did I wouldn't be talking to him. So we talk and she as well as I appreciated knowing whats going on. Yesterday I see my trainer and he acts like nothing happened and yells "Hey Marlene!" Today I went to pilates and 2 other trainers are at the desk and stare me down and start smiling. Im a little self-conscious of whats going on. Are they making fun of me because they knew he already had a girlfriend? Or whats going on? I'm open to all opinions.
Well first off, don't feel self-conscious. If I'm understanding correctly it didn't get farther than texting, so you have NOTHING to be ashamed of. Besides, you didn't know he had a girlfriend. I don't think that the people at the gym were making fun of you inparticular. I am going to be brutally honest for a sec and say that I doubt you are the first girl he's done this to. With that, they may have been looking at you thinking "there's another victim". I'm not trying to be rude, so please don't take it that way. I wouldn't worry about this guy. Just keep it strictly gym. Don't text him and don't respond to his texts. You sound like one of those girls I hated lol. I don't mean really hated, but was jealous of! =P I'm sure you have several choices as far as guys go. If you feel extremely uncomfortable, you can always work with a different trainer. But my advice to you is continue your membership. Let him do his job and you do what you are there for...nothing more! I hope I helped and I hope that things go well for you.
Good luck girlie!
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So i'm going to be getting a tatto on my hip soon
and i want to tattoos (symmetrical) on both of my hips like soprt of facing eachother
i would like stars or anything kind of like it!
and i love the sparrow things that are on peoples hips that face eachother! i want them like that but stars or somehting else because my friend has the sparrows
so pleaseee send me pictures or a webiste of something like that!! =) thanksshttp://i130.photobucket.com/albums/p280/cellw
If you know that you want to get a tattoo on your hip, then maybe your best bet is to talk to the tattoo artist where you plan to get it. He/She will be able to look at the shape/size of your hips and size the best image for it. Remember though, this is going to be on your body forever. If you really wanna do this, try and think of something that means something to you that you can incorporate into the tattoo. Maybe even a single letter that could be wrapped into what they are inking. I wish you the best of luck.
Check out this website for some ideas
http://www.bmezine.com/tattoo/hip.html
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18/f
I've been bloated for like 2 months now. Its so bad everyday I have a really painful stomach and it looks really fat. It's really uncomfortable. But if i dont eat I feel like fainting.
What can I do?
Well for one you should be going more than every 2 days, or even once daily. But, I know how you feel. I've had serious problems of bloating since I was 15 (going on 10 years now). I was told to get this stuff called Colon Cleanse. It's over the counter and you can pick it up at walmart, cvs, walgreens, kroger, etc. (just about anywhere). It doesn't fix the problem, but it's like a vitamin and it will make you feel much better. You just have to take them for 10 days. Give it a shot or atleast check it out the next time you go to the store. Just read on the bottle and it'll tell you about it. I wish I'd found it years ago! Hope I helped.
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15/f
Ok, so last summer me and this one guy had a thing. He broke up with me on the first day of school. I was always really shy around him, and I guess that's why he dumped me. We haven't really talked that much since. But, before we started talking, [before we went out] [[he was in my dance]] every time i looked at him, he was staring at me. And, a few days ago, we had a performance, and he was there. He was staring at me alot like he used to. But, he's really popular, and I'm sure he's over me, and doesn't like me, but he stares at me like he did. Do you think he likes me? My friends say i should talk to him, but I'm so afraid to. What would i say? Would I text him, talk over myspace, or in person? Thanks in advance :]
p.s. i'm afraid to text him, because i think he deleted my number, and i'd feel silly if he texted back and was like, um, who is this? and, i've tried talking to him a few months ago, but he seemed like he didn't want to talk.
Without trying to sound mean..I think that it's time to give up on this one. The fact that he always stares at you could mean something, however if that's the extent that he's going with it, don't waste your time. Next time make sure that when he's staring at you, it's when you are having fun talking to friends or someone else. Once you get to a point where you don't want to "be" with him, then it will be much easier to talk to him as friends. If he thinks you are going to wait around for him, he's going to make sure you do just that. Good luck babe and I hope you don't think I was being rude, but advice doesn't help if it's biased. Let me know how things go.
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Okay... Iv'e been in a relationship now for almost a year, and i love my boyfriend so much, but i have a problem. everytime i ask him about marriage he laughs at me... he says he wants to marry me and spend the rest of his life with me, so why does he laugh about that???
Hmm..there could be many reasons. How old are you all?! I don't think it is because he doesn't want to or because he doesn't love you. It could even be his way of not showing that he's nervous about that thought. It's not easy for guys to think about the long term (or admit they are). Give him time. Don't hold it against him, because I'm sure he loves you.
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I'm going to the hairdressers in a few days and usually the guy asks me whether I'm going to straighten my hair, or wear it naturally(My hair is curlyish) But sometimes I straighten it and sometimes I wear it how it is so what should I tell him?
And why does it matter how I'm gonna wear it?
Thanks :D
Well I would tell him just that. Let him know that you wear it different ways depending on your "mood" =P
Ok as for why it matters...let's say you tell him you want it shoulder length. If you ALWAYS style it curly, then he's going to cut it so that it's shoulder length curly. Straightening your hair can sometimes be a gain as large as 2 inches depending on how curly your hair is (and on the other hand, wearing it curly could potentially mean the loss of that 2 inches).
Hairdressers are usually very personable. Anytime you have a question, ask him. I'm sure he won't mind answering. You have to trust this guy with the way you look at yourself and the way others look at you..why not get to know him better with small talk and questions hehe. Good luck girlie! Either way I'm sure it will turn out beautiful.
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So I've been pretty much at my wit's end for a while now, and little things keep popping up here and there and just making them altogether worse. And the more I think about things, the more angry I get. Ok, so I'll give some backstory on just what the hell I'm talking about. First off, there's my friend L. If you're really interested and/or bored, you can read this to find out more about her and my original problem(s) with her:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=544709
Then there's my other friend, M. Again bored/interested read this:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=544007
Ok so me and M have had a rocky history. And for a good portion of the winter/spring/summer we weren't talking. Well we finally, FINALLY got back on good terms again and were talking and becoming close once more. I was happy about this. But however that doesn't mean he's necessarily a "changed" man. A lot of his bad characteristics are still in tact. Such as, he's undependable and forgetful. And a bad liar. Well I was reminded of all of that on Saturday night. The night before that I had been hanging out with L. We drove around aimlessly as she shot down any idea of fun I came up with, and I was bored out of my mind until M texted me and wanted to meet up with us. (We almost didn't get to because L was shooting down that idea too, but thankfully she finally conceded) and we met up with him and our other friend B. They were both drunk as was to be expected but it was a lot of fun. Then we all planned for the four of us to have fun together the next night, get drunk and just have a good time. We planned to meet at 9 at my house. All seemed well. Except that L didn't think she could make it. You see she's going to Maryland this week with her friends J & K (well, MY friends as well but I'll get into that later...) and was going to sleep over her friend J's house that night before they left. So she wasn't sure but I still wanted her to come. To which she said "yea...but I'll invite J and K." Now I'll admit my initial reaction was kind of bitchy (that being "No, then it won't be fun...") but I meant that I know if she invited them, J especially, they won't want to go and will mess up all the plans, and also keep in mind that it's MY house we'd be going to. So after I said I wasn't too crazy about that she responded with "well then I guess I'm not going." And then I tried to lighten the mood as I got out of the car but she just was nasty about it and sped off after I left.
Now here's an FYI: Her and J had a big falling out earlier this summer, to which all of a sudden L became my best friend again and bitched about J. They worked things out but she still bitches to me about J. Including her bitching to me hours before that happened about how she didn't want to go to Maryland with them (they were originally supposed to go to Disneyworld but the plans got messed up) and how J is stupid and just in general her not wanting to go. Oh and some more info...I wasn't even invited to this little vacation, even though it was mentioned earlier that I'd be invited if they went their or somewhere likewise and I'm also friends with these girls. Nice, right? This was all also the day after I finally confronted Liz about how she's been acting and how I felt like she didn't care about me, to which she apologized and said she loved me and all that...shows how much her words mean...So needless to say I was pretty pissed. Then the next day I relented and texted her to tell her that it would be fine to invite J and K along and she just responded with "its ok lol" then I asked if she was sure and I got no response.
Now back to M. Despite all that, I was still going to have M and B come over that night. I discussed the plans with M the night before, but knowing that he was drunk I made sure I talked about them again the next day when he was sober. Well conviently at 9 he FORGOT that he made said plans with me, and went to the city until 3 am. So where did that leave me? Alone at home depressed. And who cared? No one. He kept texting saying that he'd still meet up with me later. Then at 2:45 am when I finally got to sleep he texts me saying "I'm not back in the area yet". I texted him "good to know" and it just went back and forth with him texting me and me giving him sarcastic, bitchy responses to let him know that I was just disgusted with him. But he didn't get it, (or at the very least pretended not to) and just kept texting me asking if I was around and saying we'd meet up next time and such. Now this is strange for him, since he's usually the type to pick a fight if he senses I'm being bitchy or if I try and hang out with him. So for him to keep trying to make up for it was bizarre. It was like he knew he fucked up so he was trying to make up for it in his own stupid way. But it wasn't enough to win me over. I was far too pissed. Now I can't even see him to talk about it or whatever because he's in South Carolina for the week.
And L, well she keeps updating her status on facebook to pretty much brag about what she's doing in Maryland.
Ok well that was a long and annoying backstory, and I apologize. But here is where I need help: How do I handle the situations with both of these people? What do I do or say to them? I can't let this just slide and I don't want to lose any friendships, but I'm not wrong for thinking that I shouldn't be treated that way, right?
And even more importantly: What do I do with myself now? I've been so pissed off about things to begin with and now this on top is really pushing me over the edge. I feel as if every moment I'm about to snap, and I'm afraid it's going to happen in a really bad, violent way. I just want to fucking punch someone in the face and I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm just losing my mind completely. Not to mention since they've pretty much left me all alone this week I don't know what to do with my time either. Which just leaves me more time to think about it and get angrier and angrier. I'm scared for my mental health and well being. What do I do? I know, I know "just stop thinking about it..." well that's a hell of a lot easier said than done.
I know this was long. But please, I'm in need of help. Any advice would be appreciated.
Thanks in advance.
WOW! You are in a terrible spot right now. First off, can I tell you what I do to release anger (especially when it's toward people). I take a journal (or even just a piece of paper) and right a letter to the person who has pissed me off. I put EXACTLY what I want to say, I tell them exactly what they've done to piss me off and everything I'm feeling. The catch...never send it! This is just a way to get all those feelings out. It's amazing how much better you can feel with a release.
Now as for your problems. Let's start with 'M'. Whether you truly want to admit it, I can tell you care a lot for this guy (otherwise you wouldn't be putting up with his dumbass haha). Now it would be easy to say that he's "not worth it" or "give up", but 1. I don't know what he's worth to you and 2."giving up" as you say, is easier said than done. I've been there. First off, you need to go out and do things for you. What do you enjoy?! Swimming, playing pool, traveling, etc. Do something on your own, but somewhere you enjoy to be. If you are somewhere you enjoy, the other people there enjoy it too..this makes "Common Ground". I'm not saying give up on M, just saying go out and do things. This way it doesn't seem like you are sitting there waiting on him to call/text. Then next time he texts you, wait about 20 min. Then text him back apologizing about the delay but you are "out with friends" etc. This way he KNOWS that you don't have to have him around to have a good time (and you know too) but that he is more than welcome to join you. Making new friends doesn't mean that you are ditching the old. Just that you have a "backup" ya know?! This way you don't have to depend on L or M being there. Plus it will help your 'state of depression' to get out.
It's hard to answer a question like this because I've been in this situation before and didn't handle it properly. All I can tell you are the things I wish I had done. You deserve better than what both of them are doing to you. Just broaden your horizon babe! I hope that I have been of atleast a little help. Let me know how things go and anytime you just need someone to talk (not just for advice) feel free to drop me a line in my inbox. Take care and good luck!
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I recently decided to start a notebook to help me through my days, especially at school when I get frustrated and feel like I have nowhere else to turn. Right now I have a five-subject notebook that I plan on working on tonight to get started for tomorrow. I want to divide my notebook accordingly to focus on different spiritual areas. I was thinking to have one section for verses, one for prayer and maybe one for reflection.
Does anyone have any suggestions about sections or just keeping up a prayer journal in general?
Well first off a prayer journal is just that..a prayer journal. You don't have to keep it organized because you want to be able to jump right in and start writing. One thing I do in my prayer journal is write questions. For instance I was keeping one when I found out that my friend Jamie passed away. My question was WHY? Why did God take him from me? Etc. Then later, once I'd calmed down a bit, I went searching for the answers. I found bible verses that made me feel better and used those to 'answer' my question. So maybe you could do as you said and have one for prayer, one for verses, and one for reflection, and then you could also have one for your questions/answers. Leave one open for venting. People often feel uncomfortable 'venting' to god, so put that in your last section, therefore it isn't in your actual prayer section. Use that section until you calm down a bit, then you can use your prayer section to ask for guidance, to express thanks for helping you find your solution, etc. I hope I helped a little. Good luck babe!
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I’m looking for opinions on a pretty serious subject: Free Speech.
So here is the deal, I’m sure many people don’t know, but a group called Wesboro Babtist Church tried to enter Canada on Thursday, after expressing publically their intention to protest two plays (both pro-homosexual in nature, one a comedy and one drama) and to demonstrate at the funeral of a man brutally murdered in Winnipeg carrying signs like ‘God hates Canada/Fags’ and the such.
The church believes that things like this murder, are God’s way of punishing Canada for legalizing gay marriage...
Anyways, Canada didn’t let them in. Stopped them at the boarder and denied them entry.
Legally, Canada had every right to deny them, but a lot of people are crying foul, saying we should respect free-speech enough to allow them in to protest. Others are saying it’s perfectly right, since what they were intending to do was hate speech and they aren’t even our citizens anyways.
So that’s the question: Does the ideal of freedom of speech mean Canada ought to allow foreign visitors' entrance after they have expressed their intention to disrupt and possibly engage in hate speech at a funeral and two theatre festivals?
Because I don't know the legalities, I can't give fact, but only opinion. I personally think that canada was correct in not allowing ANYONE to come into the country with the intent to disrupt a funeral and/or the festivals. It's safe to say that from here until the end of time, people will protest those things that they are strongly against. And noone is trying to fault this church for protesting or have an opinion. It's not the fact that they protested, it's the way in which they chose to do so. There are much more civilized and legal ways to protest. These options should have been explored by the church. So to answer your question, NO. I do NOT think that any freedom of speech rights should allow people to come into another country and not only disrupt and make people uncomfortable, but to also harass the citezans at the funeral and/or festivals. There is a line that should never be crossed and this church crossed that line by far. I hope this answer helped a little. Again, it's only my opinion.
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I have two questions. Lol
1. If next week is not the finale, since August 21st is, is there gonna be an elimination next week, or just a bunch of performances? (Just making sure, I wanna know when Mario says the line "America's Best Dance Crew is....")
2. Is voting open for two weeks? Mr. Lopez said "Voting is open all week.." But I dont quite get what he means. If voting is open all week, does that mean one of the crews are gonna get cut off next week, August 14? But won't we find out the crew that will get cut off on the finale, August 21st?
Hope I made sense and didn't confuse you guys. Haha. Thanks in advance.
Though voting has started now, the polls don't close until 8pm ET on the evening of August 21st. Noone will be voted off on the August 14th episode.
Hope that's what you were asking! =P
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About how much are nike low dunks for girls?
Whats like the price range?
I've seen them range anywhere from $40 - $150. Check out this website. It tells you the styles and prices of both girls and guys Nike Low Dunks.
http://www.nike.com/index.jhtml?l=nikestore,nikewomen#l=nikestore,grid,_grid,s-low%20dunks&re=US&co=US&la=EN
Hope this helped (it's not showing as a link, you may have to cut and copy into task bar).
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my name is Rachel and i am 19 years old and i moved in with my cousin last week becouse iam not getting along with my mom right now and i get a social security check becouse i was in special ed when i was in highschool so my cousin wanted me to help pay the bills so she was going to charge me only $300.00 rent and that's for food and utilities and everything so when i told my mom i needed to get $300.00 out of my check i have to go to my mom to get my money becouse she's my payee over my check i have to have a payee becouse iam not could at managing money and i would blow it on stupid stuff if i didn't have somebody maninging it for me becouse that's part of my disability anyways back to the problem when i asked for my money to pay rent she blew up on me and didn't want to give me the money and i got really upset and i started crying and shaking so my cousin said i could stay there and didn't have to pay rent but then when i told my mom my cousin was going to let me stay at her house without paying rent if i helped out around the house and helped out with her 17 year old autistic son but i feel bad for living in her house with out paying rent to help with the bills becouse i feel like iam usin her and i think my mom only wants to have anything to do with me becouse i have a social security check and she wants my money and it makes me feel really bad what should i do?
Thanks in advance for any advice
Explain to your mom that you are never going to be able to grow up if she doesn't give you the opportunity. You are taking the initiative to move out of her house and to pay rent to live in another and she should abide by that. Is your dad still around? If not, maybe your cousin can help you to find someone who you can talk to about the arrangements. If nothing else, drive or get a ride to your highschool (if you've graduated, go to the one you graduated from). 9 out of 10 times a counselor there is willing to talk to you. This way, she can direct you to the right person. Bottom line is that if you can't trust your mom with your social security check, then you need to work out a way to get someone else legally in charge of it. Inspite of your disabilities, you still have rights, and you make a good case. I wish you the best of luck and let me know how things go.
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I just wanted to know if it was weird to constantly be changing my mind on crushes. I mean, I believe I've liked 6 different guys in the past month! =\
I guess maybe I'm just a flighty person, but it just seems weird to me. I used to have really obsessive crushes that would last ages but now there are specific reasons for each new guy I like. It's almost like each of them has qualities that I lack and wish I had in myself.I don't know if this makes any sense, but does anyone know what I can do to fix this problem? Thank you!
First off, you said "Its almost like each of them has qualities that I lack and wish I had in myself" you couldn't be making more since. Have you ever heard someone refer to another as their "better half" or "the one who completes them". That's basically what these things are. Once you find qualities in a person that you lack, you use them to complete yourself.
Sometimes it's hard to answer a question with out asking some of my own. How old are you? Just so I kinda know where you stand. Age can often determine the way a person reacts to and in relationships.
It may be that you are a "flighty person" as you say, or it could be that there are just a certain group of qualities that you are looking for, and you just haven't found someone that hold's all those qualilties. Try not to be too picky when it comes to relationships. Also, maybe you should take a break and be single for a while. Don't jump on the opportunity to be with someone new right away. Hang out and get to know other people and above all, get to know yourself. It's amazing what you find out about yourself just taking some time aside for you. I hope that I helped you a little bit, please let me know how things ago and if you EVER need anything else.
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Hi, it's the summer time and two years ago I wrote a guy a letter telling him how I feel and he responded three months later over that very summer. We talked it seemed because his friend suggested it, and his friend said he was interested, he may have been lying. We talked for a week and maybe two days. Afterwards, never again. I got back to school and I couldn't even look him in the eye. He and I both would avoid eye contact and never spoke over 10 words to one another. Now he has a girlfriend. I want him to be happy. I spent most of my summer not thinking of him, but afraid when the time came for me to return to school that the feelings would return. I saw him 4 days ago and I felt a jolt when our eyes met for a heartbeat. I'm afraid and I feel pathetic, which I am kind of. I don't want to like him. I want to be over him. But how do I handle these residual feelings that keep returning?
Hun, I feel sooo sorry for you right now. This situation is a very difficult one. Well first off, you are NOT pathetic! You just need to find a way to make yourself realize that this will not work out. If you have to, make a list of all the cons. The first one being the fact that he is taken. Remember that the past is there for a reason. I would definitely continue to avoid him as best as possible. You can't even be friends right now because of these feelings. Hang out with a circle of friends that he is not included in. Don't go out of your way to say anything to him unless it is "hi" while passing in the hallways. I know that right now it seems that this will never end, but I know that soon you will realize that he was just a stepping stone to the guy you truly deserve to be with! I wish you the best of luck, and PLEASE let me know how things are going. Drop me a line sometime. Good luck hun. (PS. Another thing that helped me was keeping a journal. I would write a letter to the guy I like - one that he will NEVER receive - just to get my feelings out on paper. Once you get some of those feelings out, it's easier to control them.)
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Ashton and I used to be good friends. I actually liked him more than a friend honestly. He found out and didn't like the idea of me liking him. We slowly started to drift away from our friendship and he began to ignore me. I told him countless times that I do not like him at all anymore (its been over a couple of months now,and i honestly dont like him anymore) But he doesn't believe me.
Me and my friends were planning to go to the mall Saturday. I invited one of his friends, Dan (which is my friend also). And Dan wanted to know if he could bring Ashton. So I called Ashton and asked if he wanted to come, and he immediately hung up.
How do I get him to know I DONT LIKE HIM AT ALL! and i just want to be friends with him now.
please dont say 'move on,hes not worth it' because i miss our friendship and i want him to come saturday like the good old times.
Have you tried writing him a letter? It seems corny, but if you call him, he can hang up. If you see him, he can walk away. It's a LOT harder to walk away from the piece of paper you are holding. Let him know how you feel. Tell him that you miss him as a friend. Tell him that if it's time he needs, then that's fine but just to let you know. Also, ask him straight up.."Am I wasting my time writing this." This way you know what your options are. The answer may hurt but you NEED to know. This will also give him a chance to write you back. Give him a chance to tell YOU how he feels about everything. Good luck hun. Hope all works out!
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im 15 and i really need to make some money..i can't babysit because no one around here has kids..but ne other suggestions are very much appreciated=]
Well first off, do you get an allowance from your parents? Are there chores that they would let you do for an allowance? If you don't know, ask them. You have to prove to them that you are willing to work for your money, you know what I'm saying? Anyone in your neighborhood have dogs? I never did it, but my friend used to walk dogs. She made quite a bit of money doing it because she was doing something that needed to be done, but nobody had the time to do it. Cleaning houses is another way. If you don't know any of your neighbors enough, then do you have any other family members that would let you clean their houses? This way you can get some experience and references that you can show neighbors. Then of course there is always mowing, raking, etc. Good luck hun. Hope I helped out atleast a little. Good luck doll..I remember being 15 and I know it's NOT as easy as people think! I also can tell you are a very driven person. I'm sure you'll find something.
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URG, ok, I have to read the book Silas Marner for school. I have pretty bad ADD and I can't concentrate on the book. It's SO boring, and doesn't interest me at all! Plus the fact, I don't even understand half of what's going on! Please help, I NEED to pass the test on it! How should I read it? Any summaries? HELP!
LMAO I know how you feel. Sometimes though, once you understand a book it's a LOT easier to become quite interested. Check out this website. It is the "Cliff Notes" on the book. It helps to better explain it. http://www.cliffsnotes.com/WileyCDA/LitNote/Silas-Marner.id-123.html
Hope I helped a little! Let me know how it goes!
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