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Thanks a lot mr.santos for your valuable advice. But i wanna know am i cheating my boyfriend? Because am searcing my boyfriend whenever am sad and neglecting him when i feel his presence is not important. But why do i search my bf whenever am depressed?? At that time why do i feel like i wanna lie on his chest and get console?? I ve heard whom we are searching in our most troublesome period is the one who we love the most.. Is this love what am having on him?? Whether am blaming or just using him whenever am in need of him?whats happeneing in me?? I need advice plsss (link)
Dear you know which we want ,not get every time ,if who get they are very lucky.you are confused because you are not deciding right answer.every one want a company if he feel sad and depressed so you also.you like him but your problem is that you are not concentrate between love and parents but i tell you my story.i had a relation with a girl when i was doing MBA .i lived in agra i talked her 6 hours daily i was very crazy for her but one day some misunderstanding raised between me and her she suspected me that i also talked with other girl but i was innocent ,not talk any girl.my relation was two year old but broke .love is like small plant if you not watering properly this plant destroy.you know love is the soul voice ,is very sensitive thing .you need him when you feel sad and depressed because that time you feel he care you so you need and want him but the meaning of love is differ .love is the name of devotion for each side both you and him.love is the name of trust both side .love raised form heart is the soul voice .i feel your emotion what you wrote in your note .if you wand him ,depressed with out him ,may be you love him but you do not want exposed your love reason you know ,your family restrictions you feel bound from your family.so Dear do not depressed ,concentrate your study if you have brave heart than go ahead .i know which you wrote in your note is the symptom of love because i see it very nearly i feel hurt myself in love so dear it also right whom we search in crises period is the one we love the most .


There are weeds all over the place. Some of them are edible; but which ones! Does anyone know of any good books about edible weeds? I have 3 books at the moment but they dont go into weeds found in Australia. I live in South Australia so anything about that region would be good, thanks. (link)
well search -flipkart.com or eBAY.com.am sure you will find


Hello friends!! Am bhuvaneswari of India.Am 20 doing my engineering final year.I met a boy in my first year of college.He was not that much smart but something impressed me and i have proposed him.He too accepted.But after a moment i proposed i felt so bad why did i proposed him because basically i hate this love because my parents are so much strict. But he started to love me truely.Many times i have admired him because of his care and affection towards me.Many times i just really feel like hating him because of his very much possessiveness, appearance and attitude.Even i feel very shy to tell my friends he is my boyfriend because he is not that much smart and not that much talented studieswise.Whatever he does like caring me whenever am not in need of it, i feel like irritating but manytimes i will miss him like hell when am much depressed and i will search him only when am in a problem or when am very much sad. Also i never think off to make him suffer in anything and i will be helping him everytime but i fail to care for him whenever he is in need of it. Always the matters between us ends up in a great fight.but always he apologizes and come to me even the mistake is mine because he loves me truely and he never allows me to face any kind of bad situation.even many times i have felt him he is my god but i feel like hating him sometimes and am not takng care of him. am not that much worryng even he doesn't eat and i dont worry about his health. Why am doin like this ? He is such a nice guy i always try to love him but am unable to do it. He is suffering a lot because of me but i feel like i want him in future but not now because i dont want him to make suffer by my foolish thoughts because he is such a nice loveable guy.Am scared that i will miss him in my future if i make distance now because i feel that no girl will get such a nice character boy in her life.But am unable to care for him wholeheartedly now and also i dont want him to suffer like hell because of my stupid character. And now my parents have come to known about my love but they dont know that am not in deep love.They have started to be strict and i also wanted to develop my family by studyng well.At this critical situation this kind of concept of love is killing me.. What to do at this situation?I dont want to miss him in my life because i cant lead happiest life without his care and affection towards me.But at the same time i dont feel like i love him dont feel like caring him i feel hatred that my parents have bad impression on me that their daughter had fell in love. I really dont know what am doing;(so much depressed unable to love and care for him wholeheartedly and unable to get out of his life.He is suffering like hell because of me i cant see that;(plss give any good solution for my life plss:( (link)
Dear am also from india .i know indian girl want as boy friend who have lot money and smart and talented .love can not buy by money .it is a natural things. ,it is not love which you said in your note ,is just a affection. really love want two side but this is only one side.you are also confused so what you do love.second thing is that you not hurt your parents and her boy friend ,is not possible ,you have to hurt one so i know you will hurt your boy friend.love do with soul not form mind and you are doing love from mind i think you are using your boy friend.he love you and care you but you not .love means -kro ya mro. love want sacrifice . so suggest you leave him and not play his emotions .you need him in future ,not now . you know your future what happened in future,answer is no .so develop your family and do your study.love is not for that type people like you.love is the soul of voice ,is not a voice of mind and you are using your mind for love so solution for you -leave him and concentrate your study.best of luck.


Does anyone know of a website that I could sell some gently used clothing on?? Thanks! (link)
yes .flipkart.com and ebey.com.can search on it site


So, I have a boyfriend who I really really love..But ive met this guy on facebook. He started to chat me up and persuaded me to sort of being slutty towards him..Its all been done through the chat..The thing is that i decided to go a little further..and I sent him a picture of me being naked..Ive been feeling miserable ever since..What was I thinking?? I decided not to talk to this guy anymore..please.I need some advice..Thanks!! (link)
it is a big mistake which you have done you should think,90% id on face book is fake ,.he also blackmail you through this picture so do not sudden stop talking show him that you love him and say him delete my naked picture ,tell me this guy is live in your country or in your city..do not think if he black mail you can complaint in police .also zane's is right,you have learned a lesson and never ever do some thing like that again ,learn from your past mistake .


(I'm 13 and my sister is 15)

This morning, me and my sister were in our living room and we were arguing over some random thing and she threw a pillow at me. I said "Yeah, because a pillow hurts me" and she said "You were lucky it was a pillow and not something else. I could've slapped you." Then she said she wanted to kill me.

Will she try to kill me? She's done things to me in my sleep in the past before (That water cup prank, putting stuff on my face, etc.) so now I'm terrified that she'll try something. What should I do? (link)
Dear to say about it that she want to kill you very difficult ,may be she want respect from you ,i think you do more argument with her so he was angry so she threw a pillow at you .you should care her and respect her .she is you sister and have blood relation with you so not do it .but i give advise you ,give respect and take respect,and follow your elders .give respect her and care her ,everything will be fine ,no need to terrified


I'm 13 and I'm tired of using му finger. What can I put up му vagina? No toys cs I can't get any,no food cs му parents will realize. ANYTHING else that will feel good (link)
you know you are just child why are you spoil your life ,why are you not thinking about your carrer and your study .you have so long time to put up else in your vagina .how you can thing about sex in child age who are raised you for it .dear stop to put toys and finger in your vagina ,is harmful for your life,.other things is ,if you feel excited ,do natural sex ,but is also illegal because you just 13 years old .so stop it and think better which is good for you you can do it after 16 or 18 age .


i am 15/f. on 6th feb 2012, he proposed me. we had been besties and then when he proposed...i still remember the happiness...i have never been so happy in my life.and the best part was he liked what i did and understood before i said things...he knew me completely. more to say i never thought he was human, i thought he could read me. i was so overwhelmed by him. every thing about him. i was his first and he is my first love. till i left that town and shifted...we still shared the same love until one day he cut all contacts without any fight or anything . i later came to know that his father had forcefully taken away all his COMMUNICATION FACTORS. but slowly, as i eagerly waited for him, i heard he didnot miss me, jokes around and flirts in school,he does hav a cell which he lends to girls and uses to call his new gf ...and so on including a few instances where he abused me indirectly . i must mention that all these were from sources and not him. what he texted himself was..." I CAN NOT LOVE you ANYMORE. I HAVE GF HERE". so....i tried to kill myself



then this guy whom i had rejected once called me up and he was all the mental strength i needed at that time to recover and want to live again. i have to mention that he is not at all like me in any way . he is quite repulsive and difficult for me to understand. but i didnot ditch him coz i didnot want to hurt him and slowly i fell for him. atleast i thought i did. but yes, i admit that it was not so overwhelming and special and i never felt the same as my first love. it was more of formal love...something that i was doing rather than it being happening on itself. i hope the difference is clear. but we fought a 1000000 times which was hurting and yet we never broke up...if you call that love .


now somehow my x is back and...he says that he never ditched me but by the time he had the means to contact me i was already with this other guy so he didnot want to disturb?...he texted that ...remember?...i am myself confused but whenever i talk to him i can't but trust him.so according to him, he still loves me and always will.


and as i had said...my present bf ...we are again fighting. he is ignoring me. he doesnot have time for me. but he never says he doesnot love me . i know he does because his whole family knows what he is up to with me which my x never dared to tell his family.


so now, i am confused. i love both of them so much. and both of the love i feel is very different in nature. though, the one for my x is very intense, the one for the other guy is very caring and giving if that makes sense.if i had a chance i would go back to my x but now i also feel i wont be able to trust him like before?...or maybe i can?...i still love him and i feel those cravings inside me. but i cant at the same time imagine my present bf crying because of me. i am in a complete mess. i love both of them. what to do?...whom to choose? (link)
choose one who loves you and careing you if your ex-want you he contacted you but he did not and now he said you that he do not want to distrub,what is this ,is pure cheating ,not love for you if he do not want to distrub you than now why he contacted you why???he have any answer for this why?i know ,is answer is no.which you felt in your frist love as everyone feel same as you ,frist love and frist rain is different than other .you know girl like their praise if boy friend always tell a lie and say her ,darling i love you girl understand truth it but boys alwaya use girls for sex they think he is realy so much love me.but situation is different there. so give your heart as one who care you and love you with soul not for physical attraction.i think you can choose one now


I've been taking pills for 8 years even I was child bkoz of acne. Now I am going to stop it then get pregnant. When can I get pregnant after stopping pills? I am afraid if the acne get occurred again. (link)
you can stop,if you think ,is harmfull for you .you can use other option ,like use condom and avoid sex when you get period ,a week before and after period.and many options are available can discuss with sexologist to not get pegnency .


i want fuck my cousin sister we talk sex things ligtly iwant to increase to chat these things (link)
so sad to read it.you know she is your sister you have blood relation,any girl is not available for you to fuck why you want to spoil your family relation. she is your cousin sister so think about her as your sister ,not see her for fucking you have understand relations importance or not .relation is very important in life you have do as you want with your cousin sister ,nobody give you place to sit in his home so forget it things to fuck her .do not think about it ,leave her ,stop thinking to fuck her .


okay so i am 15/f. sorry my story is LONG.

my bf and i had a very long fight 4 about 5 months. at first he stopped talking to me completely . he used to look at me in school. but whenever he had eye contact he used to pull his eyes away from me . i tried to talk but he kept away all the time. when i used to ask his friends where he is they always came up with an answer that he was in his football or basketball or he was just simply busy.

So that evening it was quite late , around 9 p.m. when i was returning home from my coaching. and i spotted him with MY CLASSMATE in the park in the shadow of a tree, quite close. i stopped to look and he suddenly saw me but , he didnot move away from her. i ran back home crying.


i was so depressed . i feel ill. when he could not spot me in school he came over to my house. i was unconscious and i woke up with his kiss on my lips.he said he was sorry and he wanted me back. i was so happy that i didnot want to bring that evening up and spoil the happiness.

so we got back to normal and, he made love to me. he even licked and fingered me and made me orgasm. we became tooo close and he said he loved me all the time.


but yesterday when he was making love to me, that girl came over to his home . so when he was busy talking to her in the hall i checked his cell. there were some texts like..."when can we meet?"...i am waiting...i want you so close ....are you busy tonight etc.

i dont want to think he is cheating me because he has made love to me and ... somehow i am connected to him from my body and soul. can any one tell me what is up with him?he has never brought up her name in front of me. am i overthinking? (link)
yes he cheating you,you can understand yourself he want relationship with other girl and do not want to leave you reason is you fulfill his sexsual desire he used you for sex so i suggest you just leave him and seek trusted guys .you want her with body and soul but he want you only for sex and do flirt other girls so understand and leave him


hi, im 16 male.. and i want to ask question.. me and mu girlfriend (17) were trying to do stuff but she is still a virgin and I've put my penis inside her without condom just only about a 1 cm maybe even less .. i couldn't of gone further because it hurt her so much.. my question can she get pregnant from that ?

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it is possible if you ejaculated inside her ,if not ,there is no possibility .do take tense enjoy with protection .


i am 9 years old. can some 9 year old boy have sex with me? (link)
did you not read the rules on this site,you are so young and yet not get your period also ,why you think about sex ,concentrate your study and make your career you can do it after 16 or 17,lot of time you have for it so do not think about it ,it is illegal for you and whose who will sex with you so


I like this girl at school but I am shy
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leave your shyness and say her that you like her


Okay so i like this guy but we aren't dating. Hes moving away in 3 days and i STILL haven't told him i like him! I'm 12 so I'm very shy and insecure so i don't think i could stand the embarrassment of rejection. Will you help me? (link)
if you like him say just him that you like him you just teen so to think about insecuring is possible but you like him he moving away after 3 day so do not lost it chance say him .or stop insecure think positive and leave your shyness .good luck


Why boys are eagar to see girls breast (link)
i think you know well about it .breast is the sex of symbol girl look like sexy if they have sexy breast.other things is ,it's depend on habit ,everyone is different with each other but 90%boys like this and see every girl for sex so they want to their sexy part of body .


i feel so depressed i don't know whats wrong with me, i don't smile the way i used to i feel empty. I'm so stressed at the moment i hardly sleep, i literally want to cry everyday but im so strong at holding it in me, a part of me misses my old old life , the person i used to be. I hate who i am now I hate feeling this way, i keep lying to myself thinking everything is perfect when i know inside its not, i don't even feel attractive anymore, i feel ugly, i just want to get away from everyone else i've had enough... (link)
you have server mentel health problem you need counciling so take appointment from any good physiologist and take proper medicine and advise .other things is ,try to make happiness yourself ,make more friends and share her feeling with them ,wake up early in the morning and do some exercise take healthy food ,do not touch junk food and any drugs ,do not touch cigrate ,bear and wine and do yoga ,am sure you get back your happiness .we know which we want ,not get in our life ,everyone have not same luck .so feel proud of you that you did born at the earth ,thanks to god.


I've been having sex for a while now. I've slept with five guys and I've never been able to feel anything. My friends are always talking about how amazing it feels and I have no idea what that feeling is. I've tried masturbating and even then I still feel nothing. I do get wet while having sex but all I can feel is the penis going in and out but never a pleasure sensation or anything no matter what they do. The first time ever having sex it didn't hurt or anything i just felt nothing. What is wrong with me? I want to be able to enjoy sex. I also barley ever get horny the only time I do is if I'm watching porn not when someone is fingering me or eating me out. I have a bf now who I love and I really want to feel something with him but no matter what I just can't seem to? (link)
may be you are some stressed ,there are some tips you can apply at the time of sex .
1-when you go on bed not think about any idea about out of the world ,think only about sex
2-wear sexy cloths
3-fully support you bf
4-before sex minimum 30 minutes kisses each other and touch private part and suck it
5-do sex with more angles.you can see it in porn movie
6-concentrate only sex
7-at the time of sex ,move all tense out from bed room ,relax and feel hot yourself.am sure you feel sensation

my girl friend also not feel sensation but before sex frist i kiss her all body touch her private part and finger her ,suck her boobs.and then i go for sex she feel very pleasure now we are happy
so just relax and feel happy and try to do her best .best of luck


i am 17 and my bf is 18. i love him a lot and he too. we were in a long distance relationship for about 5 years. now he has moved into my city and he wants to give me this special gift of being physical with him on my birthday next week. it is okay since his family knows about us and our future plans so he will not dump me. but i am really shy. i do not know why but he took me out to a date yesterday and i did not even let him hold my hand. i feel butterflies in my stomach with him around. i tense up and sweat. i have told him this but he says that i will not be shy after the first time. but how do i get over the first time itself? the idea of him with me in bed , touching my private parts and seeing me naked, feeling him inside me,kissing him etc. is like too difficult . please help!! i have to do this and i want to...so please don't ask to postpone it. just help me with the shyness thing, maybe give tips on how to relax with him around. thanks. (link)
congratulation you will get it next week ,you are also waiting for it from long time .you know shyness is the ornaments of girl ,do not need tense support him when you go bed after one or more kiss and when he push you and touch your private part part you forget all and you remember only one things [sex and love ]sex is the last stage of love .is a good feeling after sex you feel very peace in your mind and want again and again .so just relax you should happy at least you found your love in true word .take enjoy dear best of luck for it


i am 15 yr old female from india. in india there are cultural restrictions. still i got driven away and sent 2 bikini pics to my bf by email.but my x who had dumped me hacked my acnt n saw them and also read our naughty chat.now since someone other than my future husband has seen me ...i feel ashamed of myself as i i am a slut and i can even be sold for sex. :(...am i a slut?...i am really depressed. (link)
Dear i also form india. where are you from india ?i think you are not slut but i suggest you .you should loyal for your future husband and how did you ex hacked your mail id you did not protect properly it do not feel ashamed you did not do any crime but you know that well here cultural restriction in that condition you should follow it do not get depressed ,keep patient everything will be fine but keep loyality for future husband ,is our culture ,is not our culture that you have ex,present and future




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