Hello! I'm Sammy, I'm 18 and live in the Scottish Highlands. I haven't been on here in 2 years, but I'm now back!
I've finished school and currently working at a co-op convenience store. I'm dyslexic, bisexual and unsure what to do with my life currently.
I love helping out my friends and thought doing something like this would be a great, to just help out more people!
I hope my advice helps y'all!
I may be young, but that just means it's fresh advice. (;
I've gone through basically all the classic teenage problems and more, so hopefully my experiences can help you out.
Feel free to ask me anything:
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and general day to day stuff.
- Though, of course I will attempt all that is asked. (:
E-mail: samieeeey@hotmail.com
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If your a girl Do you still get emotionally attatched to the second person you have had sex with or is it tbat you just get attatched to the first guy you loose your virginity to (link)
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You can get emotionally attached to anyone, even if you've not had intercourse with them.
Admittedly I'm only emotionally attached to the guy I lost my virginity to. The second and third guys I had sex with was a complete dicks to me though..
But yeah, I reckon you can be emotionally attached to the second, as it depends on your feelings for them.
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I have pretty bad acne because I have an oily face. I know most of it is because of hormones and stuff but what are some tips that could help control acne? Thanks! (link)
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Try creams from brands such as 'Clean and Clear' and 'Clearasil'
Or even better, make an appointment with your GP (doctor) and ask for a cream or pill to help control them.
It's always best to slightly over react about it (say it itches, hurts or even say a spot has caught on your top when you put it on and has started bleeding etc.) as you will be more likely to get a prescription then - weird advise I know, but it helped when my sister was getting it.
Hope this helped.
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I rarely eat breakfast and I have a normal sized mostly healthy lunch and dinner. My problem is when I'm at home and have nothing to do. I eat and eat and eat. Sometimes its snacks and other times it's enough food for a meal. I also eat when I'm bored and sad. If there is anything that I eat (especially chocolate), I'll eat it. I'm trying to be healthy, but I can't control myself. A few years ago, I was the opposite. I guess I could have been considered anorexic then. Now, instead of forcing myself to eat a little, I can't stop myself from eating. I can't really talk to this with my parents because they think I'm over reacting about things. Is there anything that I could do? (link)
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I'm exactly the same, even the anorexic part.
What I've found to help is to only have healthy foods in the house.
Such as healthy bars like alpen, nutrigrain etc, yogurts and foods like that.
Eat a healthy breakfast - toast, porridge or a cereal.
Try get your parents to buy these sorts of foods, and make time to eat the breakfast.
You don't need to talk to them about your problem, though it may help. Just ask them to buy some of these and eat them instead of chocolate or these full sized meals.
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alright so im 14 and i dont know how to kiss my boyfriend. when we were slow dancing he leaned in to kiss me and i thought i knew but i so messed up. i ruined it. we tried again and i messed up i get so nervous and i havent had my first kiss so i kinda dont know how. (link)
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You aren't the only one! We've all been there.
When you next meet up, let him know you aren't too sure how to go about it.
Do it fairly girly, he'll probably find it cute!
Don't seem too embarrassed by it, laugh about it and it wont seem too bad!
You should feel comfortable with him, you'll surely end up having a lot of make out sessions soon. ;D
Good luck darlin' (:
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i have this guy friend and i am slowly starting to fall for him but i know for that he doesn't feel the same way about. but he always likes to talk to me and he's always staring at me. so maybe he might have some interest? idk but i want to tell him just to be honest with him because i don't want him thinking that i am only having friend feelings for him when i really want something more. what should i do? (link)
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I was like that with my now boyfriend. We were good friends for five years until we started going out two months ago. Always been friend feelings, even through all our friends 'knew' we had 'feelings' for each other.
We ended up getting into more of a relationship when we were dared to pull each other at a party.
It's worth a go? :L
I know it sounds a bit childish, I was so nervous though, as I knew I liked him, but I thought he'd be like 'WTF, no.' haha.
But, yeah, if I'm honest, I think the best way is to get close at a party. Maybe not the dare bit, but it's the easiest and sly-est way to get around it.
Or, it's coming up to Valentines Day? ;D
- I think most answers I gave last night were confusing haha!
But yes basically what I was trying to say is to go for it. I know it'd be hard as it's a good friendship at stake, but don't try - don't get, and that would be a shame as you really like him.
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Well hey everyone!(:
This is going to happen tomorrow night! So please answer(:
So my really good guy friend said he wanted to have sex with me. He's been flirting a lot lately and has asked a lot. I'm 14 and he's 15 but we have been friends forever! He said cause its a new year I should do something new?! So I agreed and all cause he's nice and stuff and like we've been friends for a while and idk if he's gonna get mad if I say no or something. He also wouldn't stop asking. I'm just worried I won't know what to do cause I'm a virgin and he's not. He said not to use a condom. So can I get pregnant? I don't think I want a baby! That'd be bad. I don't think I can get pregnant because I have two weeks until my period and I heard its the worst time to get pregnant or something. I am also really petite so I don't think I would be able to like have the baby. He also said because its my first time I can't get pregnant. Will I bleed? I don't want to cause I'm scared of blood! Will it hurt during and after? Please answer(: Any other tips/advice/help would be great! I don't know lots about this haha! Thanks!
Thank yaa all(: Please answer(: Don't be rude! (link)
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I say to say no.
He's clearly pressuring you.
And you're 14!
You've probably heard this a million times and will probably ignore it but, your first time should be special with someone you really want it to be with.
You'll most likely regret this if you do it.
You can get pregnant on your first time, he's chatting shit.
Also yes, this would be your most fertile time (when you can most easily get pregnant.)
On most people first time, they tend to get a bit of spotting afterwards.
For most, or some people their first time does hurt, during and after. For some people every time hurts a bit actually. Especially since you are petite - probably as you aren't even fully grown.
You seem to know very little, like you've said.
I really think you should think this through as I don't think you want to go through with it at all.
I hope this has helped, and I apologize if some parts are a little upfront and rude.
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I'm trying to lose a little weight like 10-20 lbs. I usually eat a bowl of cereal and a banana for breakfast and a coffee, a soup or chicken salad for lunch and dinner varies, usually something not too bad though. i really don't snack alot if i do its usually like apples and peanut butter or hummus and pretzel sticks. i go to the gym basically everyday and run about 4 miles which usually burns around 500 calories. is this a good way to lose weight or is it bad to run that much? i'm in pretty good shape so it really isn't hard on me but i just want to know if thats a good way. thanks. I'm also 19/f 142 lbs 5'4". (link)
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You're aren't overweight as such, as your bmi would be approximately 24 (18.5 - 24.9 is classed as normal weight)
Stick to what you're eating, as it seems pretty healthy.
Personally I don't know much about gym working out, but you say you're in pretty good shape, so I reckon do what you already are doing, push yourself a little if it may help.
Don't rush yourself to loose it.
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wha does a man really mean when say he cares about you alot (link)
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It means he cares about you a lot? :L
Repost this with some more background to the guy and the situation please.
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how do i get a girlfriend i cant find one (link)
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You don't need to try and find one.
I advise just enjoying yourself, a girl always likes a happy go lucky type, not someone that just looks and looks as you'll end up missing the most obvious.
Keep happy, and good luck. (:
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Hi
13/F
I am in love with a boy that is 17. I know he is 4 years older than me but to me age don't really mater to me. So I like him but I don't really know if he likes me. We are not close but we are sort of friends he is really hot and I don't know wat to do. He have 2 brothers and I don't want them to know but I think my nephew told them can you help me pleas
PS don't say flirt plz. O and he lives on a farm
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This probably wont be what you want to hear at all.
4 years may not seem like a lot, as I know people that are over 20 years tend to go out with people over 4 years older/younger.
But at this age, it's a massive maturity difference.
As he will most likely be sexually active - even if you are as well, it's completely different, as it would be classed as pedophilia.
I'd advise you not to flirt at all and try move of. You can lust all you wish, but I don't advise doing anything about it, to be honest.
Also, living on a farm makes no difference.
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I got measured at the mall and they gave me a bra size too big. They told me I was a 36 DD and then someone else said I was a 34 C. MY bra's never feel right. Where can I get a good bra that fits? (link)
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To work out a bra size it's -
Wear a non-padded bra and measure around the band, making sure the tape doesn't slip.
(say it's 34 inches.)
(if an odd number, round down)
Then measure around the biggest part of the bust in the same way.
(say 37 inches)
Subtract the bust size (37) from the band size (34) - This gives the cup size.
0 inches = AA
1 inches = A
2 inches = B
3 inches = C
etc.
This would make you a 34 C
- Debhanams seem to always up-size, I'd advise going to La Senza or M&S if you are to go to a shop.
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I'm a 17-year-old guy who's been with the same girl(now 18) for a couple years. One day I walked in on her attempting suicide, and we got help. She was away for a few weeks at a mental health hospital for her depression, and while she was there, what I had seen that day was eating away at me. As a way of coping, I starting smoking pot.
Then, when she got out, she found out what I had been doing and told me I had to stop because it was "unhealthy", and she has always been 100% anti-drug.
This Wednesday she left to spend a week with her friend who lives in another state, and her friend's boyfriend smokes a lot of pot. She hasn't been answering any of my calls, or texting me back at all.
Tonight, when I called her to talk to her, she answered, stoned out of her mind and couldn't keep a thought for more than two seconds(yes, I counted), which tells me she smoked a LOT of weed. This is after for "health" reasons she made me quit, and now she goes behind my back and spends a week out of state with two people I've never met, and has probably been smoking all week.
What should I do? How should I confront her?
Thanks,
Anonymous (link)
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If I were you I wouldn't have a massive go at her. Keep calm about it all, as you yourself have done it.
Tell her how you feel about the situation, that it hurt and that it's hypocritical of her.
I reckon it'd be good to try come to the conclusion that you've both done it and it doesn't matter so much if either of you do it again, maybe?
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Hi so i wanted to know how do I ask someone out in a good way. I need lots of ways cause I'm really shy and like this one guy. Btw im female and thirteen years of age. (link)
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Firstly, you need to seem confident, I know it can be hard, but confidence helps overcome everything!
Basically say that you like him and would like to start seeing him, ask if he does too.
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my friends and i haven't be as close as we used to lately. my friends have been having issues with this guy (call him L). L has been a jerk to my friends so they say. I won't get into it too much but they basically got mad at L for petty reasons and wanted to get him in trouble with the principal. What my friends don't know is that L and I have been getting slightly closer and talking more and when I found out that they were gonna get him trouble, I showed no emotion but I went and told L because I didn't want him to get in trouble at all over some so stupid. Am I wrong for wanting to do this for him? Also should I tell my friends that I have been talking to L more? I don't know if they'll get mad at me or not. (link)
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I say tell them they're being silly about it all, they'll most likely ask why you're backing him, tell them L is actually a nice guy and you and him are close.
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So there is this guy in my school that I like a lot and when we are at school he always teases me. We chat on BBM and when we do we always end up fighting about the stupidest stuff.. I usually start it because I just get so angry at him for not seeing that I like him and I'm scared of telling him because he is popular and I don't know if he likes me back. How can I tell him without him judging me and not talking to me anymore?
I'm a 16 year old female (link)
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he must like you as a friend, at the least, otherwise he wouldn't spend time on you.
Have you tried asking him if he likes you too? If not go for it, do it 'jokingly' on bbm when you're teasing? Keep it light hearted.
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OKay well I am in 7th grade (Middle School) and ALL of my friends have boyfriends and i don't and I feel really left out. I am taller than most of my friends and some of the guys but My friend who is a little bit taller than me, still manages to get all the guys she wants. (link)
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I was always the tall without the bf too, but babe you don't need one. It probably seems that it's all that matters atm, but it's not. Just be confident with yourself, it's the key to everything, it'll happen when it does.
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Hi there so I am 18/F
So I have a lot of guy friends and a few girl friends, most of which are short, except my best friend who is 6", I however am 5"9 and I feel soooo tall, I look at my girl friends who are 5"5 or 5"6 and they get a lot of guys, I get guys and everything, but for some reason I look at my girl friends and I feel freakishly tall and weird, I am skinny, I eat a lot but I don't gain weight, I weigh about 130, I just don't understand why I feel so ugly around my friends, is there anything wrong with being this tall, I feel so insecure when I go out with them. Why is it that tall girls aren't as pretty as short girls? (link)
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You aren't the only one! My friends are all around 5'6, I'm 16 and 5'10! I have the same thing with being skinny and eating but not putting weight on, I'm 58kg.
I dispise being so tall and love when I see posts like yours and seeing I'm not the only one!
My advise is to look and feel confident with it, it'll make you appear and feel more attractive. (:
All my friends are jel of my height.
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I'm in a serious relationship with a girl and have been in a relationship with her for almost a year and a half. Everything is going great, and it's really looking like I could spend my life with this woman. We're both 18, and we spend most of our time together and we almost NEVER fight.
But a few days ago I found out something about myself... Ever since I was old enough to even think about this, I've known that I was heterosexual. But it turns out, I just never bothered to think otherwise. I didn't cheat on my girlfriend, but I saw something that turned me on. So it turns out I'm bisexual(my girlfriend is too), but I don't know how to tell her, especially since there had to be something to trigger my realization.
Does anyone have any advice on how I should tell her?
Thanks,
Anon (link)
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She most likely wont be annoyed or bothered by it, being bi herself she obviously wont be against it.
Don't be surprised if she's shocked. I, myself am bisexual and I'd be shocked and possibly confused if my bf told me he was bi. She'll obviously question you, but just be honest.
Think whether you want to stay with her or experiment also.
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I had sex on dec 4th and 5th unprotected im 19 years old and since then my periods have been brown. im not bleeding too much but there is still blood. I felt tired alot nausea sometimes and my back has been killing me. What do you think is my chance of being pregnant is? (link)
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Could be possible, as some peoples periods can carry on when pregnant. It is unlikely though. Take a test and/or see a specialist.
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me and my boyfriend are both teenagers and live together most of the time. my boyfriend says that hes completely in love with me, he even has a tattoo of my name; but he has strayed from me a few times in the past and ive seen him jerking off a lot when he could be doing "stuff" with me i know he thinks im beautiful and stuff and we do have sex a few times a month but when were at parties i can tell hes cheeking other girls out. i know he has sexual needs im not fulfilling and hes just harmlessly enjoying himself, but i feel like i need to give him more, so im thinking about getting breast implants im only an A and all the girls he cheeks out and jerks to are this beautiful Cs and Ds. do think this is a good idea; if not what else would you consider i do? (link)
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No, don't. It's next to harmless to check people out, you most likely subconciously do it. You should be happy with your boobs how they are, and shouldn't change them for someone else. If he says he loves you, he should love your A's too.
Also, if you aren't 'fulfilling' him, why complain about him jerking? Go fulfill him, tell him you love him sista!
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