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Q: I'm 12 in a half and I lost all my virginity to my boyfriend, he's 15.My bestfriend said that losing my at my age is really bad.I don't think its that bad that i'm not a virgin anymore.Is it bad i'm not a virgin at 12.Most of the time I have sex with him. My friend says I should tell my parents i've had sex. Should I tell my parents?

Yes, you are by far much too young to even be contemplating the act of sex. Your boyfriend should know better, but he obviously let his hormones control him. Sex at your age could lead to a pregnancy and your boyfriend might just run off afterwards and you are way too young to take care of a child. As much as it may scare you, you must tell your parents and you must stop having sex. Not all relationships are based on sex either. Healthy relationships include a lot of talking, yes, cuddling and kissing, but that's usually it. At your age anyway, when you reach the appropriate age, then you can think about sex.

Q: my girlfriend is super shy around me and i dont kno wat to do and she likes me alot but i can nevr tlk to her wat shud i do.

Just ask her questions, like how was her day, what's her favorite color, those kinds of things. They're random, but one question can lead to a whole discussion! Maybe tell her how your day went? I know when I'm with my boyfriend, I love it when he tells me how his day went and it usually sparks a conversation about something. Cuddling and talking is part of a healthy relationship. You guys can just have silly conversations about friends, family, past experiences, or if you guys are into it, maybe try a deep conversation. Make sure there's conversation on both your parts too. I get shy with my boyfriend all the time, but when he asks me a question, I end up coming out of my shell. I hope this helped! Best of luck!

Q: hey i'm the 12 year old girl with the 16 year old bf. alot my friends have really older boy friends.and they've had sex before. i'm really not sure what i should do? my friends are always talking abuot how they had sex. sometimes they would ask me if i've had sex with my bf and they know i'll say no. should i have sex with my bf?

No, no, no. You're only twelve! You shouldn't even be thinking about sex. Your friends should respect your decision, and you boyfriend too. I'm not gonna say it's bad to date a guy that's a bit older than you because I'd be a hypocrite, but you have to know that boys at that age have the tendency to think about one thing only.

Q: my bf want s sex i'm12 year old girl and he's 16 i'm not ready he would touch me and kiss my kneck. I would say stop but would say babe relax. i say stop he says ok but he always bugs me about sex and once he tried to take off my shirt. i love him but not sexually. what should i do?

Hun, I highly suggest dumping him. Boys at that age usually only have one thing on their mind. Just tell him you're not ready for this kind of relationship and end it. There's plenty of guys out there and you're so young, so you have plenty of time to find the right guy. Kudos for making the right choice and not having intercourse at such a young age :)

Q: hi .... there are two things i dont like much of my personality i am a shy person and very honest, i do tell lies but never to my parents i always follow their rules. i am a teen and my firends always tell me is fine to lie to them but i just dont feel good by lying and its really frustrating because i feel like i am total geek and about the shy thing i just sometimes when i met people especially guys,dont know how to begin or end a conversation please help me should i change? how can i begin a conversation???
thanks

Honestly, you should not change the fact that you an honest person. That's a very good quality and when people realize that, they will also realize that you are good friend. No, it's not good to lie to your parents, but some people do it anyway. It's all right to be shy, I'm totally shy too! When I talk with someone, I usually say something kind of random that makes people go 'whaaaat?' Then I explain it a little more and before ya know it, there's a conversation going about something random! Haha, sometimes even simple things, like "So, what's up?" Are good conversation starters. Just carry on from there, like if they say:
"Eh, I'm feeling a bit upset. I lost my iPod." Just respond naturally. Be yourself! I know it's a little hard and you probably blush, maybe fidget a little because I do that too, but then after a while, it goes away and you feel more casual. Don't tense up or anything. Relax. The other person is probably trying to communicate with you and if you're relaxed, they'll be relaxed. And for the record, geeks are pretty awesome ;)

Q: To start off it was in my room, and I never experienced anything like this before.. I never figured anything like this would happen..it was just random.( This happened a few months ago)
I was sleeping and I was awaken by this odd chewing sound in my ear, it made me jump..and look over.. nothing was there. So I though, "It was nothing." I went back to sleep..than the next
night..when I woke up.. my door started to slowly move..I jumped up and ran to the door..and I caught the doorknob...it was still moving and I stopped it. After that, I became really.. spooked..

I told my father about this..and he told me..it could be my great great grandmother, apparently she believed in voodoo and stuff like that...she had a thing for the women in the family...and she liked to be around them..and what not..she he believed it could have been her. Also, the house I was living in..it was there house.. my grandmother..and her lived in there to..but my room was built on..and it's new..so I don't know whats going on.

After that happened, I put a rosary around my door knob and I asked the spirit (if there as one) to please go away and thank you.. All of that stopped bust still now..I hear like little taps.. every other night.. like a pencil on a piece of paper..or little bug's crawling..i look out everywhere..no bugs.. I thought it was my fan making the papers on my wall do that..but no..

I also woke up one day..and this porcelain doll I have sitting on a shelve...in front of my bed..it looked like it was crying..lt looked shiny on the outside of it's nose.. and I was like.. "Oh, it's probably the sun coming in from the window making a glare." ..The next few days..it never happened again..

So could you please help out with this? I'm not really scared anymore..but still I'd liked to know.

Paranormal activity is a common thing nowadays, but you have to be skeptical. Don't automatically assume it's a spirit. Set up a camera or try and debunk some of your experiences. Come up with rational explanations, but if it's so outrageous (like the door and doll thing) then it's worth getting more into. The voodoo thing I don't know too much about, but it could be a reason why your grandmother's spirit remained behind in this world. Most spirits stay with an objective in mind, then dissipate and move on after they've finished their business. I wouldn't rely on religion completely, not that I'm against it, but it won't necessarily solve the problem. If, after you've done thorough investigation, the spirit is truly there and for a reason, don't try and tell her off. She probably just wants to get her goal finished with so she can move on. No one likes being anchored. Hope this helps, best of luck!

Q: how can fuck at first time

If you have to ask that, then you're probably not old enough to be involved with anything sexual...

Q: I am looking for quick, effective and painless ways to do myself in. However, I don't know anyone who would provide assistance personally, so in the meantime, if anyone can find out an easy way for one to commit suicide it would be extremely appreciated as the only thing that keeps me going is the thought of ending my own life.

Wait until you grow old and die of old age. Takes a while, but at least you have time to think about this. If you have a problem, fix it. Running away from it isn't going to do anything. Without conflict or a bit of pain in life, then it'll be boring. That's why it's there, to keep you on your toes. Giving up makes it all pointless, all you've done up until now. Don't run, stand and stare your problem in the face!

Q: Im 12, and my boyfriend is 14, hes has sex before, and for a while ive been thinkin about it.! everyone says its worth it, just to get it over with, But im not sure, I mean ive done things, but im not sure about sex ive done everything other than sex, but i dont wanna upset my boyfriend..what shood i do?x ]

You're only 12-years-old!! And he's only 14! Nooooo, you guys shouldn't even be thinking about sex! Why? Because sex means you could get a disease, you could get pregnant, you WILL get in trouble when people find out. Just tell him no way, you're way too young for that and he is too!

Q: I work hard,I do what i have to do and its done right if i dont know how to do something i will learn.

Uhm, try odd jobs around your town or city. Like cleaning things or walking dogs. If you live in a small town, you could try corn detassling if you think you can handle it since it's pretty tough work. I think that's mostly what a 13-year-old can do. Unless the laws are different where you are as you have to be 16 where I'm at to have an official job.

Q: iowehkfnsdouwehkjf

i'm so frustrated and mad..

I honestly have no real friends.. all of them backstab me so many times :'( Its gotten so bad to the point where I just want to run away and leave and go somewhere else.

I don't know what to do anymore.. I feel so alone. I could give you endless examples of how my friends treat me. Here are a few. We are getting ready to go out and party, just as we step out the door, one of them goes "oh sorry Lauren I can only fit 6 people in my car" so I was the one who had to find my ride there... out of all the girls, they picked me to find my own ride. Another example- we are talking about going out to eat lunch and they are trying to figure out which restaurant to go to. They ask me and I suggest Noodles and they said "ew no" then 3 seconds later someone else says Noodles and they go "ya!"... uhhhh what??? i just said that...

there's just been so many times when they backstab me and talk about me and just treat me so badly.. but then other times they are nice and say hi and what not.

I'm just so fed up being treated this way. I cry all the time because I feel so bad about myself. I don't feel pretty at all, I feel like a complete loser because I don't have any real friends.

Ugh what should I do?? I've tried making new friends but with my busy schedule and HUGE school (my high school has 4,000 kids) it takes such a long time to find good friends with someone. There's like 5 weeks left of school. I really just want to get it over with and graduate already (i'm a senior) but at the same time I don't want to end on a bad note.. I'm just so frustrated and confused and I dont know what to do anymore.. I'm so sick of being treated this way. I've tried to stand up for myself but they laugh at me and ignore me.

Oh and I don't have anyone to go to for help.. My mom doesn't live with me and its very hard to communicate with her. My dad wouldn't care at all and doesn't want to get involved. I don't have any siblings. All of my close family is vey very far away and hard to contact them. I don't have any best friends or mentors or counselors to talk to.. :(

Wow. Okay, right away, those people aren't your friends if they're treating you like that. You should definitely just slowly drop them. Drift away because they obviously don't know how to be good friends. It's a good thing that you tried to stand up for yourself. I know making new friends is really hard, but if you really want some new ones, just drift toward a different crowd. And since it's your senior year, to be honest, I'd be focusing on getting the heck outta there so I could go out into the real world. You'll definitely find better friends after school. Friends come and go, it's all apart of how life goes. You just need to make sure you pick the right ones. You don't need to feel bad about yourself, you did nothing wrong. You're not a loser, you're just nice and they're taking advantage of that, which is extremely cruel of them. I kind of know how you feel, but I drifted away from my friends because I was sick of them trying to put me in situations that would get me hurt or using me. Best of luck to you, and if you want to talk more about it, you can email me at nightmarerealm@live.com.

Q: Okay. So heres my ordeal. Im gay, 17 years old, and i have been crushing on this guy for a while now. I have just this far been dropping subtle hints, but he is the type that its hard for me to read his feelings. I dont know if he has the same feeling for me. Im guessing he is, but im not for certain. I dont know what to do, either give up and find a new guy, or tell him about my feelings and hope that he likes me back. Im very confused. so any advice at all would be great. thanks.

Sometimes you have to take a risk, so go for it! At least you tried, right? There are plenty of guys out there if he does reject you, so it's not the end of the world. Just talk to him in private and confess. Hope this helped, best of luck to you!

Q: im having a baby but i dont know if i should get an abortion. someone please help me

If you know you cannot take care of the child and it's still early in the pregnancy, I think it's like three months? You should. However, if you can take care of the baby, you have a job, the baby's father is still with you, and you know you can raise it, I suggest you keep it, but be warned that babies are extremely fragile and you can't back out after it's born.

Q: My boyfriend won't make the first move. We haven't even hugged or kissed. He is shy. What should I do?

Ahh, I had the same thing going on with the guy I'm currently dating. Sometimes you just gotta do it first, even if you don't wanna. If he sees you do something, he'll probably think it's all right and start slowly crawling out of his shell. When I started dating my boyfriend, I was waiting for him to make the first move, so I gave up and just grabbed his hand and said "We're going to hold hands, is that okay?" And of course he was turning all red and just nodding, but now he's the one who does things, like kissing and hugging me. Maybe try it out or drop hints by brushing your arm again him or licking your lips or say your cold... It sounds kinda corny, but hey! It actually works :)
Good luck to you guys!

Q: well im a 11 year old girl, 12 next month, i want to know if im a slut? i finger my self, flirt with lots of boys, and i love it when boys touch my butt or touch me up and i watch porn.
am i a slut?
i also talk to older men online and send them pics. and i REALLY want to have sex!

Yes, you are. Yes, you need help. Yes, you have to be 13 to use this site. I just hope this was fake.

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Hi hi hi! Call me Tsukuyomi. I'm an avid writer and reader with a peculiar taste in books and music. I love gay and supernatural books, such as the Archangel Academy series (which has both of those lovely genres!). I enjoy K-Pop and J-Pop music as well as the old time rock and roll. I'm really into researching mythology and religion. I'm open-minded and optimistic with a bit of sarcasm on the side, but I don't bite!