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Q: THere is this guy and i really like him and hes in one of my classes and my friend asked him if he likes me and he said he doesnt like any one right now and i really wanna get closer to him like talk to him more and get him to like me so how do i do that?
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slowly start talking to him more and more and if he has an AIM screen name then you ba the one to say hi and dont wait for him to say hi and soo he will start to say hi to you more and more.im not sure this will help you but i hope it does!
~amy

Q: [13/f] everyone at my school sees me as a shy person who always follows the rules and everything and thats not at all how i am! i got detention today and this kid saw me in the office [iv'e had detentions before, but i dont brag about it to look "cool" like all the other kids] and he was like "whoa! YOUR in DETENTION??" I feel like everyone knows me for someone i'm not and it's really starting to bug me. i'm not at all how anyone sees me, not even my own friends.. does anyone know how to like idk, show everyone "who i really am"? i know that sounds gay but i don't know how else to say it

ok first of all when people ask you how you are say fine but im really mad because i just had detention or something that gets the same point across and if they say wow you had a detention say something like ya i have had it before. i know that sounds really stupid but thats one way i no how to do it without like really breaking the rules or somthing so i hope this helped!
~amy

Q: ok well i dont eat anything really... i would say im becoming anerexiox. i know its not good for you but does it mmake you lose weight?

yes it does make you lose weight but not in a healthy way. if you keep this up you can die, ive heard lots of stories about people dying from being anorexic. so please eat something or tell someone that you think that you are anorexic because this is a serious problem that if you dont eat something soon you can die or be hospitalized so for your own good EAT!!!!!
~amy

Q: I wanted to know is it okay to go out with your best friends Ex boifriend?? I knida wawnt to go out with him. But she says it is okay and totally fine with her but i am afraid that might do something to our relationship? Should I go with him or say no because of my friend???...

i think that you should go for it, but before you do talk to your friend about it, if she is sure that she is fine with it then ask him out. but if it starts to ruin your relationship with your friend then somehow explain it to him and break up with him or talk to your friend bout it. i hope this helps,
~amy

Q: theres this random guy that hates me for no reason...he says im annoying but i dont talk to him...and yesterday he threw an egg or something at my window...what can i do to get him back so that i wont get in (much) trouble?

wow this guy seems to either like you so much that he doesnt know what to do (i dont think thats it though) or he is just one annoying guy. my advice to you is the next time you see him yell at him have your friends say stuff like 'why do you do this do her do you have a major crush on her or something?' maybe not those exacte words because that sounds really weird but something like that. i know it works because one guy at my school did the same thing to one of my best friends and then i started to say those kind of things and then he started to back off. well i hope this helps HAPPY NEW YEAR!!
~amy

Q: Ok heres the story,Christmas day is when everything started...my whole family cept for me started fighting, my brother and his friend was over here and my mom started in on my brother and my brother ended up cutting his wrist, blood was running down his arm, i also cut myself that day because i was upset with everything thats been happeneing lately, when i cut my arm i blacked out, and well the story goes on, yesterday and today my parents have been fighting and i mean seriously fighting, my brother and his friend left yesterday and got one of their friends to come and pick them up and after they left my parents started fighting and have been fighting all day today and i cant take it no more, they were fighting so bad my mom was hitting my dad they spit on eachother, one of em pushed the other into the christmas tree and it broke at the bottom and everything on it droped on the floor and broked as well, and they wont stop fighting, i tell them to stop and they wont...they wont listen to me, i told them maybe they do need to get a divorce if they're gonna fight this much because there aint no sence in em being together if they are gonna fight 24/7 and i dont know what to do i cant take it anymore, i wanna get out of here but i have no where to go, no one wants me, and i have no one to talk to about any of i because i have no friends and i dont know what to do...the thoughts of my running away crossed my mind but i wouldnt have anywhere to go and its to cold outside to run away...so if anyone has any advice to give me please do...i need all the advice i can get, sorry this is so long, Thanks to who ever takes the time to read this and send me their thoughts.

ok next time your parents fight like that tell them that your going to call the police because what they are doing will affect you greatly. if that doesnt work then call the police and yes i know that you love them but this is not something that you can live with. this is going to lead to very bad things. and cutting yourself is going to lead to worse things too. and like i said the best thing to do is go to the police and tell them what is going on, or if your too afraid to do that then go to your neighbors and tell them, i dont even really care who you tell but tell someone. well good luck it sounds as if youve been through a lot and i hope my advice helps! happy new year!
~amy

Q: I feel lonely all the time, and it even happens when im surrounded with friends. I have so many hobbies, but yet even when I do them I always feel lonely. What's causing me to feel so lonely?

many things could be making you feel like this its hard to say what it is without really knowing you, but maybe its because you are taking on to many things because it sounds as if you have lots of friends and lots of hobbies so maybe its because you are doing all of the things that other people want you to do not what you really want to do. talk to one of your friends about it and if this continues then talk to one of your parents about it yes i no what your thinking why would i want to go talk to my mom about it what will she know?? well im 15 and i have had my fair share of problems and the advice that i always got was to talk to my mom about it. and im not sure but this might be a mild form of depression and that can lead to much worse things. ok i dont know what else to say and i hope that the advice i gave you haelped at least the slightest bit. good luck!
~amy

Q: I think I'm anorexic. But I might not be because everyone says that the first quality of an anorexic is denial. I don't know. My friends say that I am, because I don't eat much for lunch and most of the time don't eat lunch at all. I never considered myself underweight, but I guess I would be in like, the 10th percentile. What do you guys think?

ok first of all do u go for like three days without eating anything? if u do then you are anorexic but skipping lunch every once in a while isnt that bad but if you do think that you are anorexic then make sure you bring more for lunch or you buy more, i have this friend who all she eats for luch sometimes is a bag of chips and a snapple, dont be like her, it s not anorexic but it still isnt good for you. well that is all the advice i can give you hope it helps!
~amy

Q: hi again you dont know me but it seems like you give good advice as you did before to me. so anyways my friend is totally being a b*i*t*c*h and acts as if she is of total control over me! as if im some robot not a person! and it really hurts i mean she treats me failry but she doesnt let me hang out with anyone but her and shes gets so abstrobinaclly jealous of if i hang out with some one else or dont talk to her for like 2 minuetes! and i know im being mean but i just cant take it anymore!i was sitting with my other best friend millissa this moringin (spell sry for all the mistakes) she walks over and tells me to move and come by her why is she like this??? shes not on her period so it cant be that so plz help and so sry for the lenght!
melinee/10/idaho

ok first of all i think that something is bugging her and that you should talk to her. either that or your doing something that is making her act like this. either way talk to her, then you can find out what is wrong. i know that it isnt much but i hope it helps, happy holidays!!!

Q: Ok, i like this guy, let's call him Jim. I flirt with him CONSTENTLY and i think he likes me too. But then i was talking to his friend and he said that Jim raped someone. I didn't believe him at first and i askeD Jim about it. First he said "i'd never do that!". So i got his friend to come over and he said "Yea you did, remember? On my couch last summer?" And Jim said "O YEA!"
I dont want to like a guy who raped a girl. Plz help me, i dont kno what to do!

ok first of all anyone who would do that is obviously not a good person and maybe they are playing a trick on you so that you will stop liking him but i dont think that is the case.if i were you i would stop liking him and move on to another guy because what if he does that to you? i no you dont want that to happen. well good luck and i hope it helps. ~Happy Holidays!~
*amy

Q: you see i have this friend of mine that is pretty stuck up, and thinks shes all that and she always has to be the BEST at every little thing! it really gets on my nerves! i try to do something that is just mine and she says i do it wrong and i know i do it right cause i take classes in that thing so i think i would know but she gets pretty jealous pretty easily and she can have other friends over to her house but when i mention that i might have some1 else sleep over she gets all puppy eyes and makes me feel so guily but i do have other friends and need to hang out with them too, sorry about the length but please help me on this one!!

my advice to you is too talk to that person so that she knows what she is doing, if you dont then she wont change because she wont know that she is doing anything wrong. if this still keeps up then tell me and i can try to do more. well good luck with your friend!!
~amy~

Q: my bf just told me he was a pothead...and hes been doing it for almost a year. and we've been going out for more than a year, i dont know what to do. hes lied to me for so long. i told him if he did it i'd dump him but he did it anyway. i only said that so maybe he wouldnt do that but it didnt work. idk what to do. im so confused and idk. please help. and dont tell me to dump him because i cant. i love him too much to do that. no matter what he does.

ok i would tell you to dump him but you dont want me too tell you that so my advice is too tell your guidence counseler or his parents or your parents. yes, i no that you would ussually never tell your parents anything much less your gudence counceler but you have to if you dont he could die and i dont think that you want that. if you truly care about him then you will follow my advice. good luck and happy holidays!!
~amy~

Q: alright so im trying to get a flat stomach.. well trying to get some fat off my stomach.. can any one try to give me tips like any exercises that i can do and tell me what to do.. like how much i do, how many each day, and how long it will take to get to a flatter stomach ..im aiming to get a flat stomach in like a couple of weeks, but if it will take longer, thats fine thanks a bunch

ok first of all you should do 20 sit ups three times a day, when you get good at that then you should keep adding on 5 until you have a flat stomach. this might take a month or less if you really work at it. if you dont then it will take you much longer. good luck and happy holidays!!
~amy~

Q: ok well i'm 15/f/ i'm dating this guy named Jesse and yesturday we were hanging out together and some chick named Stephanie text him saying I LOve you 2! and well i read it and i asked him what was that all about he tells me that this girl has a crush on him and thinks that he will go out wiht me and with her at the same time and well he told her that he would never cheeat on his girlfriend......what you all think? PLEASE HELP ME BECAUSE I"M CONFUSED

dont go out with him, if he is going out with someone at the same time as you then it wont turn out good at all trust me on this one, my friend did that once and he ended up breaking her heart, if he really likes you then tell him that you wont go out with him if he goes out with her too, and if he says no then he doesnt really like you and he isnt the guy for you well anyway thats all i have to say.
~amy~

Q: i have to do this thingy in front of my class.. which is 36 people and i have to memorize it... its a monologue. and im scared. i think imn gunna go out there and like freeze!! what do i do? 13/f

practice in front of your family or friends. either that or re read what your going to say over and over again until there is no way that you could forget it. i know that this isnt great advice but i hope it helps at least a little bit!
~amy~

Q: Does anyone know some type of food that would give me more calcium? I heard that the age i am (15) is one of the most important to get more of it. I HATE milk, and dont really like yogurt or cheese. I am afraid I might get osteoporosis when i get older. HELP!!

my sister hates milk too and she takes these viactive calcium chewable things and they taste like chocolate, or you could get this stuff called yo-jay (i think thats how you spell it it might be yo-j but im not sure) it tastes good and it is high in calcium, it tastes a little bit like yogurt but not too much.
~amy~

Q: okay well i really dont have any clue wat 2 do because i like this kid and one day he asked me out but then he just wanted to be friends. well i wanst in a relationship so i didnt care. But one day i saw him and i totally like him again!! i think about him aklot to. i have no clue wat 2 do! help!
thanks signed confused

have your friend talk to him and see if he likes you agian too, if he does, ask him out if he doesnt he might be lying so ask him out anyway and if he says no then it isnt the end of the world. also there migt have been some reason why he dumped you that you dont know about. hope that helps
~amy~

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hey my name is libby and you can ask me anything so....um ya. well i dont no wat else to say only that if i give you advice to tell me how good it is in other words please rate me! lol well thats all.
~libby~