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Hey my name is Rachael and I'm sixteen years old. Like anyone else on this site, I love to help people. Ask me anything and I'll give the best possible answer I can!

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i think i precummed in this girl..it was unprotected..and yes i know it was stupid im a dumbass i know. ok i was drunk and i peed during intercourse like not peed in bed but i got up atleast 4 times to pe..did this clear up sperm in my uterus did my pre cum still have sperm in it and one more thing she took the morning after pill 2 days after the intercourse and i was only in her for a minute..but does the pill work even after two days? helpl

you're probably fine if she took the morning after pill. Yes, it works after two days because you don't really have to take it the MORNING AFTER.. you have 72 hours to take it. Pre ejaculate doesn't have sperm in it unless you had sex earlier that day or masturbated so the sperm would be in your *URETHRA!!! (I noticed you said uterus and I had to laugh a little bit :]) But hey, I wouldn't stress it, it's probably fine.
So, lesson learned? No more drunk unprotected sex :) haha
Let me know how it goes!

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Can you eat anything you want if you work out daily?

In essence, yes. Are you trying to lose weight? If you are, it's as simple as this: Burn more calories than you eat. That's not necessarily healthy though, because if you want to eat foods with a lot of fat or sugar then you can't really eat a lot throughout the day because they take up a lot of calories. Just think if you make healthier choices in your diet you can eat a wholleee lot more while consuming less calories, getting the nutrients you need, and feel full!
But overall, yes. If you work out daily and burn more calories than you consume, you can lose weight.

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15/f...Everytime i wear a tampon (regular absorbancy) i always get it on the pad i am wearing to. I am going to the beach this weekend and all next week and i cant get blood on my bathing suits. I was going to try to switch to a higher absorbancy but on regulars, it takes a long time to get full because usually when i take it out after 5 hours there is still a little white showing on the tampon. What should i do?

Maybe change your tampon more often throughout the day. Then it won't have as much time to leak. Also, if you plan on swimming, blood doesn't come out when you're in the water because of the water pressure. So keep that in mind too!

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hi me and my boyfriend have been dating for 6 and a half months im 19 and so is he when we first starting dating it was great he called me every night he texted me all the time and we always had fun together now he rarely calls or texts if he does call its around midnight and if i call him he is always with his friends and either says i cant talk right now or he talks to them the whole time while i am on the phone listeneing and sometimes he calls me when he is with the friends and i just have to listen to him talk to them and now we are always fighting he never invites me to do anything with him and his friends anymore either he awways teels me wat hes doing as hes doing it doesnt even invite me and his friends are over every night and he says he didnt invite them that they have a key and he doesnt even wanna b there with them we never really go out anymore we just sit at home and watch tv he says he is always romantic but i cant even remember the last time he was, we only see each other like 1 a week, we both really love each other wat should i do to save our relationship

Well, there's definitely something wrong here. He's not communicating with you. He's being pretty sketchy if you ask me. You really should take the time to talk to him about this. Let him know that it makes you angry when he's not including you in his plans or making alone time with you. I know how it is when you hardly ever see your boyfriend, because that's how it is for me right now too. How about you make a date. Call him ahead of time, and make dinner plans. It'll be good for the both of you to hang out again and then he can also tell you if there's been something on his mind that he needs to tell you.

Hope this answer helps and you can take it into consideration!
xo

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my vagina has a very strong smell to it. it's not an infection or anything. it's always been stong. i was just wondering if the gyno can prescribe medication or something for me? or if there's something i can do at home to help. i just get sort of uncomfortable when i'm "intimate" with my boyfriends, even though it really doesn't bother him. thanks. :)

don't douche! it's dangerous and unnecessary.. It causes inflamation and you may even get an infection.

If you're really uncomfortable with the smell, just wash the general area with a mild soap in the shower. Don't use any purfumes or scented lotions, because that can also cause irritation.

If your boyfriend doesn't think it's a problem then it really shouldn't be. Often times your significant other is attracted to your natural scent!

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well first off im 17/f... not a virgin.. for the first time ive had sex with my bf of 6 months.. and i was extremely tight... it was PAIN. my cherry has already been popped but after we finished WAAY after i was lightly bleeding as if i was cut... tis worried me? what can it be? thanks in advance!

A couple possibilities:

-Sometimes girls are just naturally tight like that and sex will be painful for quite awhile.

-Another possiblity is that your hymen never completely tore and there is still part of if covering your vaginal opening.

If this is becoming a serious problem for you, if you can't enjoy sex because it's too painful then you should consider seeing a gynocologist. You can check your city for any clinics that may offer free exams or if you're comfortable telling your mom, have her take you.

It could be serious so I strongly suggest you see a professional.. even if it isn't serious, it's good to know what's up.

get your docs opionion ;)

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hello, i now know this amazing girl, and i dont know if she likes me and i already gave her a kiss on the cheek but she doesnt seem to understand that i love her... so i was thinking of trying to do it on the mouth, but how do u start on something like that?

My question for you is, how long have you known this girl? Another one that you may ask yourself is, is she sending vibes back that she thinks of you the way you think of her? If she isn't or if it seems like she has no interest in you in that way then it's probably best that you just don't kiss her.

Now, assuming that you two have amazing chemistry, you get along great, and she drops little hints that she likes you in that way, kissing her on the mouth will come completely naturally. Get her alone, and talk with her awhile. Wait for the perfect moment when you two are looking into eachothers eyes and then just go for it. Don't stop to think about it or analyze it, because chances are you'll stop yourself from doing it.

Everything is going to go smoothly, I promise. She's probably thought about kissing you, too.

So, my advice to you is be spontanious and take the initiative.

good luck :]

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So a few hours my friend asked me out and I said yes.

Except he and my best friend have never gotten along. That's all fine and stuff, and even he doesn't care I'm friends with her.

But she's getting really pissed off. In those short few hours she's been getting a bit narky with me, and she actually said to me when he goes overseas she wants him to find another another girl to be 'her problem'

I think she also may be jealous I found a guy and she hasn't.

What the HELL do I say to her to get her to pull her head out of her ass?

I know what you mean. My friend and boyfriend don't get along either. Your friend does sound a little bit jealous, or she's just a bitter person. Tell her straight up that it's not okay for her to talk like that. If she doesn't like him.. fine. She doesn't have to. But she can respect you being with him. If you like him and want to date him, you should be aloud to. Her opinion should not affect your decision. Or you could just tell her to pull her head out of her ass. haha ;]
hope i helped

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so i really want to model. here are my stats
Height: 5" 5'
weight; 140 (yeah. i know i have 2 lose weight)
Bust: 34C
waist & hip: idk
so there are my stats. people have suggested that i try fordmodels.com should i? and is barbizon a scam? some people say its great and some say its awful and a scam.

The way you find out if a modeling agency is a scam is if they make you pay for anything. Everything should all be free. You're the one getting paid. You could try ford models, they're a huge modeling agency.
Good luck :]

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I'm 100% italian so naturally I'm gonna have dark hair. Anyway my hair is dark brown everywhere! I have dark arm hair [gross] but that i dont really care about it's my stomach. I have gross dark stomach hair! It's nasty!! How can I lighten it up or something to make it less noticeable!?

Please Help!!!

you could try shaving it.

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i think that i have like mental issues.
right now i think that i am really a retarted person who is living in the perspective of a normal one.
ahhhhh whats wrong with me!?
what should i do about it?
i need help!!!!!!!!!!!

I know what you mean.. I kinda go through the same things at times. You're not really retarded. It's just a phase.

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Sorry if this is in the wronge category

But anyways when ever I floss my teeth hurt really bad afterwards.. and they bleed almost like non-stop and I am really protective of my teeth... and the dentist tell's me to floss.. but I tend not to my teeth kill me after I do? is this normal? does everyones bleed? please help!

if you floss your teeth regularly.. like once or twice a day (which hardly anyone does) then your gums should be strong enough to not bleed. But yes, it is normal for your gums to bleed after flossing if you don't do it enough. Just do it more frequently and maybe to start off with, apply less pressure.
hope I helped :]
-Rachael

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My boyfriend and I were at an amusement park and we were in the drop off parking lot. So we were both a little dizzy and decided to sit down in the shade near the grass. It was really hot but the thing is.. I'm allergic to grass so I sat on his lap.

10 minutes later..
The security came by.. and said that we should sit appropriately because he's been getting *complaints.



Okay, were we really sitting inappropriate? I don't know.. it's not like we were having sex or anything. He had one leg curled in so I can sit there :/

I didnt think it was that bad..

sitting on your boyfriend's lap isn't bad at all.
That security guard was obviously just being a douche bag. haha

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I go to the worst school in the area. The girls are bitchy sluts (I'm not saying that out of spite, what these girls have done...) and the guys are just stupid manwhores.

The school is run down, and because I'm the most real person in that place I get picked on.

I dunno...It doesn't really hurt me what they say, but no one seems to care. It sucks how I'm the only kid in my year level getting CONSTANTLY picked on.

I have no friends either, someone spread a rumour about me bitching about them behind their back and without proof or hearing my side of the story ditched me.

Anyways, I seriously can't take this. I can only move schools in 6 months and I can't even take one day. I don't mean to sound like an attention seeker here but I once overdosed on pain killers 'cause of school and I'm scared I might do it again.

Obviously there's nothing I can do to stop it, believe me I've tried.

But my question is: How should I manage 6 months of school? If I can find a way to manage it, even slightly it will help.

I'm really sorry to hear about this. :[ no one should have to hate going to school.. but i know teenagers.. especially girls, can be vicious. If you only have to tough out 6 more months.. maybe try talking to a counselor. It's someone to talk to, and if anything gets really out of hand.. they'll help you. You can't let it get to you, though. Be your own person.. don't let what other people say get you down. I know it hurts to get picked on, but it's really only going to make you stronger.
I truly am sorry.. but I know you can do it
:]
-Rachael

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alright. i have this friend and i kind of love him. he's the totaly opposite of me and i've done some things he doesn't agree with. most of them, he knows about, a few he doesn't. this kid knows me better than i know myself and by not telling him, i've felt kinda guilty. so. question basically is, should i tell him, have him be disappointed, or just kind of let it go and not worry about it?
thankss.

Tell him. He's going to understand and love you know matter what because he's your friend. LEt ihm be upset for a while. It would be better if you told him rather than him finding out about it from someone else. Then he'd think that you keep stuff from him and not want to be your friend anymore. Just let him know, and tell him that you're not going to do it again.

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okay, so there is this guy and we both like eachother and we both know it to. (( like i know he likes me and he knows i like him )) and well now im really starting to like him and want him to ask me out, but im not so sure if he like wants to wait till summers over or if he is just shy. doesnt anyone know how i can speed things up a bit without me asking him out.

he's probably just shy. try bringing it up.. by saying something like "do you ever think about us?" He'll get it.. and he'll probably end up asking you out. You know, if you're really impatient, why don't you ask him out? There's nothing wrong with that, and if you know for sure that he likes you.. he'll most likely say yes.
:]
-Rachael

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hi well last year me and these other people became friends and we started a group...this year during school we started off good and then things started to turn bad..they sat at a different lunch table and left me to find osmewhere else to sit...and they never asked me to hang out anymore and they started hanging out with these other people. they acted like the didnt even know i existed ..they acted like i dissapeared....now that its summer i only have one good friend left..they wernt in my group but weve been friends before my group started...there aresome poeple i talk to that say ohhh well were friends but they arent the poeple that would ask me to hang out ...i could ask them to but i want friends that i can make plans with all the time and not worry about trying to hang out with them when theyre not hanging out with THEIR group\\\\

so what should i do??? i start high school next year..will i find new friends....how do i make friends over the summer


and i really want my old friends to know what they put me through....how do i tell them without starting something

ahhh PLEASE try and help me i know this question is kind of tough but thanks

making new friends can be easy, or it can be hard.. depending on your personality. What if you become friends with your one good friend's friends? Maybe you two could go to a party together.. or hang out with some other people. Try getting involved, too. Since you're just entering high school, are you interested in any sports or activities? try out or join! that's always a good way to meet new people. Or if you have a myspace.. start talking to people through that.. but be safe.. and know for sure who you're talking too. Just try to be a friendly person, and stay away from people like your old friends, who don't seem to be like good friends at all

good luck :]
-Rachael

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ok...well I have been dating my boyfriend for about 6 months and I love him very much and he loves me. The only problem is he wants to have sex and I don't know. I am only 17 (will be 18 in December) and he just turned 19.! There is a part of me that wants to but another part of me that doesn't cause I kinda want to wait till marrage and I don't want to take a chance of becoming pregent. I thinks it more the pregent part. What should I do?

Wait until you're fully ready, educated, and doubt free. I'm sure he'll respect your decision to wait. If you don't, you make feel like you made a mistake. If you're worried about getting pregnant, talk with your doctor about getting birth control. Also, be sure if you're going to have sex, that you wear a condom every time. The only way you can be 100% sure you won't get pregnant is abstinence.
I hope my advice was helpful and I hope you chose wisely.
:]
-Rachael

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How can i dress more feminine/flirty. What are some good stores to shop in?

dressing more feminine includes wearing more blouses, skirts, sun dresses softer colors, prints, ruffles, etc. Accessories and jewelry are also very important.



here's some examples:
1.http://www.charlotte-russe.com/browse/tops/0143/
2.http://www.charlotte-russe.com/browse/tops/0158/
3.http://www.charlotte-russe.com/browse/dresses/0080/


Good stores for feminine clothes are:
charlotte russe, express, delias, macys, h&m, banana republic, vanity, etc.

hope that helps :]
-Rachael

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am i growing boobs?... because my chest hurts when i poke it? hahaha sorry to sound stupid but im so confusedddd x]

hahaha my boobs hurt too!
i think that means they're growing
:] go us!

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