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Q: how much would 2 sleeping pills knock you out? enough for someone to take all of your clothes off without u knowing??

This is a weird question. Are you planning on drugging someone? If so, I hate you. If not, I'm sorry I can't answer your question. Sleeping pills don't work for me. lol

Q: Hey guys! So I was in walmart recently and I discovered wet to dry hair straighteners. I've seen ads in magazines for them before but they seem almost too good to be true. One of the two I found is called Wet 2 Style made by Remington for $25.47 and it looks like a normal straightener for dry hair. The other is called Infiniti Hair Designer by Conair for $49.94 and it looks like a comb with ceramic plates. I have several questions.

1. Is the more expensive one a better deal?

2. I dont want to have to use the wet 2 dry straightener and then have to go over it with my dry straightener. So, are Wet 2 Dry straighteners worth it?

3. I get phenominal results with my dry straightener. My hair is damaged yes from the heat but its very smooth and soft. Do wet 2 dry straighteners give the same effect?

Also if it matters my hair is thick, wavy, and frizzy. I had a chemical relaxer put on it back in June but it's still a bit frizzy. Basically I want to know if wet 2 dry straighteners are worth it and any experiences (good and bad) you all have had with them!

Thank You!

I have one. I think it's the Remington. It works great and I have thick hair. I always use it on the highest it will go, even when my hair is dry, but I think it might be better if I would put it on a lower setting.

Q: i have to write my boyfriend a sorry letter for cheating. any good sugestions or help ?

My suggestion is to not write a letter. You need to tell him in person. When he gets upset, you need to understand that he has a good reason and he may not forgive you.

Q: ok heres the deal i had sex like 2 weeks ago and well i was throwing up like afterwards for the first couple days i i thought i could be pregnate but i got my period but it is a really light period i normally last 5-7 days and this one was 3days could i be pregnate or not

I hate it when people say that if you have your period you aren't pregnant, because that isn't true. You can have your period when you're pregnant. Some people are even on it the whole time they're pregnant. It just depends on the person, so if you see someone that says, no period means not pregnant, then their advice is useless, and they should be ingnored.

Q: i'm 17/f. if i have a boyfriend, and we've been together for a long time, is it cheating if i hold hands with another boy?

It would be cheating if you have feelings for the other boy, and I don't know why you would hold his hand, unless you had feelings for him.

Q: hellooo♥
i'm making some IOUs for my boyfriend (6 months tomrrow! yay!) any ideas?? haha i only have one so far..a free massage.
help please!!

1. Back Rub
2. Foot Rub
3. Alone Time(No TV or Phone)
4. Movie Night
5. Dinner
6. Cuddling
7. 3 Different Types Of Kisses
8. Bubble Bath Together
9. Breakfast In Bed
10. Free Coupon(It means that he can choose for that coupon to be anything he wants)
11. Romantic Picnic
12. Walk On The Beach

Q: What are some good songs or just like a bunch of songs about an ex going out with your friend but still any songs?

Absolutely Nothing by Lily Allen
Smile by Lily Allen
Over It by Katharine McPhee
Your Cheating Heart by Hank Williams
Before He Cheats by Carrie Underwood
When You Were Cheating by Sara Evans
My Happy Ending by Avril Lavigne
Lyin' Eyes by Eagle
Does He Love You by Reba McEntire and Linda Davis
When I Think About Cheating by Gretchen Wilson

Hope you like them!

Q: does any have any good flirting tips for my ten year old sister she is always asking me and i dont know what to say she like this guy he is kinda a show off.

Confidence is a big thing when it comes to flirting. Guys really like the confidence. Being shy(biting lips, shy sweet smiles, standing close)are things I did. I was a confident and shy flirter at the same time. I have a boyfriend now.

Q: so, theres this boy i know at school. and everyone talkes about him in a good way. i really like him A LOT! he is so hot. but, he hates himself. he puts himself down, and doesn't think his life is worth anything. he doesnt want to go to college or do anything with his future. i feel bad for him. i want him to think positively and not so negatively. what should i do?

ps. i already told him that he is a good person, but he didn't believe me.

thanks!

Tell him that you really like him. Compliment him and say things that will make him feel good about himself. Be there for him. Believing in yourself is the way to feeling good. Make him think he's important. Make him feel needed. If you need help, just message me.

Q: Alright, well im pretty young and me and my boyfriend have been going out since may 11th and were really close i'v told him thing's not even my best-friends know! and i think i might acctually love him! my mom calles it puppy love but i haven't felt this way about anybody before! now onto the problem. he had to go for the summer, though he hurt himself on his skateboard on purpose so he wouldn't have to leave so soon. but now he's gone and we really only get to talk on msn since he had to leave to work at his cousins and he's usually working. and on msn we ran out of thing's to say. and he's wondering if were gonna stay together and he thinks thing's are gonna be weird when he get's back because were not talking a whole lot now and it's just making me really worried, that were gonna break up. we said we'll keep going out and see how thing's are going to be when he get's back. but it' just made me really worried, i felt sick to my stomach and really weak after he talked to me about it, and i cried alot. but im just wondering does this sound like just a phase?

Thank's For The Help In Advance =D

My boyfriend is away a lot. We talk on IM. We do run out of things to say, but you just have to make conversation. Ask him how his day was, and how he's feeling. Ask what movies he's been watching and about his family. How thee weather is. Just make small talk. Have you ever heard the phrase "absence makes the heart grow fonder"? It means that since you miss him, you will want to be with him more when he comes home. That is how I feel. It would help to know how old you actually are though. If you want to know more, then message me.

Q: hello everyone, i would like to ask, 'how can you tell a guy likes you?', i have this friend i like him a lot but i dont know if he likes me, i get the impression that he might, its just the way he looks at me, and how he doesn't talk when other friends are with us but when we are alone he talks, and we do get on but i dont know how i could tell if he likes me, any guys out there can you tell me how i can read a guys mind?
thanx

For me, I could just tell that he liked me. He was always flirting and being around me, and he always offered to buy me a soda or a snack. I hope my love life will make yours easier.

Q: ok....im 13 and pregnant i dont want to tell my family because i think they will be ashamed.I dont want to get an abortion because i think its wrong.I also dont want to give "it" up for adoption, because my friend was adopted and he doesent like it.I just really need some help.What should i do?

I will make my advice short but helpful. Tell your parents now. Now!

Q: Well I just found out that I may be pregnant again, I just had my second kid and then had my tubes tide and now he is only 6 months old I just had this gut feeling that I might be so I took a store bought test and it came back positive, so is there really anyway that I can get pregnant that fast after having a baby and my tubes tide?

I heard that you are not supposed to have sex for a while after having your tubes ties, because it is to early to work.

Q: i got my preriod very late.. so my boyfriend think that i am pregnant. we went to the clinic for five times and i took five urine test. it all came out negative. i am really scared because my stomach is getting big than it was. after that clinic that i took five urine test, i went to a different clinic. when i took another test. it came out negative.
does this means that i am not pregnant? or the test is just messing up. i've been hearing that the urine test is not accurate and also the blood test. i dont know what to do. they wont let me have a ultra sound so i know if its in there or not.
can someone tell me.. if im pregnant or not. i am really scared and i dont want to have a baby.

I would say that you are not pregnant, but if you think you are then wait a while. If your stomach keeps growing and if you get morning sickness, then I would worry. You can send me a message saying what you weighed before and what you weigh now, and if you gain more weight, then you could always message me again. Feel free to message me whenever you need help.

Q: THere is a trend out there I guess its spelled emo. Anyways my son has been talking about it for two years but never really acted on it. Two days ago he started dressing im all black and yesterday he puts on eyeliner. I love my son very much, he has always MARCHED TO HIS OWN DRUM AND IVE ALWAYS SUPPORTED HIM. HE IS MOSTLY ANTISOCIAL AND LOVES MUSIC AND THE COMPUTER...HIS NEW FOUND LOVE IS THE CURE. I JUST WANT TO KNOW MORE ABOUT BEING EMO. NOT TO DOWN HIM BUT TO SUPPORT HIM.....PLEASE HELP

There is nothing wrong with emo. I am not emo, but I do like the style. I think it is more goth to only wear black. Emo to me is about the music. They are sometimes(most often) bi. I find nothing wrong with that. I personally think emo boys are very good looking. Here are some pictures you may find interesting about emo boys.
http://i157.photobucket.com/albums/t45/ptiteessa/Emo%20Boys/1144397995_l.jpg

http://i157.photobucket.com/albums/t45/ptiteessa/Emo%20Boys/8134990.jpg

http://i13.photobucket.com/albums/a270/rkogurl44/Hot%20Emo%20Boys/bandanasown.jpg

http://i151.photobucket.com/albums/s133/BlackGreenBabe/Hot%20Emo%20Boys/emokizz20.jpg

http://i106.photobucket.com/albums/m245/me_emo/k160.jpg

http://i44.photobucket.com/albums/f17/iwishyourbodywillbebrokenagain/Hot%20emo%20boys/3267e7ce.jpg

You can send me a message any time you want. I have as many pictures as you would possibly need. Some are more important pictures, and some are just cute. Feel free to ask me questions.

Q: cheated on boyfriend. want him back. any help. espcially from guys point of view.

If I was him I wouldn't take you back. Once a cheater, always a cheater. You should never have done it.

Q: my boyfriend is a total jerk. he dosnt say hi to me anymore. he hangs up on me swears at me is violent to me says he dosnt care about me nemore as much as he did says he hates seen me gets ppl to tel me hes not were he is so i dont come see him. says he hates seen me and that he dreads it says that im on the bottum of his list of prioirtys. he dumped me and said he was treating me bad so i wud break it of with him but then he wanted me back. hes grabbed my throat and said hel hit me. he tells people he dosnt want to be with me and im annoying and wishes i would dissapear. altho we hav a serious relashionshop and hav dated for about a year hes gettin himself into serious trouble and been arrested and charged and drinking every night. i love him so much and my biggest fear is that he wil cheat on me. i dont think he loves me neither do any of my friends. i just have alot of fun with him on weekends even tho he ignored me and yells at me for anything and everything i dont have the power to break it off PLEASE HELP ME IM DESPEREATE iv talked to him about it so many times and he gets mad and tells me to fuck off!

I'll make this simple. Get rid of him and call the police.

Q: I have a boyfriend(sorta). He's a great guy, and my best friend used to like him(I think she still does), but she doesn't mind that I'm with him. I think about him a lot, and I like to be with him, but the problem is, not in public. He's not "cute" I guess. People say he's decent looking, but not really to me. I am afraid of what people will think because of my better reputation. I guess I'm shallow, but I want to keep my reputation(which keeps getting better), and I don't want a guy to ruin it. He is super sweet, and I know he cares about me(my friends can see it too), but he is kinda weird, and not cute. Help me out please.

Thanks for all the advice so far. Please more people help.

Q: okay my friend is asking whats gonna happen if 15 years old drinks a 3 or 4 shots of ketel one vodka? any effects? or do you get drunk over 3 or 4 shots of vodka?

Sometimes young people die from alcohol poisoning. Yes they can get drunk from that.

Q: PLEASE HELP! ok so i began a birth control pill about two years ago...within three months i ballooned 15 pounds bigger (my breasts swelled, my stomach swelled it was not fun) i went off it and i havent had my period since! i also now have recently gotten a problem where all of a sudden i feel like ive sat in something but really some kind of watery liquid has gushed all over my underwear...its like water but its A LOT i dont know where it comes from!!! Anyways, so now i have decided i need to start taking a Birth control pill again so i can have kids someday...i have been taking this new pill for a week and already my face has COMPLETELY breaking out (never had a problem with acne) and i am an emotional WRECK (again, not usually a problem) PLEASE HELP!!!!!

1. please dont answer this question with "you need to give the pill time to work" because OBVIOUSLY it had worked to the point where it ruined my body

2. my geinocologist is a complete idiot and is disregarding my whole problem because clearly she does not care! someone please, even if you might think you know what is going on it would help!!

thank you so much!

Maybe you're pregnant(don't hate me for suggesting it). If you are, then birth control is BAD. K

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I like to give relationship advice. I also like to receive it. It's funny how that works. I was in a relationship when I started using Advicenators and we are now good friends. I like someone now who is in a relationship. Stuff is very confusing, but I handle it well.