My name is Melissa and im 16 years old. I'm a junior in high school in a pretty small town..i love hangin with my friends and i lovvve helping people/giving advice. I was a member on here from july 04 and then when everything with site got all messed up I was forced to make a new account :( Ive been giving advice for a very long time on this site..my old user name was icey0990. I'm into sports like softball and tennis...i play on the school teams for that...i also like to play bball,swim,go walking in the woods for fun..i lovve waterfalls.. i have my own right near my house :) Ask me anything and dont be shy!
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I am 15/f
How do you show someone how madly in love you are with them? No matter what I do..he still doesn't believe me. He says he loves me, and I do believe it..but how do I get him to believe me?? Help me please! I will rate!! (link)
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"actions speak louder than words"
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Alright so me and my bf broke up 2 days ago but we are still basicly together nd tryin to fix things... the problem is I dont really want to i dont think. I dont know how I would be able to just end it with him without telling him straight out. Im not good with that sort of thing
People always tell me how i can do so much better and that he is just an ass and all this stuff But i dont think I can do better..
What should I do?
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only you can decide if you want to fix things and get back with him. if you decide you want to give it another shot and fix thiongs with him..then go for it. dont always be so concerned about what others thnk. however, you sound like you have mixed feelings. definately dont toy with this guy..dont make him think you like him and you want to be with him if your not sure.
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ok i need long detailed answers for this one.... ive been in a relationship for a year and a half and im wondering some things. what is a relationship supposed to be like? how do you work out problems without getting pissed off/ frustrated? how do you have fun like u used to? thanks i will rate good for good answers! (link)
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Wow, 1 1/2 years is great! obviously your doing something right if you have been together for so long! My longest relationship was nowhere near as long as yours..but to me a relationship should consist of a balance of many areas... a balance of affection, your other interests like sports ..friends, and other stuff in your life. A healthy relationship should be one where the two of you are mostly happy ..in other words if your always arguing thats not good..but some arguements are bound to happen. when you do argue, try to keep calm and let him talk..let him say his side..then you express yourself..in the end kiss and make up about it ..or agree to disagree. its normal to get frustrated and pissed off..but to work something out and avoid frustration, try to just stay calm..walk away for a minute..etc.
how to have fun like you used to :
-go for a picnic in the park, amusement park, to the store,scenic walk, etc. think of something sifferent to do..a trip maybe..something different you will both enjoy. go outside and play tackle football, go to a football game, a drive, a walk, drive in, try something new! if you want..innbox me about both your interests and i can help you figure out more stuff to do.
:) hope i helped ya!
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I've always been the type to worry about STDs but I went a little far with my boyfriend and we have preformed oral on each other. Even though I might have the chance of already having caught something is it ok for me to ask him to be tested? Where might he get tested? (link)
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Its a good idea to get tested. Its not too late. its never too late. even if he has something and gave it to you *hopefully thats not the case* but even if worse case scenerio he has somethin and you do too..you need to know! so definately get tested and stuff if you want. planned parenthood or something like that will do tests..or free clinics..or the hospital
:) meliss
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I technically can't "date" until I turn 16. I've had boyfriends before but not ones you actually go on single dates with and things like that. My parents are okay with that kind of thing, but what if a guy actually asks me out? What should I do then? Thanks! (link)
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if i have feelings for someone..it doesnt matter if im not allowed to date..i would still say yes to the guy and work around the parents. so if you get asked out and you like the guy..say yes :)
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i met this really really awesome girl melissa and we talk like nonstop from like when we get home from school until like 3am about everything and anything we met each other and even had fun in a car and loved it! she lives about 10ish miles away about and i dont go in that area much anymore since my mom moved down south..i want to see this girl named melissa coh** so baddd like everyday!! is there anyway i can see her more? or maybe become close to her family so i can spend more time with melissa and be able to see her alot..or even be able to sleep over and all!...what is some advice to this situation?..love ya melissa!!! xoxo im rich 17 male and live in new york and melissa is 16 female and lives in new york (link)
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awww
well my advice on this situation is this:
i know with my family..as long as you present yourself well and your polite and stuff..my family would love ya. My dad is always telling me how I choose my friends wisely and stuff..i have a pretty good relationship with my parrents so they trust who i hang out with and stuff.
as for spending more time with her.. i guess just see her when you can..boys sleeping over a girls house is a sticky subject. there are some parents out there who dont care and are fine with it..but mine for example..definately would not be ok with it...plus you have to make sure the girls house can accomodate you...is her house big enough? all that stuff.
i know how badly you want to see her everyday..but just see her when you can during the week and definately on the weekends. At least you guys wont get sick of each other! whenever you see each other you would be dying to see each other and there would be lots of cuddlin and kissin involved :) lol so in a way its not so bad if you can only see each other 1-3 times a week..you definately wont get sick of each other!
hope i helped..good luck ;) lol
xoxox melisssa xoxoxoxxo
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I really want to find the right guy (link)
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aww sweety im terribly sorry you were assaulted.
Look, the right guy who is sweet,caring,..everything you want could be anywhere! Thats the beauty of life! You dont know who you will meet,bump into, or notice! Just be yourself and who knows when a great guy will come along.
I'll give you a personal example on how you just never know when you will bump into an amazing guy :
You know of myspace im assuming? Well awhile back i added this guy from a couple towns over..and i figured..just a "pointless myspace friend" ..you know, the ones you never talk to or anything..they are just on your friends list.
Months went by..and one day i posted a bulliten complaining how bored i am and stuff..and what do ya know?! The 'pointless myspace friend' responded to it ..and we got talking..and wow he is great! we wound up hanging out and we are going to hang out again!
So you see, you just nevver know how or who you will meet and when..its one of the beauties of life!
Be yourself! you desserve to be loved..and you will find that ..but you mustttt
-be yourself
- keep your eyes open
-be friendly
maybe at basketball games or somethin you will meet someone from a different schoool..or if you and a group of friends aree out at the movies ..get flirty with a group of guys
*keep me updated ..i hope i helped!*
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so yea.. now the kid is mad at me and wont talk to me.... well yea.. he did talk to me..... and he's mad.. and he made me feel really bad.. and im such a failure at life.. and yea.. i cut again.. and its just so fucked up because i care about him so much and he was what was in a way holding me together.. he's the reason i tried in school and tried at everything else and now thats gone and theres no point in living anymore.. and idk what to do.. i dont want to go to school cause i dont want to have to see him. and i dont want to try in school anymore. i dont want to talk to anyone anymore... i know you dont care but there is no one else that i can talk to right now cause no one is online.. and idk what to do.. and everythings just so fucked up.. (link)
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Noo dont feel so depressed! You did the RIGHT thing! It had to be done! You care bout him..you hadd to do it! Keep telling yourself that and reminding yourself if you didnt do it..who knows..he could have KILLED himself and you would feel so guilty! Now hes making you feel pretty down..so i would go back to the counselor and talk to him/her about the situation. Dont give up on school..keep going ..hold your head up high. Life throws us many curveballs..this is just one of them. Everything always works out in the end! Give it some timee..maybe request to the school counselor to have a session with the him/her , you, and the boy at the same time so you can discuss and hopefully make him see what you did was the right thing and you care about him and stuff. But pllleasseeeee! dont get so down on yoursrlf..and definately please stop cutting! talk to someone..call the suicide hotline
http://www.suicidehotlines.com/ definately check that out!!! please hun..dont get down on yourself..im EXTREMELY proud of you for being strong and doing the right thing by telling..talk to your parents about this situation and they would agree..and any other columnist on here would say the same...that they are proud of you and you did the RIGHT thing
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I am 15 years old and i ahve been going oiut with a 14 year olf for a year and 11 months now and he is a virgin and im not he said he wants to loose his virginaty too me and i want him to too but he is afraid his parents will find out whats a way to tell him not to worry about n e thing ur first time is always fun and feels the best he is just afraid he is going to get caught and not be able to talk to me n e more???? (link)
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So hes truley ready but is just worried about being caught? Tell him you will wait for a time when it will be impossible to be caught. Do you have any friends that drive?
-do it in their car hehe
- wait until you will be home alone for a lonnng while..no chance you will get caught
- any cousins like 16-21 that drive? or can lend you their appartment? lol
- the best bet is to do it at either of your houses when you will definately have a few hours alone
maybe its more than just getting caught and he doesnt want to admit hes not ready..because getting caught isnt a big deal..you two can definately find a time and a place to be alone.
good luck! dont forget..he has to be ready himself! dont talk him into it by saying it feels good and stuff..because afterwards he will be regretting it.
i hope i helped..let me know how it goes
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okay so today i told the guidance councler about him and everything and she said she would call him down after i left and if i wanted to i could check back with her later. But i didnt go back. But i think he is mad at me now. which i expected. lol.
i havent talked to him at all today though except for this morning before i told the guidance councler. do you have any ideas on what i should say to him?
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Yeah definately expect him to be mad at you for awhile..but after he gets the help he needs he will be thanking you.
- "your a great friend of mine and i care about you soo much. if you did something dumb i would feel terrible that i knew and didnt tell anyone. i would feel responsible for your death. thats too much for me to take. you needed help..and i'm here for you to help you through. if i didnt tell anyone it would be the wrong thing..like i didnt care if you killed yourself or not..but i DO care! im here for you and i couldnt live with myself if you did something like kill yourself and i didnt say anything. please understand"
try that
-best of luck..keep me posted
-melissa-
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My mom is one of the most stubborn unreasonable people I know, and it's easy to see that we don't get along. I played tennis last semster and I want to play badminton this semster, even though my PE credit was already fulfilled last year. However, my mom won't let me play badminton, because she thinks one sport a year is good enough and she thinks my grades will drop if I do play (link)
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Make a deal with her. Tell her you will balance badminton and school..and if school starts to suffer, you will quit. Tell your mom to keep in close contact with the teachers and stuff. Life is about balancing things..tell your mom your old enough to take on new responsibilities..its important for you to be able to develop time management skills for later in life. Try talking about that and see where it gets you. Keep me updated pleease!
did i help?
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ever since i started walking to school there have been these 2 girls who always say hi to me and i never really thought anything about it until one of them asked me out and at first i wanted to go out with her but then somthing inside me told me she's bad news and i dont know if it's because im neverous i dont know if it's because ive seen her smoke a few times i dont know what it is but could someone please help me i dont know what to do. (link)
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i wouldnt jump to any conclusions or anything just yet. get to know her more first..maybe she just tried smoking..maybe shes not addicted. tell her how smoking is a huge no no for you. dont go out with her just yet, but also dont kick her to the curb. hang out with her as friends..learn more about her..then make a choice.
hope i helped
-meliss
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well okay.. so yes i know what i am going to do and i just thought i would let you know what i am going to do about it. okay so im going to tell the school guidance councler and then she can help him from there. I decided to do this because i was talking to him tonight and i asked him how serious he was. and he said it changed every day. and i asked him if he would ever try to do it.. and he said he has tried before. If i had known this in the 1st place i would have told right away. but yea he keeps telling me not to worry and everything. So do you think its a good idea to tell the guidance councler?
-- im sorry to hear about the kid in your school
-thanks so much for the advice and such
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yes..it is a must to tell guidance..just immagine the guilt you would feel if he did something stupid, and you didnt tel anyone so he could get help. definately tell..i know its hard to do..but you have to do it
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I really like this boy A LOT..in love with him..yes he's my first love. Anyways, me and him have been talking a lot more and it seems like he's starting to like me again and I don't wanna let him go. Then there's this other kid that I liked for a couple days and he likes me but my two other best friends are like madly in love with him. Which one do I picK? PLEASEEE i need some help...i really love the first guy though and I don't wanna let him go but I just don't know if I just give the other guy a chance :/ (link)
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eh.i would stay away from the new guy..its a sensitive subject if two of your best friends are in love with him. i would keep flirtning with the guy yooou are in love with. "good things come to those who wait" i always say
:)
good luck!
-meliss
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My best friend Shianne has now screwed me over 2 times. It seems every time I tell her I like a guy, she offers to "help me with them" and she always ends up giving them her number, and dating them behind me back!! But she doesn't even tell me until the day after they start dating!
She did it with a guy named Steven, and now Brandon. Then whenever she breaks up with them, she expects me to not like them anymore, and to not want to date them because "friends ex boyfriends are off limits to other friends."
What do i do?!?
Should I really consider her my BEST friend if she's done this to me two times already?
Should I wait to see if she does it again?
I honestly don't know what to do, and I'd LOVE for some honest suggestions.
-Thank you so much!-
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sweetie, shady friends need to go. this is not good at all..shes no friend! its not right to you..dont wait around until she does it to you again..its time for you and this "friend" to part ways asap!
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THANK YOU SO MUCH IN ADVANCE FOR ANSWERING THIS AND I AM SORRY IF IT IS LONG BUT I REALLY NEED HELP WITH THIS.
So i have a really good friend and he has been talking about suicide all this week and he is really starting to scare me. I talk to him about how much i care about him etc. but still he said i dont think ill kill myself just now. but later i dont know. IM SO WORRIED ABOUT MY FRIEND! and try to have some other answer besides tell someone because i know that and i am considering it. So please any other good ideas.. ILL RATE 5'S FOR ALL SERIOUS ANSWERS
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Take this seriously. Someone who used to go to our school just committed suicide last week..its very sad..i only met him a couple of times but he was a really great guy. My point is, wouldnt you feel terrible if he did something stupid and you didnt do everything in your power to help? I bet you would be very upset with yourself for not telling anyone.
Along with telling someone like his or your parents,trusted adult,school counselor,etc..stand by him through everything. Hes going through a tough time and he needs you. Show him the beauty of life..maybe make a list *a lonnng list* of why life is beautiful. Hang out witth him,talk with him, give him hugs, make him a card..keep letting him know you n lots of people care! take this seriously...please!
i hope i helped..please inbox me with further questions/updates
-melissa-
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