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Have any ideas of why my boyfriend has this fetish over fingering my bum?

that's not so weird. A lot of guys like that. I think maybe because it's tighter.

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How much would it cost to get laser hair removal on your upper lip. Just a round about number would be great, thanks!

it's very different depending on where you live. You should google laser hair removal costs for your area. Also remember that you'll have to get multiple treatments.

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well me and my boyfriend are both virgins. and well hes 18 and im 17 going to be 18 in september. well he says i have to wait til i turn 18 to have sex or a baby. cuz he dusnt wnt to hear crap from my mom. and if im an dult then i can do it. well also that way we can both make sure we are ready. we both love eachother very much. and we have been together for over a year already. well i really dont have a question but im scared that once we do have a baby that something will happen and i wont be able to have one. is there any way that i can make sure everything inside my body will work right once i get to 18 cause i want a baby..his baby more then anything. and i dotn want something to happen and like we cant have a baby. you know?! like for example i eat hot cheetos like all the time. is there any way that can ruin my things on the inside that will keep me from getting pregnant.? someone please answer this i know i have time but if theres any adviceid really like to start watching out for it now. that way there is no problems when i get there. so please and thankyou soo much!! xoxo

Obviously drinking, smoking, and drugs are bad. Some medicines are bad, and stds (i'm guessing thats probably not an issue for you) or yeast infections can also cause infertility. I also heard somewhere that to make sure your child doesnt have any issues, you should be at least 20. I think this is mainly an issue for younger teenagers or teenagers who went through puberty late though so I dont think that will be a huge issue for you. I would recommend talking to a doctor about it or doing some research online about pregnancy do's and donts. There's way too much information for me to put it all in this answer. Good luck though. I hope everything works out for you!

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Okay let's say you're having sex with a girl and she cums, can you still continue having sex with her? I know for guys it's different because after they cum they go soft and need some time to get it together again. So basically can you keep going or do you stop? Btw...I'm a girl and was wondering because my guy and I plan on having sex soon.

ok so i'm a girl too.
For me, its not a problem to continue having sex after I cum, but i've heard from other girls that they like lose the desire to continue to have sex after they cum. I guess you could still continue to have sex even if you didnt have the desire to but it probably wouldnt be as fun haha. But yeah just go with it i guess. If you cum and you're still feeling like you wanna have sex then go for it but if not then maybe you should ask to take a short break.

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I know how to get my password but how do I find my username on formspring.me!?!?

you could search for yourself lol... just type in your first or last name and you should find your username.

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Hey, so i used to love sims, but i lost the sims 2 disk. When they came out with a sims 3, i thought maybe i should get it, but its stil $50. Before i buy it, i wanna make sure its worth it. A lot of people said that its worth it...if you had the right specs. I just got a regular macbook in august, but i didnt like update it at all so i dont know if i have the right RAM or graphics card, and im not computer savvy so i wouldnt know what these 2 things do ahah. I wont waste my money getting a graphics card if im not a HUGE gamer. Now, in your opinion, is it worth it? and do i have the right stuff? thankss

i got my macbook before you and it works fine on my computer. go for it.

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I have pretty bad acne scarring on my face and back, I have heard the only way to be 100% rid of them as if they were never there is by laser treatment. I know its expensive but I am willing to pay if I know it will work. Have any of you done it or know someone whos done it? Did it work? Does it really renew your skin so that its 100% clear and flawles, and if not what does it do and look like?

When i asked my dermatologist about getting it done, he said that it should be used as a last resort. He said that it's really expensive, doesn't always work, and its kinda a pain... in that it hurts and afterwards your skin is all red for awhile and you're not supposed to go out in the sun.

So if you've already tried other stuff than go for it but if not i would give some other things a shot first. My dermatologist gave me a prescription for retinol. It's a cream (or you can also get it as a gel) that you put on the scars. I've been using it since last summer and i've seen so much improvement. My acne scars were aweful. They were so bad it looked like i actually still had horrible acne. And now they're to the point where i can barely see them. They are still fading but they arent totally gone yet so I can't say whether or not they will still go away. Laser treatments would be a lot faster than this but it would also be very frustrating to spend so much money on something and then have it not work, and it's definitely not guaranteed to remove your scars 100%.

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What traits, to you, does the PERFECT GUY possess?? State all the traits you think would make up the perfect, possibly unattainable guy...
I need this for my online project :) xxx Thanks in advance
Please help! And don't leave anything out!!

This makes me sound really superficial but oh well at least im honest. He has to be good looking. Like tall and muscular and nice eyes and a nice smile and nice hair haha. But personality is important too. He has to be nice and able to make me laugh. He also has to be generous and have lots of money! hhahahahahah oh and a good kisser :)

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19/female. i've had the biggest crush on my friend probably for about 3 years now. i let him borrow my handcuffs and whip haha yeaaah, and so when i get them back from him i kind of want to say something sexy. i dont want to be like "did you have fun??" because obviously he did, and i dont want to know or need to know what he did with them!! but i dont want to make it all awkward and be like .. "i'll use them on you next time" or something really obvious. when i gave them to him i said .. i have three instructions. DONT LOSE THE KEYS TO THE HANDCUFFS, THEY BETTER COME BACK CLEAN AND HAVE FUN!:) and he just kind of smiled and said no worries ;) i know hes attracted to me, we talk about sexual things all the time but have never done anything yet. i dont know what i could say that would be cute/sexy when he gives them back. and i dont want to just be like "thanks" and then leave, ya know??

any suggestions? i mean i'm also pretty new to this whole thing too like the handcuffs and stuff so also any ideas i could do with those tooo! thanks:)

um this might be a little too much info but you could say something like, "I'm just starting to get into trying new things with props and i was wondering if you had any pointers for me?" or something like that... it's honest and not too nosy or anything and then if he answers you, you could say something like "oohhh id love to try that" or "that sounds fun" or something.

just a thought.

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My hair is a work of the entropy of the universe. Some days, I like it, it's rad. Some days, I hate it, it's bad. I have naturally loose curls. I have to wash my hair at night because I do not have time before going to school to take a shower. After I wash it, it always looks fairly nice, it pretty much sits the way I want it to. However, once I sleep on it, the curls seem to diminish and it's just a flat frizzy mess. How can I style my hair so it sucks less? What can keep a curl overnight? Any kind of style would work, since I'm starting to dislike the way I generally wear my hair.

I have a similar situation as you do. What I do is shower at night and then leave my hair down for a little while and then put antifrizz serum in it, comb it and then put it up in a bun before i go to bed. Putting it up at night keeps it from getting knot-y while im sleeping. When i wake up in the morning, the first thing i do is take my hair down, get it damp with water by getting my hands wet and then putting them through my hair, then i put a curl enhancing mousse in it, and then scrunch it up. This way, it isn't as wet as if I had just showered, so it has time to dry in the half an hour ish time that it takes me to get ready. My hair is really thick too.

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Where can I watch Glee online?
On fox.com they only have episode 9-sectionals
I want to watch 1-sectionals!
*Youtube doesn't have it!
Thanks

hulu.com

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so, i have an HP mini laptop, i dont know the exact model number, but i accidently delete the audio hardware while i was cleaning up space and now i have no sound ! any one have any idea how to get it so i have sound again ?
i need help, asap!
thanks!

did it come with a disk? If so you can re-install it. If not then find out what model it is and type the model into google with audio driver after it and you should be able to download it online.

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Okayy so I'm 16, and sexual active.
I feel the need to be on birthcontrol , better to be safe. But my parents are not aware that I have sex. & I dont plan on telling them, well at this moment. My friends said that I can just go on base & theyll give it too me. But I don't know if thats true. & i'm not 17, like legal age. So can I have some help please?

or you could go to a planned parenthood.

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I have coldsores sometimes but usually only when I've been sick. Well, I have this boyfriend I've been making out with every weekend and it seems like I always keep getting coldsores after we make out! WHY?! My lips get all swollen and weird after we're finished and when I wake up the next day I have a cold sore. I'm getting tired of this. What can I do to stop these cold sores from making out?!

get tested for herpes :-/ That's what causes cold sores. You may just have mouth sores that aren't from herpes but it sounds like it may be herpes. There's medication and stuff to treat it, talk to your doctor.

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So I had a miscairage 3months ago and I want to get pregnant!!! Im 15 and need tips on how to conceive. Thnx (:

Having a kid when you're 15 isnt a good idea. Your hormones arent totally in balance which could lead to problems for both you and the child. Some of the common problems are miscarriage and SIDS. SIDS stands for sudden infant death syndrome, which is exactly what it sounds like. Your child would also be more prone to physical and mental developmental issues. Not to mention that most 15 year olds aren't emotionally ready for a child and this could cause the child to be raised in an unfit environment. I know you might really want a child now, but try to wait until you're at least 20. By then all of your hormones will be in balance and you will not be putting your child at a high risk for issues.

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i just started getting into skiing so i wanted to find some for really cheap or on like craigs list or something like that for now. the problem is i've only done it once and rented and i can't remember the size of the skis i used. they were pretty short. if anyone could help figure out the sizing that would be great!

if this helps..
i'm a female, about 5'6", 130 pounds and i am obviously a beginner haha

thanks so much!

If you're a beginner you should probably get skis ranging from like 155- 160 ish. Beginners tend to ski shorter skis than experts and you're also fairly light for your height. It also depends on what type of turns you make. If you make short turns then shorter skis are helpful and longer skis are good for longer turns. Longer skis are more stable but harder to initiate turns in. Longer skis are better for bad snow conditions. So it really depends on your style and what your comfortable with. Since you're a beginner, you might not really have a style yet in which case you should probably get a shorter ski because they're much easier to control. I'm 5'8 and 115 and I'm debating between getting a ski in a 163 and a 167 because those are the only two sizes the ski i want comes in and neither of them are really ideal. I've been skiing for awhile though so i'm pretty good. Oh and one more thing, the difference in width of skis is pretty important as well. Thinner skis are easier to carve and thicker skis are more stable.

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15/f

It's embarrassing to admit and I feel like a complete moron but I just learned that you're supposed to wear a condom while preforming oral sex on a guy. I've just started having sex and have gone down on the guy three times without protection and am freaking out. I never knew you were supposed wear a condom and somewhat assumed that it was only necessary during vaginal or anal sex. I never thought of oral and now, the more that I think about it, the more I feel like a complete idiot for not thinking of it earlier. I plan to use a condom from now on but am worried that I could have caught something? Also, would it be strange for me, now even after I've gone down on him three times without, to from now on ask him to put on a condom? And I know I probably sound completely naive but do most people use condoms while preforming oral because out of all the people I know who are sexually active, they've never said anything about it.
thanks.

Most people probably dont use condoms for oral. It's definitely a good idea to though, especially if you don't know the guy too well. If i were you i'd get tested for std's, although if you have something serious it probably wont show up. You should also talk to the guy about it if you're comfortable doing so. Like how many other girls he's messed around with and what not. And if you're the only girl he's doing sexual things with now then there isnt really much of a point in starting to wear them because if there is damage than it has probably already been done. But thats only if you know he's not doing stuff with someone else, so it might be a good idea to have him start wearing one if you dont trust him. He'll probably be annoyed by it but dont let him persuade you to not use one if you're not comfortable with it.

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Ok there's this guy i've known for like 2 years now. hes great but we only get to see each other like once or twice a week at basketball practice. i flirt with him and he flirts back(i know he likes me) but he has no clue i like him. its like he just doesn't think its possible. i look at him and know hes not hot but for some reason i've always been attracted to him. i really really like him but part of me is afraid to ever really act on it because i'm scared i'll change my mind when we're dating and hurt him. our parents are pretty close and his family loves me so i don't want to screw that up. also the next relationship i want to be in is a long one. times kinda running out because if bball ends and me and him aren't dating by then i will really never see him again. what should i do!? i need answers now please.
thanks:)

I think you should go for it. It may not be a long relationship and it may not work out in the long run but then you can just apologize and say that you still want to be friends or whatever. And if you dont at least try it you'll probably regret it later.
If he's like insecure about the way he looks try to casually bring up that you're kinda attracted to him. That also lets him know that you might like him. And then later maybe ask for his number casually and you can start texting him or talking on the phone so that way if you dont get a relationship before the season is over then you can still talk to him. If theres a movie you both wanna see than you could ask im to take you and then be like its a date and wink or something silly like that.

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I've had my period since I was 11, on an anniversary of 9-11, ironically.

I've never really noticed my breasts growing any, though. I've worn a bra, but because I'm overweight I'm going to have some boobage.

I'm 14 now, in a B cup. My periods are regular, and at 5'8 I think I've finally stopped growing taller.


Will my boobs ever grow?


My mother's family all has huge boobs, even when my mom was skinny she had boobs. My father's side, his mother had a C, at least.

Please no answers telling me to accept myself. I'm just curious, I'm fine if my breasts don't grow :)

I for the most part stopped growing at the end of middle school. I've maybe grown like an inch since then but nothing major. I noticed recently that my boobs have gotten a little bit bigger. Not even a full cup size bigger but i'll take what i can get haha. I got my period a little later than you though... when i was 13ish i think. But i'm also older than you now too. So id say it's definitely possible that your boobs could grow more. Don't be upset if they dont though because everyone is different i guess. This might sound kinda weird but i've noticed that a lot of girls i know have gotten bigger boobs since they started high school. Haha i'm not a creeper or anything its just like hard not to notice when a girl goes from being like flat to a b or c ish over summer. lol

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My boyfriend and I have gone to third base, where he's fingered my vagina and clit. But the problem is, I can't orgasm! This makes me feel bad because I have to fake so he doesn't think there's something wrong with me.

I can bring myself to orgasm by fingering my clit but am usually only success while I am watching porn.

Why can't I orgasm when he does this to me? It doesn't hurt or feel bad, but it just doesn't really do much for me as far as pleasure. Is there something wrong with me? What can we do so that I can orgasm? (PS - I don't want to have sex yet. I'm not ready.)

16 years old, female

For one, i always thought that third base was oral lol but whatever not that important.
Well if you like watching porn then maybe you need more visual stimulation from him. Have him be naked if you dont do that already. Um i dont really know what else he could do to make it more like watching porn.. maybe you could watch his fingers go in and out of you if you're into that. Or maybe it's just that porn turns you on and you dont get turned on enough before he tries to make you orgasm. You should try messing around with him a bit before he fingers you to get you more turned on. But other than the porn factor if you can make yourself orgasm and he cant make you orgasm than its probably him not you. Give him suggestions on whatever you do to make yourself orgasm. Personally, what always gets me to orgasm is three fingers inside me (i'm not a virgin and a guy still has to put two in to stretch me to be able to fit three so you might wanna try one or two instead) and the guy rubbing my clit. Make sure you get some wetness on your clit before the guy starts rubbing it though. Oh and if your laying on your back have him put his finger(s) in so that his nails are facing down and have him curl his fingers up and rub your gspot.. that feels so good! Hope that helps some.

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