so my (first) boyfriend of about 2 months is suicidal... he tells me that he's really scared that he'll lose me--i dont even no why because-- and he loves me so much. he tells me that im like air-if he doesnt have me, he'll die. i really love him, and i would never want to lose him. I don't know whats gotten to him. please help, im desperate.
I dated a guy exactly like that when I was a teen. It drained me. I was always on edge and felt guilty because I thought I was making him feel this way. But that was not the case.
I suggest that if you feel he really is suicidal, you tell an adult that he trusts so that he can get help. Suicide is serious business.
I'm sorry, but he may just be playing a game to try and control you. You've only been going out 2 months. Please be careful. If he wants to control you he may be a violent person.
Hope it works out.
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I have 3 children ages 6,2, and 4 weeks. This morning I was taking a nap with my newborn in his bassinet next to the bed. "Grandma" was supposed to be watching my 2 yr old daughter. I had woken suddenly hearing the baby cry, and realized the baby was not in his bassinet. I immediately knew something was wrong and called my daughters name and ran to where I heard the baby crying. My daughter had dropped her brother on a pile of laundry and ran to a corner when I called her name (she knows she isn't supposed to be anywhere near the baby without supervision). It turned out "Grandma" has fallen asleep watching TV, instead of watching my daughter. My daughter has picked up the baby by herself multiple times without out us even hearing, she does it very sneaky. She knows its wrong, but I can't seem to make her understand she can severely injure or even kill her baby brother. She has her own baby dolls we got her to play with, but she ignores them and wants to play with the real baby. Any advice please? This is very scary, it had me in a panic almost in tears.
A 2 year old understands way more than some may think. She understands "No!" and consequences. Everyone disciplines their children differently. Whatever way you do it (spanking, time outs, etc), you desperately need to do it. Your newborn could easily die. If she were to drop him on his soft spot especially.
I would suggest telling her if she touches baby without mommy or daddy helping her, she will lose all of her dolls (or whatever her most prized possesion is). And then stick to it. And give them back to her in a couple days and try it again. Whatever form of punishment you choose needs to be consistant or she won't learn.
I also think the baby gated idea is an excellent one. Then you only have to punish her for trying to get through the gate rather than touching the baby.
Also, she's probably jealous of the baby. I know it's hard to juggle 3 kids, but I think spending some extra one on one time with her would be make her feel that she hasn't been replaced as the baby of the family.
Hope this helps.
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My boobs have been soooo itchy lately. I googled it and it said pregnancy, gaining weight (means my boobs are getting bigger?), skin allergy, breast cancer. Well I'm 15 so I doubt it's breast cancer, I'm not pregnant or sexually active, I haven't asked if my mom changed laundry detergent or anything so it's either a skin allergy or gaining weight. I did just start my period but this started happening a few days ago for the first time. Does anyone know what it could be for sure or has this happened to them?
Thank in advance
This happens to me whenever I have PMS and it lasts through out my period. From what I have read hormone imbalances cause it. It's not a big deal, but you should probably tell your mom about it. If you go to a doctor he/she may prescribe you something for it, or like my doctor, just tell you there's nothing you can do about it.
Hope this helps.
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My ex-boyfriend broke up with me in August- it was the second time we had been dating, we first dated in February last year but broke up and then got back together over the summer. Well, I've missed him a lot because he was my best guy friend. Well, we've been getting better, and talking more and he and I talk about relationship problems like we used to before anything happened between us. And last night, he told me about how he's losing his trust in girls after how some of them have treated him. And he was really down about it, so I told him it would be ok, that there were plenty of great girls out there and he would find his, and he responded saying that he hopes he finds her, and that he hasn't already passed her up... and I think he was referring to me because I'm the only girl he has had an enjoyable relationship with. And now I don't know what to do because I'm dating someone else now. I don't love him though, he is nice and a sweet guy and treats me right, but there just isn't that spark. I feel bad leaving my current guy for my ex, but I miss the way it was when I was with my ex. There is nothing better than dating your best friend. But then again there is the chance that he may leave me again. I'm not sure if I should trust him again. What do you guys think?
First, if you don't feel that spark or love with your current boyfriend, try to think about his feelings. If you stay with him and let him believe you do feel those things you could end up breaking his heart. And this applies whether you go back to your ex or not.
It sounds like your ex doesn't know what he really wants and has a lot of growing up to do. If he has true, honest, sincere feelings for you, he'll show it in time. But I suggest you wait it out. He may just be a jerk that only cares for himself. But, he could just be a good guy that's lost and needs time to figure out which way is up.
If you want to set on the side lines for a while, as a friend, if he his feelings for you are sincere, he will show it. Love is an action. It's not just a word to be said to someone. So if he loves you, he will show it.
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me and my cousin babysit my brothers 2 year old daughter quite often. he offered to start paying us recently. he asked us how much we wanted to be payed and we told him $20 a week for each of us. we got payed last friday but we didnt get payed this friday. he told us he would pay us every friday. i depend on this money because at the moment i dont have a job, but yes i am looking for one. it just irritates me that he hasnt paid us yet. i dont know if i should say anything to him because i dont want to get in trouble by my mom. can somebody help me figure out what to do?. thanks for you help
The moment he offered to pay you it became a business deal. So relative or not, business is business. Your mom is not in on this business deal, so you can deal with her getting upset later.
Communication is always important in every aspect of life, but especially in with family and in business. You can just kindly ask him if he is still going to be able to pay you after all. If he says he can't afford to or whatever then you decide if you can continue to babysit.
It's also possible that he just forgot. A working dad forgets things at times. So just talk to him. The world won't end, you won't melt, your mom won't burst into flames. You're just asking him a simple question.
Hope it goes well.
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im very depressed
my good friend died of a brain tumor july 29th 07
and i misss her sooo much still
i cannot deal with it it never gets easier
i dont know what to do
everything reminds me of her .
i cry. and i miss her
.we were so much alike
we were suppose to do so much together
she was only sixteen
and its not fair
and.. i want her back
i do not know what to do
i just cant ever face it, or believe it
or..move on.
help
It is natural to experience sadness when death claims someone you love. Even the perfect man Jesus “gave way to tears” when his friend Lazarus died.
You will always miss her. That will never go away. But it will get easier. And only time can help you with that. And if you have a faith, prayer is always very strengthening.
Talking to someone about how you feel and your happy memories with her will also help. Try not to keep your feelings bottled up inside.
If you ever feel you want to die and becomes increasingly worse, you should see someone right away.
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Okay....so i cut. it's really starting to upset me and the more upset i get...the more i cut. I think i'm depressed but i can't tell for sure. the two people i told are threatening to tell my mom, and i don't know if i should tell her or not. She wouldn't really listen..she'd just try to get me help and that's the last thing i want. what should i do??
I have been a cutter since I was 5 years old. I'm now 35.
Cutting is an addiction. And with any addiction, like smoking, drinking, illegal drugs, a person cannot beat it on their own. You have to get help. I know it's scary to talk to someone about it, but it's necessary. If you don't you could end up so stressed and freaked out one day that you end up cutting too deep or in the wrong place and kill yourself.
Your mom would want to get you help because it's the right thing to do. But don't not get help because you're afraid they will lock you away or whatever. That's not the way it works at all. A therapist is a good person than can help you talk through and work through your stresses and find other ways to deal with them other than cutting.
And like with all addicitons, you may fall off the wagon and cut again every once in a while, but that's normal.
But can't do it by yourself, hun. Trust me, I know.
Hope this helps.
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i am 12 and i really want to have sex but i know i shouldnt wat should i do???????
It's normal to want to. A lot of people want to at your age. I did. But, of course, my advice is to wait. Your body is going through so many changes right now and it can't make up it's mind which way it's going.
Have you ever boiled an egg? Did you ever crack one up early? Half of it is cooked and rest is runny and gross. Why? Because it's not ready. But if you wait till it's done, you have this awesome food you can eat. This may be a weird illustration, but my point is, if you wait till your body is done making the changes it need to make (from a young lady to a woman), then you are going to have this awesome body that is actually ready for sex. If you do it too soon, you won't be runny and gross like the egg, but your emotions will.
In other words, your mind and body are just not ready to handle it right now. Trust me, it's worth waiting.
But, if you have unusually high urges to have sex, almost like you feel you will burst if you don't have sex, talk to an adult you trust. You may need to see a doctor. There are some conditions that can make have an overwhelming feeling to have sex.
Hope this helps.
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i like this guy and i dont know if he notices me or hes too shy. is there any way i can tell
Ask him a question (directions, if he's seen so and so, whatever). Then watch his eyes. Does he look at your face or into your eyes and then quickly look away? Does he seem a little shaky or nervous? If so, he's shy.
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I have a this B.F.F um lets just say her name was Yhauns and um almost every single year she JUST has to play up on me and dose not want to talk to me,be around me,have any thing to do with me,be my friend
or ANY THING.
Its like SHE has a problem with me being my self.The 1st time this happen to our friend ship was when i was a year 7 starting intermediate she was at primary and was a year 6. I was a year older but that did not stop us from being B.F.F's
we were B.F.F's ever since i was 3 and she was 2 she was my next door neighbor.
Once a year she either starts a rumor,did not talk to me or she totally blocks me out like a brick wall.In 2006 she ignored me and did not want any thing to do with me [maybe it was because of her friends at primary ?.
2007 she had claimed and started a rumor about me it was the starting of a new year and we had started school by now she was a year 7 and i a year 8 it was in the middle of camp term 1.
it was raining and my tent was leaking she had decided to go and sleep with her other same aged friends while i looked around out in the rain i soon had settled with her and a group of people that i didn't know at all.the next morning i had to put my tent down ALL BY MY SELF how did you think that made me feel. the day before i had introduce Yhauns to a new group of friends of mine.
She had taken off because i would int hang out with that day on. I had figure that she did int like me because i choose to hang out wit a less cooler person named Layal she had no friends and i stepped in to play that part in her life. because she was a year 7 i no longer have only a little bit of contact with her.
Yhauns later on that day had set a rumor claiming a lie and it was that i had deliberately thrown her clothes in to the near bye bush but she had no alibi or witness that i actually did. It was a LIE another way of her saying she did int want me as a friend. she took me back after 2 terms of TORTURE & ABUSE.
Now 2008 she has done it AGAIN! not like 2007 not like 2006 but in a whole new way with no rumors or avoiding BUT NAME CALLING !!. Is Yhauns afraid of the truth in friend ship or is this part of her pathetic ways in life.
WELL WHAT I THINK IS SHE CANT BE FINDING TRUE HAPPINESS WITHIN OUR FRIEND SHIP.
HELP I MAY SEEM REALLY DESPERATE WITH THIS BUT IS IT ME THATS IN THE WRONG
I DO FORGIVE AND FORGET ABOUT THE BAD THINGS
OR IS SHE BRAKING MY CONFIDENCE SLOWLY ??
It sounds like your "BFF" doesn't know how to be a friend. I don't know her, but has she had a hard childhood? What is her family life like? If so, this may have made her one of those people that doesn't know how to be friends with a good person, which it sounds like you are truly a good, kind, forgiving person. And one day she is going to look back and regret how she treated you.
But listen. No matter what her problems are, you DO NOT deserve to be treated that way. It's been going on long enough and you have given her many chances at friendship. And she seems to only be getting worse.
If you can, I would suggest you try and talk to her and let her know that what she has done over the years has really hurt you and you cannot be friends with her anymore. If she refuses to listen, just walk away and go on with your life. It may be hard for you to do because it sounds like you really care about her, but you need to think about what you need. You deserve to be happy with your friends. So get out there and make friends that will treat you like a friend.
And you never know. She may miss you so much that she may change.
Hope this helps.
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my dad fiqhtsz wit my mom...he wants to send me to canada for sneaking boys in the house n getting caught havinq sex w/ wun...my mom resentsz me...my sister looks up to me..i`m in lOve with this boy who means sooo much to me bt i dOn`t kno what to dO..yesz,i see i`ve made mistakez..buT iT`z hard when i aLso qoT sO much pressure on me! i`m alsO starting a new hiqh schOol next week and everythinq!! my old friendz are all abandoninq me! aNyOne qoT aNyY helpfuL advice tO make my life a lil easier (besidez stop beinq obsessed wit quysz)
The first thing I would suggest you do is stop and really think about what you want to do. Ask yourself if you want to change anything about yourself. Are there things you want to stop doing? Are there things you want to start doing? How do you view yourself? Do you like the kind of person you are? If not, what do you want to change?
Then, once you've answered them, sit your parents down and communicate with them. Yes, t-a-l-k. Talking things out is so very important. Tell your parents all the questions you asked yourself, and then tell them you want to make changes. You don't have to tell them all your answers if you don't want, but you may want to give them a couple. It makes parents feel better if they know something going on in your head. If they don't, then they tend to just guess what your answers are and end up wanting to send you to Canada.
And don't be afraid to ask them to "please" help you with all of this. Parents like to feel needed. And you do need them. They just need to hear it. And no matter what they say, yell, or throw at you, try your best to stay calm and quiet till they get it all out. They are obviously frustrated. But once they calm down, I'm confident you all can have a great relationship.
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Where 14-13- &Nd 15 &nd we live & fla
Okey well my best friend is moveing like the 17 or 18 so me her &nd my sister are going to hang out &nd we wanted this weekend to be the funest time we have had together!! &nd I cant think of anything to do she dont want to go to the mall &nd spend our time there... &nd the movies isnt really hanging out i want something we can do
-T0GETHER!- _x33 like sunday where going swimming so what sould we dosaturday &nd friday? &nd it has to be something where my boyfriends can come &nd there also 13-14-&nd 15 so if you have anything please oh please help me :))))
I don't where you live, but is camping an option? It's usually fun to go with a group of friends and hike and acts crazy in the woods, swim in the lake, and then tell scary stories by a campfire.
You can also try typing the name of your city. com (like portland.com) and see what fun things there are in your area.
Hope this helps.
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In 2000 my grandparents got divorced, by this time I was seven years old, & I didnt think old people was supposed to divorce, needless to say, my grandpa had found someone over the internet. He left my grandma, I see my grandma almost everyday, but in the past 8 years, I bet I could count on one hand how many times I've seen my papaw, and I could count on maybe three fingers how many times he's told me he loves me since the separation.
This Christmas was the first Christmas I'd seen my Grandpa in a longg time. I miss him soo much, I'm so afraid that I dont have much time to restore our relationship. And something else that doesnt help, this woman, that lives with him, wont even let me see him. I use to call, when I was little, to go over to their house to see him, and she would say that I wasnt invited, and it was rude to invite myself, and anyhow they were busy. I dont have any other grandpa, he died before I was born, and I'm just so angry, and hurt, that my grandpa, the only one I've ever had, wont even take the time to call me, to tell me he loves me, he wont even wave when he see's me.
I was watching this video tonight...
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& it instantly reminded me of him. He's not going to be here forever...
Please, I just need someone to talk to, someone to comfort me.
Thanks, all is appreciated.
15/Female
I am SO sorry this has happened to you. It's a terrible situation. But unfortunately, people of all ages get divorced for all kinds of reasons. Including one of them meeting someone else. And it's not suppose to happen. But it does, as you know. And I'm afraid there's nothing you can do to change it.
And I'm sure your grandpa loves you. But sometimes when people get in situations like that the person they are with wants them to have nothing to do with their family because they are jealous. And I bet that's why she didn't want you around. She knows he loves you and she doesn't want to share that love.
Hopefully your grandpa will come around and not let his relationship with her keep him from you forever. But if it does work out that way, just try to focus on the people around you that do show you their love. And keep yourself busy helping others and showing love yourself. I have found this really helps. Spend fun time with your grandma. Volunteer someone helping people, like a nursing home or homeless shelter. When you focus on helping others, it helps keep your mind off your pain, and it makes you feel good to make a difference in someone else's life.
I hope this helps. Hang in there.
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So basically, I've been asked to study my Learner's book because i want to get my licence as soon as possible, but when it comes to studying Im not good at memorizing stuff unless Im really interested in it, and well, Information about giving way and whatnot just doesn't interest me and if i feel pressured to pass the test, I will have a panic attack pretty much. My mind tends to go off into another direction when im trying to focus reading so im veryy easily distracted. Does anyone know a special way to study and remember informationn?
I use to have the same problem. So I got this book from the library (can't remember the name), but it was techniques on remembering for tests or whatever. And the one point that always helped me was to focus on a point and use the first letter of each word to form a funny sentence or phrase. For example, if the answer to a question is "Fasten your seat belt and turn on car," then I would make up something like "Fat yams sing beautifully at the online choir." Crazy, I know. But it worked for me.
So try it or maybe check out a book at the library.
Hope this helps.
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Theres this guy who im really in love with and hes in love with me too. we have been dating for 6 months but have been best friends for a year. we hang out everyday and i love him with all my heart. However, he has trouble believing this. He says he knows he loves me but doesnt know how i could love him. He thinx it must be infatuation or something but i know for sure that its not. He was previously a player but has changed. but he has a low view of himself. Its really sad to me that he hates himself so much that he doesnt think anyine else could love him. How can I make him believe that its the real thing not just infatuation or lust. i want him to know that i really do love him more than anything
It will take time and effort for him to realize that he is worth being loved by you and anyone else.
In the meantime, both of you must realize that love is an action. It's not just a word to express how you feel. So for you, you need to not push him too much, and do things on a regular basis that shows him that you love him. If he feels that you massaging his feet once in a while, or suprising him with candy (or whatever he likes) once in a while, and being there for him when he has a problem, holding him when he feels alone or scared (even if he can't admit those feelings, if he feels loved when you do those things, then try doing them. And they should be things you do for each other.
He was a player, and now he has found true love, and it's scaring him. So what do people do when they are scared? Run away, doubt, argue, or whatever.
Just give him time and continue to SHOW him that you love him.
You guys will be fine.
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I have moved to a new place less then a year ago. I'm a student in high school. I hate it, because I can't make any close friends here, or friends that I can hang out with. I am pretty shy, and its hard for me to connect with other people.
How can I change this? What should I do?
It can be really hard to make new friends. And feeling lonely can make you feel frustrated. But no matter what, do not give up.
I know you are shy, but try your best to muster up some boldness and just start talking to people. I had the same problem when I was in high school. So I would look around me in class and decide who I wanted to talk to. Them I would compliment something that person was wearing or doing. People love it when other people compliment them. For example, just say, "I love you necklace, where'd you get it?" or, "Your hairstyle is really cool, I get mine done at the salon on Main street, where do you get yours?"
Just any question you feel comfortable with. Then you can just go with the flow of the convesation from there.
If by some chance the person doesn't want to talk to is rude or whatever, don't take it personally. Just forget them, walk away with confidence, your head held high, and go talk to someone else.
It will be scary, but you can do it.
Let me know how it turns out.
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