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I think my ex wants me back.
My ex-boyfriend broke up with me in August- it was the second time we had been dating, we first dated in February last year but broke up and then got back together over the summer. Well, I've missed him a lot because he was my best guy friend. Well, we've been getting better, and talking more and he and I talk about relationship problems like we used to before anything happened between us. And last night, he told me about how he's losing his trust in girls after how some of them have treated him. And he was really down about it, so I told him it would be ok, that there were plenty of great girls out there and he would find his, and he responded saying that he hopes he finds her, and that he hasn't already passed her up... and I think he was referring to me because I'm the only girl he has had an enjoyable relationship with. And now I don't know what to do because I'm dating someone else now. I don't love him though, he is nice and a sweet guy and treats me right, but there just isn't that spark. I feel bad leaving my current guy for my ex, but I miss the way it was when I was with my ex. There is nothing better than dating your best friend. But then again there is the chance that he may leave me again. I'm not sure if I should trust him again. What do you guys think?
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First, if you don't feel that spark or love with your current boyfriend, try to think about his feelings. If you stay with him and let him believe you do feel those things you could end up breaking his heart. And this applies whether you go back to your ex or not.
It sounds like your ex doesn't know what he really wants and has a lot of growing up to do. If he has true, honest, sincere feelings for you, he'll show it in time. But I suggest you wait it out. He may just be a jerk that only cares for himself. But, he could just be a good guy that's lost and needs time to figure out which way is up.
If you want to set on the side lines for a while, as a friend, if he his feelings for you are sincere, he will show it. Love is an action. It's not just a word to be said to someone. So if he loves you, he will show it.
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If you don't want to be with your current guy, dump him. The spark isn't going to magically appear, so don't string him along.
Don't go back to your ex.
You've already tried that. It didn't work. There is no half-way rational reason to think it will this time.
All your ex sounds like, is a guy who wants, wants, wants. Right now he wants you, tomorrow he'll want something else. It might be a bit flattering, but other then that, it is basically meaningless. His comment wasn't serious, and you shouldn't take it seriously.
Keep working on your friendship with your ex, and remember that part of having a 'friendship' with someone, is shooting down any careless comments about having anything more with them and that is exactly what your ex did: he made a careless comment. You shouldn't let him get away with tugging at your heart strings like that, it's not friendly.
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