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16/f
This is a long, somewhat confusing question. I realize that it is a lot of work to figure this out so any serious answers will definately be rated appropriately. I really appreciate any advice.
For the last couple of months, I have had several 'downs' and few 'ups' with this situation. I am being harassed by girls from my school, some are "ex-friends" and others are just people who don't know me. I am wondering what is the most beneficial next step to take.
Involved People (females aged 15 to 17+):
Myself - Usually in a good mood, polite, kind to others, strongly opinionated, willing to stand up for causes which I believe in. Straight A's (with very few exceptions) and a dedicated student. Last summer I went to many parties. Strong willed, self confident and "always dressed up" describes me.
Tracey - One of my best friends, ex-best friends with Annie, used to be good friends with Danielle and Kaya.
Danielle - Last summer we were best friends, she is a "party animal," low grades, jealous of her best friend, Kaya.
Kaya - Danielle's new best friend, many insecurities, low grades, treats people badly to make herself feel better (laughing at overweight people), acts like she is amazing.
Annie - Used to be best friends with Tracey. Follows Danielle and Kaya with whatever they do.
Here is a basic timeline of the sitation for reference, I have all of the recent activity documented carefully on my computer:
November - Danielle and I got in an argument. I was talking to people at our lunch table about how I was worried about her. I also said she is friends with people then just ditches them and that I was thinking I should talk to her about it. It got back to her before I talked to her about it, she got mad and I apologized. She said tons of mean stuff to me so I ended up not talking to her for weeks. I was excluded from everything and always ended up at home doing nothing.
December - Things were great, Annie always told Tracey how much she disliked me (behind my back) but we started to become friends. At the end of the month I was excluded from "secret santa" because of my dispute with Danielle, and everyone (lunch table people) said they didn't want ME making conflict.
January - Conflicts were slightly resolved but Tracey and I noticed we were being excluded from all events and birthday parties. We started to become closer and hang out a lot.
February - Some "tough/druggie" girls attacked me, saying I "dress like a / am a tramp" and I was hit in the back of the head. I walked away from them but everyone was talking about how I "ran away crying." I still do not see why they did this and it is completely unfair. I do not dress out of the ordinary, usually - when I wear a skirt I have long legs so it looks short, but who cares anyways. I always avoid walking that way now.
March - Annie began to get mad because Tracey and I were so close. She started talking behind my back again and to Danielle and Kaya (Annie did not like Kaya at the time). Danielle, Kaya and Annie began to grow closer due to their hate of me. The 3 of them would always make plans infront of Tracey and I and purposely not invite us.
April - Danielle wrote a blog about people she hated, and I said "Honestly, do you consider me one of those people?" In reply, she went crazy and said a ton of mean things about me. She said I shouldn't bother replying because she did not want to start a "bitch fight." I was outraged, and told her to say it to my face. At school she couldn't look at me and was afraid.
April Cont - Kaya stood up for Danielle and said I was "attacking" her. I was just not letting Danielle walk all over me, I no longer wished to be friends with her and immediately stopped talking to them. I told Kaya that it was not her business. One day at lunch, Kaya and I got in a big arguement and she ended up leaving the table.
April Cont - Kaya, Danielle and Annie went to the "tough/druggie" group of girls and told them what was happening. I started to be harassed by these new girls (I will call them the hawks) and they threatened to beat me up. I backed off, feeling overwhelmed. I completely stopped talking to all of those people.
April Cont - At the same time, Tracey told Annie that she felt excluded, so Annie went against her. It was now Danielle/Kaya/Annie against Tracey and I.
May - Danielle tried to start a fight with Tracey over the computer over nothing. Pointless things continued to happen even though we weren't speaking to Danielle. I started talking to Annie and Kaya again (I regret this now) and we were fine together. I tried to be nice and work things out since the whole fight was over very little. I tried to resolve things with the "hawks" but I was still constantly stared at by them at school.
June - Tracey, myself and two of our other friends made a funny video and posted it on facebook. It wasn't about anyone it was just a pointless music video dancing around in big coats. Danielle, Kaya and Annie "copied" our video but tried to "copy our make-up, clothes and moves." They exaggerated everything and acted like completely sluts (I can honestly say that) then told everyone to "say whose is better." It was obnoxious.
June Cont - They began to harass me on MSN but I said "haha yeah you're great at being us. bye!" and blocked them. Kaya was me, Annie was Tracey and Danielle was my other best friend from the video. One day walking along the street after our friend's birthday lunch, Danielle and Kaya rode by on a bike and yelled "ugly ass sluts!" to us. We ignored them. Later on, Annie and Danielle apologized to Tracey and included me in the apology (it was never sent to me) and Tracey "accepted" their apology.
June Cont - Annie and Danielle left for a month long student exchange trip in Europe. Kaya found a new "best friend" (Ellen), whom I used to be friends with last summer but we rarely saw eachother. Kaya and Ellen posted pictures in short skirts and tanktops saying "oh ya.. this is how (my name) stands and dresses" and posted them on facebook. Kaya, Ellen, Danielle and Annie have all been put on "limited profile" for my facebook and cannot see anything except my name and a nearly blank page.
Ellen lives on my street, like a two minute walk away. She has been in many fights and now I am feeling threatened because in my honesty box on facebook, Kaya threatened that if I went to any bonfires or parties this summer that she would fight me or get other people to. Annie and Danielle are gone for three more weeks, but Ellen and Kaya are so close. In addition, they have all of the "hawks" on their side.
I have just been staying home/inside to avoid conflict and I am sick of this harassment. Please help. =( (link)
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Ok i'm not exactly sure if this will help but i'm willing to give it a try.
First i definately think you should go out and have fun. Alot of times parties and bonfires have so many people that if you wanted to avoid them you probably could. While there i would try talking to new people and make new friends who will definately treat you better than the "hawks"
Also, if one of these girls is over 18, and you want to fight her, make sure she hits you first. Then you can beat the shit out of her and she will be the only one who gets in trouble by the authorities since she is over 18.
Other than that i really don't think you should bother trying to be friends with these girls at all because it definately doesn't seem like its worth it. Just go out like i said try to make new friends and have a great time this summer without them
I hope this helped :D and good luck
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i'm about to use the crest whitestrips classic kit. but i think i might have a cavity. it doesn't hurt and it's pretty small, but i'm really sure if it's a real cavity or not (as i've never had one before). is it safe to use the whitestrips even with this cavity, if it is one? it doesn't say anything on the insert in the package or online. (link)
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You should be fine to use even if you have a cavity, but i would start with only using them once a day instead of twice to be sure because the white strips can make your teeth really sore. If they are fine at once a day, then moving up to twice would be fine
I hope this helps :D
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does anyone know how i can make my own website? like all the steps that i have to do to make one?
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Try maxpages.com it pretty much walks you through making one for free and everything theres just a few pop ups once in a while
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Well I'm best frineds with these 3 girls and they are awesome and are certainly true friends. But lately, two of these friends haven't been really inviting me to stuff, and I always invite both of them. Like tonight, I already had plans to hang out with other friends, but I don't think they knew that and ended up not even inviting me to whatever they were doing. I mean, I would have said "Sorry no I can't" if they asked because I already had other plans, but still, it's the second time they haven't even bothered to invite me. I am a tiny bit mad at them now. Am I just overreacting, because they are usually loyal friends. But idk, I think i have a right to be mad at them because I ALWAYS invite them to stuff. Should I talk to them about it next time I see them? Thanks. (link)
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Recently i've felt the same way you do because my one friend will always invite my other friend to do things with her, but not invite me, and then they would talk about their plans and everything right in front of me.
Surprisingly, i tried talking to my one friend about it, and i explained that i felt like i was being left out and never invited anywhere. The truth is, neither of my friends even noticed they were leaving me out and everything, because sometimes they couldn't invite a third friend somewhere, and they didn't notice i was always the one who wasn't invited.
It may seem like the mom thing to do, but talking to them really did help out our relation ship, and they haven't been leaving me out as much anymore
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I'm not a christian but at school we exchange gifts. Not angel earthling but like friends share gifts. My friend normally buy stuff for me and I buy stuff for them but the problem is what to buy. IT's always been what to buy. I want to buy it early this time.
I have 3-5 girls I want to buy for. Nothing too...expensive or over-the-top. but something cheapish and worth gettin. Something maybe a book or something that's a simple nice gift and that I can go anywhere and get one! (link)
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ok, i have to buy presents for my friends every year, and here are some present ideas i have used
1)a girly picture frame with maybe a picture of you and your friends in it. You can find them at big lots, walmart or target
2)jewlery! Try some place like aeropostale or american eagle, if they are into jewlery
3)a cheap shirt. I like aeropostales shirts for my friends since they are usually cheap
4) body spray or lotion. If you cant afford to get it from bath and body works, try getting some from walmart, it smells the same, but costs alot less
5)lipgloss. Try walmart for some cheap lipgloss, every girl loves it
I hope that helped
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I love to write stories--not short silly ones but long serious ones. The problem is that I keep leading myself to a writer's block and make it so dull. I don't want to get into the exciting parts of the plot right away and I want to have a 30-40 page long part of the story in the beginning before I get to the exciting parts of the story where things start to unravel. The problem is that I can't accomplish that and I was wondering if someone could help me out here. Like instruct me on what I should do to prevent/get myself out of this situation (link)
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If you want to make it easier to write the story, try laying out the plot before hand, it really keeps you on track, and keeps you from leaving something important out. Don't try to force the story to come to you, because that usually doesnt help. I usually think of my best ideas when im trying to go to bed, or in the shower, and as long as i write them down before i forget, they usually are some of the best parts of the story
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i dont know.. lately i just feel like i really wanna be called beautiful.. or smart..or just anything positive, i feel like i really need to hear something good about myself or hear someone tell me they love me, or atleast admire me or something.. thats weird, right? like i feel kinda lonely, and unappreciated. and i dont know what to do to get rid of this feeling. its like i cant feel goood about myself unless someone tells me im good. and i cant feel beautiful unless someone tells me im beautiful. and i cant feel smart unless someone tells me im smart. you get the picture right?
so what do i do about it?? (link)
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i think that your problem would definately be a self esteem issue. You cant feel good about your self unless someone else says it too you. Im not entirely sure what your question is, but if you want to try to get over this issue, try making a list of everythign you like about your self, even include the small or stupid things. Then, every time you feel like you need to be admired or told you are pretty, just look at the list, i sure it will help make you feel better. You also might want to try talking to your parents, a friend, or someone else you trust, because they will probably be able to help
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I have all these scars all over my legs, from bug bites and shaving cuts and lil things like that. They're always purplish and whenever I'm wearing a skirt or shorts they really stand out. Is there anything that I can put on them to make them less noticeable? (link)
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You can try neosporin on them every day, that will usually help some, if that doesnt work, try medirma, or medirma for kids. Either works and it will defiantely help get rid of your scars
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I have wooden floors in my bedroom and tile floors in my bathroom (the bedroom and bathroom are connected). I'm pretty much obsessed with organization and cleanliness. I vacuum the tile and wood once a week. How often should I scrub the floors down with Pine Sol and my Floor Mate? My room doesn't get much traffic except from me. (link)
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I would only do it maybe once a week or less. Since your room doesnt get much traffic other than you, i would say about every other time you vaccum would be fine
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if a guy is checking you out and you make eye contact and you kinda like him, how should you react besides smiling..? THANKS! (link)
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Try acnowledgeing him by giveing him a slight wave or saying hi. Try walking over to talk to him if you can.
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in what grade do you have the class sex ed? (link)
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Im sure your probably talking about health. Most schools require you to take it in about 8th grade although every school is different. Don't get your hopes about though, most teachers hardly talk about sex at all.
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if i have suppperrrrr curly hair like this
http://s109.photobucket.com/albums/n78/BizDontQuit/?action=view¤t=curly.jpg
(not me)
would a ghd give me pin straigh amazingly gorgeous hair and is it easy to use i mean my last straitener didnt do anything about the bumpieness in the back of my head that i cant get??? please help! (link)
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The straightner i use is by conair. It has 2 inch plates, 25 heat setting and a turbo setting. I know a few of my friends with super curly hair use it, and it works great, because it gets really hot, but doesnt damage your hair. best of all is only about 20 dollars at walmart or eckard
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Ok, im 13/F and im semi-cool. What I mean is the guys like me as a friend and stuff and Im never alone on a slow dance. I also hang out with the popular kids. See but people say im too nice and too smart and I find that lots of people are calling me a looser behind my back. I know I shouldnt care but it does affect me. All my clothes are brand name and Ive never done anything to the people "above" me. This one girl (shes in top 3) has started alotta rumors about me and even though everyone at school thinks I dont mind so they ALL play along it still hurts. Im really good friends with all the guys and I was wondering what I could do to well........be more popular. (Please no U shouldnt care or stuff like that, I already know that but I do so ya) (link)
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Ok, im not going to say that all this popularity stuff doesnt matter, because at your age, it really does. Just remember though, alot of the time when people are calling you a loser, they are intimidated by you. You just need to tell thsi girl to stop saying crap about you behind your back. Its really hard though to "try to be more popular" because alot of the popular people are like that without trying. seriousally just keep being the person that you are, and being friends with who are you friends with. There is really no such thing as being too nice or too smart, because those 2 things will get you super far in life beyond high school
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Gahh....well my cat had kittens, then had kittens with her son(we are pretty sure). Bad, I know. We intended on getting the cat fixed right after we got her but alot of things came up and we coulnt afford it, then we hitt a rough patch money wise and still havent gotten her fixed....-sigh-
Well anyway, her kittens look okay.....except as of yesterday 2 of them died, one we dont know why and the other was just skin an bones....it was horrible. The remaining 3 are fine, except a little bit...I dont know 'cockeyed' and not completely straight eyed if that makes sense. They seem intelligent enough...they are also a bit small and I'm worried about them. They are around 5 weeks old. Other than the eyes they APPEAR normal.
Also the mother cat got an infection and couldnt feed her kittens(we didnt even know she HAD the kittens) we found the kittens in our basement a week ago crying because they were hungry(they had been fed before obviously, they seemed recently unfed)...like I said they are a little thin but seem okay...Im just worried about them. What are the risks of them not being okay because of their inbreeding and possibly early malnutrition? I'm really scared for them in light of the past deaths...=[
(please dont just tell me to get my cat fixed, trust me I know) (link)
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I agree that if you truely value your cats, then they need to see a vet immediately. Only your vet could tell you if your cats are sick because of inbreeding or because of mal nutrition, and if they will be ok A payment plan could probably be worked out, or else you oculd talk to maybe your aunts or uncles and ask for a help with money. Either way your cats shoudl see a vet as soon as possible
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i love my dog, and i know she loves me too, because whenever im crying she always comes and licks me or lays next to me. But most of the time she follows my mom around and i cant get the feeling she doesnt like me, even though she does, you know? How do i bond with her, or get her to like me and maybe even follow me around??
I need help. (link)
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My one dog follows my step dad around the same way. Try bonding with the dog as much as you can. Throw her a tennis ball outside for a while, maybe while you are raking leaves or just relaxing on yoru porch. You could also try playing tug Gives her lots of love and attention, by petting her. Alot of times, dogs will also show special attention to the person that feeds them, at least thats the way it seems in my house. When its time for her to eat, if its usually your mom taht feeds her, ask if you could do it instead. Im sure your mom wouldnt mind
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Hi,
We recently adopted a 3 year old male Saint Bernard. He was not eating at the shelter, and within a few days of getting him home, he developed pneumonia, which our vet is treating with antibiotics.
When we tried to give him dog food (pedigree dry, canned, and a mix of both), he backs away from the dish as if he's afraid of it. The only thing we've been able to get him to eat is food that I've cooked. Today he had a mixture of deboned chicken, homemade mashed potatoes, & lima beans. He has lost a lot of weight from his illness & not eating.
How can I get him to eat dog food?
Thanks for any advice you can give me. (link)
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Im not expert, but maybe try mixing some dog food in with the mashed potatoes or chicken. With each meal add more dog food and less of other food. Eventually he will be eating the dog food. or try several brands of dog food, preferabely one that has a strong smell. This might make him want to eat it
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what is a good present to give my mom & dad & sister? (link)
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Heres some present ideas i have used over the years. It really depends on how much money you have though
Parents: maybe find out a resturaunt that they go too all the time, and get them a 10 or 15 dollar gift certificate to it
Mom: Try body lotion or sprays, you can get them at bath and body works, but if you are looking for somethign cheaper walmart has good ones that smell great. This is a great gift for your sister too. An ornament for the christmas tree is also a good idea, the bon ton has ones for about 5 bucks or less, or you can try almost any other place that cells christmas decorations
Sister: Maybe a giftcertificate to her favotire store, a cd, or a cheap picture frame for her room. You can get nice frames at big lots or target
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oke well my dog has too much ticks and when my mom and dad take them out then they come again and so they dont do it anymore and i love my dog and so i would love too pet him but i hate ticks
so will you give me advice on how too get ticks a way
thanks (link)
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If you cant want to quickly remove ticks, try heating the back of an old spoon, and touching it to the ticks butt. This will cause the tick to loosen its hold on yoru dog, and be pulled of more easily, you could also try putting a little bit of baby oil or vegetable oil on the tick. It will also make the tick lessen its hold on your dog, and make them easier to come off. Ive tried both of these, and they work great
You can try a tick repelent to keep ticks off yoru dog. We use k-9 advantix on mine, and it works great. Just talk to yoru parents about it. You can get tons of reat tick repelents at your vet
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So I asked the question about dying my hair blonde. People said that if I didn't like it, and I dyed it back, it would turn out RED? (or redish)
Why/how would this happen? (link)
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As long as you get your hair dyed professionally, it will turn out fine no matter what color you dye it.
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Hi. :]
I'm a highschool junior, so I'm 16 years old.
I recently went to a "college night" at my highschool & there were like over 100 colleges there. Me & my mom have been looking at the brochures, and she INSISTS I go to a college. Like a live-at-home gain your credit hours, and not live in a dorm. My parents literally have NO money, my dads paychecks go to all the bills and then part of my moms pay checks go to some bills and the rest goes to groceries & living.
I have one brother and two sisters, and they've all gone to a four-year college, lived in a dorm, and had a college life.
I know that they won't have enough money to send me to like University of AUSTIN & stuff, even though it'd be really nice to go there, (tutition is seriously expensive, even if you live in Texas.) I hate thinking that I'm going to have to go to a 2 year college and travel from school to my parents house ALL THE TIME. But, it just feels like since I'm the youngest, I get like the worst shit.
I hate it. :/
Plus all my siblings had cars & their licenses by their 16th birthday.. & I'm almost 17 and don't even have my license yet, and won't have a car for a REALLY long time.
I don't know what to say.
Advice? (link)
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I understand what your going through. If you have yoru heart set on a 4 year college like the university of austin, then i suggest you go for it. if you dont go and do what you want with your life, you will be unhappy with whatever job you have and will always kick yourself in the butt over it
If you need to raise money you could try
A summerjob (its not much but every little bit helps, this might also help with your car problems)
Scholarships: theres lots of scholarships out there, and it never hurts to try
Financial Aid it really helps alot. Thats how my sister is paying for college
Student Loans - borrow the money now, and then in 4 years, once you get the job that youve always wanted, pay them back
I hope i helped
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