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My name is Kendall. I've had different advice columns before, and this is my new one. I'm good at giving advice, I'm always who my friends come to for help. I'm not here for ratings, I'm here to give people help with their problems. Just because I don't say what you want to hear doesn't mean you should rate me low, or leave rude feedback. The truth can't always be sugarcoated, because thats how life is. I specalize in friends, relationships, and style. I like when people ask questions to my Inbox. Thanks :)

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what do you do with your toungue while french kissing????? i know you can make it go around in circles around theirs, but what else can you do???? ive searched google but i cant find any information!!

You just basically move it around, you can still kiss (just lips) while french kissing, and then go back to french kissing. You go fast and hard, or slow and romantic. It depends what the mood is, really. Have fun ! ;)

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Ok...im 14/f...
Me && my boyfriend have been going out for 4 monthes... I've been told that it sounds like he is controling me or whatever...
I really like/love him...but could it be he is...
When ever we get in a fight and I tell one of my friends (because i need someone to help me before i end up hurtin myself or something) well he gets mad and yells at me... Or my friend will say something to him and then he tells me to tell them to stop talking to him...
it makes me feel (excuse my language) shitty!!!
he makes me feel like it is always my fault we get in fights! And he bugs me by sayin boys names he thinks i like... i could do the same to him but i dont because we would end up fighting more...
What do I do?? (I want to be with him...)
Please help me!!

I am this exact way with my boyfriend, but I've changed. He tells me I am controlling, and I know I was. It's really hard to have a relationship if one of the people think they like other people. You really can't do anything in this situation if you're not the one who is controlling, sorry. Just stay away from any of the boys he names, assure him that everything is okay. I hope it all works out.

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13/f.
So I had been dating this guy for about 3 weeks, and I mean I REALLY liked him. I don't know if its because he was my first boyfriend in a year, since my last one moved, or what. But he was great, he would call me on the phone, and would talk to me forever. And he'd text me. When his phone broke he used his friends, everything. But I've never kissed a guy. (I'm a little embarassed by that, but I've always pictured my first kiss as something really romantic.) Anyway, when his friends were over at his house he'd call me, and say really perverted things, that totally disgusted me. (i.e. "When are we gonna bang") And I felt uncomfortable talking about things like that, so I would say something like "awkwardddd" or "kind of uncomfortable right now" and such. Well we got each other Christmas gifts, and he loved his, and I adored mine. (We exchanged at school, about a week or two from Christmas) Well 3 days before Christmas, he hadn't called all Christmas break and hadn't been replying to my texts. So I was just telling myself "He's at his families and forgot his phone" or something to ease my mind. Well 3 days before Christmas, he got lindsey to call me and say he just wanted to be friends. I heard the voicemail. And I didn't believe it, so I texted him. He said it was true. No reason why, I mean I would have settled for "I'm not attracted to you anymore." So, I tried to get over him. Its now February and I think I still like him, but I don't WANT to like him. I'm currently talking to this other guy, who's amazing, and I'd really rather be with this guy, than Joseph. But I need to stop this attraction. I'm fine as long as I don't see him. But when I do, its like I'm in love. Is this because of my harmones or something?!

Thanks

It seems like you really liked this guy, but he was a jerk. Any guy is a jerk if they don't have a GOOD reason for dumping you. If you're talking to another guy and you'd really rather be with him, then get to know him better. Get him to ask you out. Once you start kissing the new guy, you'll get more attracted to him. That's weird...my boyfriend's name is Joseph :) haha

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you know about the brand ten?
that makeup brnd?
is it goood?
is ti cheap?
wer can i find it??
dont say drugstores tell me the specific store names.
thanks and tell me if you would recomend that brand to me thank

It's a bad brand. It's cheap, doesn't cover well either. I reccomend Almay, Covergirl, or BareMinerals.

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i know this is kind of gross but im sure some girls do it. Is it normal do have sex while your on your period? I know its okay when your pregnant but what about while on your period?

As long as your boyfriend knows you're on your period, I guess it's fine. It might be a little messy, so I'd put down a sheet or a towel. Minus the mess, it's fine :)

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Theres this girl i've liked for about 2 years now. i'm 13 and she's turning 15 in march. i really like her and i think she likes me but i don't know what to do. i keep asking her if she would ever like me but she keeps saying i don't know. what should i do? thanks.

You say she likes you, but you keep asking her if she would ever like you and she says I don't know? She's afraid to make a commitment with a younger guy. She probably likes you, but is afraid to show it because it would leave you on. Give her some space for now, and then later when you two get closer try to ask her again. I hope it works out !!

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How Do You GEt Music On Your Advice Colom Cause Some People Have It.
Like Are There Sites Or Anything.
KTHNX.

It's really hard to get music on your column because the advicenators people don't let or codes in your columm. Sorry :(

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where can i buy cute black flatts? (any kind) thats not a lot? link please :]. thanks !

I just bought black flats at Payless Shoes. They also have them at Target.

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there's this guy who lives like right near me. And i knew from the first moment that he liked me. lets call him 'L'. I dont like him that way..i really like another guy who happens to be his friend too but he doesnt live near me. I'll call him 'J'. Anyway a girlfriend of mine confided in me that she likes 'L'. i thought that was fine because i dont even like him and ive known it for ages. anyways last night i think i led him on too much and didnt mean to and we ended up kissing and now we're going out. I feel so bad...i dont even really like him, he's like my best friend and he's great but i dont think im doing the right thing by myself, my best girlfriend, 'L', or 'J' for that matter. omg, what am i doing? please help me i dont want to hurt anyone.

Stop going out with L. Leading people on is bad, especially if you knew from the minute he liked you. Your friend is going to be mad if you don't. Tell her it was all a big misunderstanding, and you're sorry. Also, J will think he doesn't have a chance if you have another boy. Hang out with J more, and try to convince L to go for you friend. I hope it all works out :)

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okay i usually don't like talking about this, but a lot of people are concerned so i thought i would. for the past few months i haven't been eating the best. i usually have special K every morning for breakfast, snacks & yogurt for lunch, and for dinner whatever my parents make. that's about it. i see it as enough food to survive, but everyone always makes comments & says how it isn't. i think you should eat enough to survive. but anyways, people say/think i shouldn't be doing that & i should be eating more. i'm not really fat, but im not that skinny either. im a female, 5'9, and 144 lbs. to me, that's kind of a lot, but idk. everyone is saying im pushing myself to an eating disorder. i do exercise 5 days a week, but i feel that if i don't exercise or eat something i shouldn't, i feel extremely guilty & can't take it. it bothers me a lot. any advice you could give me?? anyone in this situation??

thanks!!

You eat what you want. Don't let other people influence that. I think it's enough. NO OFFENSE, because I'm giving you MY opinion about what I think. I am 5"10 and weigh 130, and I'm not super skinny either. I think you could stand to lose a couple pounds. Good Luck!! && Tell me how it works out.

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how do you give a hickie?

A hickie is broken blood vessels under the skin, which I think makes it sound more repulsive then sexy. You simply suck on their neck, try to make it a place that is not noticeable. The longer and harder you suck, the more hickie will be there. Have fun ;)

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how do i get a guy to like me more so he can ask me out for a valentines dance? now im already like kinda his friend now.. not really, but more like friendly acquantances? lol actually its two guys but i dunno who to choose. one of them like stood up for me once when some retard kid made fun of me, and etc, and the second I guess I'm more of friends with.. but hes also kinda stubborn. and they're both REALLY HOTT!

13/f

I'd go for the guy you know less, the one who stood up for you. He seems nice, and he must have thought something about you that is good if he stood up for you. Talk to him, ask him to hang out maybe. Don't be shy, if you screw up with one guy, there's always the other one :) I hope they ask you!

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what is a girl that is 13 and b/f is 15 supost to get him for v-day?
i was thinking gift card to his fav. store and like some chocolates

good idea or no?
thanx

I am 13, my boyfriend is 13 also. I'm getting him colonge and chocolates. So yes, I think that is a good idea. Good luck!!

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im the kind of girl who is shy around people. and i got a new best friend this year but ive never had a best friend before ive had friends but none of them have ever thought of me as their best friend. so anyways, im tired of my best friend when she comes over to my house which is like only once every 2 months all she does is take pictures of herself with my camera, its kindof a old camera but she almost broke it by pulling on it, and im tired of her shes not that funny and i dont know if i should stop being her best friend because if i do i wont have 1 so what should i do?
thanx

If you don't like someone, you shouldn't be her bestfriend. If she disrespects your things and has annoying habits, I can see how you don't want her to be your friend. What about the other girl you mentioned? For the friends that you have, try to get to know them better. Ask them to hang out. Come out of your shell, and try not to be shy anymore. What's the worst that could happen if you ask somebody to go shopping, or sleepover?

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Please can someone help me on wearing and getting used to high heels? For one thing I can't find any of my taste, I'm very off balanced on them and fall, and my feet doesn't seem to fit on any because they're either too big or small and my feet are like ugly and like a square shape. I have to get used to wearing shoes with heels cuz all I wear are flats so people will make fun of me that I can't wear anything!

To get good at something, the best thing to do is practice. Over the weekend, wear high heals around the house, learning to balance and walk with them. As for finding ones you like, Payless has really good shoes, at least I think. And for the people that would make fun of you because all you wear are flats, screw them :) Don't pay attention to what people do to put you down.

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idk,
lately it seems like all guys are jerks. atleast all the "decent ones", and the ones you REALLY like, are way out of your league.

:S

This isn't really a direct question, but I'll talk with you about it anyway. Lots of guys are jerks, maybe it's just the ones that your paying attention to. You don't need a cute guy to be happy. My advice would be to try to pay attention to the guys that are less cute. They usually have better personalites. How old are you? At a certain age guys are very immature. It's just the way it is, guys don't understand :\

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how do i clear history on my computer? so like if i was on the internet and didn't want my parents to know....

Go to an internet page, whatever it is, and at the top, past the back, forward, stop, refresh, home, search, and favorites button, there is a little icon that looks like a clock with a green arrow. Click on that. A menu should appear on the left side of your page. Right click on Today and push Delete. This will delete your history. You can also delete things from the days before. To clear all of your history, make sure there is nothing in that box when you're done. :)

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okay well i had this boyfriend "dave" and we went out for a month & it wasnt really serious, we didnt really hang out much or anything but we've known eachother for seven years. After we broke up he wanted me back & i really didnt want him then. but then he found a new girl & shes kinda a slut so they've done more than we did.

after tehy started going out i relized i had feelings for him & i tried telling him & said he liked me too. they broke up & he still wouldnt go out with me.. they went out again and now hes a jerk to me but i still like him a lot. A week or two ago he said that we would probobly end up going out again in the future & sometimes he IMes me with stupid song lyrics & i act like i dont care about him.. is that the right thing to do? & how can i get over him? hes the only one i feel comfortable with & hes all i think about. they've been going out for three months too. i feel like a loser but ik i can find someone else i just dont want to.

thanks for ur help,
14/f

You were okay when he didn't have another girl, because you knew he was still attatched to you. But now, he has a girlfriend and you've become jealous. You can't do that. If he's all you think about and he's the only one you feel comfortable with, then I'd say you want him back. When he iMs you will silly song lyrics, don't act like you don't care! Show him that you do care, and then maybe he'll want you back too. You guys have known each other for seven years, you don't want your relationship to end, even if that means just being friends. You have to understand that you can't be jealous if he has another girlfriend. Do you WANT to get over him? Or do you want him? That's what you have to ask yourself. Good Luck!!

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Hi im 14 male,i was wondering,how old would most parents say you should be before your girlfriend could sleep over,like in the same room/same bed.I know some parents are strict, but what would most parents say is old enough?
Thanks,
Please Anwser

and its not to have sex...its just to cuddle with eachother and to kiss eachother goodnight..

My parents used to allow my boyfriend to hang out in my room with me with the door closed, and then they got suspicious because it was so quiet so they made me open the door. Then, my brother walked in on me and him making on laying down on my bed, and now they don't let him and me in my room even with the door open. Your lucky if your girlfriend can even come in your room. My parents let him sleep over at my house on New Years Eve, because they were too drunk to take him home. He slept in a different room, but I went into his bed at 6 AM to sleep with him. I'd say eighteen, but if your parents are strict maybe earlier. :)

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so i have a boyfriend that i've been dating for 3 weeks since yesterday
but i knew him for a really long time before that and we liked eachother for most of it
and everything was great in the beginning
like he was a biiiig sweetheart
and always told me he loved me and everything
and then recently he seems all weird
like i kind of bug him all the time
but i dont know how i could i havent changed the way i talk to him or anything like that
he barely tells me he loves me anymore
or gives me as many kisses that he used to
and im afraid i might be losing him
hes not one of those people that you can just talk to about something like this
and i love him and all but things are getting weird
any help i can get is amazing
14/f

Maybe something is happening with his friends or his family, and he just hasn't been concentrating on being the best boyfriend anymore. The most you can do is talk to him about it and try to get it out of him what is wrong. If you don't communicate then it will end. This is exactly how me and my boyfriend are now. He used to be really nice and sweet, and lately it's been different. His parents recently got a divorce and he moved and things are tough for him. Maybe your boyfriend wants more time with his friends, or something like that. Don't push the relationship. Trust me, it won't work out in the end for you if you do.

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