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I'm 17 and a female. I went to the mall today and I am hanging with some of my friends. This guy shows up and I didn't know who he was but he was ne of my friends friends. So I'm hanging out with him. And I find out that hes a really cool person. So i start talking to him and start to flirt with him and he flirts back. He is 19 and hes really cute and sweet. Not to mention he does have a sense of humor. But i dont know if he likes me too or not. and im afraid to really try to do anything with him because i am afraid of what he might do. I dont want to be dissapointed. What should I do? This is the first time asking for help with a guy. I am so confused right now..
you just met him so you probably wanna take this slow. ask your friend if you guys can all hang with him again. that way you'll be in a group setting so you'll feel comfortable but you can also flirt with him a lot. make sure you get his phone number so he knows you're interested in him! hopefully if things go well you guys will end up hanging out alone
22/F
Okay, I weigh approx 280 lbs. and I am 5'7 so my BMI is high or whatever. I do have a genetic predisposition to diabetes because it runs greatly in my family. Yes, I am obese. (But I don't in my eyes appear to be obese, I have very large muscular thighs, and they have very little cellulite. But I do have a large stomach and chest, 44 ddd.)
I am currently taking Metformin 500mg 2 tablets everyday... (but I do forget often). My periods have been abnormal for the past 4 years. Like I get only 3 periods a year. I have had ovarian cysts but have not been diagnosed with PCOS.
Yes, I have been to the doctor and she's told me all the stuff about how I need to loose weight, YEAH I KNOW. Plus I just got done taking both a nutrition and health class and has been ridiculed a great deal in both classes about being obese.
But has this changed my mind? No. I know that I am already pre-diabetic... especially for type 2 diabetes. I know what diabetes is and I know that it can kill me if I don't loose the weight.
My question is why with all this information and knowledge I have, I CONTINUE TO EAT.
I can honestly say that life happened to me in the past 3 years, I had a really bad break up, suffered the death of a best friend, lost my apartment because of people who used me, lost a lot of friends, and was used for sex which was a major blow to my self-esteem. I mean it was a lot... so my comfort was and still is food.
Why is it that I won't give it up? What can I do...
My ultimate fear is that if I loose weight, that I will put it back on... and weigh more than I am now...
I really want lap band surgery to ensure the weight will stay off but its costly and my insurance won't cover it.... I don't know what to do, but something needs to be done. Lap band surgery however is still an option for me.
i know this sounds weird, and it's probably not good for your self-esteem but when i feel like i need to lose weight or i'm feeling bad about something (all of your 'life' problems, especially the being used for sex, bad break up, are relevant here) i get into this mindset that i'm not good enough. and i'm not trying to get you down on yourself, this is just what works for me. then i get really motivated to exercise or eat healthy because i know how i want to change and i just go for it. hope this is helpful to you :)
Hello Everyone
Basically whenever me and boyfriend tried to have sex, he couldn't get it in. I am a virgin so obviously i'm tight. He was really big and got it in eventually but it hurt too much so we didn't have sex. He fingered me for a while before but it took a while to get it in.
Is there anything I can do to make it "less tight"?
i know this might sound weird and you might be uncomfortable with it, but it really does help. try using a dildo like on your own to make it 'less tight'. its gonna hurt at first but eventually it will get better and then you will be in pain when you're by yourself.. not when you're with your boyfriend!
17 F
I recently got a webcam, and now I am completely addicted to Chatroulette. I want to stop my addiction, but since I've never had a boyfriend or seen anything, if you catch my drift, I find it very difficult to stop. I have already used KeepMeOut! to help stop, but does anyone have any advice for me?
it's normal to be curious about that stuff. but maybe you shouldn't be chatting with people live. try watching porn? it's safer
Hey, i am getting two yellow lab pupies in about a week, we have a few names picked out we really like and need help deciding on which ones are best. can you help me pleaseee!!!???
Ace
Axle
Bently
Ozzy
Luke
Sonny
can you pick two of the cutest ones? i really need your help ASAP!also if you have any other names that would be cute please suggest!!!! Thanks!!!
i'm assuming they're both boys?
i like luke :)
i also like: sammy, max, alex
My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 6 months now,and she wants me to take her virginity.I want to do it but i keep telling myself to wait till im about 17.....but on the other hand i don't want to get drunk at a party sometime and lose my virginity the wrong way.What should i do?
if you're having doubts, i would wait. sex is a bigger deal than a lot of teenagers make it. why does your girlfriend want you to take her virginity? you guys are young, it might ruin your relationship. personally, i think 15 is too young for sex. i would wait until you're comfortable or until you've been going out at least a year!
can u get birth control without ur parents knowing?
yes, if you're 18 or older you can just go to your doctor and get it. if you are younger than 18 you can go to a planned parenthood
so i USED TO BE a realllllly bad cutter, im not anymore just to make that clear but the scars all down my wrist and arm are terrible enough to where i cant wear short sleeves, is there anything i can do to make them go away ? or at least get better...
mederma makes your scars fade.
also you could try wearing a lot of bracelets.
hope this helps!
20/f, do not laugh at me, haha..
I've started hanging out with this guy that I'm really really starting to like. It's been a long time since I've gotten butterflies like this, and I've had them ever since I met this boy. I'm pretty sure he likes me too, because we openly flirt, but we've only hung out once before and that was with mutual friends. We're both SUPER shy.
We're hanging out at his house alone Friday night and I'm really nervous. We're gonna watch movies and stuff and through texts we've been flirting and "joking" about us cuddling and holding hands.
Basically, and excuse me for being such a loser, I need to know how to naturally make flirty physical contact.. like how do I put my head on his shoulder while still kinda being cute and subtle? I don't want to sit far away from him like middle schoolers do. Any other tips and advice for movie date night you can offer??? I haven't dated in over a year. Help! Thanks in advance, advicenators.
hopefully he will make the first move, since he is the guy, but if he doesn't then just make sure you sit down right next to him on the couch. when you talk or flirt with him put your hand on his leg or shoulder to show him that you want physical contact. you could always watch a scary movie and then it won't be weird at all if you grab his hand!
so, i had the typical situation go down ( i tend to rant, so i'm trying to keep this short ) - he broke up with me and it's been a couple of days now and i've been thinking about it and i've realized basically why i think he broke up with me ( it was more me and personal issues i was having with myself, and i let it effect my relationship. ) but i think it's one of those things that now that i've realized it i can fix it. it took him leaving me to give me a real wake up call about it and now i would love to have another chance and see if i can make it work this time. when we were on the phone, it was more so me just quietly tearing up and him talking cause i wasn't really even sure what to say. i didn't want to sit there and defend myself and beg cause that just seemed stupid so all i really said was,"i don't know what to say, really. i mean i want to stay together, but if that's how you feel, i can't really change that." and then after some more tears and talking, i just let him get off the phone. now as lame as this sounds, i've been googling up tips and adivce online and alot of people said that was a good thing to do, so i'm glad on that. but here's where i'm nervous - his birthday is coming up soon, and i thought it might be a good thing to do ( to maybe make him think of me a little ) to just send a little casual "happy birthday" text his way. some sites though said that i should give it time and not say anything because by doing that it will make him curious and want to see what i'm up to and call me possibly. but other sites said that this might not work, me not contacting him might just have him think that i'm totally fine without him and that we can both move on, which i do NOT want to happen. and i mean on the phone he said it wasn't easy for him at all and i THOUGHT i heard some sniffling coming from his end ( but i put the possilbility in my mind that it could've just been the sound of him walking or something ) so i feel like there's still a chance there, i'm just not sure how to go exactly about doing it - i'm scared i'm going to make the wrong move and completley ruin all my chances.
i'm just asking for people's guys AND girls opinions on this. do you think i should text him? if you were a guy, would that make you not miss me, persay, but you know what i mean? and then what do you think i should do from there? let him be the next to contact me after or..?
i just need advice so bad. i'm nervous cause it's only a couple more days till his birthday and i'm just not sure what to do. i hope someone answers this question by then, i'd REALLY appreciate it.
hmm this is a hard situation. you want to 'play hard to get' and seem like you're doing fine without him, but in reality you're not. i think that since it is his birthday, the polite thing to do would just to send a 'happy birthday' text his way. but don't say anything more than that. don't add 'have a great day' etc. just the bare minimum polite text to let him know that you still want to be aquaintances. i would see where it goes from there. if he texts you back and is curious about what you've been up to, then that's a good first step to talking to him again. but if he does text you back, act uninterested and tell him you've been really busy with a bunch of stuff. even make things up if necessary.. but nothing that's too far of a stretch. just let him know that you've been getting along fine without him. if he doesn't answer, don't try texting him again. wait for him to realize that he misses you in his life. and if that doesn't ever happen, then he's not the right guy for you anyways. because really... do you want to be with a guy who doesn't care about you as much as you care about him? try to improve the things within yourself that were causing you trouble in your relationship. if you really want him back then try to hang out with him in a group of friends or something casual and then either flirt with other guys to make him jealous and show him what he's missing OR act how you know he wanted you to act in your relationship. i obviously don't know him so i don't know which he will respond better to. good luck! :)
Can a relationship work out if both people really love each other and are willing to put in a lot of effort to make it last EVEN IF the guy's friends don't really like the girl? Or will it be too problematic?
It's okay if you honestly don't think it can last, I won't get upset, I just wanna know before I get all too invested.
Thank you!
yes it's possible. as long as the guy is willing to ignore his friend's opinions and follow his heart! it's always worth a try. you could also try fixing whatever problems you have with his friends. but if they were good friends to him they would see how happy he is with you and want what's best for him. so i say: go for it! :)
So i've liked a guy for about a year now and we've hung out a few times and stuff. well, my friends went to semi and i didn't (prior engagements) and one of my friends danced with him (she knows i like him). Then they started texting all the time and he asked her to prom and she's going!
I feel so hurt and embarassed and ugly and i really dont know what to do. she'll probably ask me to go dress shopping and stuff with her but i think i might cry if i do.
Am i being overdramatic? Everyone is telling me that i am but i can't help it :(
what do i do?
you're not being overdramatic. that is a really mean thing to do to a friend. she knew you liked him and went for him anyways. she is not your friend. i know you probably feel stupid/jealous right now but you shouldn't. just talk to your friend about how you're feeling. chances are she's not going to change her mind and tell him no when she's already said yes, but at least she'll know how you're feeling. don't go dress shopping with her. she doesn't deserve your help. maybe find a different guy to go to prom with? good luck!
this boy in my class wich im good friends with found out the other day that i like him as more than a friend, he never said much about it but were not really talking to each other much now and i find it hard to look him in the eye with out it feeling awkawrd. what shall i do ?
just act normal. if he confronts you about liking him then you can admit it or just pretend you don't know what he's talking about and you never liked him. rumors get spread all the time. if you don't want him to know you like him, he doesn't have to know! if you want something to happen between you two then you have to keep talking to him. good luck :)
ok here he goes, there is a guy in my school that i really like, since he came to our school we were friend , not close one , but we talk to each other, one of my friend is going out with him, and we kind of stop talking me and my guy friend and i dont know what to do, because im going crazy for the guy and i have lots of butterflies in me right now , im trying to think about some other guys but i cant, and the big think that im worried now is that he is moving next year. and i think that ny guy friend doesnt like my friend too much ,,,,i dont know what to do now .help
well since your friend is going out with him, there's not much you can do without losing her friendship. if he does like you and you break up their relationship your friend will be mad. think about it: is it really worth losing a friend over a guy (especially if he is moving next year)? i would try to move on from him. it will be better for you and for your relationship with your friend. don't interfere in their relationship. i know it hurts right now, but you're young and you'll get over it. there's no reason why you can't still be friends with him though. try talking to him more or hang out in a group with your friend and guy friend!
I'm 16 and I was supposed to get my driving permit. I just realized that I have to get it in literally within the next three days or else I won't get my license on my birthday because you have to have your permit for six months. If I get my permit about a week after than I'm supposed to, how long after will it be until I get my license? Because apparently if you don't get it before the six months you have to wait a looong time. I hope it's not too long :/ Anyone know?
if you get it a week after you're supposed to, then you'll be able to get it a week after your birthday.
i have to get a drug test in exactly 7 days for a job. i have never done drugs or smoked pot before but im around it all the time and yesterday people were blowing the smoke in my face and stuff so i felt a little high. but i was just wondering if that would stay in your system?
i doubt that small of an amount will show up :)
where can a girl at age fifteen get a condom without ID or something?
you can go into any convenience store.. walgreens, etc. you don't need ID to buy a condom. i mean obviously the cashier will give you funny looks, but legally they have to sell it to you.
okay i live in thee chicago area and i really needa car bad i mean BAD but idk where to get a good one at. i dont want one that you have to pay a car note on cause i dont have money like that but i need a car could anyone help me please!!!!
go on craigslist.com
and you can find used cars in your area for cheap :)
Let's say on the date,the guy seems VERY interested and talks to me later that night after the date.
He hasn't called me or texted me since then.
That was Saturday night and it's now monday night without a call or text.I would be fine with texting him or calling him,except for I had the last word ..and I don't like to seem obsessed.
I was thinking about calling him Friday to see if he wants to hangout again ,if he doesn't talk to me before then.
Yes or no?
a lot of guys just suck at communication. just text him on friday and see what he's up to. don't ask him to hang out though. see if he asks you. that's how you'll know if he wants to see you again :) good luck!
Well this is a tough one and I have no clue what to do, lost you could say. Im going to try and explain this to were it makes sense. Im 13 and turning 14 in a month. Curently I live with my jerk of a step father and mom. when i was little something happened with me and my dad. He went to jail. My mother lied saying my step dad is my real dad. I found out the truth a year or so ago and found my real dad a month or so ago now me and my dad have grown close. How do i get my SD to let me see my dad?
it isn't your step-father's choice whether or not you can see your real dad. he has no say in the matter. since you're a minor though your mother does have a say and this matter might need to be taken to court. but you should definitely voice your opinion and hopefully you'll be able to work something out.