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Sex,is it acceptional for a 15 year old?
My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 6 months now,and she wants me to take her virginity.I want to do it but i keep telling myself to wait till im about 17.....but on the other hand i don't want to get drunk at a party sometime and lose my virginity the wrong way.What should i do?
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I don't think it's stupid to worry that you might wind up a bad situation and lose your virginity the "wrong" way. That's a very good worry for a teenager that is pressured with what the media is forcing down our throats regarding sex. The real issue here is this:
Losing your virginity to your current girlfriend when deep-down inside you're already feeling "iffy" about it is the wrong way too.
Lose your virginity when you feel it's the RIGHT time. Control yourself at parties and never drink too much to where you cannot comphrend what is going on around you. You can have a fun time at a party without getting plastered and waking up naked in a ditch somewhere. If you can't remember the party then why even attend? Just have a drink or two and when you feel drunk then stop. If a girl is all over you and you don't want sex then tell her. You really don't want to get into a mess of a girl claiming you raped her because she was intoxicated anyway.
Tell your girlfriend that you're not ready. Boys are usually the ones that want to jump into sex right away but this is sometimes not true. You letting her know might be a little bit of a shock to her but she will understand if she REALLY cares about YOU.
Simply say:
"I was thinking about the sex thing and I'm just not prepared for it. Sex brings on a lot of responsibility that I don't want to deal with right now in my life. I'm not ready and I'm not comfortable with it so I have to say no to this. It's not that I'm not attracted to you either...it's just that I know I'm not ready yet. If that bothers you then we're just going to have to part ways. I need somebody who respects me and can be with me without needing sex."
Really. The worst thing that can happen is that she breaks up with you. Sure, maybe you love her a whole lot but if she breaks up with you because you won't do her then does she REALLY care about you? No.
Be smart and be safe.
And condoms aren't going to protect you from everything either. There are still STD and STI risks involved as well as pregnancy risks. No 15 year old needs to deal with pregnancy or herpes.
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you can control the future just make sure you always make the choices you want to. Dont allow your self to get in the sisuation where you dont want to be. Dont loose it now cause you dont want to future to be like that. just take your time and make life turn out how you want it to.
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Well, I think that you are a little bit young. But if you are mature and use protectiona and don't go overboard then you'll be okay. USE PROTECTION WHAT EVER YOU DO. Use your best judgement. I'd say wait until your sixteen. hope i helped
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We cannot advise you to have sex. You're underage and so is she, so while it's not really illegal, it's highly frowned upon and it is illegal for us to tell you to do anything other than abstain.
I will, however, state directly that having sex because you're worried you might get drunk and do it "the wrong way" is pretty fucking stupid. It's things like this that are why we tell teens not to have sex. Because your overall judgment is terrible.
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Jerz is hopefully high on something, because his advice is irrelevant and inappropriate.
"but on the other hand i don't want to get drunk at a party sometime and lose my virginity the wrong way." It's not a matter of well I either do it now, or do it the wrong way. Everything is entirely in your power. If you don't want to fuck someone, don't. There's nothing stopping you from waiting until you're 17, or when you're ready. It sounds like your girlfriend wants to do you, but that doesn't mean you want to do her. You're both 15 presumably. You're both morons simply because you're 15; her more than you in this case. Do it when you're ready, not when some girl is nagging at you.
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if you want to long break up you'll probably lose the only chance you'll ever h ave to take a girl virginity. After all girls sell their virginity for more than 10,000$ I'd personally take her virgin in a heart beat, but I'd know what I'm doing. Like said above it's a big deal if you don't follow the simple rules: use a condom.
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if you're having doubts, i would wait. sex is a bigger deal than a lot of teenagers make it. why does your girlfriend want you to take her virginity? you guys are young, it might ruin your relationship. personally, i think 15 is too young for sex. i would wait until you're comfortable or until you've been going out at least a year!
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