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Q: give a hickey? It's probably a dumb question, but, I don't really know. Is it gonna hurt him?
Thanks :]
mm ,
idk why you would wanna know ,
because they suck , seriously ,


but basically when you're making out w. him , and then start kissing his neck ,
it usually takes just sucking on his neck hard , but don't bite .

hah , hope i helped .
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Q: I like 2 girls but i don't think they like me back what should i do...plus i want a girlfriend bad!!!
i think you should lay off of the girls ,
if they don't like them , then leave them alone , you don't wanna look like a stalker or like your desprete ,


all i can say now is to just wait for a girl to come to you , if you want a girlfriend , then try to go up to your crush and talk to them , go out on a date , take it slow , girls like that not all but most .

if that doesn't work ,
then just lay back and let it flow ,
let her come to you .


xoxo

Q: i was thinking about getting my tongue pierced but i was wondering if there was any riskes involved?? like infections or something that can make you lose your tongue..... adn when your kissing would it get in the way?!?
Kissing does not get in the way ,
some people actually think its sexy to have a tongue ring when making out .

but anyways ,
yes having a tongue ring can have infections , but that only depends on the person and how their body is infected by it .

you will need to clean it and keep it sanitized


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Q: I have really thick hair, so when I try to comb it it still ends up poofy and messy. Whats a good relaxer or perm that can help straighten my hair all the way to the tips?
A good relaxer that i use because i have thick hair also is called "optimum" relaxer .


It works excellent and smells so good .
hope i help .

xoxo .


ps - if you have sensitive hair , i would say to use a kids relaxer called "just for me"

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Q: Someone likes me. My friend told me that he only likes me because he probably thinks im easy. -- What makes a girl easy anyways? And how can he tell?
well from just reading this ,
i can probably tell you aint easy cuz you don't even know what it means .


but anyways .
it means when a girl will practially let a guy do what ever he wants to her ,

pretty much being a hoe makes a girl easy .

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Q: why do girls shake thier legs while siting in chairs?
its not only girls that do this ,
everybody does , including adults .

its because people have alot of energy , and they can't move around because there in class right?


so this is why .

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Q: is it weird that i like to finger myself?
NO .
thats called masterbation huh .

lots of people like doin it for pleasure ,
& you are one of those , theres no problem with that .

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Q: i lost my virginity, i.e had sex for the first time but i didn't bleed(not even a lil bit). is there something wrong with me? am i alone? im really freaking out here.thanks.
this is because he probably didn't pop your cherry . so you're perfectly fine , i know plenty of people that didn't bleed the first time .

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Q: is it wrong for me to mastorbate im only 14 and i want to get a vibrator but i dont know how to with out my mom knowing help me!

love,
confused =/
no its not wrong to masterbate at fourteen .
I don't think there is an age limit when it comes to touching yourself .

its healthy and satisfying .


the vibrating thing ,
you're too young to go buy one ,
but if you have older friends ,
you can have maybe one of them get one for you ,
and just put it somewhere , where you'll know your mom wont look in .


xoxo .

Q: What do you think about friends with benefits? like.. good or bad idea?
idk ,
my opinion is that i think its only just to get free ass ,

but if you like it
then go ahead ,

but in another way ,
i don't think you'd be respecting yourself either

Q: what does it mean when someone says a guy is "whipped"? and

what does it mean when you call someone a tool?
When a guy is whipped that means that basically actin like hes' yur bitch ,
like he'll bend over backwards for you , when you tell him to jump he'll ask you how high .


you know ?

& and a tool means that your just using them ,
hope i helped

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Q: Hey,
my boyfriend went to this club a couple of months ago and he said they were "grinding" I just found out what grinding meant.. not that long ago and I was just wondering : DO you think it's wrong for my bf to grind with him friends (that are girls!) like should I have been upset?
It only depends ,
if that doesn't bother you then it doesn't bother you .

What somebody says shouldn't change your mind .
But to me ,
my opinion , i wouldn't like it ,
because boys get pretty turned on by that ,
and i wouldn't like it at all .

Next time you should go w. him ,
lol .

Q: OK. Well I have a bf but am not planning on having sex THAT soon but I still have a question.

I have been hearing and reading [on here] that your first time hurts. And im wondering, does it hurt like REALLY bad, or is it worth it?? Because im kind of scared because I do not want it to hurt.

THANKS! any advice is wanted!
14/f
Well people are different and it hurts for some people and others it doesn't .

Also , it depends on how big the guy is too .
If the guy is HUGE then it probably will hurt a bit , and maybe make you cry , if the guy is small or average then that only depends on how tight you are .

If you really love the guy then its definintly worth the pain , but if you're second questioning if you love him - like that - or not , then you should just wait ,

make sure you're ready .
not just like i'm physically ready .
you need to be emotionally ready too ,

like ready for the consequences and reactions and how different it will be and maybe even awkward .

you know what i'm mean ?
just be careful , and make sure you know what you're doing .


xoxo

Q: honestly... Do you think age 15 and a half is too young to staart thinking about having sex when i'm like, 16?
i honestly think ,
that there is no such thing as "too young"
unless you 12 or something .

but if you think you are ready ,
then thats all you need .l

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Q: ok so im going to homecoming.
and this guys gonna be there.
and were kinda planning on hooking up
he said to "grab his balls"

how do you do that without hurting him? or making it awkward?
Mm,
well you do it by not grabbing it really hard ,
touch it a lil bit , and rub it .

but make sure its sexy and not awkward .
don't do it in front of alot of people .
make sure if you WANT to do it .
do it when you guys are alone.


xoxo

Q: 15/f
so me and my boyfriend just had sex yesturday. Only im not sure if its considered sex. I was a virgin and he wasnt. and his penis did go inside me but he didnt finish. It was taking a while and it kind of hurt and i was tired so we stopped. So i dont know if that counts or not.
help?
thanks
Yes , if he stuck his penis in your vigina ,
that is consideried loosing your viginity .

Everybody has there own definition ,
but this is what i was taught , and what i believe , so yaah,
you lost it .


xoxo

Q: For 1 I AM straight!
I'm really just wondering a couple things... haha idk why they just interest me.

1. Why do they call it a dick?

2. lets say there a lesbian who acts like a boy, and a gay guy that acts like a girl, couldnt they go out b/c they would go together! you know what i mean???

3. Why do they teach us stuff about sex in school, when at home parents dont want us to know about it, but then they put us in school???

thanks! and sorry if those confused you at all!
1. idk why they call it a dick ,
its just slang for it , it sounds better than penis to me.
just like how we say pussy instead of vigina .


2. why a lesbian & a gay guy couldn't do all that is because a lesbian is attracted to girls and a gay guy is attracted to boys .

3. The school wants us to learn stuff that we don't know about , its health .


lol , nice questions

xoxo

Q: can you have sex while you're on your period?
what are the effects if you do?
yeah you can have sex while your on your period ,
lots of people do it , and alot of people say that it feels way better ,


and there aint no bad effects or anything either ,
but you can get pregnant ,
but its a small chance because when you're on your period your daily loosing your reproduced eggs . but theres still always that chance .

and you can still get STD's also .
so just always wear protection .

xoxo

Q: i want to give my boyfriend head.
im just not exactly sure what he likes.
you are supposed to put a lot of tounge rite?
and kind of pull the skin with it?
any tips you can give me?
im a little nervous but i heard it comes naturally..is this true?!
thanks!
click here:

http://www.askstudent.com/tips/oral-sex-tips-for-women-tips-for-giving-a-great-head/



but when your about to,
first start talkin real dirty to him ,
and then in a sexy way say .


"so what do you like"

and make him tell you
,but make sure its goin naturaly ,
not like you rehearsed it in the mirror or something .

lol .

xoxo

Q: what positoins can i have sex?
go here !
http://www.sexdictionary.info/sexpositions.html
pretty good place .

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