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my name's hollan, i'm 14 years old. i'm young, but i have been through alot and will probably beable to answer your questions(:


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i'm really nice, and i can try to help any of you


ask me, and i'll try my best to get back to you(:

advice

Alright, so in a few months I'm going to this event and I thought of the perfect outfit. I know where to get everything, BUT the skirt :(

I was looking at buying one online somewhere, but I'm not allowed.

I was looking at getting a skirt that's basically a tutu, sort of like this:

http://be-scene.org/gallery/displayimage.php?pos=-3541

However I'd like it to be longer, obviously.

I know most of you live overseas so I'm not looking for an exact SHOP to buy one, but where do I start to look? I've looked at all the "alternative" shops, and they have nothing.

I live in Melbourne, Australia if it helps.

And I honestly don't care about the colour, it can be pink, white, red, purple etc for all I care. I just need a skirt that looks like a tutu.

make one..

i did that for halloween and it worked out well















hey, yeah my mom made it and she just bought the fabric and got like an outline on how to sew it. she used a sewing machine

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I was just thinknig today, and this came across my train of thought...

How well do you think that you could get to know somebody without ever actually meeting them face to face?

Do you think you could get to know somebody well enough to form a real friendship?
A relationship?
Or nothing at all.

I just want some other opinions :)

there's no harm in being friends with them.


just try not to pull them too close or spill your guts out to them

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Hi,
So I am 15 and I am in high school and I get made fun of non stop now I know its not because Im fat because a girl that makes fun of me is fat also and I know its not because I have glasses because I just got contacts, I try to be nice to people and if they are nice to me Im nice to them, I would really like some advice on how to make people like me more thanks!!

just try a simple smile..
even if they are picking on you

(:

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O, i've been looking for a way to get my haircut for some time now. I've FINALLY found the perfect picture, and I think the cut will look good on me, but I want some other view before I go and do it :] thanks!

Me:

http://i240.photobucket.com/albums/ff196/hitoast/046_edited.jpg

http://i240.photobucket.com/albums/ff196/hitoast/mua.jpg

http://i240.photobucket.com/albums/ff196/hitoast/Jessicamyspacepic-1.jpg

This is the hairstyle I want:

http://i240.photobucket.com/albums/ff196/hitoast/dreamhair.jpg

Thanks again, and sorry to post this again!

i'd go for it dude


i think you'd look cute with that hairstyle

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Can anyone help me convince my parents to let me be me? They are like trying and telling me to live a decent life and doing what's proper for me to make me happy, but the problem is I don't like it! I wanna have fun and do what I wanna do. My style is emo by the way and my parents don't know that and I don't think I wanna tell them cause I don't think they will ever understand. Right now I'm trying to get a mohawk and color it blue but my parent's say no and I don't understand why. One, I don't care what people will think of me, and two just cause I'm looking like those teens that they see out in the streets doesn't mean I'm gonna be like them! And if I become one then it's their own fault. I mean not all teens are like that, there are some who have cool parents who let them do what they want and plus only reason I think they are out on their own is cause probaly their parents are probably like mine so maybe I should go out on my own if I have to. I just don't understand why my parents are like that. I know what they are doing think is gonna make me happy but it's not. I basically need help fighting for my independence and ways to convince them to let me have my god damn mohawk LOL. Sorry but I seriously want them to let me live my life my way. I'm already sixteen and I wanna live my life to the fullest and while I'm still young.

my parents are like that too. they won't let you do that stuff because they are worried how their parenting will look to other parents.

try hair dye stuff that will just wash out, just to see what their reaction is.

i wouldn't fully cut your hair into a mohawk but try getting a haircut that would be optional so you can try out many different hair styles.

hope i helped..
(:

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How do they pierce it? And I know it hurts...and I am 14/f....and do you think I should wait? I want one really bad because I just got up the confidence to buy and wear a bikini and I want one to complete the package...and do you think that it is trachy or slutty? all adivce is welcomed! Kthanks =]

they get the skin at the top of your belly button and pierce it.

it's not trashy or slutty in my opinion, as long as you get something simple and don't go all out.


if it will be something to raise your self esteem then i' say go for it(:

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if you want to fall asleep listening to music (looped), how do you do that and get the music to turn off...?

try putting it on a timer, or make a playlist and it will stop when all of the songs are played

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15/f

so lately this weeek i haven't felt like i used to. like i don't feel as happy as i have been and i have no reason not to feel the same. this has happened to me before then it went away. i know i'm not like depressed or anything. but i'm bulimic and i know i've been this way for a little over a year. i think it's getting worse though. i'm tired all the time, i don't feel like doing anything because i'm so tired. and i've been getting headaches a lot. i don't know what to do. i hate feeling this way. i mean i don't even feel like talking to people anymore. how can i feel more happy?

i know it will go away later but i'm sick of it.
thanks =]

i'm not bulimic but i feel the same way all the time.


i would really check into depression, those are mostly all of the symptoms. i know you hate hearing that though.

try going out and doing something, even when you don't feel like it. it will get you distracted and you might get your mind off of being down.


i hope that helps(:

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i was wondering if u can give me the dance moves and i can print them out. thanks so0o much

hey, it will be kind of hard to explain, but i'll try..

what time is it *chorus*
-start w/ arms spread horizontally, your feet should be in an upside-down v
-clap hands over head
-as if a clock, keep left hand at 12. at same time move right hand to the 1 on th clock, then 3, then 4, then 6. and bring your right arm back up to clap left arm at the 12.


-get in a higher squat position and raise up to the left and then the right



sorry, i really don't know how to explain it.

you can probably look it up and find the steps






well, i hope atleast that helps

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i got a make-up set as a gift and there's regular mascara and then there's some clear liquid labeled "nutritional mascara." so, naturally, i googled "nutritional mascara" and got no useful results. so, i'm here to ask you guys.. what is the purpose of nutritional mascara? how do i apply it.. like do i put nutritional mascara on and then my regular mascara? or before i go to sleep, do i take off my regular mascara and put nutritional mascara on and sleep with it on? i don't understand. please & thanks.

it might mean that it is made with natural products..?


but, i'd put the nutitional one on before the normal mascara

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I like a guy. Im pretty sure he dosen't like me.
therefore i don't think ill get anything from him on vday. sob. there is a guy who likes me and something might come from him on vday. since i don't like him do i keep the gift?

hey dude

a gift's a gift



only you can decide if you're together with whichever one. tell them straight-forward that you don't like him, or that you do.

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my dad dosent live with me. and i just sent him an email saying that i didnt want to see him anymore. before you say i did something wrong, let me tell you everything that he has done.

1. when i was 4 months old, he ran out on me and my mom and went and lived with another woman.
2. hes cheated on my mom so many times that she cant even remember.
3. hes very disrespecful to my family, espessially to my mother.
4. he treats my sister like crap.
5. im the youngest out of 4 kids, and he has 2 kids with another woman(his ex wife) and he pays their FULL childsupport, and we only get half, or sometimes way less than we are suppost too.
6.he sleeps with wemon who are 10 years younger than him.
7. he dosent know how to act around people.
8. him and my mom dont get along(of course)and everytime that it comes close for me to seeing him,my mom gets pissed, and she dosent talk to me for days.

so, anyway, i sent him that email saying that i didnt want to see him anymore. is it a bad thing that i sent him that email, and i dont feel bad about it??

-13/f

i don't know your life story or anything but, i hate to say that you probably can't make that decision for yourself.

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What kind of music do Tomboys listen to?

exactly what the person under me said.


don't fake what you like and don't like on how you'd like to be..

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okay so i have been sick for a long time, like 3 weeks or so and i have been to the doctor like 3 times. so the first time i went he gave me this migrane medicine, and it made my migranes even worse, it was horrible, and he gave me this other medicine cuase he thought i had a sinus infection, and i didn't. then second time he gave me this new kind of migrane medicine, and it didn't help at all either and i just kept feeling even worse and the migranes kept on coming along with feeling natious and being dizzy. so i decided to go back to the doctor and this time he gave me new medicine that is anti-depressant medicine, i am not using it for those purposes, but if you take a low dose of it, it is supposed to help prevent migranes. and along with that, he is not sure what is wrong with me, so he is making me go get on MRI, and since i am clostraphobic, they have to put me out. i have never gotten and MRI before and i am REALLY scared. i am getting it on saturday and im not getting the really easy brain scan one, im getting like a full body 2 hour one that is super loud i have heard. so, if anyone has ever gotten an MRI before please explain to me how it works and what happens and stuff? and also how fast do you get your results because i am also scared about those... thanks!

i've had so many mri's i'm not even kidding.


i'm not closterphobic or anything, but i really don't think they're that bad.


it will be really, really loud. and the doctors will tell you when they are done with certain tests. if it is in a children's hostpital, they will most likely have stickers on the inside.

i usually take naps in them. i've never had to be put to sleep to go into one.















how are you? how'd it go?

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Ok so i know you cant answer the question am I bisexual, but ok im 14, and have a bf, but like when i watch TV, like americas next top model, i feel like, Oh she's hot! not like oh she looks good, or i want to be like her, but shes smokin hot! Kinda like how guys would see a girl, but i also see guys like that. except guys a little more. I dont know its hard to explain, I feel kinda bad, b/c like when im with my bf and his freinds,and they say somethin about someone being hot, i feel like oh yeah she is, but i cant tell them that. especially with my boyfriend being there!!! its one of those things, that i will always keep inside me, even if i know i am bisexual, b/c i want to be "Normal" and not have to tell someone, and freak them out, b/c i know alot of people who hate gays. but then again my aunts are lesbians...

i dont know, its still hard to explain .but is this just a phase im going through, or what?

it might just be me and the girls i've talked to, but, all girls check out other girls.

i've learned to say yeah she's cute or something like that.


don't feel guilty, i couldn't ever imagine me doing anything with a girl but i can still think they're hot...



you're not the only one

if you make the first comment, your girlfriends will probably be like yeah..

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lately the friends ive been hangin out with for like a year have been gettin on my nerves. i mean like my x best friend is now like the person i most avoid because of how annoyin she has become, or was she always that way and i never noticed till now.all these ppl that i thought id be friends with for like ever, are now very annoying and i jsut dont want to have anything to do with em. i want to go and make new friends but does that make me a bad peron for ditchin em for other ppl?

no way dude.


i'm in the same situation.

you don't really need to leave them all at once. if you do it gradually, most likely they won't notice as much

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on my freewebs website my guestbook is screwed up. when people go on it it says they have to sign in to sign the guestbook. why does it do that? i set it so everyone could veiw the page but no one can even sign the page

you're either too young to have that website and it does it automatically or it's set on private and you don't realize it.

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ok so me and my friend rachel have been fightin a
lot but everytime it was her fault she would always want me to apologize to her.well my problem is this monday we were doin a group project in my 4th period class.it was all fine until rachel started to try and control everything that was going on.so she yelled at me because i was talking and when she told me i needed to listen to her i told her NO. she got really mad and threw a tantrum and threw a peace of paper which hit me in the head.I haven't talked to rachel since i am just like not friends with her anymore i just told her well im done with all the drama and stuff.my question is was that the right thing to do ?

in my opinion, that was the right thing to do.


you don't need drama in your life, and she has too much of it in hers.

a real friend doesn't try to control you r be the dominate figure in a relationship

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how do you tell if a 13-14 year old boy likes you? im in 8th grade and there are some guys im not too sure about.. like what hints would they be? thanks :) 14/f

same age right here...


i can't say that they will pick on and be mean to you, because that's a little 4th grade.


but most of the time, they might try to get to know you or they'll get their friends to talk to you and they'll try to make you laugh

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hey i am 17. i work at the after school program see i got a dance team and i wanna know if anybody knows the dance movies to high school musical what time is it and bop to the top. i dont have money to buy the dvd but pleade help

i know the dances and i hope i can help, but i don't know exactly what you're asking...

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