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hi, okay well my problem is about confidence. now everyone tells me without confidence, youre nothing. so i try to convince myself 24/7 to just be confident and comfortable. my main problem- no one ever asks me to be their girlfriend. ive basically never had a boyfriend before. now all of my friends tell me im so pretty, and i guess you could say i fit in with mostly everyone, and im pretty populaur. but if im so pretty, that why doesnt any guys ask me out? i mean everyday at school, atleast one person A DAY that comes up to me, says im so pretty. my bestfriend always gets guys asking her out, so being around everyone who always gets asked out, right infront of my face, kills me. it really sucks to feel like somethings wrong with myself. but my bestfriend also acts a little slutty. now dont think shes a slut, because shes not, shes just a "flirty person." so i thought that maybe if i was a little bit more flirty too, guys would consider me. well that hasnt worked, and now im just starting to realize thats not the kind of person i want to be. so im myself, and thats that. but i just dont get why there are no guys who ever like me.
i dont know what more to say.
please help,
thanks for reading.
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Guys are attracted to confident girls. They dont like girls who are unsure of themselves and dont feel comfortable in their own skin. And yes youre right..being confident is everything. You are going to be faced with so many challenges in your life and without confidence you are not going to be able to handle the real world. My advice is..hold your shoulders high and BELIEVE AND KNOW that you are worth it to a guy. When you do this..guys will notice.trust me..it worked for me.
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okay, so me and my best friend, we'll call her serena, we've been best friends since 2nd grade (we're in 10th now) but we know everything about each other and we are always there for each other. well she has a boyfriend but she still flirts with like all the guys at school and they of course flirt back. and so when im walking with her and someone comes up im just like stuck walking behind them. and im sick of it. when we are by ourselves everything is great but not at school. i feel like such a dork just tagging along. and i have other friends but they all like love serena and it seems like they would rather be around her. i really hate it but i feel like im just never going to be as good as her. how can i become more outgoing? or what can i do? but dont tell me to talk to her about it because that is not an option. its something i have to do alone. but please help!
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I used to have a friend like that..it seemed like she was the one that everyone loved and i was just her shadow..walking around with her. I finally got tired of that..and became more social in my classes..i exchanged a few numbers with some new ppl and began to hang out with them. And now..alot of my good friends..are the new ones i met. I still hang out with my other friend and when we go out i dont feel like the shadow anymore..i have gained enough confidence to love myself..and now im getting jsut the same amount of attention. People vibe off of people that are outgoing..and happy-go-lucky. And when boys see that you have more confidence..they will be drawn towards you more. Its all about self-confidence..it really does go a long way.
Hope i helped
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So there was this guy at work who I thought was adorable and I really wanted to get to know him but I had this issue where I didn't want to be overtally nice around him because I didn't want to appear cheesy. Eventually he started talking to me and we would strike up conversations. At work he would constantly walk by and rub up against me or would put his arm around me or I would sometimes catch him staring at me. He was even the first person to notice I had gotten my hair cut. He was constantly flirting with me and I thought that I was getting somewhere with him, then we'd have moments where we would just stop talking and stare at eachother and I kept expecting he would ask me for my number to hang out. But he never did. So finally one day I got the courage to call him up and ask him if he wanted to hang out and maybe go out to eat before he left for school. He said yes, but didn't seem too excited when I asked. Then I worked with him 2 days in a row before our "date" and he hardly said a word to me. Then when we did go out to eat(which he even forgot that we were supposed to hang out) it was awkward and he really didn't seem comfortable. I asked him questions about school and his plans to try to show him that I was interested in him and wanted to get to know him. We ended up splitting the check and he left abruptly... but not before inviting me to a party the next day. I don't understand what I did wrong. And if he didn't like me then why would he invite me to a party the next day? I need advice... please.... (link)
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This guy may be just a tease. Some people love to flirt and send out messages that theyre interested in you but when you start liking them..they pull away. Its a physcological game that is completely dumb in my opinion. You're too easy for him..no catch..soo if hes playing that game..then you why dont you play it too. And that party..tell him that you might come..see what he does. And about the moments that you stop talking..you guys are at work..soo maybe hes just trying to do his job with no distractions.
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Ok,so this year i want to take cheerleading and volley ball.
1.Cheerleading:
I really want to take it, i've wanted to take it since i was a little kid. I also want to take it to have fun, meet new people, just really get into school clubs. i have no experience,but i'm light, flexible, and i think i would be good at it. The thing is, i'm afriad i won't make it, should i go for it? Any tips, and what i need to do to get in?
2.Volley Ball:
I want to take this cause its fun,i'm really good at it. The problem is i've never tryed volley ball with out a hard ball. I'm kind of afriad i'll get hit in the face, i'm clumsy like that. Any suggestions on getting better?
Anyways, anything you know tips, how to get in, what you need to be able to do. Also, you don't have to answer both(even though it'd be greatt.), just answer the one you know,i wont mind. :]
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Cheerleading would be easier to get get into and make. I dont know if its hard at your school but most schools its not that hard to make the team. As long as you have a good attitude and practice the routine that made up for tryouts. Volleyball is a whole diff story..you may think you're good at it but it takes ALOT skill and practice. Its not something you just automatically learn and if you havent practiced at all and wanna try out for the team. I recommend getting a friend and practice passing..setting and hitting before tryouts. Soo what im trying to say is..if youre not really into volleyball and just have as an idea..then i would choose cheerleading. You have to be committed to volleyball because its not easy.
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After I eat meals, I go straight to the bathroom within 10-20 minutes. I literally "empty my tank" after meals, and I don't know why. My mom says it's okay because it cleans me out. I'm trying to lose weight, and I am, but is this normal? I go so quickly after I eat meals, and I really GO, if you catch my drift haha. But could this become a problem? I don't want to have diarreah (sp) or anything like that, and I don't want there to be big problems at school after lunch. Is this normal? (link)
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I have the same problem..like RIGHT AFTER i eat i use the bathroom..i cant even wait till i get home..i use the bathroom at the restaurants. This problem is totally normal..it just means you have a fast metabolism..and if you eat alot of fiber..this could also add to your problem as well. Fiber makes you go to the bathroom.
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Ok firstly, i know your not doctors but i just want some kind of advice, anything you can give.
Secondly, i dont need you moaning at me about worrying this and worrying that.
Thirdly, dont tell me to go to the doctors, ive tried, they make you wait weeks to get in, i cant wait that long i need some kind of advice.
Ok, im 16, and my periods keep missing lately, and i know it may be nothing and its normal for teens but im the sort of person that has to look into things, i know i shouldnt but i cant help it, its like i HAVE to do it. Ive had my period for years now, and its always been fine.
I read this online, and its kind of worried me..
Disorder: Premature Ovarian Failure (POF) (endocrine disorder)
Causes: Viral infection, exposure to radiation, chromosomal problems, other genetic conditions
Symptoms: Most common: absent periods, irregular periods, hot flashes. Other: Irritability, sleeping disorders, night sweats, vaginal dryness, bladder control problems, mood swings
This can cause you to not be able to have children!!
So my question is.. what are the chances of this??
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Well..i have heard of this disorder..but..you need to go down the list of symptoms and ask yourself if you get any of those symptoms. Also..my friend's period has been irregular for a couple of months..she thought it was a disorder like this but it turns out shes lost alot of weight in a short period of time and that has ruined her monthly period..her doctor said shes not sure if she can have kids in the future..if you have lost alot of weight..it may be that. I hope i helped..im not an expert but alot of my friends have these kinds of problems
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OK, so we know what lust and love is.. but is it bad to just be in 'lust' with somebody rather than 'love' even though you're like really good friends with the person? (link)
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Yes it does..this just means that you're not really wanting an emotional attachment just a physical one. This happens to me all the time..seems like i lust more than love. Dont worry its normal!
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whats the best love song you know?
Not a crummy old one but one that kids would listen to today (link)
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Aqualung-Strange and Beautiful..great song!
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Three different people in my grade told me that I have a reputation of being a bitch. When I told my friends this they were like you are def. not a bitch.. but when you get mad you get really mad. Which is true like I get really mean when I am mad at someone. Anyway, I don't want the reputation of a bitch cause I'm not and I don't want to be and I don't try to be. How can I not have that reputation anymore? (link)
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I have the same problem..when im really upset i just get to angry and i cant control it. Instead of getting mad about this..and being a "bitch"..try to change your habits. When you get mad at someone...instead of being really mean and defensive..try to calm yourself and think rationally. Also when youre at school or work or wherever youre hearing these people calling you a bitch..be EXTRA nice to them when you see them..kill them with kindness. Eventually these people will change their opinion about you. Hope i helped
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Female, 5'7"
I am not really comfortable with my height, because all my friends are around 5'3-4", and I feel like a giant. Anwyays, I weigh about 152 lbs. Im pretty atheltic, and my arms are "big" because of the sports I play, as well as my legs, and you can clearly see the definition in my calf's. I dont think im REALLY fat, but is this too much.. should I lose some weight??? (link)
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well first of all you have an athletic body because you play sports and that is not a crime. But i had the same problem a couple of months ago. I play basketball..volleyball and do gymnastics and i was soo insecure about my muscles. But i ran at least two miles everyday..and did not drink sodas..or eat any sweets. I lost weight..and i feel great about myself. I still have muscle but by running..it targeted every area of my body and i lost some weight.
Hope this helps!
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my legs "jiggle" when i walk. what foods should i avoid and what excersizes should i do so that they will be firm by june 21st?
and as for my abs - what foods should i avoid and what excersizes should i do so that it will be completely flat by june 21st? when i wear jeans my stomach hangs over. please help! (link)
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Losing weight is hard..i went through the same problems a couple of years ago. But you need to eat healthy..avoid soft drinks, sugar drinks and sweets. Eat lots of vegetable and lean meats.. fish is really good for you even if some ppl hate it. Also eat lots of fiber foods...fiber helps you stay full for longer..so you wont eat as much. Fiber is in apples..beans..potatoes..and many more foods (look them up). Also..walk AND run everyday. Walking and running target all areas of the body...plus you dont have to go a gym everyday to do it. Another tip for healthy eating is instead of eating 3 big meals a day..eat 6 little meals (smaller portions)
Hope everything works out.
PS. DO NOT STARVE YOURSELF i repeat DO NOT STARVE YOURSELF.
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I am a freshman in highschool and i received papers from my school and the superintendant Stating that i could have the option of graduating a year early. which would mean i would be in the class of '09 instead of 2010. I already have my career planned out and what i want to do with my life and so i should accept it and graduate early right?? Well im not so sure that i want to. i mean, i dont want to leave my friends, and i know you guys will probably say " Put your life infront of your friends ". But im not to sure on what i want to do. Any suggestions? (link)
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You must be a very intelligent student and that is a great thing. But..highschool is not just about school but experiences that you have in highschool..expecially with your friends. If you have a set of close friends..my advice would be graduating with your friends. When i look back on my highschool experience i want to be with my friends till the end.
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im really lazy i hardly ever do anything for school and I want to get A's but i get stressed out when i do my work. (link)
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I have the same problem. All through highschool i never studied..i did okay in my classes but i wanted to do better because the truth is...i wasnt sure if i was gonna get into college with my grades. So the middle of my junior year i started buckling down and working hard. I found that i got really stressed out when i did my work and i ran into a problem i couldnt solve. But i just relaxed and thought..im gonna do the best i can do and thats all i can do. With that thought..my grades improved because i wasnt putting so much pressure on myself. My advice..relax..do your best..and eventually things will go your way.
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I don't know what to do with my life. I'm not great at anything. Like..every person has something.. like great writing skills or a band... but I have nothing.
What am I supposed to do? (link)
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Wow..ive totally been in your position before. You are good at something..you might have not found it yet. You need to get out there and try new things. But you dont need to put so much pressure on yourself to find something that you are just great at. You might not be the greatest at it at first but maybe with some practice you will be. Dont compare to someone else either..thats the worst thing to do. It messes with your mind. Just find something that you like..and are happy with. Everyone has a niche..you just havent found it yet. Good luck!
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ok I recently met a guy through his mother, they recently moved into town and asked me to go to a movie with the family. I dont know if he liked hanging out with me or not, he gave me a ride home and actually took me to his apt while he changed clothes before we went over to his parents house again, and didn't take me home until 12:30am but I dont know if i should ask him to hang out again or not. (link)
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Well obviously he is somewhat interested in you if he asked you go to a movie. Dont worry about what he thinks..have fun..be yourself and if he notices that youre having fun hes gonna like you. Guys like fun girls..they like girls that are exciting. So dont worry..have fun and be confident and hes def. gonna like you!
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I've been using jergans natural glow for over a week, and it worked pretty good. But it says you'll get maximum color after a week. If I keep using it, will I keep getting tanner or not? Because the insides of my arms & other aread are still pretty pale.
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No. That lotion is just to give a glow not get you tanner. If youre trying to get really tan than this lotion is not for you. I would either go get a spray tan or use "self tanner" lotion. Neutrogena is a great brand for self tanner...it doesnt turn you orange.
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I have a really huge problem.
Anytime I ever see a picture of myself, I feel so sick and I want to cry because I look so awful. I know I'm not beautiful but the way I look in pictures is so hideous compared to the way I look when I see myself in the mirror. And it's destroying me emotionally. My friend took a picture of me last night and brought it to school this morning and showed it to me and I had to run to the bathroom and cry because I was so upset. I already have so much trouble with self-esteem and this isn't helping. I don't know what to do. I've spoken to my mom but she's gotten so tired of hearing me talk bad about myself that she just ignores me.
I'm not sure what I'm asking for, here, but I'd like some advice on how to deal with this. I'm starting to consider platic surgery and this problem with my looks has become an obsession. What do I do? (link)
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You might have an image disorder. Millions of people have this disorder and usually they do not seek help. I can understand if its not a very good picture of you..but to destroy you emotionally is a little sketchy. I would go see professional help. Dont think youre adnormal..MANY people have this..actually one of my friends has this disorder. Soo..i wouldnt worry about that. But please go see help. This problem can be fixed.
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Hey Im almost 14 and I still havent gotten my period yet. Is this normal? (link)
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Yes that is normal. My friend didnt get hers until she was 16. This just means youre a late bloomer. Be happy that you dont have it..its a pain.
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Lately, Ive realy wanted ot become balimic or anterexic.. the thing is i cant. i love my boyfriend to death and he would flip if he found out.. also i would loose all trust in my parents.... soo what do i do?? is cutting back food a badd thing???
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Cutting back food is not necessarily a bad thing. You def. dont need to go anorexic or bulimic..that can lead to bad health problems in the future. If want to lose weight, excercise and eat healthy. Eat 6 little meals a day..instead of 3 meals. Avoid snacking and bread. Also sodas are the worst for you..try to drink water, 100% juice or tea. Dont drink diet soda..that is not any better than the regular soda. Also excercise like 30 min to an hr a day. Sports is a great way to get in shape and make you feel good about yourself. Not only are you burning off fat but youre playing a sport you really like. I recommend either an aerobic class or sport.
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can anyone think of any reason why a bf wouldnt be happy for his gf if she found a job that she really liked?
I'll right anyone who answers with a 5. Thanks! (link)
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He's jealous because youre paying more attention to the job (which you really like) and youre not paying attention to him nemore. Need nemore advice? just ask!
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