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jealous..
okay, so me and my best friend, we'll call her serena, we've been best friends since 2nd grade (we're in 10th now) but we know everything about each other and we are always there for each other. well she has a boyfriend but she still flirts with like all the guys at school and they of course flirt back. and so when im walking with her and someone comes up im just like stuck walking behind them. and im sick of it. when we are by ourselves everything is great but not at school. i feel like such a dork just tagging along. and i have other friends but they all like love serena and it seems like they would rather be around her. i really hate it but i feel like im just never going to be as good as her. how can i become more outgoing? or what can i do? but dont tell me to talk to her about it because that is not an option. its something i have to do alone. but please help!
15/f
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Yo.
To be more outgoing/noticed, join clubs in your school and meet new people. Start more convorsations with them.
For the flirting problem, you might need a little help. Maybe you should talk to other friends about it. Or go alone, whichever you feel better with.
More on the outgoing thing. Start convo's with the people that Serena hangs out with. So what if they are guys??? Hopefully you can talk to serena about the flitrting thing and become outgoing all alone :)
Hope I helped! 8-)
~~YOLIV~~
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I used to have a friend like that..it seemed like she was the one that everyone loved and i was just her shadow..walking around with her. I finally got tired of that..and became more social in my classes..i exchanged a few numbers with some new ppl and began to hang out with them. And now..alot of my good friends..are the new ones i met. I still hang out with my other friend and when we go out i dont feel like the shadow anymore..i have gained enough confidence to love myself..and now im getting jsut the same amount of attention. People vibe off of people that are outgoing..and happy-go-lucky. And when boys see that you have more confidence..they will be drawn towards you more. Its all about self-confidence..it really does go a long way.
Hope i helped
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I know how you feel. You have known your friend for a long time, and she seems to be better than you. You don't necessarily need to talk to HER about it. She is just naturally more flirtatious than other people you know, and instead of tagging along with her when she is on a flirt stroll( I don't know how to say that in a nicer way, sorry!) talk to some of your other friends instead.
I had a friend who always acted like she was better than me around guys, she'd hit me to show off in front of the guys, but in the end, I found out that some of the guys liked me for my personality, because it was different from hers.
Whatever you do, don't change yourself to be exactly like her, be yourself, but try to make friends with some guys who sit around you in lessons. Ask them whether you can borrow a pen or so on.
So the next time she starts flirting with guys, you can go talk..or flirt :) with some of the guys you have made friends with.
I hope this helped..and sorry I said guys..a LOT. :P
I understand if I didn't make much sense. :/
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