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I have an issue with popularity and what others think of me. I seriously can't stop thinking about it, and basing everything I do around it. I miss when I could just be myself and do whatever! How can I get over this!?
15/f by the way. (link)
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hey,
I believe everyone goes through that stage at least one point in their lifetime. You see, people are going to judge you for the simplest things, we all know. But you just have to remember that being yourself is the best thing you can be. Living up to saomeone's opinions aren't going to make things better. Yes, I also miss when I could just be myself and do whatever!...uggh, life sucks sometimes, but it all depends on the way you live and the choices you make in life.
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thanks this helpeed alot
I moved on with life
and im doing better
I have a new bf and he is so funny
but thanks for all the help
Sis15 (link)
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i'm glad to hear that you found a new bf. i'm happy for you. and your welcome..it's good to know that your happy.
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okay
im 15/f I liked this boy who asked me out one month and one week ago.We dated for a month and on our one month anniversary he dumped me.He said he loved me and he wanted us to be together forever.I finally said i loved him back.I am mad.I just can't understand what went wrong.I know i did nothing wrong.........So now what?
question is........Should I start dating and make him realize he was wrong and he'll miss me but still go out with the one that makes my ex jealous?Should I tell my ex how I feel but yet I want nothing to do wth him anymore?What do I do?
If there is anyone who can help great if not thanx anyways.
Hopefully he realizes Im the one he loves.
Signed,
Sis15 (link)
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hey Sis15,
uhgghh MEN, can't understand them..never will. NO, you shouldn't date someone to spite ur ex. Because imagine how that boy will feel, he'll feel just like you felt when your ex dumped you. Personally, I don't think you should tell your ex how you feel. How dare he dumps you on your 1 month anniversary after you finally said you loved him back. You have the right to be mad, because honestly i would be mad too. So basically, it's best to move on. You're young, live your life,..and trust me..you'll definitely find the right guy that's worth your time!!!
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I don't think he's gay, but I'm not sure..
What I really want is like a brother relationship with him. (link)
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Like i said before, just really get to know him. get to know everything about him!...
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Ok, please hear me out, and give your honest opinion.
I am a male in high school and am a straight guy. But there is this one kid that I can't get off my mind.
He is a very good looking guy and he's not mean or anything, I just feel like I want to talk to him all the time and be with him. But every time that we talk I feel like I'm the one that keeps starting conversations and he never starts them..
I don't think I 'like' him, I'm not sure.
Like for example, he's a trouble maker but not a bad one, and every time he does something stupid, I'm always the one to look at his gorgeous eyes and smile and his smile is so awesome I can't even describe it. And the way he smiles at me I feel like there's something more.. but I'm not sure. :(
So as I said, I'm not gay, but I just want to bring up this relationship as friends and see where that goes.
How can I get him to talk to me more?
We talk on AIM, Facebook, MySpace, but we end up just running out of things to talk about..
ALSO! How can I get him to talk about his life? Like what can I say to him that will get him talking about himself personally.
Thanks!
-AJ
PS: I'm 15 and he's 14, we're both in the same grade. (link)
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hey AJ,
i appreciate the fact that you came to me for advice. And of course i'd hear you out, i treat everyone who asks me a question or wants my opinion as if it's one of my best friends.
Well to start off, do you know if your friend is gay? Because maybe that could help you sort out your feelings a little bit more.
Ok, well since you talk to him online most of the time, that's really good..and i'm prettyy good at starting conversation's...ok let's see you'll always get a decent convo by asking random questions, i know it sounds crazy or impossible, but Oh my dude it works!..lol
ex.
YOU SAY- "While playing paintball has someone ever shot you directly in the face?"
HE SAYS- "YES...that FU**IN SUCKS..but i got em' back..and....."
YOU SAY- "yea well, when my friend shot me in the face..."
i know it's corny..but i really don't know what guys talk about..but you know what i mean right?!
It's ALWAYS good to bring up something that has happened to you, and so..he could relate..or probably bring up something similar!
And once you start to have those random moments with him, the more you find about him, then he can get into personal information about himself.
oh and maybe you're just a little bi-curious and there's nothin wrong with finding your inner self.
If you need ANYMORE advice, feel free to come to me, not matter how long it is!!!
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16/f, he's 18/m
okay..um...we talk on MSN and myspace and I see him like every other day.
1. whenever I put up new pictures on myspace...he compliments me...but he doesn't comment them on myspace, he just sends me messages telling me how pretty the pictures are.
2. He tells me I'm hot and pretty and whatever
And here's the biggest "creeping out" factor :
yesterday, he told me that my pictures make him masturbate. WTF. and then it's like
*pause on MSN*
oops, sorry..I'm just *ahem*
WTF and then...he's like..You made me come.
What-the-fuck.
if this happened to you, wouldn't you be creeped out? so, is my being creeped out the LEAST bit rational? :|!! what should I do? I'm kinda shy... (link)
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hey,
this deff. has happened to me before i'm 15 && a female...it's just something that most guys usually comeout and say..yea i was a little buit creeped out too..when he first said it to me..nbut it's just a guy thing..don't worry
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okay im a natural flirt and sometimes i dont even know when im flirting just my friends tells me that im flirting and such and when i like someone and they like me back i always back off or my feelings for them starting to fade away and stuff why is it like that? i never had a boyfriend do you think i have a commitment issue? even though they are hot and cute and all i lose interest if they likeme back what does it mean? (link)
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hey,
WOW you are NOT alone,i'm EXACTLY like you. It's like I can flirt with any guy or a guy that's "hot" without even liking them. It's like kind of fun in a weird way, and then you get that after feeling..lol. But then when it comes to a guy liking me, i tend to get shy or back off like you. Well, i'm thinking you DO sort of have a commitment issue. Because, think about it. If a guy comes along and you like him, wouldn't you want to flirt or "get to know him?"Since you could flirt AND THAT'S IT, like no relationship or any of that..that's all you want to be, you just don't know it yet. My guess, is that you probabaly enjoy being single,end of story.=]
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Look...i really like this guy and he really likes me but i also like this other guy...and i think about them both all the time....wat do i do? the guy that likes me back means the world to me while the other one is just a "man Whore" but i like them both...help me (link)
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hey,
well you should definitely go for the guy that likes you. You like him, he likes you, and prerry soon you guys will eventually start going out! =]
Whereas, the other guy is a man whore, your not sure if he likes you..and most of the time if there's a guy that you like and that guy likes you back, there's a tendency to like that other guy more...so i'm saying go for the guy that likes you back! =]
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Can someone please tell me what to do? I'm really crying my heart out right now because I think my best friend is mad at me, but I don't know what I did! It was maybe 2 days ago that when I'd try talking to her, or asking her why she's mad, she would just ignore me. She used to hate these 6th graders on my bus because they were annoying but now she's talking to them like she's their best friend. (We're in 7th grade) I don't know what I did! Sometimes she'd talk to mee like nothing was wrong, and then I'd try to talk to her again, she'd ignore me! Then it would happen again. I'm not sure if she's mad at me and my other 2 best friends, or just me. Sometimes she'd make gestures that told she was annoyed or something. Yesterday I asked her why she was mad, and she said she wasn't, she said it over and over again, but I know it's a lie, you can tell she's lying. Today she ignored me, and then again I tried asking her why she was mad, guess what? She STILL ignored me, and I was literally about to burst into tears but I held it in. I can barely breathe now because I'm crying so hard. We ARE really good friends, I swear we are, or maybe were, I could tell her ANYTHING, we've been BESTIES since last year. A LOT of people which most are my friends, would make fun of her all the time! And she wouldn't mind! We've been doing it since last year! I don't think she minds, but if she did, she would've been mad wayyyy earlier last year. I keep saying sorry, even if I didn't do anything, I don't know what I did. Please don't say to back off because I know! I just really want to why she's mad, and what's wrong. Please help me, tell me what to do. She's changed. She's plays this game "Maplestory" and she's obsessed with it! I'm SERIOUS. She's going to marrry some guy she met, and maple, her maple BF and friends are consuming her life, I miss my old friend. I know she pick her BF over her friends anyday. Then her Maplestory friends. I think it's really stupid that she's LOVE some guy over the internet, I just can't convince that it's wrong. I've told her plenty of times how dangerous it is, and how it's just useless, but nothing works. This isn't just with her. Last year I had the BEST OF FRIENDS. Now I barely get to see HALF of them, they moved, they don't have ANY of my classes, OR they've moved on and made new best friends. Yes. They ditched me. This one girl we were BEST BUDDIES last year. We could tell eachother ANYTHING. We hung out a lot. If she had a Myspace last year, she would be my #1 in my top friends, now I wouldn't even put her in there. I think her preppy life has changed her. Same with some of my other friends. I just miss my old friends. Where did they go? Maplestory has changed my friend. Most of everyone changed, and I feel like a piece of old trash/news to them, cause they have "better" friends to hang out with. Trust me, I DO NOT have the guts to confront them. I just can't. So please, someone help, I'm stilling crying HARD. I just miss my friends.
She's also keeping me as friend on Myspace, and I'm still number one on her top friends! I just don't understand. Why won't she tell me? I'll understand. I'll understand if she thinks I'm annoying, I know I am, if that's the case. It also seem like she would talk to everyone else, except for 3 CERTAIN people. I'm one of them, and the 2 are my other best friends. We're the top 3 who like to make fun of her. In a funny way. On Myspace, she still talks about her BFF's which she states, is us 3, but she's probably lazy to delete it. If she does decide to stop acting this way, then I won't know if she's just faking our friendship, which I know I'm not faking. (link)
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hey,
Your a good friend..scratch that..a GREAT FRIEND..if you're trying to find what's wrong with your bestfriend and she's giving you the cold shoulder and you can't take that for answer...GIRL YOU GO GUTS, you have a really good heart!!!!!
first off, you have a right to be mad,angry, confused,sad,depressed or all of the above. i'm a sophmore(10th grader) in highschool and i'm ALWAYS going through what you're currently going through. Your right about your best friend being mad at you, so that's why you need to just act like you don't care anymore. TRUST ME, after 2 days she's going to be like hey____(your name) and then act like nothing ever happened between you guys. this WILL DEFINITELY WORK..100% guarantee. And don't stress about it..you guys will be friends in a couple of days, just watch and see..good friends always end up back together. Oh, and other things might be bothering her too, so don't think it's you. And she might get tired of you saying "sorry" or "what's wrong."
"don't make someone a priority if they don't make you an option" [keep that in mind :]
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i wanna a plain white t-shirt but i want it tight and girly and with sleeves so it cuz im a girl and when i where plain t-shirts in public it makes me feel wierd so do you guys know where i can get a plain white shirt thats tight with sleeves that is cheep like under $10 (link)
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Well you should definitely go to Rave, Rainbow,or Madrag. I love those clothing stores because the shirts have nice designs and the t-shirts that are plain look fabulous. and the best part of all, they're cheap! so u should DEFINITELY try those stores.
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any songs under that genre that you really like?
i wanah know :)
name of song - whos it by. (link)
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ok. i'll name a few =]
Hate That I Love you- Neyo & Rihanna
Bed-J.Holiday
How do i Breathe-Mario
Teachme-Musiq Soulchild
Good Life-Tpain
Get Money-50 Cent
Kiss Kiss-Chris Brown & Tpain
Can't Leave Em Alone-Ciara & 50 Cent
Give It To You-Eve & Sean Paul
(i don't know if you would consider this hip hop but -->)
Clothes off-Gym Class Heroes
Be With Me-J.Holiday
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Ok so my BF and I have been going out almost 3 months, but yesterday he broke up with me, cause we haven't seen each other this summer, but school starts in 4 days. Why would he break up with me if we are gong to be seeing each other everyday? Do you think he is telling me the truth of why he broke up with me? What should I do?
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NO. he lied. And i understand how you're feeling right now. DON'T let him get to you, no matter what happens, because if he sees that you still like/love him, he'll just enjoy the fact that his ex is still drooling over him. If you see him in school, act like you've never seen him in you're life. Just remember that there's plenty of other fish in the sea, and there's a better guy out there for you.
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AHHH!!
please helpp.
okayy this is going to be kinda longg but sum1 please please please help mee
i like this guy and ive liked him for a while
he told me when we 1st became friends he didnt go out with freshman
and i respected that
so i waited until the end of the year
and nothing happened
but he kept flirting with me constantly..i mean like unclip my bra in the middle of class, kick my chair, always whipser stuff to me ( we have close last names so we sat close to each other)
and we would hang out everyday and when we hung out he would lay on me ( ex. my boobs)
and we would watch scary movies and cuddle
and he would call me everynight (school nights) and we would talk for like 3 or 4 hours until like 2 in the morning
but anywayy..thats the info you sorta need to know
just recently i told him i liked him and i asked how he felt back..he totally changed the subject and i asked him again and he signed off (i did this online) but the 2nd time he calls me later and asks me to sneak out with him...i didnt go.
so finally i bugged him so much and i got an answer..
he told me he liked me but prolly nuthings gunna happen between us and i was crushed and im told him i was confused cuz he "likes me alot" but "probably nothings going to happen becuase he cant predict the future"
and i cried for about a week
i really think i love this guy
and you know i wasnt letting him hold me back i hooked up with this other guy and he found out
he was CRUSHED. he was so mad he brought a bat the next time he knew i was with him
and then he told me he didnt want to ask me out becuase he "didnt want to ruin our friendshp"
and my couin whos 30 ( i talked to her about this)
told me thats a bunch of sh*#%
and she said to see is he relle likes me..dont im him..call him ..hang out with him and if he realizes it then hell do something
so it was abotu 2 weeks and i get a random im "hi i miss you =["
so she told me that he just likes to be liked and now that im showing him i dont care hes realizing like oh sh*% maybe shes moving on
but grrr i like him soo much
and i dont know what to do
pleasee shud i im him?
does he like me?
im soo sorry this is so long by the way
but please,,, HELPP!!
thanksss in advance !! (link)
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HEY! First off, i understand how you're feeling and if i were you, i'd be confused too. Apparently, this guy is playing with your heart. Your trusting him with your heart, and all he's doing is just dropping it, over and over and over again. This guy likes to be liked. He likes the feeling that, a girl is obsessing over him.He DOESN'T like you. And every time he breaks your heart, he realizes what he did and tries to suck up to you..like ex. oh i'm sorry, or it's not going to work, or maybe we can just be friends..KRAP LIKE THAT..the best thing to do is just, FORGET about him.I have been in a VERY similar situation, as you are currently in right now, so i understand that you can't just get rid of your feelings over him, it's going to take time..maybe alot of time, but it's not good to like a guy, that is toying with your emotions and is basically wasting your time. Your beautiful, smart, and funny. you deserve better, a guy that will actually be upfront about his feelings and like you as much as you will like him.
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Okay the last advice i got was great but i need more, this is really long but it's really important to me. So he sort of talks to me at my bro's baseball games from the dug out, he teases me, we laugh sometimes, i think he might like me, but he's not making a move, the last game is soon, and he goes to a different school then me, i don't want to just tell him i like him, how can i drop hints: hints that would make him realize that i like him without seeming slutty, and by the way his mom will probably be about 20 feet away.
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oh. man..this is a toughie..lol since mama dukes is around.
Since the last game is approaching..keep doing what you're doing. Laugh, smile, and just hold a conversation with him, like you've been doing. Then at the last game, ask if he wants to hangout or something..movies..mall,,etc.I'm pretty sure he'll accept your invite. Then exchange numbers and/or your myspace...or aim if you have one.
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How do you know when to keep trying to make it work or give up entirely in a relationship? (link)
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it all depends on the situation.
FEEL FREE, to inbox me to talk more about the situation. i have time,,lots of time..so idc how long it is.
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ok, i get really really bad chapped lips. like they get bumps on them, and swell up and no matter what i do fixes them.. can you tell me how to get rid of it? thanks (link)
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heh...i feel your pain =].i use to be like you too. but what helped me was using, VASELINE!!!..yes vaseline...is a cure to any chapped lips..severe or not. Just apply it daily instead of buying those CHEAP chapsticks, because those never work. they just make your lips worse and itchy.
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ok so, i know there are a lot of questions out there like what do guys see in girls, or the opposite. well thats sorta what im getting to here. im 15/f and im having so much trouble here, and i need some real advice, not just a stupid answer. i know this is wierd, but ive only had one boyfriend, and it was elementary school for a long time but i dont really count it, because we didnt kiss and stuff, i mean come on i still thought boys had cooties. but i feel really out of place at my school and with my friends. they all have had boyfriends and i havent even had my first kiss. i dont think im that pretty but im not like hideous. im friends with guys but when i start having feelings for them, they like my other friends and it hurts everytime. guys see me as more of a friend, not a girlfriend. i give such good advice to my friends on there relationships, but i dont get why because im not experienced at all. and it just hurts me so much because im helping other people and not getting in return. i try to tell my friends, but they go oh your pretty, youll find someone. they dont give me any advice at all. and i dont know i think theres something wrong with me because no guy really likes me, theres nothing really special about me or anything.
my real question that needs to be answered is what can i do to make guys want me, like what do guys look for in a girl. how do i catch guys attention. ijust feel like theres no guy at my school right for me, even though i know i dont know them all. i just dont know what to do, i feel so bad for myself because im a sophomore and i havent even had my first kiss. and i dont know anymore. i get so sad because my close friends know, and they make fun of me behind my back. i think they feel bad for me but they dont know what to say. they invite me to movies but they always have guys there and there all make out and stuff. and i just sit there.
some please help me i dont know whats wrong, i need to change so guys like me. sorry its long, thank you so much if you read all of it (link)
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omg. you are like a sister from another mister. NO JOKE...yes, i COMPLETELY understand where you are coming from. I haven't ever had a boyfriend or my 1st kiss. i'm 14/f..and i'm a SOPHMORE. SO I CAN RELATE. YOU are not the problem. the guys you meet are. See most guys are interested in breasts,butt,sluttiness. But then again, some boys like a girl, that isn't slutty or stupid. And you're one of them. Most guys are blind to a girl's inner beauty and their wonderful personality. You probably are just meeting or hanging out with the same types of guys like i was doing. You need to broaden your horizons..and when you meet a guy just flirt and have confidence, AND DON'T FORGET TO SMILE [guys love that..TRUST ME]..And there is a guy for you at your school..you were seeing but wasn't really looking. But don't worry,becuase what happened to me was, a guy that i never expected to like, is now talking to me and he's about to be my boyfriend. The point is that once a guy you like, and he likes you back. You will feel so happy and wonderful. You'll feel head over heels even though your not in love..lol...It's just the best feeling that i've ever had in a long time, and i'm sure any girl loves that feeling too.
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how my i hide my top friends on myspace?
thanks (link)
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you can go on
www.whateverlife.com
OR
www.myspacegens.com
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13/f.Okay yeah I know it's kind of retarded thinking about it now,but it's so pathetic that I've never had a boyfriend before.Ever.I mean I flirt alot,but psh.It's dumb.I feel so stupid sometimes..I just wish I could find someone who liked me too.Liking the person I like now,is worthless.It's not going to go anywhere,considering the age difference >.<
Help please?
I have no idea what to do.
And I think about it everyday.. (link)
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heyyyy. girl u are NOT alone..lol
i'm 14 yrs.old n i'm going to be a sophmore in the fall and i haven't even been kissed yet. and i'm in the same positon as you are, i like someone and it's worthless because it's not going anywhere at all..lol .but the plus side about being single is that, you can always like someone else..and have feelings for a person. Unlike, if you had a boyfriend, you could only like him and he'd be your only option to have feelings for. As you can see being single isn't a punishment, it's an invitation for flirting and just enjoying your carefree lifestyle...THERE IS NO SHAME IN OUR GAME!!!..lol
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what are some of the scariest movies you've ever seen? i need a really scary one! thankss =) (link)
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mine would be, Joy Ride!!!!
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