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Q: How was Nikki Reed discovered? Please state the source you got the information from. Thankyou;)
http://www.imdb.com/name/nm1223023/

that has what shes been in. and shes probably around 130 lbs...not sure though. less than 140, and more than 120. so around there seems right. hope i helped!

Q: I have no clue what to give my boyfriend for our 7 month-aversary.
NO CLUE at all?
any help??
hm. me and my boyfriend only gave gifts for the six month than every year anniversary. and on birthdays and christmas and such haha. if we gave it every month, i would be searching for gifts every day! well things ive given my boyfriend were a veryyy nice watch (you could get one at macys, its a really nice gift thats never wrong. theyll use it their whole life), the clocky alarm clock (because he cant get up in the morning. it takes him like an hour to wake up) a cd and tshirt of his favorite band, a wheezy from toy story plush doll bc of an inside joke, tickets to a concert, tickets to a yankees game, a photoalbum with photos of us inside, posters, a keychain, massage oil ;], headphones, a strap and picks for his guitar bc his strap broke, and books because he lieks reading.

It all depends on the kind of person he is. if you want to message me with more information on the kinda guy he is and what youve given him, i can give you more details. a really nice present would always be a frame with your favorite picture inside =] or a slideshow of pictures with music. those are if moneys a little tight. If you want to splurge, and hes into jewelry, get him a cool chain with a cool pendant, or a watch if you are willign to spend from $50-$200. If he loves music, get him cool speakers. If he loves a store get him a gift card take him to a concert or sports event. or give him massage oil and tell him youll give him a massage whenever he wants haha. it is a gift that keeps on giving. if he had a bad day or is stressed, then give him a shoulder massage. there are many at victorias secret for liek $20

hope i helped! message me if you need anything else!

Q: okay, i know that no one's face is perfectly symmetrical, but mine is so different on my left side than my right. my eye like droops down naturally or something and my other eye looks normal, and my eyebrows are different, too. no one has ever told me anything about it and i don't pay attention enough to notice in the mirror but when i see pictures of myself it's so noticeable. it makes me really self-conscious, is anyone else like this? or am i just worrying too much?
haha i have kinda the same problem. one eye is smaller than the other and lower down on my face, and i have 2 totally different eyebrows. no one ever mentions it to me but i told my sister and shes liek i never noticed until you told me and i still can barely see it. for my eyebrows, i asked my eyebrow lady to try to take more off hte one that was bigger and try to make them look as similar as possible, and i go in every 3 weeks to make sure they stay that way. youre worrying, but its understandable, i used to feel really self conscious about it too. i hope i helped!

Q: My boyfriend calls me every night and I absolutely love talking to him but I don't know what to talk about any more. It seems like we've talked about most things and I don't want to sound stupid and repeat myself over and over. I also try not to talk about sex because we both want to wait until we're married (maybe to each other in the future even, which would be so awesome!). I need some really good topics to talk to him on the phone about.

So, what are some topics you talk about on the phone with your boyfriend? ANYTHING is appreciated!
Tell him about your day. Ask about his. Tell him what you love about him. Talk about music, and concerts that you wanna see. Things you want to do, and places you want to travel. Ask him about places he wants to go. Ask about colleges and sports. make plans for dates, talk about books youve read. Pretty much think of things that youve done and you wnat to do and tell him. hope i helped!

Q: Can anyone tell me how old do you have to be to work at mcdonalds?
Idk if its different in different states, but i believe you have to be 14 to work the drive thru or register. Hope i helped! :)

Q: me and my boyfriend have done everything and had sex twice. whenever he fingers me i dont orgasm. sometimes hes too rough but sometimes it feels good yet i still dont orgasm. wen we have sex it just feels like its going into my stomach and it hurts sometimes. the only time ive ever orgasmed is when we dry hump or liike wen i rub against something. why cant i orgasm? and is it weird if i start moaning when i orgasm when we are dry humping with clothes on haha i pretended i didnt have one the 1st time i got 1 because i didnt know if it was weird.
1-if hes too rough, then tell him to be gentler. you can NEVER enjoy it if youre not comfortable or it hurts. Try masturbating one night, by fingering yourself, not rubbing against something. Try different ways of rubbing yourself and start off slowly then go faster and find what you like best. then when he tries to finger you again, show him how you like it.
2-The first time you have sex, it does hurt, but it shouldnt continue to hurt again. For me, it hurts for like the first like minute then it feels great. So when you have sex, ask him to eat you out or something before, so you can get very wet and relaxed.
3-If you do orgasm when you try hump, dont be afraid to moan and let go of your emotions. Youll enjoy it so much more if you dont hold it back. Its not like you cant orgasm, you just havent figured out what pleases you yet. Experiment with your boyfriend until you BOTH enjoy it. You shouldnt have sex because he wants you too, you should have sex because you love him and you both feel good when doing it. Be safee (: Hope i helped!

Q: i have this black, right below the knee cocktail dress and i was wondering what halloween costume i could make out of it.... any ideas? its got crenolin so its kinda puffy
-Some of my friends are being cats ahah. Theyre wearing black dresses and just pinning on a tail and getting cat ears. You can also be a mouse or something.

-Add a pink ladies jacket from greece and some of those sunglasses and you can be a pink lady!

i dont know what else to do haha. Hope i helped!

Q: I was wondering, me and my boyfriend had sex the 21st day after my last period. He didn't pre cum or cum and we had a condom with room left on the top. He even checked, it didn't break. I just wanted to be sure and have others reassure me that I can't be pregnant. Yes, i know there is always a chance, but with my situation, is it likely? I always get paranoid :/
It is highly unlikely that you are pregnant. If you are positive he didn't pre cum, or cum in you, and that the condom was on right, and you're sure it didn't break, you are most likely not pregnant. It is always possible, but i would not even give it a second thought unless you miss your period. If you do, take a pregnancy test. Sometimes, if you stress about being pregnant, your period comes late because of stress, so try not to freak out. I hope everything turns out for the best. Hope i helped! Inbox me if you need anything else, or some support.

Q: I am a manager for a retail company and I am required to be on my feet for an entire 9 hour shift (exception of a 1 hour lunch break). As of this past week my ankles and hands have been really swollen, especially after work. I get horrible cramps in my calves at night that wake me from my sleep. It's really irritating and I'm getting worn down. I don't go to see the doctor until the 19th. Do you think it is to early to ask about taking maternity leave?

I have never had any problems with my pregnancy until now. That being said, I am not sure how the doctor would feel about me taking maternity leave now. Thank you for your time and good luck to everyone.
I am still young and dont know much about maternity leave, but honestly, if you are feeling that bad after work, ad if you cant sleep through the night because of cramps, you shouldnt be on your feet all day. You should at least talk to whoever is your boss and tell them what you told us. If they say its too early, try to sit and rest as much as possible. Hope i helped!

Q: 15/f

So I have decided to have sex with my boy friend for the very first time. I haven't been pressured into this decision infact when I told him he asked me to think it through and make sure for a fact this is what I want. I know this is what I want, because I love him with all my heart and soul. He is my everything and I want to give him everything I can and he already contains my heart and mind because I love him with all my heart and I think about him all the time. The only thing left for me to give him is my virginity and this is because I want him to have it. So I know I am ready for sex and I was just wondering if like I could get some pointers as to how to make this the easiest on me, my body, and my beloved, cause he doesn't want to hurt me and I know it is going to. Basically is there anything I or he can do to make it hurt less??
Hey, i recently started having sex with my boyfriend of over a year too. Honestly, there will not be a lot of blood during, just a bit of spotting after, just to clear that up haha. I was shocked when there wasnt too much blood.

A FEW THINGS:
1-the first time is awkward, and weird. Make sure not to forget the foreplay, or you will not be wet, there will be friction and it will hurt more than it should.

2-have a lubricant ready in case you need it. The first time, i didnt, but then, about a week ago, i bought some. It helped so much. it didnt hurt at all when he entered me.

3-if it hurts, tell him to STOP FOR A MINUTE so you can breathe and adjust.. and if you need to stop, tell him. If he really cares about you, he will understand. If not, get him the hell out of your life.

4-relax and have fun! It will hurt a lot for the first 5 minutes. Then it will get a little easier, but still hurt. The second time it will get better. It will be awkward, you will feel weird, but it does get better, i promise. Goodluck! hope i helped.

Q: This is gonna sound like really stupid...
I think but idk. When a girl and a boy have sex
Does the girl bounce up and down on his penis
Or does she like ride it? And what do most
Guys like:top or bottom? And what is missionary
Posistion? Thanks!
15/f so thats why i'm so clueless lol
Hey, and dont worry. you dont sound stupid, and it depends on what the two people like to do. Heres a website showing all the different sex positions:

http://www.sexinfo101.com/sexualpositions.shtml?s=a3278e74688f234682781ecc594a3fb1

Missionary is when the guy is on top adn the girl is on her back, and he just enters her vagina.

The website has like small animations that can pretty much show you the basics. Hope i helped! inbox me with anymore questions.

Q: when i shave "down there" my skin gets really irratated and gets red and bumpy. Im afraid my boyfriend is going to be grossed out if we have sex and he sees the bumps, but i also dont want to be hairy.. does anyone know why this happens, or what can prevent it from happening? thanks alot! :]
Hey. i used to ahve the same problem. but i learned how to cure it! but then i got annoyed with having to shave every day to keep it smooth, so i just started waxing, thats a different story though ahha. When i used to shave, i would put on a LOT of shaving cream, and use a relatively new blade. I would never use a completely new one, bc you can cut yourself, but dont use an old one. I shaved once with the direction of hair, once aginst it, and then again with it. Then, when id get out, id use powdered deorderant every day. It made the bumps stop, and eventually go away! it takes like 2 week to get them to go away though. I hope i helped! inbox me if you have other questions

Hey, i tried waxing at home...it didnt work too well because i had a lot of red bumps after but it could have just been because it was my first time. I would use wax strips if youre going to try at home, not as much of a mess, you know? And it took me around a half hour to do. Hope i helped!

Q: Okayy, so i'm 15 and i have a bunch of questions but ill narrow it down to 4 lol...
1) is it normal for your clit to kinda stick out the lips of your vagina? A part of mins is like gray but idk if thats just a birthmark? Is there 2 or 1?
2) can a woman orgasm w/o direct contact on her clitoris? I read in a Cosmo magazine they cant
3) is like almost constant discharge out of your vagina normal to where it stains your underwear and really stinks?
4) how can You shave it without really bad razor burn?
Haha thats it..the important stuff anyways.
Thanks!
Hey
1-yes its normal. i dont know about the gray though...
2-i dont think its absolutely necessary, but most women enjoy it haha
3-its pretty normal. it shouldnt be too much though. sometimes it stains but it shouldnt stink. mine does sometimes right before my period, btu not always. you might want to ask your doctor about that
4-i use to get that all the time. Now i get a Brazilian wax, which helps a lot and you only need to get it every 6 weeks. it hurts a lot the first 2 times, then it doesnt hurt that much. just a little sting. and when you shave, use a lot of shaving cream. then shave with the direction of the hair once, against it once, then with it once again. then, when you get out of the shower, put on powder deoderant. it sounds rediculously weird, but it works. i dont know why haha. I hope i helped! inbox me if you have any more questions (:

Q: i'm starting cross country really soon. i get cramps all of the time...is there anything i can do so i can make sure i don't get them? i heard bananas work and to stay hydrated...any advice? thankyou
Hey, this is my second year on cross country. There are really not many things you can do to not get cramps. Stay hydrated, eat healthy, get enough sleep, and try to get into shape slowly. Dont run 3 miles your first day, you know? Some tips for the season are: One tip is, stretch a little before you run, and A LOT after you run, because by then your muscles are warmed up and you can stretch more. hold each stretch for at least 30 seconds. Eat complex carbs because they give you more energy. Drink 3 water bottles a day, but space them out. if you drink them all right before practice, you will just have to pee reallllly bad. Bananas are good, and apples are okay. Try to eat pasta 8 hours or less before meets. Good luck and i hope i helped! (:

Q: what games have you guys played with your friends or at partites, other than the ones listed? ex: nervous game, 7 minutes in heaven, spin the bottle, truth or dare, gay chicken
Well theres a game you can buy at target for like $10 and its called Catch Phrase. I dont know if youve heard of it, but honestly, its one of the funnest games ive ever played. It is like charades, but you get a word, and you have to describe it, without using the word. There is a timer, and if the timer stops while describing your word, the other team gets a point. Its so much fun. There are 2 teams, and if you have more than 4 people you can play! I would really reccomend getting it

Q: 16/f

I know this is long, but I feel so miserable about this. And please don't answer unless you read the whole thing. I'll know if you didn't read the whole thing.

My best friend in the whole entire world is a guy. I love him to death and we've been friends since freshman year. (I'm a junior now).
He's had a steady girlfriend for almost a year now, and I've had like on and off boyfriends since 9th grade.
We're so close and he's always been there for me like giving me advice about things when I'm stuck and I listen to him when he's having a problem. And I know this sounds really cliche, but he really gets me. And no, I mean he REALLY understands me. He's the person who calls me out when I'm being selfish or not nice, but does it in a way that makes me want to be a better person because he gives me such great advice in such a kind way. Generally, just an amazing person.


I recently got myself into a relationship with someone who I thought was really nice at first, but it turns out he's a creep and is just looking for sex, which I'm not going to give him. And he's not respectful of me at all and I'm so frustrated and I feel so stupid for getting myself into this.

So I told the above mentioned best friend about this at this get-together the other day and he got upset about it because he really cares about me and looks after me. He was there for me giving me advice and just being so kind to me.
And then he told me that I deserve to have a boyfriend who isn't a creep (not an altogether out there request lol).
And then he said that he wants to help me find someone. And he got like real quiet and said "If you could have anyone, even if they had a girlfriend, who would you have?" And I just looked at him and didn't say anything. And he looked over at his girlfriend who was talking with some friends and got this far off sad look.

Then he mentioned how like we both need to find someone. He told me how his girlfriend cheated on him this year, and how it killed him but he's still with her. When he told me this, my heart broke for him. I just wanted to erase it for him. =\

He tells me he wants someone for me who respects me and loves me. And while we sat there, me listening to all he was telling me about how a relationship should have romance and respect and stuff, I like wanted to cry. Because then I realized that I like him as much more than a friend.

But he has a girlfriend. And even though she cheated on him, he loves her so much. And she doesn't realize what she's got with him. He's so kind and sweet and loving and caring. And it sucks that I just now realized he's everything I'm looking for. And I'm such a terrible person.
I have a boyfriend, though we've only been dating a month, and he has a girlfriend.

I just ugh. I'm so frustrated with myself. Everybody's been saying for like 2 years that we are made for each other, and he admitted that he really liked me freshman year. But I was so stupid and hung up on other people, and now I realize what they're talking about. God, I'm just so frustrated with myself.

I know it's selfish and I know it's wrong of both of us. And I don't know what to do. I love him so much, just now in a different way. And I haven't yet had a relationship that's felt like a "real" relationship. And it's just too bad that this is another thing that I'm just not going to have. And I don't want him to break up with his girlfriend just to make me happy, but for once I want to be happy. Is that wrong?
It isnt wrong that you want to be happy. From what you've wrote, it seems like hes in love with you, but he loves his girlfriend too. Hes probably feeling just as guilty and as confused as you are, because he probably wants to be with you, but wants to stay with his girlfriend. He shouldnt be with that girl if she cheated on him. If you seriously want a relationship with him, talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel, because some things you wrote sounds like:

"If you could have anyone, even if they had a girlfriend, who would you have?"
Im almost positive he wanted you to say you wanted him. Thats EXACTLY what it sounds like.

"Then he mentioned how like we both need to find someone"
That sounds like he doesnt want to be with his girlfriend anymore.

You both seem to love and care about each other. I'd say talk to him about it. Tell him you want to be with him and put yourself out there. If its meant to be, you two will give it a shot. If it doesnt work out, slowly get back to where you were.

Hope i helped. Good luck (: xoxo

Q: i need good songs for my ipod.
i like good rap, rock, some country & alternative

i'm looking for good songs to jam out to haha.
& they can be old, i just forgot about all of the songs that were really good but i haven't heard in awhile so i forgott!

any good ones?
Lil Wayne: "Pussy, money, Weed"; "Lollipop"; "A Millie"; "Get It Shawty"

Flo Rida: "Right Round"; "Low"

Taylor Swift: "Love Story"; "I'd Lie"; "Our Song"; "Teardrops on my Guitar"; "I'm Only Me When I'm With You"; "You Belong With Me"

Carrie Underwood: "Before He Cheats"

Black Eyed Peas: "Where Is The Love"; "Lets Get It Started"; "Boom Boom Pow"; "Shut Up" Don't Phunk With MY Heart"

The Academy Is: "Slow Down"

Any All Time Low

All American Rejects: "My Paper Heart"; "It Ends Tonight"; "Dirty Little Secret"; "Gives You Hell"

Boys Like Girls: "Dance Hall Drug"; "Heels Over Head"; "Thunder"

Cute Is What We Aim For: "Curse of Curves"; "Moan"; "Newport Living"

Some other bands are: Dave Matthews Band, Jason Mraz, Matt White, Jacks Mannequin, Lady Gaga, Britney Spears, Leona Lewis, The Maine, MC Hammer, Nirvana, Panic at the disco, Red Jumpsuit Apparatis, Shakira, Shwayze, 3OH!3

There are others, inbox me if you want more. Hope i helped (:

Q: Ok so you see, I like this guy. Let's call him Guy#1. I wasn't sure if I loved him so I had asked an advice column how I would know...they were right. They say there's no definition for love. To each his own, you know? So I decided I love Guy#1.But then today, later in the day, I realized I just might love this other guy. Let's call him Guy#2. Now to start, there've been rumors that Guy#1 liked me. But Guy#2 I've known since kindergarten and he's been my best frind since then. But today he started telling me how amazing I am...but he tells his friends he wants to be friends. We've dated before but it didn;t work out. Also, my friend loves him...but I've never felt this way before. What's more important? The happiness of Guy#1 and my friend, or my own happiness? What about Guy#2? Help!
Hey, so you have strong feelings for both of them. You said you dated #2 before, but it didnt work out. Talk to him, and see how he feels. If he has feelings for you, i would say try to go for him. You're friend loves guy #1 and i dont think you want to hurt your friend over a guy. Your happiness is most important, but if you love them both, why not find happiness in a guy that wont hurt others? BUT! if you honestly feel like you are completely and totally in love with guy #1, then go for him. The point of love is to be happy with someone, and you dont want to go for guy #2 and realize that you actually love someone else, you know? So search your heart, if your mind is split, id say talk to guy #2. But if you think that you should be with guy #1, talk to him. I hope everything works out (: xoxo

Q: 14/f

Alright i went to the doctors in december 2008 and she said i would get my period by around january-february. And now it is JUNE going on JULY and nothing. I get alot of discharge but no period. i mean i have to change my underwear alot because of it. it happens EVERY DAY ! it is normally clear but it changes sometimes. but for the most part i am wondering if thats Ok.? also im wondering id the colour of discharge but no period is normal
@ 14 going on 15?? everyone in my grade has theirs BUT i dont. even the girls who look 10 have it.?

Should i be worried or not ?? wat do i do??

sincerely, MMR
The discharge means you will be getting your period too, not like right away, but within the next couple of months (: Its okay, and very normal. I got discharge for a couple of months nad was like wtf? but then my period came. Don't be worried, it'll come soon

Honestly, feel lucky. Getting your period sucks lol. Hope i helped (: xoxo

Q: I have irregular periods. Sometimes every month, sometimes every two, sometimes every three. I am just wondering......what happens during your cyle when youve missed periods? what exactly does it mean? what is going on inside of you? do your hormones change? have i ovulated? i just dont know.
If you just got your period within this past year, this is normal. Sometimes it doesnt regulate for over a year. I can't really answer the other questions but thats the answer of why you have irregular periods.

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