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Hi, so i'm a bit stuck. I lost my virginity a few weeks before I was 16 (which i'm quite proud of considering the reputation of my school and friends). I was at sgegness and I met a boy through a friend I have there. We clicked straight away it wasn't love at first sight or anything. I had only known him a few days and we weren't technically together but I had sex with him anyway. The next day he asked me out although we knew we lived too far apart and I didn't want anything serious. But I said yes and we had sex again that night because it was my last night. I left and we kept in touch but we lost contact. I definately don't regret it. But I never loved him and everyone says that your supposed to love the person you lose your v to. Am I wierd for not loving him? will rate all answers :)

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ok im 15.f. i cry sometimes just randomly. like if one tiny bad thing happens that wouldnt normally make me cry, it brings up a lot of other things in my mind that make me just want to burst out with tears. its not that i have a bad life or anything i have a fabulous life. lately ive been stressed a lot with school and friends and cheerleading, but it doesnt seem like enough stress to make me cry. idk its really weird, and im not exactly sure how to explain what im trying to ask..but any advice on how to help with this? or maybe ideas why or something? thanks i appreciate any advice

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Ok, so well last year, i was kind of the queen bee of my grade.

then all my best friends left my school.


so i settled for the coolest one out of all the girls;

one girl who i fought with last year and this new girl.

they would always leave me (as in not wait for me if i was getting my stuff after class)

and now they're kind of closer and that mkaes our threesome (not like that...) kind of messsed up. i just want to be back on top again :]



HELP?!

thanks xoxo

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every night my EX IMs me and talks about us having sex and what we would do if we were alone and how great our sex was.. the thing is he has a gf now.. would that in anyway be cheating? its not like were really doing anything were just talking about doing shit..

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i heard some people saying that birth control pill starts to take its full effect after 7 days, but one of my friend told me whose mom is a nurse said that it takes a full month for it to take its effect. Do you know when exactly does it start to take its full effect?

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I need birth control i had sex and i plan on to keep doing it with my boyfriend we've been together 2 years, but i have NO idea how to convince my mom to get it. i can't very well say heyy i had sex get me some birth control cuz she'd freak and probably make me break up with him. i know theres ways around it saying my periods are irregular nd stuff but that won't help ive already tried. anyy tips?!

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Okay I move way too fast with guys. I don't think I'm a slut because I don't go out with that many guys I'm kind of picky. I'm in this relationship with this really great guy and we have been together for 9 now and on the 7th month we had sex on the 8th month we did four play (hand jobs,fingering etc)and oral. he doesn't have a problem but i do is that bad?????

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In my AP Biology class we were discussing diseases and viruses.
And we started talking about bulimia,
if it is a mental disease, is it contagious?
I know you cant like cough and catch it.
But can you "catch" it?
I think u can.
What do y'all think?
Thanks.

XCody*X

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I would like to hear some opinions on 14, 15 and 16 year olds having sex. I personally find it heartbreaking when I read these questions from these young people asking about sex and if they are doing it right. They don't even know about the other consquences BESIDES pregnancy and HPV, STDs such as STIs and emoional consequences.

I am only 20, so it wasn't long ago I was this age, and I find this to be ridiculous! What happened to true love? Or waiting until marrige? It seems to me these girls just want to be popular with the boys and the guys want to be popular among boys. Is it just me? Am I crazy?

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is there a website that i can plug in a math question and get work shown for it?

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Why is it that TV shows and movies make the smart kids look ugly and the pretty kids be stupid? That's so not the way it is. In my school, the prettiest people are athletic, smart and beautiful. At least two-thirds of our Honors classes are beautiful. Is it like that everywhere else? I mean, I know smart kids that are ugly, but I also know athletic kids who are ugly too. If that's the way it is, then why do people assume smart people are ugly/nerdy? Or why beautiful people aren't smart enough to do anything? Where did everyone get this stereotype?

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I'm a female and I'm 17. I'll just get straight to the point. I like this guy...a lot. More than I have before. The thing is, I really want to tell him that I have feelings for him and it seems like he may feel the same way but I'm still afraid of that famous phrase "I only like you as my friend" or something to that extent. The other part of me is just telling me that I should just forget about him and move on or whatever. What do you think? Tell him?

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My parents are paying for me to go to private school and im feeling esp. pressured now to get straight A's and its really hard but i know i can just EXTREMELY hard esp. with math so if anyone had some tips and things to try to manage my time and get an A please share! I care very much about my grades but usually have a B or two on my report card (always MATH) and.or something else and i only got straight A's once last yr out of the 4 quarters. the curriculum might be even harder and i heard the hw load is A LOT and im really bad at managing my time and doing hw so please help me and tell me what works for you, ect.! Thanks so much and i will rate all helpful advice!!! :)

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14/f so ive had my period for about a year. and this month i am more than a week late.... i havent had sex or anything. what could cause this? it isnt possible that i still have a tampon in from last month is it?

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I always hate it when my friends meet my other friends because i'm scared they'll start liking them more than me and then they'll start hanging out with each other, leaving me alne and having even less friends.

Is there any way to fix this? This always happens.

If you don't have advice but this happens to you, please say that and share your feelings and opinions on this

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I am feeling really low right now. Have you ever poured your heart out at someone? and they just threw it back in you face? Well I hope not, because I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. I just expierienced that very thing today after school.
Freshman year in highschool I met this guy. His name is Ethan. He was the best guy friend any girl would want. He was sweet, caring, and always said the right thing. Well, I naturally started falling for him. With a little push from my loud, obnoxious friend, he had the courage to ask me out. So yes, that it how it all started, it was all fine and great until he changed from kind, sweet Ethan to the know it all, egotistical Ethan. I am a very passive person most of the time. I was very patient with him and accepted and loved him despite his annoying additude.
It worked out also because we both had and have a passion for drama and being on stage, so we got to be in plays together and spend time together constantly in after-school activities.
The problem started at our lunch table. Ethan didn't get along with my friends. I may have put up with his know it all aditude, but they didn't. My friends hated him, and I think they still do. I was a fool and sided with my friends. They seemed so right. I began seeing Ethan in a differant light. I slowly began to find every bit of him repulsive. Everytime I would be talking with a friend about him, I felt compelled to be a jerk and agree with all the negative conotations they labeled him with. It got to the point when I was telling people I was going to break up with him after the Christmas dance. I think Ethan began to see the way I had changed. He gave up on my friends and moved to another lunch table. Then my friends really started slamming him with 'bad boyfriend' labels and I the idiot I was believed him.
The day came and I decided I was breaking up with him after school. But that same day he beat me to the punch. I was devistated. I got so mad at him, and said things I didn't mean. He followed me, trying to hold my hand and console me, but I was furious. I was such a jerk and I know it now.
So that was it. I think the worst moment was when I climbed into that car, and drove away from the school. It all hit me on what had happened. A love song came on the radio, and I just cried and cried.
I am now a sophmore in highschool. It has be a long time since I even cared about this. But a couple weeks ago, I was lying in bed, and it just hit me all over again, like deja-vu. I felt horrible. As I lay tossing and turning in my bed, I knew the only way I was going to sleep was to write down my feelings. That is just how I operate I guess. So this writing turned into a very long letter...to Ethan. It basicially was saying how I really miss being his friend, how I want to be friends again, and just apologizing for letting my friends decide who I should care about. I also included a painting I had painted for him and never gave to him because I was mad at him for some reason. So, now I regret it... but I gave him the note. I gave him something that was a total theriputic exercise for me. I guess my reasoning was that it might make him feel better about himself, and put me in the good graces with him again.
So, basicially he said nothing. On the note I said I wanted to talk about it..but he said NOTHING. I was devistated, the only thing I had to comfort me was the thought that he was probably feeling good about himself- and that's why I gave it to him anyways. But I couldn't stop thinking about how he was kinda saying 'no, I won't be your friend', which cut me deeply...
So all of that doesn't matter now because today after school he finally talked...well kind of...

I was at my locker after religion class (which I have with him)Just then my friend Kaleb who has no association with Ethan decides to start singing 'It's too late to apologize' by Timberland (just a strange coicidence) Ethan then tapped me on the shoulder, and started a mildly awkward casual conversation, and asked to talk after school. I said fine, and all was fine and dandy. I was then on an emotional high. I was thinking...'finally he's coming around! He understands!'...So yep, I was happy. After school I found him and he led me down a hallway to talk..that's when it got weird. He was ReAllY awkward now, and extremely uptight and rude. This is basically all he said, not really letting me talk and making me extremely nervous: So what's up? Are you ok...now? are you FInE and dandy.. now?.... I got a few ums here and there and maybe a 'kinda' it was horrible. Then I said how I felt: "Well,, it kinda hurt my feeling when you didn't talk at first. It was like you were saying...No, I won't be your friend' He didn't really resond to this, I think he said some thing like: 'you're ok now though?' Then he said 'stay here' and just started leaving and was basically saying, stop following me. I was mad and showed it made a face and walked away. Then he started following me. It was like that night all over again. THis time I let him talk. He just kept asking that question and I tried to change the subject once again: "Do you like...hate me or something?" He said "no, if I hated you I wouldn't be looking at you." Then he looked at me but it was definately forced, and it made me feel really low. THen he was being awkward and started playing with my hair and then tried to put his hand around my shoulder. I still wanted to talk but he seemed compelled to end it. he asked the question again and I said: 'yeah...but' and he cut me off again and said 'good, that's all I care about.' Then he put his hand around my should awkwardly and I did it back. (a half hug thing) then he said, 'give me a hug' or something and I did. Then he looked me in the eyes and said whenever you need something just tell me' I thought that was sweet, but he said it really insincere. I left feeling horrible. I wanted to cry. I was and am very embarressed. So here I sit once again. Thankfully this is not a letter this time, it's late and I'm tired. I just don't know what to do. Should I pursue him as a friend still? Or just leave the poor guy alone?

ps I still think I have feelings for him. Last night I had a dream about him, walking and holding hands..just talking. I woke up, and I was angry I woke up. I think that's a big sign I do still...=/

Help..

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I was wondering when you have sex without a condom
Does it feel better or more different for the girl or the guy?

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im ready so don't be like it's when you are ready caue i am (: but approximately how long in a realtionship do you think you have to be in to be felt up..like i like this boy soo much and he likes me a lot too...but like 2 months or what..cause i dont want to get a reputation like "wow they went out for this long and he got it and so if i go out with her for that long i can get it"...soo just give me an estimated amount of time (: thanksss a bunch.

if it helps. im 14/f

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Hey guys

I went to planned parenthood the other day and they told me i should be taking my pills for about a week until they work. Does this mean it's okay to be taking the pills for 2 weeks (or a little more) and to have sex? I won't get pregnant right? well of course with birth control theres always a risk but i mean, the pills will be working by then right?

thanks

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Would the birth control pill prevent pregnancy if a guy doesn't wear his condom? Bbecause I heard that birth control pill is highly effective and so it does not get woman pregnant.

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