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am i too sexually active
Okay I move way too fast with guys. I don't think I'm a slut because I don't go out with that many guys I'm kind of picky. I'm in this relationship with this really great guy and we have been together for 9 now and on the 7th month we had sex on the 8th month we did four play (hand jobs,fingering etc)and oral. he doesn't have a problem but i do is that bad?????
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you had sex before touching each other? that's a little unordinary. i think this depends on how old you are too..for my morals, this is too fast and it seems like you feel uncomfortable/unsure about how fast you're moving too. i'd say, slow down sweetie. this will eventually get you a really bad reputation
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honestly, it depends on yourself, and what you are comfortable with. just be careful to protect yourself when you are sexually active. you arent a slut in my opinion if you are doing things with your boyfriend.
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If you think you move too fast, then you do. You are doing things before you really want to.
You need to stop doing things so fast, first of all. You need to figure out why second. And you need to work on changing why third.
Slow yourself down. Masturbate more if you have to.
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You've already answered your own question. You've used two very telling phrases:
1. 'I move way too fast with guys.'
2. 'he doesn't have a problem, but I do.'
It really doesn't matter what your friends, advice columnists, or your boyfriend thinks about you. It matters what YOU think about you.
If you feel you are moving too quickly or are uncomfortable doing certain things, don't do them. You always have the right to stop doing things even once you've started.
You need to be looking at how you think and feel about these situations, decide what you want from a relationship, and figure out where your boundaries are.
I wish you the best.
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If you have a problem with it, why did you do it? In future, if you aren't happy with how fast the relationship is going, don't EVER feel you need to speed things up just to make your partner happy.
and every couple do things at different rates. There's no set times. Some might wait days before doing things whereas others can even wait years.
and personally, I don't think 7 months is too soon - but that's just my opinion.
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I think overall if you feel you have a oroblem with it then you shouldn't have to do it. At the end of the day the guy is not going out with you for the sex he is with you becuase he likes you and wanbts to be with you. If he is with you just for the sex then it's a guy you don't need to be with - you deserve better than that.
If you feel what you are doing is not right then by all means stop. When you feel it is the right time it'll happen in its own time. But in any relationship sex should never be the focus of the relationship. If it is then its not really a relationship.
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i dont think your too sexually active ; i think your just in love with this boy and you want to show him that you are ; if your comfortable with doing all this stuff then go for it and keep doing what you do.
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