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I'm Amanda. I'm here to help you out, so if you need something then ask me. I specialize in problems dealing with mental health, seeing as I've got quite a few of those myself.
I took a break from advicenators, but I'm back and better than ever.
I have too much life experience for someone my age. Some people view that as bad. I don't really see anything wrong with it.
I'm practical and I'll tell you the truth straight up. So ask away lovelies, I'll be here all week. :]
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My boobs are really sensitive and hurt.
I used to SI on them, but they were totally desensitized, and now they're hypersensitive...
how do I reverse this?
You might want to talk to a doctor and see if they can do anything for it. It doesn't sound like anything major, but they might be able to prescribe something that will make them feel better.
Good luck!
what does it mean when your cherry pops?
and also what does it mean when you masturbate??
also ppl say you can pop your cherry by fingering yourself but then could you pop your cherry when you use a tampon??? %%thanks!!!
When your "cherry pops" it means that your hymen has been broken. Your hymen is this little bit of skin inside your vagina that can break from a number of things, including using tampons, having sex, sitting on a bike or horse in a strange position, and masturbation.
Masturbation is sexually pleasuring and stimulating yourself. It's perfectly natural and quite a few people do it.
I wouldn't worry about wearing a tampon breaking your hymen. It might, but many people still don't consider their cherry "popped" until they've had sexual intercourse.
Hope I helped!
so i have a song stuck in my head and i have no idea what it is. but i like it.:] it goes something like...
Maybe weeee
why can't wee
& then after it might say ever seem to give it a another try.
idk i could be wrong with that last part.
but its a slow rock type song and it is sung by a guy if this helps.
but anything would help. please and thank you.
Yeah, it's Writing on the Walls by UnderOath.
maybe we could
why don't we
sit right here for half an hour
we'll speak of what
a waste I am
and how we missed a beat again
It sounds like that's what you're describing. Look it up on myspace or purevolume to make sure that's it. :)
I'm a singer, and recently my voice has been breaking a ton. Just a few months ago- i honestly DID NOT HAVE A BREAK! and I could switch registers so easily and perfectly without breaking. Now my head voice sounds all breathy and breaky and my chest voice breaks a lot too.
What happened? I got very sick a lot of times this year, could that have something to do with it? For a like maybe a month or 2after may, I wasn't singing very much, or at all... because I wasn't performing any or having voice lessons.
Do you think I can get my voice back to the way it was in december?
If I practice every day and do warm-ups will it go back to normal? After how long? or will it never be the same?
Being sick might have had something to do with it, but honestly, it just sounds like your voice is maturing. When you get into those early/mid teen years, your vocal chords change and so does your voice. Eventually you'll get the voice that you'll be stuck with for most of your life. It's a phase, I know it seems like it'll last forever, but it won't. Just keep warming up and practicing regularly.
You might want to talk to the person who gives you voice lessons and see if he or she has any advice on warmups that will do your voice good in its changing state.
Good luck!
Ok Well a long time aog I knwo the sun was goign to go away and we would all die but that was goign to be way after I die so I guess it's ok but now there's news that we could all die in..i think 2012? Cuz of sun rays?
Now I'm scared and going crazy with WHAT IF..
Like the little children! So many of my relatives has little babies and now..omg I'm just so scared and going crazy.. and thinking stuff liek will it be a quick death or a slow death where we'll all burn?
Please help me I don't know how yet I can't even type all the things I'm feeling!
It's true that the sun is slowly dying, it's a middle/late aged star. But it's not supposed to burn out for another 5-10 million years. I don't think you have anything to worry about darling.
My mom says I'm too thin. She's threatening to make me drink those weight-gain milkshakes. I really don't want to, though. I've been this weight for months, I don't know why she is just telling me this now.
How do I make myself look like I'm gaining weight when I'm still the same weight?
I don't really think there is a way except for eating then purging afterwards, which is very unhealthy. If your mom is really this concerned about you gaining weight then there could be a possibility that maybe you are a little too much underweight. Try talking to her about maybe seeing a nutritionist. They'll be able to tell you for sure whether or not you need those milkshakes. Good luck!
Theres this guy I like and im pretty sure he likes me. We have hung out a couple times recently and we have kissed and made out and all that stuff. I really want to ask him out but i dont want to get turned down. Im not sure if he is looking for a relationship or not. Im pretty sure he likes me because we talk online and hes kissed me like i said. If i do ask him out how do i tell the time is right and how do i do it.
Should i even ask him out?
Please help!
Well if it's getting hurt that you're worried about, I would wait. Try and ask subtle questions whose answers might lead you to find if he's as interested as he's acting. Maybe once he's sure that you guys like eachother, he'll work up the confidence to make the first move.
Good luck!
Ok. Well when I was 13 I got the stupid idea to pierce my own belly button with a safety pin. I took it out like a day after but ever since then I have like this ball type thing under my skin.. like a scar you cant see really any type of scar from the outside. So do you think i could still get my bell button pierced [professionally this time]??
thanks
I would go to a professional at a tatoo/piercing parlor and ask them about it. They'll be able to tell you for sure if it'll be safe or not.
Good luck!
Ok, well theres this boy that I liked a lot and he usually hooks up [makes out] with a lot of girls, and then leaves them but we hooked up for the first time in a movie theater, and he still wanted to see me again and everyone said that he must really like me if he still wants to hang out with me. So I hung out with him again and we hooked up again, but now the whole time we held hands and everything seemed good. But then I found out he thinks my best friends hott, and he wants to "get to know her." I confronted him and he told me that everything would be okay, and that he just thinks shes attractive but now 2 days later hes being really weird and says he doesnt know if he wants to talk to me anymore, and I dont know what I did because the other day he was saying everything would be ok. I ve been really upset and even though of killing myself, until my friends ex imed me and was being really nice to me and asked me out. What do I do about both of them? And why is he all of a sudden being really weird?
Okay let me start off by saying, killing yourself is NEVER the answer. Especially over a boy! Don't give him the satisfaction of letting him know he got to you.
I can't tell you exactly why this guy is acting so weird but it doesn't sound like he's being sincere in anything he's doing. Personally, I choose not to associate with those kinds of people because in the end, you're always the one being let down.
Talk more to your friend's ex if he's being nice! He could be a really good friend that you haven't met yet! But don't try and have him replace the one that you liked alot. You'll just be setting yourself and him to be hurt.
Best of luck!
okay well me and my boyfriend like 2 days ago had sex twice but we didnt have a condom either time cause we ran out and couldnt go get anymore at the time. well the first time he cummed in me but i went to the bathroom and try to clean myself and the second time he pulled out without cumming. and this kinda happen before but i wasnt preg. last month. and i should start my period at the end of the month like the 30th, now how much should i be worrying now?
I hate to say it, but probably quite a bit. If he released inside of you then there's no way that cleaning yourself afterwards would get rid of all the sperm. I suggest a pregnancy test, ASAP!
I've got this friend ... she's dating a Jewish boy. Should I buy her a necklace with a Manorah on it?
Kymmy, you JUST might be retarded.
But I think you should buy the necklace for your friend's boyfriend. He'd appreciate it more .. since he's Jewish and all. :P
loveamanda.
Here's a link to the song "Breakaway" in which I'd want to play on acoustic guitar.
http://www.ultimate-guitar.com/tabs/k/kelly_clarkson/breakaway_ver8_crd.htm
Those are the tabs and that page even offers to show me the chords, but I don't get what octave to play in. Can anyone clarify? I know it's not complicated, so I want to understand as soon as possible!
It looks like the song is in standard tuning. All of those chords can be played in the first position.
I'm not exactly sure what you mean by what octave to play in. An octave is a consecutive set of eight notes, usually in a scale.
I would suggest finding a tab with more detail about the song. The one you have only shows the chords, not the strum patterns or any of the fancy stuff. Good luck and if you have any other questions, feel free to message me!
ive been talking to this guy for ever now! it seems like forever. weve gone out once before and we talk constantly on the phone and on the internet. he calls me pet names like baby and stuff. but he says that we arent going out. its true he hasnt askd me and i havent really called him on it. he doesnt really act like a boyfriend around me when were with his friends but then when were alone he acts as if he is my boyfriend. i am so confused! what do i say to him or ask him..or what?! idk! any advice is welcome.
thankyou
It sounds to me like this guy is using you to make him feel better when he's alone. That, or he's just scared to show you how he feels in public. I hate to say it, but if he can't make up his mind, then he's probably not worth your time. Gahh, boys are so confusing.
Best of luck!
okay, so i had this one boyfriend and i really really liked him. i've never felt that way for anybody before. when he broke up with me, i was absolutely heartbroken. that was about 9 months ago.
so my boyfriend that i have now that tells me that i have this wall built up around me and i wont let anyone in. im so scared to let anyone in because of what happened last time. i dont like my boyfriend like i liked my ex-boyfriend. i dont know what to do...do i let my guard down or break up with him? im so scared of getting hurt like i did last time
I know how scary that can be once you've caged yourself in. But, sometimes in life you have to just let go and take the risk. There'll be plenty of opportunities for people to hurt you but that's just life. We can't change anything about it. We just have to learn from what happens to us so that we won't make the same mistakes next time.
I think it would be a good idea for you to talk to your boyfriend. Let him know that it's not easy for you to open up because you have been hurt. If he understands then you'll just have a stronger relationship, if not, then be happy you didn't let your guard down, but be proud of yourself for saying what you really mean.
good luck!
where can i find a good program that i can download online to create a professional looking catalog or brochure that i can print. i need this for a school project but it really has to look professional and be creative. i have the idea but i don't want to spend 1000 bux on CS2 or 3 standard or whatever...... please get back to me ASAP... i do rate high :)))
Try doing a google search for cheap versions of CS2. I've heard that you can find almost new versions of it for ALOT cheaper than brand new. Or you can use Microsoft Publisher. It's specially for making brochures of all kinds. Good luck!
I am generally a pretty shy person and I tend to be too timid with my boyfriend while making out and doing stuff like that. Anyways, he wants me to be more in charge because i'm usually really shy. Does anyone have any advice on little things that i can do?
Just go with what feels right to you. Maybe you could initiate it, or take charge after he makes the first move. The other girls gave good advice with the hands and stuff. Through the hair, pull him towards you, up and down the arms. All of this is good, but the most important thing to remember is DON'T FEEL PRESSURED! If you don't even WANT to be in charge, let your boyfriend know! He can't make you do anything you don't want to do. :)
My boyfriend is out of town, so I'm spending time with new and old friends for a change. Well, I'm quickly beginning to remember why I stopped hanging out with people. Guys always make plans with me, but then I get left for other people often.
I'm attractive, but I feel like I don't have the personality to match. I can be a little boring, I'll admit. I don't want to change who I am, but I do want to be able to relate to people better. My parents always question why my plans get changed so much, I hate admitting to myself that I'm not as wanted as I used to be. People used to love being around me, I was so outgoing. Now, I'm just so annoyed by many people that I can be a drag to be around. How do I get the old me back?
Do the things you used to love! Maybe since you've started being with this boyfriend you haven't had as much 'you' time. Try picking back up some of your old hobbies and talk to your friends! It's not right of them to ditch you like that.
But, if you haven't hung out with them in a while, there is a possibility that maybe you guys have just grown apart. Try and scope out some new friends, maybe through church or a local recreation center. There's all sorts of places filled with friends you haven't met yet. :]
Is there a way on -Yahoo Music- to make my own playlist or at least a list of favorites?
Yes, in fact, there is.
You can't make an actual playlist, last I checked, but you can make a list of your favorites.
This all requires a Yahoo account, so before you do anything, get one of those.
Now go to a song you like and have it play in the popup window. If you keep the window open, it should have the music video on one side and the name of the song and two sets of five stars at the bottom. Rate the song how you want by clicking on a number out of the 5 stars and when you go to My Music, it should have a list of all the songs you've ever rated starting at the highest.
Hope I helped!
Has anyone ever been truely used by a boy/girl? I feel like my boyfriend is using me and i want to know what are some signs of being used/what should i look for?..this is so upseting =[..id die for this boy and i dont deserve being treated like thiss..
People use other people for different things so there could be quite a few signs depending on what you think he's using you for.
for sex
-is constantly asking for sexual favors
-touches you inappropriately without your consent
-pretends to be nice and loving until you give in
for money
-steals from you
-"borrows" money and never pays you back
-makes you pay for everything
for just a human play toy
-talks disrespectfully to you
-is emotionally degrading
-ignores you frequently
-physically hurts you
I would talk to your boyfriend about how you're feeling towards his actions or attitudes. If he really loves you as much as you love him, maybe he'll change. If he denies it or just ignores you and continues, I hate to say it, but you need to leave him. What starts as something that you might think is a one time thing could escalate into something that you find you have absolutely no control over. I'm sorry you have to deal with this, it's hard as hell, I know it. Just keep your chin up and everything will work out in the end.
Best of luck!
I want to learn how to play guitar. i only have 300 dolars to work with. I want to know weather i should learn to play acoustic guitar or electric guitar first. And i have no idea where to buy it from do if you could give me an inexpencive brand name that would be good. Thanks
Acoustic is supposed to be easier to learn that electric but they don't really have much of a difference.
I would suggest renting a guitar from a local music store instead of buying one right away. That way, you can see whether or not it's something you really want to pursue, and if it's not, then just have them stop billing you and return the guitar. If it is, then just find the cheapest guitar you can(that's not a total piece of junk) and buy it!