I am currently a college student. I am studying Psychology and plan on getting my PhD or PsyD to become a counseling psychologist. I am also minoring in music because I love to sing. I have been singing and playing the piano since I was about 5 years old. I also love to ride horses. I have the most perfect boyfriend in the world and I love him so much.
I have always had a rough life growing up and that is why I am going to be a Psychologist because I think I can help people cope with the things that I had to deal with.
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There are voices inside my head. What can i do? (link)
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The only thing you can do to control it or get rid of it is to see a psychologist or psychiatrist.
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I am 21, female, and in a committed relationship. I love my boyfriend... but everytime he tries to do something special it reminds me of my ex who was abusive in many ways. I keep on finding ways that he is like him. I don't want my fiancee to think I am crazy but I can't forget what I went through. What should I do if anything...??
Lost in Texas, Suz (link)
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It sounds like you have a little bit of post traumatic stress disorder. There is not really much you can do about it besides seeing a psychologist or psychiatrist. Explain what happened with your ex to your fiancee and tell him how you feel. If he really loves you, he will help you through it and make you feel a lot better about it.
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Hello everyone-I hope someone will be in a position to help me. Basically, I feel fat-I don't think I really am, but I've just started on a healthy eating program(1000-1100 kcal per day) and am trying to build up more excercises in my daily routine. Now I'm not saying I'm anorexic or anything, but I did look at one of those "ana" websites late last night and while I was shocked and sickened, a part of me did see the allure of forcing myself down to a much smaller size (I am 5'7, and size 8 on top,6 on the bottom). I'm trying to tone up for a wedding in three weeks where I just know everyone will be super thin, and it's freaking me out. I had an eating disorder a few years back, but feel that I'm really to old for these issues now(I'm 25f). I have two opposing voices in my head right now-it's good to eat healthy, take excercise, blah blah, vs. I wasn't fat, I wasn't unhappy, and my boyfriend loves me just the way I am. But I would love to lose just that extra 7lb.......Anyone identify? (link)
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Exercise is the best way to lose weight and cut down on your carb intake. If you have big breasts, big hips, a big butt, etc. it may just be the way you are built. Everyone wishes they could be different but sometimes you can't. I have that problem, I think I'm fat but I'm really not... I'm really muscular and it's mostly bone. Like I have huge hip bones. It's just the way I am built and everyone else in my family is the same so it runs in the family.
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i lost my confidence the summer before 7th grade. right now this is the summer before i go into 11th grade. i really want my confidence back. i lost it when a couple of people called me ugly and i really let it get to me because i agreed with it. but before that summer before 7th grade, i had tons of friends and alot of guys liked me. the thing i miss the most is me, the old me when i acted myself in public. now i have to step out of my shell after hiding for so long. im really scared, please help. (link)
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I had the same problem with losing my confidence. You just have to learn not to care what other people say or think and remember that everyone has flaws. Those people that called you ugly most likely have a problem with their self confidence or else they wouldn't have called you ugly and by doing that it makes them feel better about themselves. So next time someone does something like that say think or say something like just because you have no self confidence doesn't mean you should go around putting people down to make yourself feel better. Don't worry about it, I'm sure you are gorgeous on the inside and out. Hope I was some help.
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Okay, i pretend to be a really happy person, but i am veryyy depressed. Or, well thats what the quizes say. I normally wont buy it, but they say its serious depression & i need help A.S.A.P. but problem is...i dont really have a doctor. And i told my brother one time and he got pissed off. I am afriad to tell anyone now becuase i am afriad they will get mad )= i know it sounds stupid but thats how i feel! And i need help. So if i tell a doctor, they'll subsrice me some pills and will tell my family. Does anyone know how to cure depression without anyone knowing? And please dont say stuff like, Spend time with the fam. becuase there one of the reasons of my depression.
Thanks =D (link)
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tell your family, this is the way it is... I'm not feeling bad for myself and didn't plan on being depressed it just happens sometimes.
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How do I stop dwelling on embarrassing things that happened to me? (link)
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Make them funny by laughing or don't worry about them so much. Don't take it so seriously... embarrassing things happen to everyone whether others would admit it or not.... people make the same mistakes you do.
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heyy. i was looking through some stuff & found ur site.& i needed advice..
i manage to get mad at people very easily-if they mess w/ my friends. ive even gone after a few people, but ive only hit them..and i had a girl, who doesnt ever talk to me & does not know me at all call me phsyco..so what do you think? =/ (link)
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I was like that when I was younger. You are just a good person sticking up for your friends. Try not to worry about what people say so much.
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omg i started my period at the age of 7 and have never worn a tampon only itty-bitty pads and now finally i am wearing a tampon at the age of 13!!
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a tampon is a uncomfortable device when i put it in i wuz walking like a retard.
why is that?????? is there sumthing wrong with me?
it hurts to sit down and to lay down and to walk.
please give me advice.!:]
alex♥ (link)
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you might not have it far up enough. tampons are not supposed to stick out. you should barely feel them if at all. You also might be too dry when you put it in. Try going in and out a few times and then put it in.
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Im 14 years old and I just starting masterbating but i noticed blood...is it normal to bleed? Im really scared and i cant talk to my mom about it please answer my question...Im very terrified that i might have done something wrong.. (link)
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It's normal for girls if they haven't lost their virginity yet but not normal for guys. You should see a doctor just in case.
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my boyfriend and i have been together for alomost a month im going to meet his sister at sushi im nervous and i dont know what i can talk to her about help! (link)
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just try talking about your interests and ask her what hers are... eventually you will get in a good conversation.
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I'm a gal and I am totally in love with this guy(im 14 which I know is too early so let's call it a crush) I decided to do something about it when this other girl asked him out. And they became close. But not as close as me and him still are. He spends more time with me than with her, but they are still going out. What should I do? (link)
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tell him how you feel without her around and without coming off as obsessed.
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My mom and I kinda fell apart about a year ago. I thought we had patched things up pretty well but after noticing some of my friends talking to their moms, I realized how bad things I had gotten.
My mom doesn't call to check up on me, she doesn't hug me if I'm crying or if I'm hurt. She merely says "Stop crying." She doesn't say I love you even after I've said it to her, normally she'll just say goodbye. She stopped cooking meals for me and when I have a problem she says its my problem not hers.
Sure, she's not responsible for everything in my life. But I'm a 16yr old girl and sometimes I need my mom :( she just doesn't seem to be there.
I don't know what to say to her to help this out, she seems too blocked off to care. (link)
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It sounds like your mom is pretty harsh. I suggest having a talk with her and tell her how you feel. If that doesn't work then there is something really wrong. She may have something going on her life right now that is really stressing her out and doesn't know how to handle it or she just may not care about anything. Also, her mom may have done the same thing to her when she was your age so now she is doing it to you.
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I met a guy at the beginning of the summer and we've been spending a lot of time together... almost every day. I'm a virgin but I'm ready to have sex (save the sex speeches please, im 17 and i can make my own decisions) and I really want to with him.... i like him a lot and he likes me a lot. The other night we were getting pretty close... and he said "its up to you". After hearing him say this and knowing that it could really happen made me think... and kind of nervous. He's leaving in less than a month and he goes to school thousands of miles away. There's a chance I may never see him again... and if i did it wouldn't be for, like, a year. It makes me sad to think he's leaving and we can't be anything more than we are... and I'm wondering if sex would just make me even more emotional about it. Can I hear your thoughts and/or stories? Thanks! (link)
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It depends. Ask yourself what if he meets someone else while he's away. It's up to you but I think the 6 month rule is good to follow.
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my legs are so dry and when i put lotion on them it hurts, is this normal? how do i make it so it wont hurt ? any advice? thanks (link)
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you need to use a more gentle lotion. Try using lotions that dont have a particular scent to them. Like not any floral scent, etc. just regular lotion. Use lotion more often on your legs especially when you get out of the shower.
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So i was just recently put on amoxicillin (sp?) and the Physicians Assistant told me to have yogurt everyday to prevent a yeast infection or whatever, and I have done that.
But, whenever i pass gas (gross, i know) it smells like plastic or something and I know thats obviously not normal.
Is that a sign that im getting a yeast infection or something?
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a yeast infection has nothing to do with your gas or butt at all.
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If persay, I was sitting on him, no on his "thing"or anything just on the side, and he went off and some of it got on my pants any chance of pregnancy? I'd say I had my pants on a bare minimum of 5 minutes after that, and Im pretty sure it never went on the crotch area in which it was still away from my "thing" anyways cause I was stretched out.
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You cannot get pregnant by just sitting on him. His thing has to ejaculate inside of your body for you to get pregnant.
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I have contacts, and I wear o2 optics power 2.50 contacts that you wear for 2 weeks removing them before you sleep. With these contacts you only wear them for a few hours at a time, then you switch to glasses. My glasses are broken and they havent been fixed yet, and I'm running low on contact solution. I end up sleeping in my contacts for many reasons, and I wear them all day. At times I wear them for more than 2 weeks even. When I take out my contacts I feel like my vision is getting worse, but I usually always have felt like this. A few months ago the doctor said my retina was thinning, but that its not a big deal because African American eyes usually do that. My dad said my eyes were completely normal but it kind of freaks me out. I'm 14/ f and I'm wondering why you arent suppost to wear contacts to sleep, or too often. I know there are contacts you can sleep in but what makes them different from ones you "can't" sleep in? (link)
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No contacts are good to sleep in. There are contacts that you CAN sleep in but they aren't GOOD to sleep in.
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Hi everyone.
I just need some help because I think my friend might have this Disorder, and I don't know how to help her.
She suffers nearly all of the symptoms. Today she told me she thinks she might have it, and when I suggested she goes to the doctors she said no.
I need help on how I can help to influence her to seek help.
PS. Here is a link about it, or you could just google the disorder:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_dysmorphic_disorder (link)
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A lot of girls are obsessed about their bodies. Mine isn't perfect and I'm constantly complaining about a certain area. I'm sure she is fine and maybe she is a perfectionist like me and wants to look perfect. She may also have a little bit of OCD.
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http://www.aolcdn.com/red_galleries/audrina-patridge-400a091107.jpg
See how her one side is like out. OKay thats what both of mine look like, but mine is fatty tissue. I have a flat stomach, but my hip area seems to be getting bigger. What are some exercises I can do to help them get smaller. I guess it would be love handles, but its main the sides, and not my back area love handles haha. thank you!!
oh, I already do exercises. Im in gymnastics, I'm a cheerleader, and we do crunches and what not. I did run track, so maybe from not running I'm getting them now?
ideas?
thank you!! (link)
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cut down on your carbs... carbs make you gain weight in the oddest places. But I don't think you should really worry about it because you don't wanna get too skinny. You look good how you are and it might just be muscle.
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what is the best thing to do to lose the weight we can and the quickest way ?
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Don't eat junk food. Try to eliminate all drinks from your diet except for water and diet green tea and coffee is okay. Cut down on your carb intake and exercise exercise exercise. Run at least 30 minutes a day and at least 5 days a week. Stretching is very good for your body so I suggest you do that as well. Eliminate all candies and chocolates from your diet. I suggest taking a vitamin each day. Centrum weight smart is a good one to take and isn't harmful to your body. Also do some sit-ups and crunches. Diet green tea is very good for your body because it makes you have to urinate more than usual and by doing this you will lose more weight including some water weight you may have. Hope I was some help!
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