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Does my mom not love me?
My mom and I kinda fell apart about a year ago. I thought we had patched things up pretty well but after noticing some of my friends talking to their moms, I realized how bad things I had gotten.
My mom doesn't call to check up on me, she doesn't hug me if I'm crying or if I'm hurt. She merely says "Stop crying." She doesn't say I love you even after I've said it to her, normally she'll just say goodbye. She stopped cooking meals for me and when I have a problem she says its my problem not hers.
Sure, she's not responsible for everything in my life. But I'm a 16yr old girl and sometimes I need my mom :( she just doesn't seem to be there.
I don't know what to say to her to help this out, she seems too blocked off to care.
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It sounds like your mom is pretty harsh. I suggest having a talk with her and tell her how you feel. If that doesn't work then there is something really wrong. She may have something going on her life right now that is really stressing her out and doesn't know how to handle it or she just may not care about anything. Also, her mom may have done the same thing to her when she was your age so now she is doing it to you.
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I wouldn't say your mom doesn't love you. Some people just have a hard way of showing how much they love someone.
Like me, it's very hard for me to show someone how much they mean to me/how much I really do love them. But that doesn't mean I don't love my family/friends. It's just sometimes hard to show/say it.
That might be the issue that your mom is having. What I would do is I'd sit her down and explain to her how you're feeling. Tell her everything, that you feel like she doesn't love you, you feel like she doesn't seem to care about what happens, etc. Just..sit her down, tell her everything.
I can't guarantee it'll work, but it could really help if you really explain things to her.
I hope things work out between your mom and you. :)
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to be honest, i think you are being too overdramatic. Dont take this the wrong way, I know that you are upset but dont say "my mom doesnt love me." because she does. she just has bad way of showing it.
i used to be the same way. my mom is always traveling for work and sometimes when i needed her the most, she would never be there for me and i would cry my self to sleep a lot. I always used to think that she never cared about me and never loved me until that one day.... i had some kind of problem going on (i think i failed a test or something) and my mom was again gone on a business trip and i came home and just cried and bawled my eyes out. my brother came home from school and saw me and called my dad and told him what happened. my dad then called my mom and next thing i know my mom called me. we talked for over an hour and she comforted me so much. at one point, i was so sad and i just told her everything about how i felt that she didnt care about me anymore. she told me that was not true and i should stop believing that because she loves me so much and if she could, she would quit her job just to be there with me everyday. but she said she cant quit her job because it pays good money and we need it. she said that i was the most important thing in the world and the specialist thing in the world and i meant everything to her.
so please dont say your mom doesnt love you because she does.
i think what you need to do is write her a note, IM, email or text and just write down all of your feelings. dont even stop for one second to think about what you are going to write. just keep on writing and dont think.
then i suggest you go somewhere private and cry. i know it seems childish, but it helps so much! when you are done crying and have no more tears left in you... you will feel like a new person and have a new start.
also, i think you need to take care of your mom too. she obviously sounds like she is depressed or stressed out. so do something for her! do extra chores, give her a back massage, make her a hot bubble bath after work, cook food for her, make her a card that says I LOVE YOU SO MUCH on the front and write something that will make her cry of joy.
i wish you luck!!! and i hope you feel better. remember she does love you.
PS: laughter is the best medicine there is. make her laugh and remember the good times. make her laugh by acting crazy and saying something funny. dont make her laugh by watching a comedy movie, or saying a joke because anyone can laugh at that. make her laugh about something that only she will laugh at.
after you both have laughed very hard until you cry, maybe try saying "this is definitally a moment i will never forget with you." and smile and hug and kiss her. she will most likely not forget it either. if she doesnt say anything, be like "what about you? will you remember this?"
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it sounds like your mom has some issues. i wouldn't take it to mean that she doesn't love you though. is she depressed or trapped in some way? i wish i could help you more. she should be taking care of you still. your still a kid. <3 :/ Sara/19
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